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Mr. and Mrs. W are discussing their experiences at a social event. They apologize for the delay in recording and mention that they have been dealing with personal issues. They talk about an upcoming event they will be attending and invite others to meet them there. They also discuss the importance of sharing face pictures on their online profiles. They mention that they were surprised by the number of local couples who reached out to them. They talk about their anxiety and how they push themselves to attend events. They mention their preference for socializing and hearing others' stories rather than focusing on play. They describe their arrival at the social event and the long wait at the bar. They mention an interaction they overheard about the event being for swingers. They plan to wait to speak with the organizer. This is Mr. and Mrs. W. R. Swingin' Adventures. I am Mr. W. And I am Mrs. W. So if you are not over the age of 18, please do not listen as this contains adult content. So on tonight's episode, we're going to be talking about the first social of the year, how we felt about it, what happened, and where we go. Yep, so just before we get into all that, I do want to apologise for the delay. Yes, we've had quite a lot of personal issues. Yeah, the year hasn't started as a good year. No. Even though we've managed to do a couple of things this year in the lifestyle. Yeah. But we've had a few... Nutbacks. Yeah, sort of in between. So again, sorry for the delay, but hopefully we're back on track. Yes, and also another note of that, if anyone is going to VA on the 10th of February, what is next Saturday? Yep. Week today from recording, we will be there. If you want to drop us a message on any of our socials, feel free to and say we're going to be there. We'd love to meet you, and yeah. So... All you've got to do is just, even if you don't message, just pop up to us and go, oh, it's you, so... Yeah, even if you want to pop on the socials, our face pictures are out. So you'll see who we are by the pictures, and then come over. So that's like we're going to actually speak about, like the whole... In this episode. Yeah, the whole social side of things, and face pictures. Yep. So let's start. We discovered we've got a local-ish sort of social, haven't we? Yeah, it's about an hour away. Yep. We put online that we were going to go to it. And it was actually amazing how many people come out to Woodworks. Yeah, we found a few local couples. Yeah, so when we've been on VAB and Swing Up, it's the case of not many people local, like appear on them. No. They always seem to be miles away. Yeah, and we have discussed that with Gage, but that will be the next episode. Yeah, so basically we put a status up, just saying, you know, going to the Norwich socials tonight, is anybody else going? Yeah, just so make a little bit of a connection before you go. I think it was more the case of, you know, so people knew we were going, and it was a lot less overwhelming, I would say, for me, more than anything. So the response we actually got was shocking. Yeah, especially from where we are. Yeah, so we had a mail from a couple message. Yeah. We had another local couple message. And then even, you know, people messaging from the next town from us. So it was just weird, in a way, to know that there were people, if that makes sense. Yeah, it was quite nice, because obviously finding out there is other couples and everything around us, that we knew there was, but just having that reach out was quite nice. Well, yeah, because you've got to think about it, like the couples we've met before, or the singles we've met before, aren't local to us. No. Three hours. Three hours is where we've met, you know. The majority of the lot we know and talk to quite a lot. Yeah, and then there are the odd couple sort of local, but, you know, they're, I don't know how you'd explain it, it's a different type of connection and friendship with different areas, and the connection we've made with people a lot further away is a different connection to what we've made with people local. Yeah. The ones that we've met locally to us, we still talk to. We did have them over, was that before or after? After. After. So we've seen them again, they've come over for a drink, no pay, but... But we'll sort of possibly fit that in at the end of this. Yeah. We've also decided that the couples that reached out to us, we'd like to get to know a bit better. Yes, so... One of them intrigued you way too much. Right, so let's sort of recap. So we had met these, not met these people, we messaged these people. And... We'd messaged them a couple of times before that. Yeah, the man from the couple, he was actually gonna come with us, like, because he was on a solo that night. Yeah. So he was gonna come car share, but then something came up, so he couldn't come. And the other couple that live near us, they actually said about car sharing, and I was like, well, we can do it. Yeah, we don't mind doing it. It was just the option of, you know, if we had to leave due to childcare, or if they weren't feeling it and wanted to