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The host of WCCU Radio, Zakira Green, introduces herself and promotes her social media accounts. She provides a weather update, mentioning that it is partly cloudy in the mornings and sunny in the afternoons. She also talks about the high pollen levels and advises listeners to take their medicine and stay hydrated. Zakira then announces that she will be discussing forgiveness as the topic of the day and poses questions about why we forgive and whether it is for ourselves or for others. She shares quotes about forgiveness and provides phrases to share with someone when forgiving them. After the break, Zakira shares her personal story of learning to forgive and emphasizes the importance of self-love and respect. She concludes by giving tips on how to practice forgiveness, such as practicing empathy and considering the circumstances that may have led someone to hurt us. Hello, you're listening to WCCU Radio, Coastal Carolina University Student Radio Station. How are y'all feeling today on this lovely Thursday? It's feeling great and lovely outside. Nice, nice hot weather. Oh, my gosh, it's getting beach weather today. So I'm your host, Zakira Green, and you can follow me on TikTok and my YouTube at ZakiraGreen, Z-A-K-I-R-A, Green, G-R-E-E-N. My pronouns are she, her, hers. Also, for my IG, ZakiraGreen. You can listen to my talk shows every Friday, 12 to 1 p.m., and make sure you also follow me on WCCU News for Entertainment every Friday. Make sure y'all tune in and listen, okay? That's from 12 to 1 p.m. Make sure y'all tune in to listen. Weather for this week, yes, partly cloudy and sunny. It's cloudy during the mornings and then very sunny during the noons. So, yes, great, great weather to go out to the beach, honey. It's feeling good, good, good outside. Oh, my gosh, and let's not forget about this pollen. Look at your shoes now. You probably got pollen all over your shoes or whatever. I know pollen is just all over the cars. Pollen is just everywhere on the bench. Everywhere we go, it's just pollen, pollen, pollen. Make sure y'all are taking your medicine. Make sure y'all are staying hydrated in this weather as well. Just make sure if you have allergies, oh, I know, I know, you're probably suffering right now, but, you know, stay healthy. You know, health comes first. So make sure y'all are taking your antibiotics. The only thing that you're supposed to do is just make sure you stay healthy because when we feel good, we look good. We still got to make it to class. We don't want to have to skip classes or anything because of our health conditions. So make sure we're staying on top of our health and just making sure we're doing what we're supposed to do, okay? So today for topics, let's talk with Kira. We're going to talk about forgiveness. Forgiveness. All right, I'm going to dive back into a little bit more of that. After the break of what I mean by forgiveness, I'm going to break down what forgiveness means to me. And can we forgive? Can we? Should we? Why should we? So make sure y'all stay tuned after the break because we're going to talk about forgiveness. So don't go anywhere, y'all. Hello. Welcome back. You're listening to the WCCU Radio, Coastal Carolina University Student Radio Station. I'm your host, Kira Green, here with Talks with Kira. All right, welcome back, everyone. Welcome back. Now, for today's topic, I said we're going to talk about forgiveness. Forgiveness, okay? So what comes to your mind when you say the words, I forgive you? Does the body suddenly gravitate to a healing moment, or does it just feel like an okay thing to do just because it feels right to say at the moment? So think about that. Now, let's think. Why do we say, I forgive you? Are our forgiveness for us to heal, or is it for the other person to feel better and okay about themselves? Okay? So with that being said, to summarize what I just said, why do we say, I forgive you? Why do we forgive people? Are we genuinely forgiving them for ourselves, or are we forgiving them because that's just something that we're taught to do, just forgive, forgive, forgive? Are we genuinely coming from our heart and forgiving people? We sometimes get tired of hurting from the past situations. We hold anger, hurtful breakups, toxic households within family lives, and when will we have time to heal? Or when is there our time to heal? How will we know it's time to forgive? How will we know it's time to forgive? Why? Let's dive into some quotes of inspiration for the day, okay, while we think about that. True forgiveness is when you can say thank you for the experience it taught me. Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the true future. Forgiveness is our important contribution to healing of the world. We are not perfect. Forgive others as you would want to be forgiven. So with that being said, we forgive, we're supposed to forgive, and how do we know that we forgive or we forgave? Because we can say thank you at the end. We can say that lesson taught me. You made me think differently about this situation. Now I'm aware. I'm aware. I know how to move now. That's true forgiveness. I know how to move differently now and still forgive you. Now here are some phrases to share with someone. Here are some phrases to share with someone. I choose to let go of the past. I can't forget, but I can forgive you. Okay? I am choosing healing and peace rather than conflict. All right? I'm choosing healing and peace rather than conflict. That means I'd rather make sure that it's