Q2-19990616-Larry_Rosenberg-UNK-shining_the_light_of_death_on_life_part_8-43040 Leandra Tejedor

Talk: 19990616-Larry_Rosenberg-UNK-shining_the_light_of_death_on_life_part_8-43040 Leandra Tejedor.json Start_time: 00:57:28 Display_question: I am ok with knowing I am going to die it is when others die that I suffer. Keyword_search: Taoist, death, leaves, Shakespeare, honesty, awareness, obituary, anger, sadness, authenticity, Orthodox Jew, suffering Question_content: Questioner: As a Taoist… Larry: You're a Taoist. Beautiful. Questioner (inaudible) I my own death…But I still find a challenge with the death of others. Larry: Okay, so that's where your practice is at. Yeah. Sometimes parents will say that. We don't know, and you don't know. Really, the test comes when the time comes to die. But let's say right now, the notion of your own death, is not…is okay, but other people in your life is not. Okay so, when that comes up, quite naturally, in other words, something occasions that fear, in other words, something like, what, an illness of a friend or something of that sort. Questioner (inaudible) Well I heard about the death of a friend. Larry: Okay. Right. Okay. Questioner: (inaudible) Larry: One approach to practicing with it. The teachings are not designed to program you in another way, because that does happen, and it's on the way. There are people who read these teachings, and then those of us who are good students, have been very good students, then we want to do what's considered appropriate. And so, we formulate at some level of consciousness, the notion that it's natural to die. For goodness sakes, what's the big deal? Everything that is born must age. I can stick it. Leaves fall in Autumn, after Fall comes Winter, and Winter, and then comes... just read Shakespeare. It sounds great. So, we have the acceptable words, which can be on the way, but the point is not to cultivate a particular reaction, in you. So that let's say when that comes up, you don't really have any fear about your own death, quite honestly. But something is brought up by this fear of someone close to you. Honesty is the key thing. So, then the awareness would be with what that was. It an obituary that you read. Questioner: Yes Larry: Okay, so that obituary stimulated something in you. Forget everything that it's been said tonight? It's not really that important. What's important is, can you be with what that obituary brought up, in an innocent, and naive way? Not analyze it, think about it and all the rest, but could you put in words just for communication? What did it bring up in you? Questioner (inaudible) Well, I have seen her 6 months before. She left shelter. Larry: Is that supposed to be a okay, yeah. Questioner: (inaudible) Spoke to her family…. Larry: Okay. What does her resume have to do with it? Questioner: Her death…. Larry: No, this is about you. It's not about her. What did it bring up in you? She has no problems anymore. Okay, what did it bring up in you? See, because we're talking about it. Was it sadness? What? Questioner: Sadness and anger. Larry: Anger at what? Questioner: At life for taking her. Larry: I see. Okay. Is that where you are? Is that where you've left it? Questioner: (inaudible) No. It hasn’t resolved. Larry: Do you think that's a good resting place? Questioner: No. Larry: I'm sorry? Do you think it is a good resting place, the anger at life? I don't mean it's inauthentic, because see, the practice is about what actually, it's true authenticity. And if you're furious with life, for having invented itself, in such a way that… what does it do? You go through all this, you're born, you go to get braces, you go through all this trouble, and then what happens? You eat organic vegetables, you're an Orthodox Jew. You die anyway. Okay, so you're entitled if you want to be angry, but then you're suffering in that moment. Questioner (inaudible) Right Larry: Yeah. So finally, it is about you. So that was her last gift to you. There's something there about… that can be helpful for you, if you're willing to practice with what was evoked by the obituary, or the movie, or the urn with ashes, or… it's all over. That's what I mean. For me, the great teacher is life itself. It's all over the place. This teaching. End_time: 01:02:10