Forgiveness

The speaker discusses the topic of forgiveness, sharing a personal experience with their sister. They talk about the importance of understanding and seeking forgiveness, even if the other person hasn't fully forgiven. They mention that forgiveness is not just for the other person, but for oneself as well. They emphasize that forgiveness is a way to break chains and release anger, and that it is a command from God. They encourage listeners to lean on God for help in forgiving others and to remember that we are fighting against spiritual forces, not flesh and blood. The speaker concludes by urging listeners to seek God's guidance and to continue learning and practicing forgiveness. Hello everybody and welcome back to Rebuild. My name is Skola and you are listening to me right now discuss on the topic of forgiveness. So, forgiveness. Forgiveness has been heavy on my heart since late. It was obviously a word that I heard from the Lord that I need to speak about for this up and coming podcast which is today's podcast. And I just wanted God to guide my steps in it. And it's interesting because he led me to my sister's house recently and her and I had to have a chat because although we are back in communication despite a period of separation, you can still see that there is a bit of a strain there. There's still a little bit of, you know, tensions between us. Well, mainly between her and to me it was more of we need to come to a position of understanding one another. I've already forgiven her for the part that she played in my upset at the time and she said that she had forgiven me also but we still need to address the subject, right? So, in addressing the subject I actually heard in her tone and in her energy that she wasn't completely over it or she wasn't completely in a space of forgiveness because I can tell that it's difficult to forgive somebody when you don't fully understand their reasoning and sometimes you could be forgiving them and not knowing that actually you're the one that should be seeking forgiveness from them as opposed to you feeling victimised in that situation. From the conversation that I had with her, it felt as though she had sat in a victimhood position with information that wasn't completely correct based on how she felt in the moment, not on what actually transpired at the time of the upset. So, I noticed that me forgiving her was forgiving her with the straight mind of I don't completely, totally understand her fully in the way that I wish I did but I understand her enough to know that how she reads situations is very different to how situations actually occur but I guess I went into my hardened heart in feeling like that she should have changed by now from how she used to process information to how she's still processing information and I guess with age and time you stop taking people at face value, you start seeing it as well you should have learnt by now, you should know by now and sometimes God takes his time with people to get them to a position of understanding themselves and understanding how they too see the world. So, I've had to show her some grace so therefore it led me to forgiving her for how she made me feel, what she said to me at the time and me too, I also sought her forgiveness because my reaction wasn't always the best in that process, it wasn't always the best thing to do two wrongs to try and make a right, it's not always good to hold on tightly to anger and resentment although in the grand scheme of things, hypothetically speaking it can be justified based on how somebody else treats you. But one thing I noticed is that forgiveness is not for the other person per se, yes they might enjoy the forgiveness or enjoy the repentant person come in and say forgive me but the forgiveness in that regard is mainly for you, you the person that is experiencing this thing with that other person. Forgiveness lets go of chains, you forgive that person for doing whatever they did to you from your perspective or even if it was true or if they were wrong or if they were right, whatever the situation is. Forgiveness is not something that you need to wait for somebody to ask you for, it's sometimes something that you need to give freely in the same way that Jesus Christ did for us when he laid his life on the cross for us, he did that knowing fully well how much we had sinned against him but did it for us anyway and that was just a huge sign of complete and unadulterated love. And because I love my sister and I love all my siblings and I love the people that don't particularly love me back and I love those that I have a history with and it wasn't always the most pleasant of histories but I still love them, I still wish them well, I still want them to be great and in that I've learnt to forgive, forgive them for the things that they did that I didn't necessarily think was very fair or right or kind to me but I also understand that it's not flesh and body or flesh and blood that we are actually fighting against, we are fighting against principalities and powers in high places but God has given us the authority, Jesus has given us the authority to cast out demons, to cast out enemies and to overthrow the powers of the darkness so therefore through the light that Jesus Christ has put inside every single one of us, we are able to fight against anything that puts us in a position where we cannot forgive, we can fight against it because that in itself is a sin. We have to learn to forgive and grow in forgetting because forgetting is not as easy as forgiving but when you forgive the process of letting it completely go is where you need to completely and absolutely lean on God because only he can do that for you because he is the master of it all, he created forgiveness, he commands it of us so therefore we must do it and when we do it we break chains, we break generational curses, we release anger, we destroy it, we come against it, we fill ourselves with joy, with happiness, with peace, with longsuffering, with kindness, with abundance, we get all the benefits that is good for us once we learn to forgive and let go. Letting go means giving it to God and he will help you forget, he created your mind, he can do all things, he is a God of all so to him and him alone I give praise, I thank you Jesus because I know without you it is impossible for me to learn how to forgive and to give earnestly and to give freely and to give over and over again countless times just to be sure that I am in good standing with you Lord Jesus. So I pray that everybody listens to this, I know I didn't go into complete details in my situation with my sister but I do want you guys to know that God loves you, Jesus loves you, he is there for you, he wants to be there for you and if you are struggling with forgiving somebody, a family member or whoever it is that has caused you pain, lean on him, he will help you. Some things are not for you, he created you so he wants to be the one that you know designs your day, constructs your life, helps you through the times where you are struggling and you are letting them off. And if forgiveness is one of those areas, because I know it is a huge area for a lot of people, even me sometimes you know, it is a difficult place to be where you don't forgive somebody for something that they have done. We have all gone through something and nothing is too little, nothing is too big that we can't show an element of kindness and forgiveness because it is not human beings that we are fighting against, it is the devil and the enemy and the spirits that are not of God that are inside those people using them to work out their own insecurities because the devil himself is insecure, he knows where he is going. So he tries to put all those fears on people which then lashes out in words that are not kind and not good and when those words are out, it hits the people in the face because it is spirit. It is life and death that comes out of the mouth and once that death comes out, people receive it and they receive it really badly. But if you don't speak life upon that situation, because only life can destroy death, only light can get rid of darkness. So when you speak back life into a situation you forgive, that thing now is powerless and has no more authority over you. So keep giving God glory, keep seeking God's face, keep chasing for his word, keep learning his word, keep absorbing it into your system night and day and I promise you forgiveness will be something you are able to do more easily and frequently in the mighty name of Jesus. I bless you all for listening Thank you so much for taking the time to listen to me today and I hope this message edifies you and it all goes into the building up of the body of Christ and we give God glory for all that he does because he is a God that is mightier and greater than he that lives in the world. God bless you.