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In this podcast episode, the host reviews love and relationships. Different types of relationships are discussed, including family, platonic, and workplace relationships. The Woodahood Effect is mentioned, where older couples who have lost their partner face an increased risk of dying. Love is described as dangerous, and sometimes people fall in love with someone who is unavailable. The importance of shared values, forgiveness, and respect in a successful relationship is emphasized. The 80-20 method is mentioned, which states that a relationship will always be missing 20% of what is needed or wanted. Generational trauma is discussed as an impact on relationships. The host rates love and relationships with 3 stars. Hello, and welcome to the Anthropocene Review, a podcast where we review different facets of the human-centered planet on a five-star scale. I'm Emma, and today I will be reviewing love and relationships. There are many different types of relationships, like family relationships, platonic relationships, workplace relationships, and even situationships. All of these types of relationships have been important in people's lives, not just our own. Relationships are a big deal for certain animals, such as wolves, lizards, and gibbons. There is a phenomenon where if they lose their partner, they will slowly die off because they literally need their partner to live. And in humans, we have something similar. It's called the Woodahood Effect. According to a study on the Woodahood Effect, older couples who have lost their partner face an increased risk of dying compared to those who have living partners. Love is dangerous. Even though it's dangerous, sometimes love can't be avoided. Some people fall in love with people who they obviously shouldn't. Some people fall in love with people who are already taken. When someone says, I'm in love with someone who already is in a relationship, they're not in love. Because that person is emotionally unavailable. They're in love with someone who can't reciprocate the same feelings. Love is building relationships. If you chase someone who is in a committed relationship, your chasing is going to create deep wounds. You need to ask yourself this question. What inside of me makes it okay for me and has me this attached to someone who I'm not prioritizing? From what I've learned, love is not enough for a long-term committed healthy relationship. We've been told all our lives that love is all we need. And I just don't think it's true. In a successful relationship, you need shared values, forgiveness, and respect that goes both ways. Most people don't want to hear this, but in most relationships, at last, they require a lot of forgiveness. You're going to have to accept the fact that your partner is not perfect. They are going to hurt you. They are going to disappoint you. And they are going to upset you. You just have to decide whether or not you're going to go through the ups and downs with them. The 80-20 method is a theory about relationships. It states that in a relationship, you're only going to get 80% of what you need back to date. This means your relationship will always be missing that 20% of what you need or want. You can choose to leave that 80% to chase that 100%. However, this is a gamble. And you may realize you lost something that was 80% good, and now you have 0%. You have none. The likelihood of ever getting 100% in anything is not realistic. Nothing in anyone's life ever goes 100% correctly, any of the time. Whether or not it's about relationships, I like to think of actual love as mystic, an unreal experience. I will use myself as an example. As a child, I craved and seeked to be in a relationship with as many as I could. To feel loved. Or at least what people made me think love was meant to be. But what I went through, it wasn't love. It was toxic and manipulative. I've always thought that I needed to chase people to feel loved. I even thought things that were the bare minimum were a privilege for someone like me. Generational trauma starts when one generation experiences trauma impacting the next generation and causing the cycle to unfold. But it's every generation that trauma eventually gets healed. Generational trauma has impacted so much in our society. Even things that happen in relationships. There's victim blaming, domestic violence, or even abuse being passed down each generation. Which makes relationships very hard and complicated at times. But I like to think that if you're in a good relationship, you'll find a way to make it worth it. And that's something good about love. Overall, I rate love and relationships a 3 star review. Thank you so much for listening to my podcast. This is for school. You're welcome.