peace, no conflict. I get the power at the end of the day by forgiving you. I get the power at the end of the day by being able to not hold a grudge. I get the power at the end of the day by being able to walk with faith, being able to walk and know that nobody's perfect. Nobody's perfect. I get the power because at the end of the day I'm not letting this situation or what you did to me faze me. I'm not letting it faze me. I don't understand, but I will try to seek understanding and learn to forgive you. That's something you can say. I don't understand, but I will try to seek understanding and learn to forgive you. I am taking my strength back and I am forgiving you. Oh, I like that one. I'm taking my strength back and I'm learning to forgive you. Taking my strength back. What do y'all think that means? First I want to say I'm taking my strength back. Taking my strength back means I'm taking my power back. I'm taking my knowledge back. I'm taking my awareness back. I'm taking all of this back and I'm going to forgive you. I'm going to try to look past the issue, the situation, what happened. No, I'm not going to forget what happened, but I'm taking my dignity, my strength. I'm taking all that back. It can be difficult to let go of anger and resentment towards others who has hurt us, so forgiveness requires faith, courage, and empathy. Okay? It can be difficult to let go of anger and resentment towards others who has hurt us, so we got to have courage, faith, empathy. We can do it. We can do it. It's going to hurt at first. It's going to suck at first. It's going to suck at first. It's going to feel like, oh my gosh, like I'm letting people run all over me. It may feel like that to you, but true faith, true courage, true empathy, that's true forgiveness. Now we'll talk a little bit more about that when we get back from the break, but don't go anywhere, y'all, because I'm going to share a little bit of my story and about growing up, why I learned how to forgive people, why do I think it's good to forgive, and why is forgiveness something that will make you feel better about yourself? Why is forgiveness going to give you strength? Why is forgiveness going to give you empathy, courage? Why do I walk differently? Because I forgave the ones that hurt me. Why am I glowing now? Because I forgave. Why am I eating healthier now? Because I forgave. So it's a lot to do with that. It's a lot, but after the break, we're going to talk about why I chose to forgive and why I'm continuing to try to forgive. I'm trying. I have my days. Some situations are a little more than others, a little more serious than others, but why did I choose to forgive? Just move with faith, move with courage, move with love, move with empathy. So stay tuned after the break, because I'm going to tell you why. Bye-bye. Don't go nowhere. Talk to Keira. Hello. You're listening to WCCU Radio, Coastal Carolina University Student Radio Station. I am your host, Keira Green, and today we are back with the topic of forgiveness. Forgiveness. Now, before going on break, I said that I was going to share a little bit of my story of why do I feel like forgiveness is important. Now, growing up, I had a sweetheart, as I do now. So being nice has led others to take advantage of me and mistaken my kindness for weakness. Yet, I didn't let family and friends or people in general take my kindness for a gain. I had to learn to love myself. Once you love yourself, you treat people how to love you. Once you respect yourself, that's how you treat people how to respect you. It's really simple, you know. It's the way how you carry yourself, present yourself, love yourself. You have to do that. That's the way you move. Let me say it again. I had to learn how to love myself. And once you love yourself and respect yourself, you treat others how to respect you. I had to learn how to respect myself. And, you know, I had to just make sure that I was really just genuinely loving all of me, what comes with me, how I look on the outside, the inside, and all of that. I had to just learn how to accept me for me. Okay? So that's what it is. I was a sweetheart growing up. I was a sweetheart, I can admit. And being too nice sometimes will have people thinking they can play with you, will have people thinking they can just, you know, trick you, play with your mind. Oh, gee, I can mess with her. Gee, I can trick her. I can play with her mind. But, no, you got to come out there like a bull. You got to come out there with courage. You got to come out there with faith. You got to come out there knowing what it is, what it ain't, because this is a crazy game you're living in. This is crazy time you're living in, too. This is a crazy game people like to play. They like to play games. How to forgive. You may ask. You can practice empathy. Ask yourself about the circumstances that may have led to the person to behave in such a way. Think about how others have forgave you. You know? That's just, come on, a lot of people, they be saying they can't forgive, they can't do that, they can't. You can do it because trust and believe. There was a time that somebody had to forgive you. Somebody had to forgive you. So ask yourself about the circumstances that may have led to the person to behave in such a way. Think about how others have forgave you. You can journal. You can pray. Ask for guidance on how to react to different conflicts with better solutions. Forgiveness is a process. Okay? That's what I want y'all to really take in today. Forgiveness is a process. It's not an overnight