Ep 1-Gender segregation

In this episode of Totally Random Things, the speaker discusses the separation of boys and girls in African households when it comes to certain conversations. Girls are often warned about early pregnancies and being cautious with guys, while boys are warned about drugs. The speaker advocates for incorporating both genders into these conversations to promote understanding and support within the family. They believe that by including both boys and girls in discussions about puberty and other topics, it will help them navigate these experiences and better support each other. The speaker also emphasizes the importance of normalizing these conversations and breaking away from traditional gender roles. They conclude by encouraging listeners to follow them on social media. Welcome to the first episode of Totally Random Things. On this platform, we get to talk about the most random things from wherever. And for today's episode, we'll be talking about how we tend to separate the boy child and the girl child in an African household, especially when having certain talks or conversations with them, yeah? So, you find that in an African household, let's say, for example, if you're a girl, you're mostly told about being on the lookout for early pregnancies, not engaging yourself with guys because they're either there to use you, or you just got to be cautious, yeah? You've got to know that, yes, they're genuine people, but they're also people who really like to take advantage, yeah? You're also told things like, do not bring home a fellow girl, or you're also told about things like, I should get daddies, and all that, yeah? And then, in the same African household, you find that the boy child is told things like, the conversations revolve around drugs. You find that they're told, keep off from drugs, to this is the extent to which they would cause harm to you, or if you've got to do them, let it be in moderation, and all that, yeah? And that is where you find that if a girl child gets out there, then it's easier for them to get addicted so easily, because in as much as I would also know that young ladies can harm themselves a bit, but my old folks didn't talk about it. So then I don't feel guilty as much, yeah? Because trust me, there is that second thought you have when doing something, and your parents have constantly told you about it. So I feel like it's about time we incorporate both genders, yeah? In all the conversations we're having, we find that for a guy, we have issues regarding denting, where you find a guy is being approached by an elderly woman, and these are not normalized conversations for the boy child in an African household, so you find that in most cases, they don't know how to tackle these. That's why I feel like let's just incorporate them together. If we talk to the boy child and the girl child together, that will be something the boy will speak from, what would have been told to the girl alone, and the vice versa. In addition to this, the other scenario is, let's say, you're talking to your daughter about puberty or the changes she expects at her adolescent age, and you're talking to her when she's alone about it, yeah? But I feel like it's okay if she has a brother, let the brother be there, let the brother know what to expect, because they'll be in the same household. Of course, he'll observe the changes, and we don't want any form of confusion, and I feel like in as much as school teaches these things, it's also like, provide the parents, let the guy know, like, how can you help your sister when she's going through this? The same with a boy, if he's undergoing any situation, like, let the sister be there, let her understand how he can help the bro as he transitions from being a boy to a young man, and what have you. So in general, I feel like incorporating both genders, the same way we've normalized not having gender roles like we used to in the olden days, that is what should happen with the conversations we're holding. For example, I remember when we were in primary school, we would have these people who used to come and give us talks on mental health, and give us sanitary towels, and the boys would be left in class, and after that, they're asking, and we can talk to them about it, and if you mess your dress, then it would become an issue, like, maybe the boys would giggle about it, not tell you about it. I'm just saying that bringing both children together, like, from both genders, and letting them know this is what happens, this is how you treat this, this is what you do in case of this, like, let the boy know that I can go to the shop, or I can rush to the market, and to the store, and get my sister tampons, sanitary towels, and not be there, and I'm stranded, and all that. I also feel like this would also really be great when these young ones have now their families in future, the girl child will now understand, oh, during the moment when my brother was undergoing initiation, I learned this and that, I was told this and that, so it would be easier if she has a son who is about to go through the same process, yeah? And I feel like if the guy, you know, has a daughter, and now he knows what to tell her, even if, let's say, the family set up would be where the single parent, maybe a guy with daughters, he wouldn't have an issue having to talk to his children, his daughters, about all these, yeah? Have these conversations, because he heard the parents, he's listening, he had what the sister was being told, and he learned, so I feel like this would really help shape our children's futures as well, and yeah, let's normalize these conversations with both genders in the African household, and as much as I believe that there are, let's say, setups that are there to, you know, let's say build the boy child separately, or the girl child, or motivate them, I'm not against those, I'm not saying they're wrong, I'm just saying it's good to, like, bring them both together at the end of the day, yeah? And that will be it, see you on the next episode, I hope you have a lovely day, night, whatever time you're watching, oops, my bad, whatever time you'll be listening to this, you can follow me on my socials, on Instagram it's Nysillian, and on Twitter it's etak underscore one zero. Bye!