Confidence Motivator

Motivation is what someone wants to achieve and the journey from their current state to their desired state. When coaching someone, it is important to focus on their motivations and what they want. Many first-time leaders are apprehensive about difficult conversations, but they often rely on training instead of preparing themselves. By tying practice and building confidence to someone's motivator, it creates an emotional attachment to change and helps them achieve their goals. The motivator is what somebody wants to accomplish, it's where they want to go, it's their desired state, it's the journey from their present state to their desired state. Motivation should always be something we focus on in terms of the wift, what's in it for them, what do they want, the person being coached. Now here's the funny thing about confidence. A lot of times people will want to become, let's say, first-time leaders. And I would tell you, almost to a client and to a company I've talked to over 30 years, I'll ask first-time managers, what's your greatest apprehension? What's your greatest trepidation in terms of becoming a manager? It's always something centered around difficult conversations, whether it's confronting, conversations of conflict, or what have you. I've always asked this question. I said, what have you done to successfully prepare yourself for those type of conversations? And I always get, well, I'm sure they'll train me. And it's the one thing that just really makes me amazed that people won't put in the work before him. They tend to show up first thing and say, train me. And I've actually had that conversation with young, would-be leaders, future leaders, and say, what are you going to do to practice those conversations? And I've had people say, yeah, you know what, that would help me. So when you tie it to someone's motivator, and you tie it to questions such as, what are you going to do to practice and build your confidence, and how will that help you in terms of your motivation of, and then fill in the blank. When you can tie those things together, here's the amazing thing about motivator. It creates an emotional attachment to this thing called change that most people won't do. Beneath this thing called change is something called practice and repetition. Most people won't arbitrarily do it on their own. That's why when you tie it to their motivator and bring it into the conversation, such as, Jack, I know you said you wanted to become more involved with data analytics and presenting those data analytics. How do you think practicing those presentations with the data going forward would help you achieve or maybe obtain more work in that area? And what I just demonstrated is a very simple using the word and bringing this thing called where you want to go and confidence together to create an emotional attachment specific to their motivator.