thing. I'm not saying that I want you to just, somebody did something to you on Tuesday, wake up Wednesday and just are forgave. No, no, no, no. It's a process. It's not an overnight thing. I mean, it really just depends on how big the situation was or the conflict. It just depends. But I'm just not saying that no matter how big or small it was, that overnight, I mean, some people might be able to forgive that easy and fast, you know, because of forgiving loving people, nurturing, you know. But for some others, it may not work like that. It may take, it may even take a month. It may take a month. It may take a month while it take others a night. So everybody's different. So I do want y'all to know that it's a process, not an overnight thing, to be honest. It's really not an overnight thing. But if you can do it overnight, then kudos to you, baby. You know, kudos to you. But it's not really an overnight thing. The effects of holding a grudge. What are their effects? It'll bring anger and just bitterness. You don't want to be bitter, walking around bitter, just mad at the world? Forgive. You know, you'll become so wrapped up in the wrong that you can't enjoy the present. You'll become depressed. You lose valuable and enriching connections with others. You just don't want to be walking around depressed, irritable, or anxious. You know, it's going to mess with the new relationships and experiences of meeting new people because you have that bitterness in you, that hatred. How do I move toward a state of forgiveness? Next, recognize the value of forgiveness and how can it improve your life. Identify what needs healing and who you want to forgive. You can join a group. You can talk to a counselor. Acknowledge your emotions about the harm that you've done. Well, not the harm that you've done, but the harm that was done to you. You've got to acknowledge your emotions about the harm that was done to you. Recognize how those emotions affect your behavior and work to release them. You've got to let that baggage go. Let it go. Choose to forgive the person who offended you. Release that control and power that the offending person and situation have had in your life. I understand, y'all. Forgiveness can be hard. Especially if the person who hurt you doesn't admit wrongdoing. If you find yourself stuck, you can practice empathy. Try seeing the situation from the other person's point of view, like I said earlier. Ask yourself about the circumstances that may have led to the other person to behave in such a way. Perhaps you would have reacted similarly if you had faced the same situation. That just means put yourself in their perspective. How would you act? How would you respond? Be aware that forgiveness is a process. Even small hurts may need to be revisited and forgiven again and again. Okay? Okay. If the hurtful event involves someone whose relationship you value, forgiveness may lead to reconciliation. But that isn't always the case. Reconciliation might be impossible if the offender has died or is unwilling to communicate with you. In other cases, reconciliation might not be appropriate. Still, forgiveness is possible even if reconciliation isn't. So, does forgiveness guarantee reconciliation? Does forgiveness guarantee reconciliation? Okay? Okay? How about what if the person I'm forgiving doesn't change? You're probably thinking, well, getting another person to change isn't a point of forgiveness. It's about focusing on what you can control here, now, present. Think of forgiveness more about how it can change your life by bringing you peace, happiness, joy, spiritual healing. Gosh, I don't know about that spiritual healing. Forgiveness can take away the power the other person continues to have in your life. Right? Think about that, you all. Think about it. This was a very sensitive topic to talk about because I know a lot of us, we still are holding on to old baggage, holding on to old hurt. Forgiveness can take away the power the other person continues to have in your life. Control what it is you can control. You know, you can only be yourself. You can't make nobody forgive you, but you can try. You can try. Okay? So, we'll talk a little bit more about this after the break. Y'all stay tuned. Don't go nowhere. Y'all, this is getting good. Talks with Kira on Thursdays, 3 to 4 p.m. Hello. You're listening to WCCU Radio, Coastal Carolina University Student Radio Station. I am your host, Akira Green. And today, we are back with Talks with Kira every Thursday, 3 to 4 p.m. So, y'all, so today we talked about forgiveness. And a little bit of stuff that I talked about today was what comes to your mind when you say the words, I forgive you. Do the body suddenly gravitate to a healing moment, or is it just something to say? Like, I want y'all to think about that. Think about that. Think about that. Think about what comes to your mind when you say the words, I forgive you. Is it just something to say? Because is y'all in the heat of the moment? Or is it something that your body really, really feels? Something that your body really, really wants and, you know, yearns to say? So that's what we talked about today. We talked about why do we say, I forgive you? Are our forgiveness for us to heal? Or is it just to make the other person feel comfortable? Why do we say, I forgive you? Why do we forgive? Because we're taking back the power that the other person put over us. We're taking back the power that the other person put over our cloud. You know, we just walk around sad, mad at the world. Holding anger is