q&a

The speaker starts by discussing the current weather and expressing frustration with the unpredictable climate. They then express gratitude for positive feedback on a previous episode of their podcast. They mention the upcoming episodes, including a Q&A, the importance of self-care, and a discussion on manifestation. They also mention future guests, including Beth Nasri, who will talk about her journey in converting to Islam. The speaker briefly mentions their weekend activities, including gardening and spectating the Manchester Marathon, where they were impressed by the dedication and emotional impact of the runners. Good morning, guys. Hi. Welcome back to Nailed It. Hope everyone is well. Thank you for tuning in. Thank you for coming back for more. It is a beautiful Tuesday morning. The sun is shining, finally. And yeah, although I believe it is going to rain in the next hour. Sorry, for anyone listening, the date is the 16th of April. Yesterday, Monday, the 15th. Did anyone, like, have the joy of witnessing that weather? What the actual F is going on with this country? What in the global warming is going on? This is not spring. Spring has not sprung. It is just disastrous. Chaos. Chaos unfolded. Anyway, guys, I've got a hair in my mouth. Do you have any more? Thank you for tuning back in, especially if you watched last week's episode. I've actually had quite a lot of positive feedback on last week's episode, given that I felt like it was probably one of my most chaotic ones. But, nice to hear that people have enjoyed it, for sure. So yeah, thank you for tuning back in. We have got this train back on track. The ship is sailing at full mast. I don't know if that's the same, but, hang on. We've got a great schedule lined up over the next few weeks. We've got today, which is going to be a Q&A episode today. We're going to be reintroducing Nailed It for all those who may be new listeners or first-time listeners, first-time buyers. So we're going to be talking all about me. Shock horror there. Basically, just a big private story, doesn't it, is it? But we're going to be talking all about, sort of, Nailed It, the concept. I've had some really nice questions that I'm going to answer regarding why I started a podcast, where did the name come from, et cetera, et cetera. So this week's episode is going to be a Q&A. Next week is going to be the importance of self-care, which I'm also looking forward to, because it's something I'm quite basking in at the minute. So it's a little bit of a novice, I guess. Wait, not novice, it's an experienced. I feel like I'm a bit of a novice. I feel like I've got some good game in the bag with that now, basically. Postment it in. Hashtag. And then the following week, I'm going to be talking about manifestation. Is it real? Does it work? What's my take on it? With the beautiful Miss Nicole Woods. If you're unsure who Nicole is, get yourself to Astrology 101, the first episode of the 101 series, back in Feb. Feb, good lord, that's been such a long time ago. And then, yeah, followed by, which is an episode I'm really excited for, and it's probably the most different to any of the episodes I've covered on this podcast so far, I'm going to have the beautiful Beth Mills on. Beth Nasri. I need to remember that one. Beth Nasri's coming on, and she's going to be talking all about her journey in converting to muslin. Now, I know positively jack shit about that side of things, apart from the snippets I've pulled from Beth's life, and obviously I find it very interesting. I find her story interesting. I think you guys are going to absolutely love it. It's going to be question city, so feel free to write in and ask away. But yeah, I'm really, really looking forward to that, and long may the guest continue. We've got Beth's star girl planned for coming on, who is my phenomenal dance teacher. The list is endless. Pip Halliwell's going to be coming back. And we need a male guest. Men out there, male listeners. I'm going to get it to a small percentage of you, albeit I'd like it to be a mixed bag. Male listeners, get on, get in touch. I'm going to speak to you. We need some diversity, clearly. I'm not swinging the bat in enough counts. I'd like to get a male guest on as well, so if anyone, not anyone who would be interested, anyone listening who's interested, please tap me up. So, we can recap, as we always do. What did we do this weekend? We did some gardening. No, I've never been a green-fingered girl in myself, right, but it's not just because of the nails. It's just not my forte. But oh my god, no, we're only renting in the villa. I think I've covered that before. So we've not really done anything drastic in the house, because ultimately it's not ours. We've just put furniture in. We painted a couple of walls that were green. It's quite lovely. And we've put our own, like, spin on it. But a lot of it was neutral anyway, you know, neutral carpet, things like that. So we didn't really have a lot to worry