leave. It's that little bit of, oh, hang on, like, one goes, you all go. Yeah. And I feel quite bad. If we would have got the phone call going, you need to get home, one of the kids is playing out, but then you've ruined someone else's night. Yeah, and I didn't wanna do that. So I was like, look, you know, I'm happy to, but if one needs to leave, or has gotta leave, and they were like, actually, yeah, that's a valid point. Yeah. You know, we might not wanna leave when they leave. So we just agreed we were gonna meet each other there. So the other couple that are in the town across as well that we spoke to, they actually said, you know, come and say hello to us and all this. Yeah. So my thing, which sort of recaps on what you've just said about face pictures. Yeah. So they were like, yeah, come and find us, and, you know, say hello. But on their profile. There was no face pictures. Not even in the friends only. There was no face pictures. So I actually messaged them a picture and said, look, this is us today. This is what we're wearing. You know, if you see us, come see us. Because we are out there with our faces. Yeah. We're out there in all different ways, to be honest. Yeah. So I was happy to do that, and I'd done that with the other couple, and. Well, no, because we uploaded the picture to Fab and Swing Hub. Yeah. Because you might as well put it on both, just in case. Yeah. And they, the lady misses you. Yeah, she was like, oh, your partner is wearing the same shirt that my partner's wearing. She was like, so we're gonna spot you. Yeah. So that was, you know, a good thing that they were happy to do that. Like, even if we turn up at that social and didn't speak to anyone. We would hopefully have found them and spoke to them. Yeah, but I think it's more, you know, we don't care if we go somewhere. And just to explore, you know. Yeah, it's been in that atmosphere. Yeah, especially with my anxiety. Yeah. I panic overload when there's too many people. So it was a case of, right, we'll go there. I'll see how I feel. You know, if we need to leave because it's so overwhelming, then so be it. Yeah. And I will try my best, which is what I say to you all the time. Yeah, and that's what we've stuck to so far. Yeah, so the drive there was fine. Yeah. And I was like, yeah, I've got this shit. Like, I can do it. And then I got there, we parked up, started walking, and I was like, yeah, now my belly's going. Yeah, but at the same time, we need to start pushing ourselves with that a little bit more. Like, go into these types of things because we don't do it enough. And I know and understand with your belly and everything going on, but once you acclimatise to it, you're like a balloon trying to jump you off. Yeah, exactly. And if you think about it, I'm better when we're in a club situation to in socials. Yeah. So I don't, I won't. See, somebody actually said, oh, is that because you know everyone's there to play? It's not even the fact of that. No. It's clear to us and we've made it clear to everybody else that... We're not bothered about, we are, we're not bothered about play. We like it when it happens, but we're not bothered about it. We're not play orientated. No. You know, we're happily sit there with anyone, speak to them, hear stories, you know, exchange stories even. Yeah. And we're happy to do that. So we will do that, you know, possibly meet up again, exchange some more. You know, it's not necessarily, right, we've met you, we've spoke for half an hour, now let's all get undressed. It's quite nice as well is hearing other people's stories as well. Yeah. That's what I kind of like, by hearing how they started into it. Yep. How they, like, how they've been so far. And it's actually amazing to find out people's stories where they're like, you know, we've been in a lifestyle years, but we haven't done this, but want to do this or whatever. Or, oh, we've been in a lifestyle six months and... We've done everything. Yes. So it's nice to hear different people are at different stages. And then it doesn't actually make me feel as bad. No. So back to arriving. Yep. We got there and I was like, okay, I can do this, we're good. And then I was like, right, let's look for the organiser. Yeah, because that's what you want to do. You want to go see the organiser. Well, we planned to see the organiser. Yeah. We didn't actually get a chance because I didn't realise how busy... It was going to be. It was crazy. Yeah. I think 95% of that part... Was. Was about social. Yeah, well, we know it was. Well, yeah, so we were like, okay, the organiser started over there. We must be over in that direction. So let's grab a drink. Yeah. And then take it, you know, from there. Yeah. So the queue for the bar was long. Oh, yeah. And... Would they have two bar staff on? Yeah, two bar staff, so two queues. And we were probably like three quarters of the way down one of the queues. And there was a bloke, a couple of people in front of us. And he actually said to the bloke behind the bar, it's a really busy night tonight. And the bar staff, he literally replied back. And he said, yeah, he said, so we've got an event on today. We've got the