Relationships danger zone

The podcast episode discusses the concept of the danger zone in relationships. The hosts emphasize the importance of recognizing and addressing red flags, as ignoring them can lead to the danger zone. They suggest that individuals in the danger zone should find new hobbies or focus on personal growth to move forward. They also discuss how some people may not be aware they are in the danger zone and how women often have more buying power in relationships. They caution against being too easily controlled or manipulated by a partner's demands. Overall, the hosts stress the importance of honesty, standing by one's decisions, and paying attention to warning signs in relationships. Danger, danger, danger, danger. It's time to run. Hello. Welcome to another episode of our podcast. Today we will be talking about danger zone in terms of relationships. And I'm so excited today to have a co-host, a guy I respect so much, a guy that has traveled a lot and is good at public speaking. Two days ago I met him in Atlanta. I'm so excited that I'm hosting him here today for this episode. Welcome on board, sir. Thank you so much, sir. I think it's an honor for me to be here today. Happy to speak to some people today out there. We are here to help people understand a lot of things that are going on with danger zone. So let me ask, when we talk of danger zone in terms of relationships, what is the first thing that automatically comes in your mind? I think in that perspective, talking about danger zone, you're looking about when they say danger means what? It simply means, boy, if you see something, it means it is red. So when something is red, what happens? You just have to flee away, just evacuate for safety. But coming to a relationship, when you talk about danger zone, I think it simply means things are not really working out. So when things are not really working out, what happens? Either you make a step forward or backward. I think that's just what danger zone simply really means. Things are not actually moving, so you have to make a decision directly. You're being in your comfort zone, you think you're good, but you're not really making any moves. So what happens? You have to make a choice. Either you're going forward or you just like to terminate everything or fix it. That is the man himself. Based on what I probably picked from what you were saying, like in danger zone, I would say what is commonly titled red flag. Exactly. That is some of the danger. Yeah, I think when you see there's a red flag in relationships, people do ignore a lot of red flags. When there's a red flag, you have to think twice. This red flag is telling me something because you don't want to be like, oh no, it's just like a game, there's nothing wrong. Red flags are always a thing to tell you like, boy, this is not going. You have to do something. So if in a relationship, if you keep like avoiding or neglecting red flags, it might lead you to that danger zone. Exactly. Then at that point in time, you have yourself to blame because you already saw them coming. So you can't blame your partner. Then you have to blame yourself because the red flags are already telling you like, okay, this is red, means soon there will be fire. So the fire is the danger zone. You can't really cry because you already saw the danger coming. You saw the red flag building up to finally lead you to that danger zone where now you're caught, you can't run, you're frustrated, you're done. So that's the thing. So you have always yourself to blame because those flags are already showing to you like, okay, this is it, I'm building up this red flag. It will eventually become like fire, which is going to be that danger zone, which I can't turn anymore. So my people out there, try to avoid fire. Like you heard from our man himself. All those red flags will lead to danger zone. And at that period, you have yourself to blame. So in general, how can you get yourself out from a danger zone? Personally, for me, I think when you are at that stage, like when you ignore all the red flags and you find yourself in that danger zone, one of the methods to get out of it is to find your hobby or just do you. What do you think? So on my side, I think the best way to get out of this danger zone, as you call it, is I think you just probably like, you just be like, okay, I messed up. What next? Probably get a, yeah, like you said, get a new hobby. You know, it's not always lit. There's always a theme. There's someone who created every human being. You can go to your room, you know, in private to the Lord like, okay God, I know this is not working. I found myself in this place, but I don't want to be there. So now you have to set your goals of what you want next. So you shouldn't find yourself in that same position. But you've got to find something that's going to move your mind from what you came from. Yeah, so it might be something new or, you know, get something that keeps you busy that's going to keep you away from thinking about your danger zone that you just came out from. I think so. Wow, that's deep. That's really deep. So, I know, like, at a certain point, right now, some people don't have any idea that they are in a danger zone. Or at times, they might be so invested in whatever is going on for them that those red flags, they might see them as this thing. And this flag. Yeah, like, I think sometimes you got to, like, listen to people when they talk to you. Always pay attention to what you ask. Because when you ask questions, your opposite partner is going to always say something. Then when you ask another one, they're going to fall in. That means that's already a red flag. Say, in this case, your partner, you ask what you like. She's like, oh, I like skydiving. I like to do this. Then one day, you say, let's go skydiving. She says, oh, I'm scared of heights. Then you have to know that she is coming over there. You have to know, okay, now she's dying. I'm scared of heights. But she said she loves to skydive. Means that either there's somebody else distracting her from you, so you have to be careful going, she's like, oh, no, I'm scared of heights. I don't like it in there, out there. No, she doesn't want people to see you guys. So she's not comfortable with you. She's just there because she saw, oh, he's treating me right. You know, whatever I do, he's going to call me back. You know, you have to know that. You don't have to, like, sit there. She texts, yeah, she's like, oh, yeah, he's going to text me every morning. Hey, hey, how you doing? But somebody else won't even do what you're trying to do, but she'll be stuck with that person because she's like, okay, he has something more better than what she has. But no, because you care so much, which is going to make you be like, okay, I can go anywhere, and then he's going to call me, like, hey, what you doing, let's hang out, and then boom. So you have to pay attention to all those clues. My point is, like, when your partner notices that you're always available, so they always use their weakness against you. Exactly. So they can do whatever they want to do, knowing that you are there any moment they call. And it might not really be for