Ep 4- What's love?

The speaker discusses the topic of love, specifically focusing on unrequited love and the challenges it presents. They emphasize that it is normal for not everyone to love you in the same way, and that it's okay to move on and find someone who appreciates and reciprocates your love. The speaker also mentions that there is no manual for love and that everyone's experiences are different. They highlight the importance of understanding and committing to your partner or friend, and acknowledge that love can be demanding and require effort. The speaker briefly touches on the topic of loss and how it can impact relationships. They mention that there is much more to love than meets the eye, and emphasize that it is a personal journey. The speaker concludes by encouraging their audience to explore and pursue love, and expresses excitement for young people in serious relationships. Hey there my loves yeah I said it my love it's the month of love and for the 14th of February it's only right if I spread love to my lovely lovely audience. I love all of you so much and maybe some of you cringe so much at the words or thoughts of the word love and some of you really become elated so yeah let's talk about it you know love loss yeah let's see where this conversation leads us. So let's start off with unrequited love the love where the kind of kind of affection if someone is not reciprocated back you go on it doesn't matter if this person is your you know romantic partner or just a platonic friend you could feel this you just feel like I'm doing so much for this person but they never do this for me I love this person I go all out for them but it's never the same when it's the other way around now when it's them you know trying to do something for me I don't feel the kind of love you know that I try and give to them you know and this can have you you know questioning yourself and thinking that you're actually the problem but this is actually a normal thing not everyone will love you the same way you don't love everybody but not in a wrong way it's only that it's normal it's how do I say you don't consciously say I'm not gonna love this person in the case of unrequited love or I'm not gonna love them back it just doesn't happen it should even be worse if you pretended to you know love them and you actually don't. I know some of you are victims anyway so unrequited love like I was saying that it can have you you know get it to the people like it has you questioning yourself and thinking that you're actually the problem you just trouble yourself with so much thought and maybe start feeling like oh I'm so undeserving of love you're not the problem it's him because trust me there are other people who love you back right there's so many other people who are willing to go all out for you so just because that one person doesn't reciprocate back her love then that's not the end of you know life man you gotta go there and find people who really like appreciate you and give you the magnitude of the love that you want you know to feel because again it's so frustrating you know doing so much for someone and trying so hard especially in case of a romantic partner and then from the end it's zero you feel like you know you're forcing issues it wouldn't be right it wouldn't feel okay it's okay to move and look for someone else if it's with a friend then maybe just you know prepare yourself psychologically and know that actually yes there are times when I will love people but they will not love me back as much it's okay to know that you're not the problem we don't at the end of the day who are questioning yourself so much and being hard on yourself and saying how much you're undeserving of love yeah and it's also so funny how there is no manual for love or loss all those things sometimes we just live through life you have very different experiences from what others have had you get to you know see and experience so many different things it's not what you expected it's not what you thought it would be like yeah because everyone is different like we are different we're not okay we we're human beings yeah but we're different in so many other ways so the whole aspect of you know navigating through the love the love life knowing your partner or even your friend understanding certain aspects of both them my god ah it's so it's too much and it's also a lot it's too much not that I feel like it's being in love with somebody and choosing okay of course you can't be with friends of someone you hate so whether with your significant other or with choosing to love your friend or even a partner it's really like hard and demanding and you're required to put in so much effort it's not all about you know doing what everyone says oh you should do this for your partner and it's about committing yourself to learn them understand them learn how to appreciate them learn how to make them feel better learn how to you know live with them without you know clashing you know understanding them knowing this is how they think knowing that oh this would offend them as much as it would offend any other person it's a lot of work seriously like on a very serious note it's not even that easy because it's not all about you know love at first sight those people that you love at first sight that's not it that is that is not it there is so much that comes after that yeah yeah and it's okay not bad but it's it's funny how let me just use the word how people will say oh love is adorable love is this love is blah blah blah blah but no one sits down and breaks down the elements of love to us no one sits down and tells us that is this this this this this this this the endless list yeah and you know in as much as maybe that those people making such an effort whatever they might say might be very different from what you come across and you decide to pursue that you know part of your life so there is so much about love that is not out here and that is I feel it's more of a personal journey it doesn't have to involve you know even hearing hearing from others and tips taking tips from others because for every different person you choose to love things are really different with them it's not gonna be the same you're gonna have different experiences and all that yeah yeah also I said something about loss how or how loss and love now come to you know be a thing in the long run how losing someone it doesn't have to be you know to death or anything could be maybe you've broken up and lost the person you love or you know you parted ways as friends and you lost your friend no one also talks about how okay maybe people talk about you know how break-up can really like do the most but no one really talks about how losing your friend losing you maybe even family times maybe we just collide and you end up having beef with your family and you lose them I'm not saying to death I'm just saying losing someone you love because your love has become jeopardized or yeah something has you know come in between and made things you know a bit awful both of you it can really really really get messy and it's not the best of experiences and again no one sits down and breaks it down okay fine people don't expect you to be so broken just because you are friends with your friend people just expect all things people serious take things seriously maybe when you go through a major break up with you maybe significant other I feel like even these other things man they all have an equal you know impact on our lives one day because I choose to be friends with this person I chose to dedicate all of me to you know the learning them understanding them isn't the one my friend you get you get a magnitude I'm not just single friends when you need acquittances and all that no I'm just seeing the friends you intentionally purpose to make time for the lengthen so that you guys can you know have each other for life yeah so yeah there is so much that revolves around the topic of love and I feel like it's such a touchy subject yeah I feel like there is so much that needs to be put out here regarding it yeah but anyway this should not you know scare anyone who wants to explore and pursue love good luck to you all my lovely audience yeah it could be so so nice when you see you know young people being in serious relationship okay I think people celebrate five years of anniversary people who are my age I'm 21 that is such a good thing you know it excites me to know that not everyone is broken not everyone is so scared you know that people who willing to you know commit so much and do what it takes to you know be in this yeah so yeah that will be it my love you on the next one goodbye