The Chill Spot Episode 9(Is adulthood really worth it)

The speaker discusses the upcoming elections in South Africa and expresses hope for a party that has the best interests of the people. They also reflect on their journey into adulthood and the challenges they face. They mention experiencing racism and discrimination while interacting with clients and express their desire for a more inclusive society. The speaker emphasizes the importance of appreciating solitude and how it reveals who truly cares for them. They also express their desire to make a positive impact on others' perspectives. Hi, welcome to the show spot. And today is a Sunday, it's the ninth episode, by the way. And yeah, it's Sunday, the 26th of May 2024. Yeah, a very interesting time to find ourselves in the country because, yeah, it's getting closer and closer to election day in South Africa. And yeah, man, you know, it's a very, very, I would say very interesting time, you know, for those who love current affairs and a very interesting time for the country as well. Because it's a matter of looking at where is the country going to end up or who in whose hands is the country going to end up. A very interesting, I must say, and I'm looking at or I was looking at a few parties that I thought may be or rather in I made a sort of top five list in my head of a few parties that may sort of win the elections. And yeah, I couldn't help but, you know, look into the deeper side and to look into sort of being a critic of of these parties. And I don't know why I did that to myself, because I actually realized that I shouldn't have because now I'm left with nothing, you know, in the top five there. But yeah, man, I think I think whichever party that is going to be coming in, I think I would like to hope I would like to hope and pray that they have the best interests of the South Africans at heart. But yeah, 29th of May is a day where most of the youth are saying 2024 is our 1994 where we have to, you know, get rid of some parties that are actually in the ruling seat. But yeah, we're not going to get into politics and everything today we're speaking, I'm speaking or zooming into the path of being an adult. It's a very interesting path. I'm zooming into it in my view, that it is my view of being an adult or taking the chain into adulthood, I must say, because I feel like I'm not really an adult yet. But yeah, according to the government, I am. But I feel like, you know, there is a sort of journey that one takes sort of embarking to that point of officially calling yourself an adult. Yeah, personally, for me, I feel like I don't know if I'm procrastinating, you know, being an adult, but I haven't reached that point where I can safely say that, yes, I am an adult. I still look for the adult when someone comes in and they say they're looking for an elderly person. I still look for the adult even though I could, whatever. But yeah, man, I'm looking at all these transitions of being an adult and maybe, you know, some of the older people that are older than me, maybe they have different opinions to what I have. And maybe they can share their opinions on the Facebook page. That is the chill spot. You can find us there. And yeah, share your opinions, share your views, and share what you thought, you know, do you agree with me or do you think maybe there is a different route that I should be taking, you know, because I'm looking at all these things that sort of, and I quote, adults face on a daily basis, right? And I can't help but think that it is a very scary journey going forward. I'm a bit scared, you know, that's why I was saying, is it really worth it to be an adult? Because as some of you would know, that I recently left my other job that I was doing. I was very passionate for, but obviously the passion and the spark dies because of certain elements that are within the capacity or rather within your reach that make things difficult. But yes, I left what I thought I was passionate about and I still am, I would say, in a sense. But with the change of careers that I've actually embarked on, I actually realized that I've found a new love and passion and that is to assist people. Funny, right? It's actually like funny because where I was before, I was basically assisting the people because I was giving them information every day, but I didn't interact with them much. But now I get to interact, I get to sit, I get to speak, I get to have dealings, I get to have deals and everything else with them on a daily basis. And it has a sort of fulfilling side to it, but there is a side that is a bit tiring, I would say. I sort of, from what I've noticed, is that South Africa, as much as we can claim that we are together and we are a rainbow nation of some sort, there is still bits and pieces of what transpired in the past in terms of what I've realized in my line of work with dealing with people and dealing with normal clients, customers and everyone in between on a daily basis. I've realized that you do find a bit of, unfortunately, you do find a bit of putting down of people, you do find a bit of racism there and there, a lot of racism at times. And, yeah, you actually, sometimes you actually feel bad because you ask yourself, is it because of the color of my skin that I'm being treated the way I'm being treated by this fellow client? And then you test the theory, you know, I've tested the theory a few times, you know, the way you find that a specific person deals with you in a specific way, and then when you actually approach someone else of their own kind to assist them, you know, they sort of come down a bit, you know, and they sort of have a sort of mature