everyone, but majority of women are going to always do that. That's what I know. Even, like, 70% of women are going to do that. No, I know my man is based in this place. That's what I'm going to use to get him. So in other words, like, men don't do that, too? Because, at times, men always be like, oh, she's a friend, I respect her, I don't want to mess up my friendship. But when they go and things don't work out wherever they go, they always come back to her. I think it's going to be a little bit tough on the men's side, but I think some men might do it. But in most cases, the women are always the prey. They are the ones always doing that a lot more than men. Women always know, like, because, you know, they always see themselves like, I'm cute, I'm beautiful. People talk to them every day. It's not like you and men go there, women start talking to you. No. It is more common with women. Men are talking to women. So she's going to start seeing herself like, okay, oh, people can talk to me, people can offer me this, can take me out. Okay. He might be there. Okay, this guy is going to come and take me, maybe shopping or to a vacation. That's it. That's what you start having those red flags, because now they're going to see themselves like, oh, I'm so cute for this guy. So, like, according to that, women have the buying power. Yeah. So, like, you, like, the best, they take the gold, the best. Exactly. But men are the ones negotiating. Because the woman is going to be like, okay, okay, well, I'm good. He will come with a good deal. I'm gone. Even if she might not leave you for somebody else, just for the sake that, oh, nah, this is somebody I started with, but he is not up to date. I'm just going to manage him because I know I can control him. So, when she knows she can control you, she can do anything else out of there, but she's going to just be like, okay, I'm just with you, you know. But she's going to do anything she wants out there, but she's going to be like, okay, this one, he probably, when I tell him, like, hey, can we go right now, be like, yeah. You're always like, yes, man. Yes, man. She's going to always want to use you, yeah. Exactly. Says you kind of, like, so into her, you are willing to go above and beyond. Then I think there's another thing I realize with men and women. When a woman realizes, some women see this to know if he's going to be there for them. Like, oh, let's have dinner at 6, Texas Roadhouse. You made the schedule for dinner. Then when it's time, she's like, I don't like going to Texas Roadhouse. Let's go to an Italian restaurant or a seafood restaurant. Then when you just say, okay, that's fine, let's go. She knows now that's where she can control you. So you got to be careful. If you want to be a man to stand on your word, be on your word. Be like, oh, no, we already made plans for Texas Roadhouse. That's going to be next time. So in as much as a human being in general, I would like that flexibility. We like someone that we crave, that would always understand, would always give us what we want. At the same time, it's also dangerous in terms of relationships. Exactly. You got to always be honest. I know people want to be like, okay, this is my girl. Yeah, we can make some changes. But sometimes you have to stand on your decisions like, okay, we planned for this already. Okay, let's see, next time we're going to do this. Not just at any time she says something, she brings up something, you do it, okay, that's fine, let's change. No, it shouldn't be that, yes, man, like everything, okay, that's fine, let's change, just to please her. No, you have to also stand because she's going to know then, okay, he can be there for me. At any given moment. Yeah, so you have to be careful because that's when she's going to be showing you the fly by. Well, you know, what are you doing? Oh, let's hang out tonight. No, I'm just going to stay at home at my place, you know. Let's just stay tomorrow. Then, you know, something's going on in the background. Something else is going on. Because if somebody really likes you, they want to be with you, they're going to always be like, okay, all right, let's do this. Maybe I'm tired, fine, but just be like, oh, no, I don't want to chill at my place. You know, let's just stay next week. Make sure you got all that planned so you're not that important. That's the red, black, black color. Meaning in a relationship, mutual respect is very important. Very important. So in as much as your partner might be that flexible and willing to switch or change, like follow your order, you also have to take into consideration or you have to respect the person you choose. Definitely not use all those aspects of him or her against the person. I think it is okay for someone to say, oh, yeah, I don't feel good today to go out. That's fine. But when the excuses start coming, like so frequent, then you know somebody else is trying to chop off that position. They have those already red flags, you know. She's just being with you like, oh, he's too nice. He's too nice. He's a nice guy. So definitely when you start seeing those red flags, it really doesn't mean that she's with someone else. It can be that she's like, yeah, a lot of people coming after her. Coming after her because she's weighing her options. She feels like she's like, oh, yeah, she's right up there. So she's like, okay, this guy, man, he's making millions. He's talking to me. He's a millionaire. He's this. He's that. Now she starts seeing us and then she turns and looks at you. Well, he's nice. I know this rich person might not be too nice like him, but he got the money. He can afford the stuff that I want. So now they're going to be like, okay, he's too nice. You know, I can call him back. Hey, can you go pick up me this thing at the laundry? Okay. Yeah. That's why she's going to be using you for now. Oh, I know that thing is like they were speaking. If things don't work out, I can always come back to you. I can always come back to him because he's going to be there. He already shown that. He's there for me. You know, he can't do it without me. So everything, when things don't work out, I'll call back. So that's like before you were the main guy. Now you're the backup. Yeah, you're the backup. So in case it doesn't work out there, I know this rich people who come and promise, they're going to promise them when they get what they need, they're going to disappear. But you, you're there. You're always there waiting. Guys, so like at any moment you feel like you are not the backup, know that you are one step away from being the backup. So you just start looking for a way to exit. Yeah, just bring it out and tell her. Just let her know what you want. If that's not what she wants, just let her go. That's it. You don't have to keep on sitting there. Being like, oh, oh, oh. Ignoring all the red flags. Then when you get there, she won't even care if your feelings are being hurt. She won't even ask. Oh yeah, like, you're always the victim. Yeah. So guys, thank you so much for listening to this end. Please don't forget to like, share, and subscribe. And hit that notification button. We have very interesting topics coming up on our next episode. Stay tuned.