general public this side and anyone over here are swingers. Yeah. And I was like, babe, did you just hear that? I was just gobsmacked. But the guy that asked the question, he's clearly for Nilla. He was like, well, I'll just stick over with the general public. I was like, oh, right. So, yeah, we got a drink. So, we then walked back towards where the organiser was sat. Yeah. Because we thought, well, she was still talking. We'd just stand and wait, wait until we can get near her to have a chat with her. So... I do want to say though, before you carry on that, I wasn't in a corner. No, you were in a corridor. Yeah, I know I was in a corridor, but I wasn't in a corner. Like, we were sort of sectioned from other people, but still with other people. Yeah, so obviously we went and stood in that alcove bit and was looking through, seeing when we could get a chance. Yeah. And a couple clocked us. Yeah. And you know when you get that side-eyed look, like, oh, there's another couple? Yeah. And it was really nice, because we obviously did talk to them later on. And we were stood there, we were waiting, and I think it was the female side of it, or was it both of them? Well, she was walking slightly ahead of him. Yeah. And she literally sort of come over and went, hi! And we were like, okay, this is a really energetic person, but okay. So she was like, we saw you standing here, you know, not speaking to anyone, so we wanted to introduce ourselves. Yeah, you looked a bit awkward, and we were like, I didn't know that. Yeah, so it was really nice. Like, we got to speak to them, and she was so bubbly. She was explaining, you know, sort of their dynamic and their sexualities and things like that. Because you ask these questions, so you can kind of gauge if they're a good fit. Yeah, I get that. But then at the end of the day, to me, dynamics and sexualities don't make a difference. No, we have a good crack with a person. Well, yeah, so you could be, you know, we could not be your type. We could generally be people you can just mentally get on with, rather than people you sexually get on with. Yeah. So we was chatting away to her, and she basically is a spaghetti straight to this wet. Is that how we were going? Look how I'm putting it, yeah. Okay. So she actually said, at one point, she said, when she was explaining their sexuality, she's like, right, so right now, I want your husband's dick. She said, but it doesn't mean later on, I won't grab your boobs or, you know, anything else. So we were like, okay, no, that's fine. Her partner, I don't know if they're married, to be honest, but he was sort of joining in the conversation. He seemed quite... A nice guy. Yeah, yeah. And we then, I think they went off, didn't we? No, so what happened is, as we were talking, we then all sort of turned our heads because we could see someone at the corner of our eyes. Yeah. Well, me and her could anyway. And it was the local couple. Yeah. So they just sort of stood there and waved, and the lady that had come up to us, she went, oh, are these the people you said you're meeting? And I said, well, yeah, they're the people we said we'd speak to when we're here. And she said, oh, okay, on that note, I'm gonna leave you lot to it, and we'll catch up in a bit. Yeah. I thought that was quite nice. Yeah, because it wasn't like cold bucking or anything like that. They were like, let's give you this opportunity, you know, see how you get on. Yeah. And she did say, you know, I'll check in with you. I didn't hold her to that. No, you never hold anyone to anything. Yeah, but you'll hear a bit later on how she actually was, which I liked. Yeah, it was really nice. So this other couple, they then sort of said hello, and it wasn't until three quarters of the way through the night, we didn't actually introduce each other. We didn't introduce who we were. No, we didn't. No, we didn't. We never said our names to them, and they never said theirs. But, you know, it was straight into a conversation. Like, it was like we knew them. Yeah. The conversation just flowed. We were talking about, you know, where we live and- Local stuff. And obviously dynamics, and you actually spoke to- The gentleman. The gentleman quite a lot about, you know, future things and- Yeah, that we would like to- Yeah, and it was really weird how similar we all were, or we all had, like, the same ideas at different times, and here it was just, you know, we had mentioned something, and they were like- Actually, that's something we had discussed before. So it was just nice that we could relate to them in so many different ways. Yeah, because where we've started to where they were at that point in their journey was very, very similar. Yeah, I'd agree there. So their dynamic is obviously different to ours, which, you know, again- 90% of the time it is. Yeah. But everyone's changes over time. Ours has. Ours has changed dramatically over time, which we had covered before. Yeah. So, yeah, we were just sort of talking throughout the night, pretty much the whole night we were with them. Yeah. But even though we were with them, it didn't stop us from speaking to other people. No. So the couple that