about. The garden was not maintained. It was shitty. It genuinely looked, you know when you see renovation houses, like when you look online, don't tell me that people are looking online at houses when you're not buying them, because I, I mean, I am going to be buying soon, but look at this shit. Oh, look at that. It's a disease. Get well soon. But yeah, I, um, when you look at houses online and you see a house come up in, like, a nice area and it's really cheap and you're like, oh, wow. And then you look at the garden, you know, like, everything inside is that old and haggard, but then you look at the garden and you're like, okay, keep the big job in. That was kind of a little bit like this. And like I said, we weren't investing, you know, big hard money in it. We're not putting deck in or any patio down. But, you know, been a weed killer. A couple of hours with the in-laws on Saturday morning and we've transformed it. It now looks a little bit involved. I wish I'd taken a before picture. I'm going to try and dig one out on a, on pictures before we move on. There was ivy everywhere. Christ, ivy gets a boat. It's like the bloody local bike of the plant world. My God. But once you start it, you can't stop. We were cutting and cutting. We filled up the full growing bin. Went to the tip. The full sprang was really adulting on Saturday. That's how I felt. I felt like I got my big girl pants on. We tried the new tapas bar where we lived in Badminton Bridge. 7 out of 10. Med 3. If you're ever perusing on Station Road, not that you probably will be because they're a dump, but Med 3. Did some. And I've hit a myth reviews. It was good for tea. We enjoyed it. Not badly priced. Sunday. Someday we went to Manchester Marathon. Oh, my Lord. Spectating, of course. I was not participating. We all know that. I barely got through a 6K. 5K. All right. The extra K was me running back to find home base. But yeah, the Manchester Marathon. Oh, my Lord. I've never, I've spectated my partner. He's run a couple of half marathons. And same stupid set. I wasn't as emotionally invested. I was invested in him running it. Do you know what I mean? I'd watch him run a bit and then I'd go and sit and have a brew somewhere. With the Manchester Marathon, obviously, it's a full marathon. There's a lot of people running it. It's quite, it's obviously a big deal in the running world. Not that I would fucking know. It's not a club I partake in. But it's obviously a big deal. People have come from quite a distance to run it. Obviously, like when people enter the London Marathon, I'm guessing, I'm sure the Manchester one's not on the same scale. But it's the same distance, nevertheless. And Manchester's the up and coming city, isn't it? Do you know what I mean? Manchester is the new London. Everybody want to be here. Because it's better out. But anyway, so we went to the marathon. We actually dropped one of his friends off who was running it. So we watched him run past a couple of the checkpoints and we went over to the finish line. Now, number one, if you're ever thinking of going to the city centre when there's a marathon on, be prepared. It was so dual. My God, you couldn't move for popping. I was like, if it's centre, you're good to go. But that finish line, Old Trafford Cricket Ground, oh my, it was like, it was worse than any concert I've ever been to there. It was crazy tight. But the thing I found about the marathon, I actually, I even saw one of the girls who I went to school with who was one of Annabelle's best friends, Caitlin, she ran past me and I was like, oh my God, Caitlin. People are amazing. That is genuinely what I drew from it. Like, don't get me wrong, everyone, quite a lot of people are on the running train at the minute. It's very popular. It's very in the sport. And trust me, I'm only jealous because I've tried it and I'll probably still continue to try it. I run a bit on the treadmill at the gym and the runs I've been on, after them, I felt amazing. But when I'm doing it, I'm like, girly, I want to die. I think everyone has the niche in sport, don't they? Like, my niche is definitely something along the lines of the gym or dancing, whereas, sorry, my son's singing along. He's popular. He's put another wash on. You know, I would love running to be my sport, to be honest with you, because the way you feel after it, even when you're not an avid runner, is really, really, really good. It doesn't feel like when you've come back from a big gym session. You're like, oh, that was good. Look at my game. It's such a weird feeling. I can't explain it. But I think anyone who has run or does run will know what I'm talking about. And again, I don't think, well, I am emotional, but I don't think I'm a big crier. I don't think I was a big crier. And I'm not, for a change. But I was just stood at the side. We were waiting for Alex to come running past us so we could, like, woo. And I was just watching people run past. And the guy that got me, a guy ran past