Passed Over for Promotion Supplemental

When facing rejection after being passed over for a promotion, there are two strategies to consider. Firstly, establish a mentoring relationship with someone who has experienced a similar setback and learn from their resilience. Secondly, journaling is a powerful tool to track progress and boost motivation. Studies show that people are most motivated when they see improvement. By writing down daily actions and reflecting on them regularly, individuals can develop a positive and upbeat attitude that will help them move towards future promotional opportunities. When deploying supplemental coaching to promotion and initially felt a little jaded, a little bit defensive, there are two strategies we would encourage you to use. One, peer-to-peer or a mentoring relationship type coaching interaction. Think about somebody inside your company, somebody around you who's been passed over before but was resilient, bounced back, and overcame it. Set up a mentoring relationship where that person can interview that person and say, how did you react? What did you do to position yourself? What did you do to overcome this challenge? And what that person will do is instill confidence in that person to be resilient, okay? Number two, I love journaling and here's why journaling is really powerful in this situation. See, when you get passed over for a promotion, it's rejection. It's tough. Most people don't handle rejection well. You know, one of the things that's always frustrated me about youth sports, and I'll give you a depiction of this, is that when we cut kids in, you know, even pre-high school for all these type of sports and parents will say, well, you got to get over it. You know how many parents cry when they lose their jobs? It's rejection. We're not taught how to deal with rejection very well. When you get passed over for a promotion, it's rejection. So set up a mentoring relationship with somebody who's been through a similar endeavor if you have access to that person. Number two, journaling. Have them write down every single day two things they did to better position themselves for the next promotional opportunity. It seems corny. It seems cliche. It seems trite. It seems over-the-top. Let me explain why. When somebody writes something down, there's a great book called The Progress Principle by Teresa Amable. A study done at Harvard reported that 76% of the time people were at their most motivated state when they were improving and progressing. It was not reward recognition and money. So 8 out of 10 people, basically, were at their most motivated state when they're progressing. Here's the funny thing. Most of us don't even know when we're progressing. Most of us don't even know when we're improving. Most of us don't even write those things down because we don't really think about baby steps as progress. Yet if you have this person journaling maybe every other day, maybe every day, and then write a summation every single week or maybe every two weeks, looking at your journal entries, what are you the most proud of? What that instills is a demeanor and a behavior that is upbeat, energetic, happy, positively contagious, which will do what? Serves them very well to move in the direction of the next promotional opportunity.