they- The next town over. Yeah, they were basically standing in front of us, doing the same thing as what the other one's done. They sort of stood in front of us and just sort of waved, and we were like, oh, hi. Like, I weren't sure who they were to start with. Yeah, because I think both of us had clocked them, and we were like, hang on, who? They were just staring pretty much. Yeah. Looking, staring. Yeah. And we were like, and then the gentleman out of that couple then come over and started speaking to us all. Yeah, because I think she disappeared at one point, so he stayed with us and was speaking to us, and then she sort of come to and fro, and yeah. But we had said, you know, that we were staying out of the way as such, because the main part of where everyone was, you couldn't move. No. Like, it was rammed. And I think that was the issue with my anxiety, and that's why I stayed where I stayed. Yeah. But even though we stayed where we stayed, we still communicated with a lot of people. Yeah, we did. So, the first couple we spoke to, they kept walking past every now and again when they were doing loops. Yeah. And she'd look past and like, thumbs up and smile, and it was like, I'll just nod to her, and she'd like sort of nod back and disappear. Yeah. So we sort of, you know, did check in with each other. Throughout the night. And then, I just feel like the night just went fast. Yeah, because at one point it was like, I think we checked our phones just to see if we'd had a message. And it was like, bloody hell, it was like, up past 10, 11, up past 10, 11 o'clock. Yeah, it must have been a bit earlier before that, because it actually, the pub closed early, didn't it? Did it? Yeah, it did. I think the pub closed about like, quarter past 11, half 11. If not before that, not quite sure why, but yeah, so we were just sort of, just chatting for hours, and time just flew. Yeah. We have said we're gonna meet the couples again. Yeah. With a lot going on that we've had. I've not been on any of the social medias. I've really not had a chance. So if you recap to the recap episode, where Mrs. W was saying that she was going to do a lot more posting and that, and she hasn't. So she's lost her, I'll have to send all the underwear and everything that she got, technically hasn't got back. So I saved money. But why have I not posted? Why have I not been on social medias? I don't know. We've had a lot going on. Yeah, I know we have, but that was before. No, I've had phone calls and meetings and everything else I've been doing with them. Shouldn't have made that deal. It's not my fault I made that deal. I made that deal with unexpected change of circumstances. That's why I made that deal. I still saved money, so. Well, I'm not, because you've just gone online too. Yeah, I know. So one thing I do want to pinpoint about the first couple we spoke to is they are actually not far from us. No. What, about half hour, 40 minutes? Yeah, about that. So a bit closer than what the social is. And they actually attend the club that is closest to us, which we've been a bit iffy about. And we've had so many different things from so many different people about it that we're not sure on it. Yes. I think it's worth a go. Possibly, but so this couple, they go there and they know the owners and they actually run a social every fourth Thursday? Thursday of the month. Thursday's a random day, in my opinion. Yeah. Because I can't attend one of their socials. Nor can I. Well, the only way we're going to be able to is if I'm off work. Oh yeah, and I just think a weekday, you know, for those who are parents, you can't stay out too late because you've then got, you know, school runs and everything else in the morning. Yeah. And I am shit at getting up in the morning. Yeah. Let alone going out on a school night. Yeah. So, you know. I'm quite surprised about it, if I'm honest. It's obviously doing well. Yeah. What was the social called? Is it East Norfolk Social? Yeah, I think so. Pretty sure that's what it is. But we double check it and pack and make sure that it is right. Yeah, what I might do is if anybody is actually close to the Annex or close to us even, and they want to know the social, I can correct them in a message if need be. Mm-hmm. What I might actually do is possibly put something on Instagram and Fab maybe. Yeah, and Swing Hub. Yeah, and like maybe tag their social or something. Yeah. But yeah, so we have said to them if it was the case that they was ever going to do a social on a weekend. Yeah. Friday or Saturday, we'll definitely... Go. Yeah, because it's something I'd like to go to more socials, more local places. We did just say that after the last social that we've been to. Yeah, so that is the plan, to try and speak to them, see if we can arrange like, even if we're just arranging a coffee with them and... Yeah, because it'd be nice to see them again. Yeah, and we did say that we would obviously discuss their social on here. And discuss, obviously, the Norwich social. Yeah. And they did say that, obviously, that we'd have to let them know when it was being released. Yeah, so... It's a couple of weeks late. Couple of weeks? It's