who appeared to have battled cancer in, like, what he was wearing and what his clothes said and represented and all those sorts of things. And he ran past me, and I just burst out crying. And a fella turned round and was like, yeah, right. And I was like, no, I just found it really, really emotionally overwhelming, like, that people are actually going to go and run 26.2 miles. Like, what the fuck? That's like driving. That's nearly the drive to where I work, give or take. That's like my drive home from work. Oh, I'm getting fixed in. That's mental. And some people ran it barefoot. There were people dressed as the Flintstones. They ran it barefoot. There was, like, obviously people dressed up. Someone ran past, like, the Princess Trust dressed as a big pair of scissors with a tiara on. And I just kept crying. I was like, oh, my God, these people are so amazing. And whether, regardless of your reason for getting into running, I think anyone that can run a marathon is fucking unbelievable. I think it's such a strength. And just watching it, I was, like, fully... I was in my feels, clearly. Clearly in my feels now. Yeah, I just thought it was amazing. And then by the time I'd been stuck there crying for 20 minutes, Annabelle came right before, and I was like, yay! Crisis averted. Annabelle's here. Like, Trace made it. She was with Isabel. It was a whole thing. It was a great time. And then I was like, right, we need to do something really mind-numbing now, like go self-reducing, because I can't just stand here crying all day. I'm going to be a wreck. So we went and did some shopping instead. Did some birthday shopping for the boy, and it was all a thing. Oh, my God, I can't wait to record next week's episode, because I'll be able to tell you what I've planned for the surprise for his birthday. Because even though he's not caught up on my podcast episodes, it'll be so bastard law that he'll listen to this one, and I'll tell you what I've got him for the surprise. So yeah, we're in for a fun-filled weekend. He dragged his birthday out the exact same way as mine. We are no better than one another. It is a whole thing across two weekends. I say it's not a special birthday. I think every birthday is special. I'm big on birthdays. That is going to be a whole different episode of why I'm big on birthdays. I don't actually know what my why is. I just know that I am. I'm big on my birthday. I'm big on anyone else's birthday. I love it. I love that people get a full day dedicated to themselves, like go play your main character, shit, boys and girls. I'm here for it. A lot of people are not interested in birthdays. They're not, you know, it's just another day. Think about you. It's another day about you. Come on. Presents. Money. Drinking. Go on out. See the dailies. See the boys. I don't know. I just really like, I love a good birthday. Whenever it's coming up to someone's birthday, I'm like, what are we doing? I'm just going to have a quiet one, like boo! Ah, let's do something. I don't, I love them. I don't know what it is. It's like heroin to me. Anyway, that is my weekend and a snippet of why I love birthdays. Like I say, to this Q&A, I thought it'd be a lovely way, like I said earlier, to reintroduce Sail Date and a nice little portion in my recording journey. Let's get some nice questions in. So let's get into it. Okay, so, nine questions. I like it. I like it. Let's get into it. Okay. This one, probably the most appropriate one to start with. Why did you start a podcast? To be honest, it's something I toyed with, with Nicole, who, like I said, I recorded an episode with and she's coming on again in the next couple of weeks. We, there's something about us two and we sit down together and we talk and we have conversations and we have very different views on a lot of things. Some similar, some different, but we're very good at channeling our energy and our passion together, even if it's on two different topics. And I feel like we really have, I've got to make two notes again, it's not like I'm picking boobies, but I'm not. But we just seem to have really good conversations together and I feel like we ignite a fire in one another. You know, like when you finish each other's sentences and stuff like that and you're like, and another thing. And we went through a phase, especially in between the pandemic and the lockdown and things like that, where we were seeing each other going to walks and we were talking a lot and, like, Nicole had gone her own, she was going through a big, like, situation herself. I was going through a lot of situations, like, obviously I was, like, six months post losing my dad. And we were just having, we went through like a stage of having, I mean, all our conversations are great in my opinion, but we went through a stage of having really, like, fulfilling, good, motivational, like, on-the-salt-box conversation type things. And I'll never forget, she left my house this one day and I literally, in my old bedroom, I