because we didn't forgive. We did not forgive. So because we didn't forgive, we're walking around mad and just looking at the world at a different aspect. We're looking at the world just mad and angry. You can choose to let go of the past. You can do that. You can choose to let go of the past and not let the past stop you. Okay, you're forgiven, but you're not forgotten. And that's okay. Although your memories of being hurt may linger, forgiveness allows you to continue moving forward. Practice and forgiveness can make it easy to focus on the good things in life. You can ignore the challenges life throws at you, but prioritizing compassion and empathy can make it easier to notice the good things and give them more weight than the bad. Okay? Make good emotional health as a lifetime goal. Forgiveness can teach you a lot about compassion, but continue to work on self-growth. Strengthening your feelings of empathy towards others can help you cope with difficult circumstances in the future. Okay? Life is long. Life is long. And you might experience more than one injustice. Just as good as physical health can help you weather illness and injury, good mental health can help you remain strong in the face of emotional endurance. Work towards your own happiness. You can do it. You can do it. Today I gave you some ways of how to forgive, how to move on. And make sure that y'all don't forget that without all that, you have to express yourself. With all of that, you have to express yourself, be able to express yourself. Why are you mad? Write it down. But look for the positives. Cultivate empathy. Protect yourself and move on once you learn. Once you see them for who they are, protect yourself and move on. Get help if you need it. You know, sometimes situations mess up our mental health. So get help if you need it. I know that's very important. Okay. So just think about the things I said today. Think about how, why, when should I forgive? When, why, what? Why am I forgiving? What am I forgiving that person for? How do I forgive? Think about those. Think about it. I love this topic, you know, because I feel like a lot of us are still moving in hurt, moving in anger, just moving with bitterness in our hearts. And we got to let go of that extra baggage. We got to let go. It's holding us back. We got to repair our hearts, our minds, our souls. Pray and ask for strength. We got to learn how to forgive. Accept things for what it is, too, I would say. Accept things for what it is. Sense of justice is, you know, just forgiving someone, you know, and just it'll make us feel like it can be difficult to forgive when we feel that the person who has hurt us needs to be held accountable for their actions. That's a sense of justice, forgiving someone. Trust. When someone we trust betrays us, it can be hard to believe them and rebuild that trust and to just look at them the same way we did before. But forgiving can feel like we are giving up control over the situation and trusting them again, even though they have already shown us that they cannot be trusted. We can, we can, I know it's hard. I know it's hard to trust when somebody doesn't do that to you. You know what? Now we're feeling bitterness and resentment. I can't trust you no more. Holding on to bitterness and resentment can become a habit and make it difficult to forgive. There's negative emotions around us. Fear. Forgiving someone can bring up fear of being hurt again. You know, you ever heard of that? They did it before, they can do it again. This can make it difficult to forgive and move on from the past hurts. So I'm telling y'all, forgiveness is a personal choice. It takes time. Like some people, they might forgive overnight. Some people, it might take a month. That's your process. Everybody has their own process of when and what time, when they want to forgive. But all I'm saying today is in order to move forward, in order to heal, glow, feel better, when you walk in a room, you don't want to walk in a room with your enemy there and you're just all tight in your stomach. It's animosity. You don't want that. You don't want that feeling. Trust me, I've had that feeling before. It was just animosity. I just felt, ugh, when I was in a room with somebody, that's because I didn't forgive them. That's because I held on to all that negative energy baggage and all that they brought to me. But you have to forgive. Forgiving someone also doesn't mean that, hey, I trust you. It does not mean that. That just means I choose happiness and peace more than conflict. I choose to walk in the room and not have hatred in my heart. Or every time I see you, hatred. You know, I don't want to have that where I go. I don't want to have that where I walk. I don't want to have that in my life at all, period. So forgiveness is the topic today. I really enjoyed talking about this topic with you all. Just forgive. Smile when you walk. Walk with your head up, confidence. True forgiveness is when you say, thank you for that experience. It taught me. It taught me. It taught me. Forgiveness is our important contribution to healing of the world. Thank you for talks with Kira Thursdays, 3 to 4 p.m. Make sure you also tune in every Fridays, 12 to 1 p.m. When I talk to Kira, 3 to 4 p.m. And then Fridays, 12 to 1 p.m. Make sure you all tune in. We are going up with talks with Kira. And y'all, y'all have a nice Thursday. Have a nice Thursday. And remember, forgiveness. Think about that word, forgiveness, y'all. That will be all the talks with Kira today. Enjoy ourselves. And forgive. And heal.