like literally a month late. Yeah, because it was the first... Yeah, first weekend of January. We're now on the first weekend of February. Fuck, time flies by. Well, technically, there is a social going on right now. Whose social? Norwich. Oh, yeah, yeah, Saturday, first weekend. Yeah, so there is another, yeah, one that we've just missed. But again, circumstances, definitely not going to have to make it out. Yeah, definitely not. So, after we had the Norwich social, we had another social arranged. Yep. Which we are going to discuss in the next episode. Yeah. But, in between that, so a couple we met, God, it was actually over a year ago. Was it? Yeah, because not New Year just gone, but the one before that, we spent with them. Yeah. So, it was about the time of we're talking, it was between that point when we went to the hotel. When? In January, we went to the hotel with them. That was the first... Yeah, but we had met them before that. Yeah. So, yeah, this couple, they actually come over the weekend after the social, weren't it? No, it was, yeah, it was the weekend after. So, they come over, had a couple of drinks, had a catch up, and we informed them about the social we've been to. They did say, next time we go, they're happy to tag along as long as they're not working. Yeah. So... But I think the next one, we're going to try and stay up there for the night. Yeah. Make a night of it, possibly, even maybe get out that couple from the West Suffolk... West Suffolk... West Norfolk. West Norfolk social. Yeah, because they said that they were going to go... Out, out. Yeah. We missed an opportunity, though. They're not just out, they're going, ah, ah. Yeah. Fucking hell. So, yeah, had a couple of drinks that night, had a catch up. It was nice seeing them. Yeah, haven't seen them for a while. No, life catches a wave. Just goes on, we cut. Life goes too fast, like, literally, I was right in the date yesterday, and I just thought, where the hell has this year gone, let alone last year? Yeah. But anyway, we are pretty much going to leave it there. Yeah. We have discussed, you know, a little bit tonight. Yeah. The next one will be two weeks from the release of this one. Yeah, so... We are now going to fortnightly. This one that we are now recording, I'm going to get sorted and posted. So the next one will be out, not next weekend, but the one after. If Mrs W sticks to it. So it will be, what date? The 17th will be the weekend after we've gone to VA. Yep, so... So we're technically, we're going to be about three weeks behind on the podcast. We will soon catch up because we've got a few gaps in between our schedule anyway. Yeah, but we also... Yeah, hold on. No, I'm looking at a calendar here. So next week, we're at VA. Yep. The week after... Release podcast. Yeah. The week after that, we have got a baby set up. Have we? Yeah. What are we doing? I don't know, probably VA again. Or, or, or, or, we could go Trilianics. I possibly have another idea in between that. I'm not going to discuss right now. Is it a certain person? A person. Coming over? Oh no, how can I, no, if we've got a baby set up, we're going out. Oh no, I thought you meant like, in between when the recording was coming out. No, but we've also got an event, so... We've got an event in March, end of March. 23rd. 22nd, 23rd, we're there. Yeah, so I'm... And we, that episode... Hold on, that's six weeks away. So, yeah, six weeks. So we're out... Seven weeks. Right, so we're out next weekend. Hold on, we're proper going off track. So, out next weekend. Yeah. Podcast the weekend after. Yeah. Then we're out again. Yeah. So we're going to have a podcast release on the 16th or the 17th. Yeah. One again on the 1st or the 2nd of March. Yeah, are we going out for the 10th? Not too sure, but we're going to figure it out from there. So, we will be, as we said, going fortnightly. Yeah. So, for those who were enjoying their weekly update... We've had to, we can't get out every week. Yeah, just life in general doesn't allow us. So, we're now going to fortnightly. Yep. So hopefully we have enough stories to discuss fortnightly. Yep. And if not, I'm sure we'll find something to discuss. We have got one going out. Well, we've got one planned to record. With a special guest. That's all I'm saying. Yep. That's all you're saying. No one needs to know no detail. No one needs to know when, where, or how. But I'm hoping it's going to put a very good light or a different way of seeing said person. Yeah. Because that one's going to be a bit more of a nitty-gritty. Yeah, but that one, that's neither here or there. Yeah. We're going to get there. We're going to have a good couple of weeks and really looking forward to that certain recording. So thank you all for listening. We shall see you in two weeks. Yep, because we can record. So yeah, hope everyone has a... Socials. I was going to say, hope you all have a lovely weekend. Yeah. And if you're at the VA next weekend, we'll see you there. But anyway, onto the socials. If you're on... At Swing Hard. Instagram. TikTok. And many more, but I don't know. But yeah, thank you for listening, guys. And goodnight. Goodnight. Bye.