have a bedroom adjustment room and, like, an en-suite bathroom, so I've made it then, like, I lived in Beverly Hills, but it was, like, a really nice little gaff in the mountain garden in the attic. And I remember I was just sat hungover and I was like, we should so do a podcast. And it was before podcasting. I wish we'd have started it then because the journey to now would be so different, like, who knows where we'd be. But, you know, shit happens, everything happens for a reason. I talked to my mum about that yesterday. And you know what gets me about that saying, this is off topic, but, like, it really bugs me that everything happens for a reason thing because some things in life for me just have not happened for a good enough reason. Obviously, talking about my dad. But then, like, you look at other things that have happened off the back of, not that, but, like, other situations that have happened and you're like, the reason, you have to look at it as the, that hasn't happened because of this. Like, there is something better out there for me. Now, there isn't a better dad out there for me. I'm not going to be, you know, get adopted by some, you know, someone better than my dad. It's just not going to happen. It doesn't exist. But there's definitely things that have happened off the back of that that have made me who I am today. So whilst I don't perceive them to be, like, a reason, they are, like, spinoffs and know the outcome type thing. You know what I mean? Could have gone one or two ways. But then other times I look at things and be like, that actually happened for a reason. This fell through because of this. That didn't happen then because it was meant to happen then. So I feel like it swings and round about things. But anyway, I'm digressing. It's a saying that I, like, have a love-hate relationship with. So yeah, I was down the toilet having a wee and I was like, I'm going to make a point of that next time I see her. Anyway, got up, started washing my hands and my phone rang. And I was like, hmm, it was Nicola, I bet she's forgot something. And I was like, hello? She was like, this is going to sound really weird. And I was like, yeah, right. I was like, OK, so this is going to sound really weird. But would you be interested in starting a podcast? And I was literally like, I was like, no fucking kidding. No way have you just said that to me. Literally, you have just read my mind. I was like, woo! And anyway, and we talked about it, we planned it, the whole thing. It never came up. Maybe I was meant to do it alone. Maybe it was just the right idea, wrong time, all those types of things. But oh my god, that is where the idea brewed from. And I partnered with it for a bit. And then we both, it was one of the things, we kept revisiting it and revisiting it every time we spoke. And I'm like, we need to sit down and do it. And we just never did. And then that was probably back in 2020, 2021. And then as time went on, over the years, people just said, like, I've been talking to people, or I've been in a group situation, and we'd be chatting away. And they'd be like, you should really start a podcast, like after, you know, after you've like told a funny story or something like that. And I'd be like, yeah, whatever. But more and more people started saying it. And then like a really pivotal moment for me was in May last year, I was on my way to our third dance comp of the season with girls. And we were in such like a good place. We were all just vibing. Like everyone danced amazingly at the comp. And it was all on the coach going to Telford. And I was like sat in the middle of the coach. And I was like, if people are the bad people, it's those in the middle. So I was just like, I like put myself in the middle so I can talk to everyone. Kind of beady buddy, you know, with all this and I can make out. So and I was just chatting away and I was facing the dance teacher and we were talking about all sorts of shit. And then she turned around and she was like, Nellie, you really should do a podcast. And I was like, it is funny you say that, because a lot of people said the same thing. Like, I am now starting to think I should go for it. She was like, what are you waiting for? And I was like, who would listen? And she was like, all of us. We would all listen. And I was like, is it about the listeners or is it just about enjoying the experience? And I was like, it's kind of both, really. But as long as you enjoy it, it doesn't fucking matter, does it? And I was like, right, OK. And then I probably got to think on that coach all the way again. And I was like, yeah. And I was like, what would I call it? Which was one of the biggest sticking points of me and Nicole. I think if me and Nicole would have got a name, we might have done it sooner. Remember, we even asked AI for name suggestions and we just couldn't land on anything. And I couldn't for ages. And my dance teacher suggested Naila's Notes. And we were like, nattering with