THE DANM SIGNS

The speaker, Pamela Denise, is back with a new episode of her show. She discusses the patterns in black women's relationships with black men and how they ignore signs that indicate a relationship may not be right. She emphasizes the importance of paying attention to these signs and not making excuses for the other person. Pamela also talks about the need for self-love and not settling for just any man. She announces that she will be going live with guest speakers and encourages listeners to follow her on Instagram for updates. Hey y'all! It's your girl Pamela Denise and I am back! I'm back boo! I wasn't going nowhere. I wasn't going nowhere. I want to say that I've been away but I am back. Y'all know how I do. Welcome to another episode of my show. I'm just doing it on open caps. I don't know how to say it. Closed caps? Open caps? I don't give a fuck. But anyways, black women's butts in our relationships with black men. We are back y'all. We are back. We are just trying to get it all figured out but you know what? We are almost there baby. Yes we are. I just want to come on here and talk about our relationships with black men. Y'all know how we do. It's your girl Pamela Denise. We are back with another episode. Today I just want to come on here and touch base with y'all and just kind of talk about some of the patterns that you see that you don't pay attention to and probably the reason why you don't pay attention to some of the patterns that are actual signs telling you or showing you, hey this is not the one for me. You know what I mean? We ignore the signs and there's certain reasons why we ignore the signs. Lack of thereof. Just wanting to be with that person. Falling in love. Is that a thing? Falling in love? You've got to be kidding me. You still falling in love and you 50? Falling in love. You still falling in love and you 50? That does not sit right with me. Love is a choice and we're going to talk about that on another show but not today. We are back with the episode Black Women's Buds and Dating Our Black Men. We talk about black women's images. We talk about health. Whatever we want to talk about pertaining to our black men and our relationships. I'm just kicking it. Kicking the breeze. Kicking it right now. Just back and some of these things it's just not add some things are just not adding up like ignoring signs. How the hell do we do that? If a man doesn't call you ladies, isn't that a sign? If a person, how about we say this, if a person does not call you ladies, isn't that a sign? A sign that he may not even be interested? Huh. We are some smart asses because we will ignore the signs we get from men. And it starts with you. That was on one of my previous shows. We know it starts with us. But of course we got the gamers. We got the lovers. We got the players. The Himalayas. Y'all know what I'm talking about. But ignoring the signs is, whose fault is that? Who are you blaming? Because, and I know I know it's not fair when someone doesn't show up, you know, like they're they're not, they're really not, you know, obviously being their true selves. They, you know, some men will just play the part. Those players. But whose fault it is that you're ignoring the signs? That is actually food for thought. We should put that one on food for thought Friday because we get the signs. We ignore the signs. We look over it. We make excuses. We make excuses for people. We make excuses for ourselves. Hell, I don't feel like going to the gym. I make an excuse. We make excuses so we don't have to do the work. That's why we ignore the signs. We ignore the signs because our images, our self-esteem is low. We ignore the signs because we want to be with someone. Whose fault is that? I am going to be, I'm going to be the, I'm going to come on here and I'm going to be the truth, the true person. It's my fault. It's my fault if I ignore the signs that were given to me. I am intelligent enough to understand when someone doesn't call, when someone doesn't show affection, when someone doesn't buy you gifts, when someone doesn't treat you properly. Properly. Now, if someone's not treating you right, now that's just, that's just, there's something really wrong with you or the, there's something wrong. But people can, people can play the part or men can play the part. I mean, let me just be clear. A man can play the part like a woman can play the part. But right now, we're talking about our relationships with black men. Excuse my voice because it's that time of the year and it's fall and I always get kind of, kind of froggy a little bit. Ignoring the damn signs, that's our problem. You don't pay attention to the signs and you waste your damn time. It's just that clear, ladies. Things, things may look like they're, like they're okay. Things may look like they're okay, but, but we get signs. You know, and I, and I hate to say it. I hate to say it. You know, if you get those patterns where someone's not answering the phone at a certain time and all the time, their phone, their phone time gets a little funny. Come on, ladies. Let's just start paying attention to the signs and what is actually being said and let the, let the men show you. Because nine out of ten times, okay, if someone wants to be a player, let them be a player. But let them show you when they're ready to commit. Truthfully, honestly, there's not really much you have to do but let a person