manner of dealing with things as compared to when they were dealing with you, because now they are, you get sort of treated as if, I would say, you are a bit stupid at times, or you are dumb, or you don't know what you're doing, or whatever. So, but the funny part, it's always funny, and to see, you know, the situation where you find that the same person that didn't want to be assisted by you, they, at the end of the day, they get sent to you to check out whatever they have bought or dealt with. So, in actual fact, at the end of the day, they have to deal with you. That is, I think, the humbling part of it. At the end of the day, they have to deal with you, you know, as black as you are. That is one of the things I've realized and I've picked up that I've lived in this sort of cocoon of some sort, where obviously chatting with people, you know, through airwaves, you don't actually see real people at times, real time, you don't actually see their reaction towards you, but now, you actually see and you actually hear how people feel about you, and you realize, and you think to yourself, where is South Africa going, because this is the same people that should be ending, you know, this disease of this separation of black and white and colored Indian, whatever color, you know, the same people that should be advocating the end of it, because they saw the worst part of it, which is apartheid. They saw the worst part of it. They should be the first in line to actually make sure that, you know, all these things are abolished and they don't exist in our community, so that we can actually grow a future generation that is more conscious, a future generation that is more sort of welcoming to other cultural sort of people, you know, sort of, they have a diverse kind of mind, they must have a diverse kind of mind, don't look at the color, look at the person themselves, look at their sort of morals, integrity, look at their way of doing things, look at their way of, you know, their honesty, first and foremost, you know, their faith in God, you know, and their sort of fear of God, I would say, so also, that is one of the things that, yeah. But, yes, looking at all of these things, I actually tend to, I thought to myself, I was like, how can one person, you know, as myself, how can one person make an impact? How can one person change the perspective and the way the people think around me, you know, in terms of these things? And I haven't cracked it yet, you know, I haven't really cracked it yet in terms of how can I enter the mind of the sort of circumcision-minded kind of person, you know, your apartheid kind of minded person, your sort of not well-mannered kind of person, you know, and make them see the good side of things, you know, and make them see that there is a lot that you can learn from other different cultures and backgrounds, if you can actually just tip the lid and let the sunlight in a bit, you know, because as Dawoud Wansbi once said, the world is definitely not a box, you know, and, yeah, this is one of the things that I've thought about, you know, in the journey of adulthood, that there's a lot of things that we are facing, that we still need to face, that are sort of manifesting themselves, and first and foremost, one of the things that I've realized is that with growing old, I don't know if I'm growing older in a very different way, but as I grow older, I am experiencing a sense of, I would say, appreciating my space, first and foremost, appreciating the space that I am in, and appreciating being by myself. This is the most funniest thing I've realized about myself in the past two, three months and some weeks, that I get to, I'm actually appreciating being alone most of the time, you know, and not having a crowd or certain people around me. I feel like also, first and foremost, it is a good thing for me, because I get to have more time to myself, more time for my sort of religious commitment, and more time to sort of introspect and sort of think deeply, you know, about things that are happening around me, without any disturbances that are sort of around, and I have actually, secondly, it has taught me that, it has taught me who is, this is going to sound like those Facebook write-ups that, for depressed people, not saying depression is something to play about, it is not, it is a very serious thing, we must take it very seriously, but yeah, these things, these posts, the sad posts that people usually share, that being alone, actually, you realize who is real in your life, and who is fake. I think that is what I've realized, that, for an example, I could go missing for two days, and someone from my family would look for me, would definitely look for me, in terms of, they would send me a message on WhatsApp as to, hey, why are you quiet, and this and that, and the other, but, you actually don't find this much in a group that you call friends. We must try it sometime. I think maybe we must, I think everyone who is listening, you know, maybe, try it, you know, try and see, you know, just sort of detach, you know, for a day, or two, or a week, and see the difference, you know, that it makes, and see who is real, and which friendships that are sort of one-sided, that you're actually just hoarding there, and yeah, I think, also, looking at friendships, also, I think I've got to a point where taking care of friendships that don't work is too time-consuming. I feel like I'm too busy to actually hold on to those things, and there's a lot I've shared, I've done some shedding, you know, some load-shedding of some sort, of a lot of so-called friends that I've had in the past few weeks, past few months, and yeah, the