show you. And you know what, ladies? Stop talking so much. Stop telling all of your business to these men. Stop telling them everything because you know what? We women have to gift a gab. Yeah, we do. We have the gift of gab. We just talk, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk. Stop talking so much and pay attention to the damn signs, ladies. The signs are there. Just pay attention. Pay, hell, pay attention to your damn self. Stop paying attention so much to what somebody else is doing, to what they're doing. Pay attention to the signs of what they're not doing to you. Pay attention to yourself. Now, some of y'all got that and some of y'all didn't. The ones that didn't, I'm sorry. You gotta keep up. I can't, I can't help everybody. Some gonna catch it and some are not. Hell, I didn't catch it. But I got it. Pay attention to yourself. Stop paying attention to what a man is doing all the time. Pay attention to what he's doing to you. If you're paying attention to yourself, then you'll get it because you are number one. Pay attention to how you're being treated. Pay attention, ladies. Pay attention. Yeah, we're gonna go back all the way to high school. Pay attention to how your phone rings. Just pay attention to those things. If he ain't calling, honey, he, he, trust me, honey, he ain't interested. He isn't interested. He ain't, I don't care how you get it or you understand it and I'm speaking as clear as I can. Things that we are not paying attention to, it is your fault. If you are not paying attention to how a person's treating you, it is your fault. Okay, so we are going to come on here and we're going to talk about loving a choice and we're going to go live. I told y'all we were going to go live. I said it. We are going to start doing these shows live. We're going to have guest speakers. It's going to be great. Just pay attention to the signs. How hard is that? You know, and I'm just going to throw this in here. Stop just saying, oh, you know, just taking a man just because or being with a man just because so you'll have somebody. You're wasting your time and that is very, very toxic, ladies. Just to have a man is toxic. It's not good for you. Just to have a man because if that man isn't doing what he needs to do and you allow it because you just want to have a man, that is your fault, honey. That is your fault. So that will be our Food for Thought Friday. As you know, we do Food for Thought Friday, Tuesday. We're going to start going on live probably at 8 p.m. I think we've got the time situated. Hopefully, that's going to work for everybody for our guest speakers and so on and so on. I am your girl, Pamela Denise, and I am so glad you have joined this channel, this podcast. We are going to be on live, honey, and I cannot wait. And I'm not going to stay made up with makeup and all of that. I'm not doing all of that because for what? You know, some days you just don't feel like being all powdered up and made up. I'm just coming into my own and I can feel good either way. And that's how you should feel. Feel good either way. Feel good about yourself. Love yourself. Y'all know how I do it. Y'all know how I say it. You can love who you love, but let's talk about it, baby. Y'all know how I am. Y'all know when I come on this show. We're going to have to get a little bit more funky on this show, though. We're going to have to get funky, you know. We're going to get a DJ to come in and give us some beats, honey. We need to get funky on this show. But I am in my first stage. I'm in my new stage and I thank you guys, the ones who have downloaded me, followed me. I'm also on Instagram as well. And although you guys are already, let's see, the Instagram page, it's a little different and I'm just trying to, I don't know, everybody has their rules and regulations, things you can and cannot say, you know, or put. You know, you don't, some people find, let's see, some people find, you know, some things, you know, offended by some things. I don't know. That's not my problem. Okay, so follow me on Instagram, blackwomenbutts, B-U-T-T-S, and A-N-D, black, B-L-K, men, M-E-N, dating. I'm going to say it again, blackwomensbutts and B-L-K, M-E-N, dating, blackwomensbutts and black men dating. That is on Instagram. You can also go under Pamela Denise as well. I will be there. Honey, you'll probably see me on there while I'm working out. I'm really trying to go out on some live dates. I've got to get my body together. It's all a work in progress. But y'all are some of my first listeners and I thank you. We're going to go full black. We're not going to stop. We're going to keep on moving. And guess what? We're going to love who we love, baby. We're just going to talk about it. All right? So stay tuned. We will be back. And we're going to have probably the month of October where we're going to go full black into some episodes. So basically, we won't always just do the typical, the typical, who forgot Fridays and Tuesdays. We may do Tuesday. We may do Wednesday, Thursday. We may do Friday. So we're going to get the whole block full as we can the month of October, baby. Yes, we are, baby. We're going to do what we've got to do on this show. And I thank you guys for listening. And pay attention to the damn signs, okay? Because you are, we've got to stop making excuses. All right? I love y'all. Love who you love, baby. Pam and Denise, let's talk about it, baby. Bye.