load feels lighter, I would say so, and yeah, I'm getting sort of a different view of myself, first and foremost, you know, that I can do things alone, I can do things sort of in a group also, and also, yeah, it's actually, to mention it, I'm not really usually alone, you know, there is a good friend of mine, he works with me behind the scenes on the chill spot. I would say that's one friend that I can actually count on with anything that I, after my family, yeah, some of my family, there is one friend that I can actually count on to get things done, you know, around me, for me, and yeah, that's how it goes. So I think also looking at friendships, I think going, looking at the journey of adulthood and being an adult and sort of going on this sort of journey of a thousand miles of being an adult, you actually need people like that, you actually need people that you can be confident about, that you can rely on, that they can get things done for you, they can get things done with you, and you can achieve many goals with them, and it won't even feel like you are dragging them along or dragging you along, or, you know, because people get tired, you know, let's face it, people get tired very easily, you know, people get tired of you asking them so much, people get tired of you not asking them at times, you know, there's a lot, you know, that makes people actually tired of certain things, but if you have, you know, patient people that know that you actually have a need, and you actually have to fulfill this need, and they won't get tired of you, that is an amazing part, you know, that you can ever have, you know, in your friend. And this is one of the, one of the few things, or one of the two or three things that I've mentioned that I've realized with adulthood, that I actually need, I'm at the point where I don't need a crowd around me that's not going to benefit me, I need, if I have a crowd around me, they must benefit me with something, you know, not monetary, not physically, not whatever, you know, I must learn something, as I was saying to another guy, that if I have to sit with people, you know, I have to, I'm at the point where I want to benefit, you know, when I sit with you, I don't want to hear about this and that and the other, and who did what, where, who, you know, give me something of benefit, let me benefit from you, so that I can walk out of the conversation saying, I learned this from that one today, and I'm actually taking it with me, you know, throwing it in the adulthood suitcase, so that when a challenge comes there, I can be like directly explorer and go to the back tech, take that lesson out and actually use it for my benefit in the future. So, I think, yeah, me asking myself the question that is adulthood worth it, I think it is worth it if you actually count your steps right, and you actually do things right, and you actually do things proper, to actually make, to please yourself first and foremost, and also to please your creator, then, because we can't do anything without our creator, we will be lost, you know, that's why we always have to ask the creator that he mustn't leave us, you know, he mustn't forsake us, even if it's, you know, sort of a blink of an eye, because if we are left to ourselves in the blink of an eye, we will destroy ourselves, I would say so. So, yeah, that is one of the things that actually I wanted to actually reflect on, that, you know, it's always good to go on a straight path, rather than to cut corners, because, yeah, sometimes cutting corners doesn't sort of work, you know, as we want it to, but, yeah, we have to actually tip the lid and let some sunlight in, and sort of learn about each other, you know, learn about, you know, our background, learn about everything that, you know, we need to learn about in terms of making Zarafika a better place again, you know, because, you know, if we teach the world and teach the world right, the world will actually gain more respect for us teaching them right, you know, or whatever aspect that we actually have to actually give a lesson on. So, yes, this is a bit of introspection that I actually wanted to have. 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This is basically just me, you know, reflecting on a bit of life on my side, and also trying to get a perspective from you, the listener, that can maybe share with us your perspective on the topic. You can actually send us a message again, or you can send us, you can comment on our post on Facebook. That is the True Spot. You can find us there, and you can actually share the page with your friends also, so they can listen to the episodes and actually benefit, probably if actually we have said anything beneficial this afternoon. Yeah, I mean, yeah, this is the True Spot, a place where, yeah, conversation is a big part of whatever we are doing, or whatever we are about. So, yes, I would like to say shukran, I would like to say thank you, and kusi, you know, paya danki, and as the Malays would say, terima kasih, for tuning in and for listening to today's episode. I hope you find something that is of benefit, you know, and maybe you can tell me also if I'm taking adulthood in such a wrong way, or maybe I'm overthinking adulthood, maybe. I don't know. I don't know whose child is making a noise there. But, yes, man, this has been Episode 9 of the True Spot, and I hope you find it useful. If you do not, please do support the journey, and do support the presenters that are on the journey also. Thank you very much. I'm Hamid Esri, and I'm out. Thank you very much. Thank you very much. Thank you very much. Thank you very much. Thank you very much. Thank you very much.