Naila. So we've done like the Naila thing. Like, it's funny, because when I was younger growing up, I'd always been Emmy to my mum and dad. And I grew up not working, absolutely nobody else. So that's massive. They don't even. But yeah, Emmy was like what my mum and dad would call me. I don't really know why, to be honest. But yeah. And that's E-M-I, not E-M-Y. Granted, I wouldn't have called me Emmy. But everyone else called me Em. Emily, if I'm in trouble. But Em, in the name. Or Em Naila. I'll get the whole, you know, the conjoined name. But yeah, so I was really, we were struggling to land on a name. And then Naila, like, so when I was younger, that's what I was trying to say. When I was younger, Naila was what my brother was called. So my eldest brother was always referred to as Naila by everyone I played football with. Like, he was just Naila, Naila, Naila, Naila. That were it. So I was always Naila's sister. That's who I've always been. I've always been Naila's sister. Naila's little sister, nevertheless. But Naila's sister. So for me getting, when I then went into, like, dancing, into, like, a team environment as well, mainly because there was three. There was an Emma, an Emily, and an Em. So that's Em, Emma, and Emily. Like, Emma and Eddie. They called me Naila. So then it was Naila, Emma, and Emily. Right? Or Naila, Em, Emily. Blah, blah, blah. So, and it was very confusing, but they've always stuck to calling me Naila. So I was like, okay. And then it's kind of stuck. So everyone now who goes downstairs calls me Naila. So it's like, my name now is on the back of my jersey. Blah, blah, blah. Well, you know what? I like it. Suits me. Blah, blah, blah. So when I was putting out suggestions for my name, I actually put a survey out on, um, Instagram survey. Survey does. Not fucking Family Fortunes. I put, like, a question thing of basically saying, if I was to start a podcast, would you, like, would anyone listen, in a nutshell? And I'm actually going to get the video up. I will re-share this, because I remember when I made this video, I was so proud of myself. Uh, the research says, would you listen if I did a podcast? And it was absolutely a million times yes. Easiest yes ever. Hell yeah. You were made for this. Blah, blah, blah. I was like, oh my god, oh my god, oh my god. And I was like, guys, what am I going to call it? And Olivia Greeniff, take a bow, she messaged me and said, well, they nailed it. And as soon as she said nailed it, I thought, why did I not think of that myself? You know when you have one of them moments, you're like, bastard. I thought, that's fucking perfect. And that is where it was born from. So that is where my name came from. Um, but that was the biggest thing that stopped me doing a podcast. Now, why I did it? I just like talking shit, really. I like talking, obviously. We've learned this. And I like talking to people. And I just feel like I've got really interesting people around me in my life. Like, when I sit and actually deep with my friends and the people I know, I'm like, fucking hell. Like, we're all such different characters. And I'm just like, sometimes I listen to them and I'm like, god, if we were all famous, we'd be really famous. We'd be interesting people. I was like, either that or I'm just small-minded and they're super interested in me. So I was like, fuck it. Like, I don't care if no one listens to it. Like, I want to ask them more questions. I want, and you could argue, you can just do that anyway. But yeah, I can, but I think other people should get to hear it. Like, they've got interesting topics to talk about. They've lived interesting lives. They've done things differently. Like, I just like it. And I like giving advice as well, which is like, where I'm still enjoying where this goes and people writing. Like, one of the questions I've got today in the Q&A, you know, I love giving advice. I love people coming to me for advice. Like, it's just something that I feel comfortable in that setting. So yeah, that's kind of how I started it. And I love podcasts. I'm listening to them all the time at the minute, surprisingly. I'm really enjoying all the podcasts, mainly because it's interviewing wrestlers and wrestling is sort of a guilty pleasure. It is a pleasure. It is a pleasure of mine. I love wrestling. I always have done, again, because of my brothers, from being a little bit of a snapper and short stand on the trampoline. I absolutely love wrestling. I watched WrestleMania a couple of weeks ago with my brother and it was just, it was transformative. Wrestling is back. Prime WWE is back. If you don't know, get to know. If you were around in 2011, 12, 13, to John Cena, Randy Orton, even Prime, Dave Bautista, if he's back, minus Bautista, obviously, he is a movie star now. Triple H has full creative control and it is just box office. So anyway, I'm digressing, but I love wrestling. So I'm enjoying the Morgan Paul podcast because I've been interviewing a lot of wrestlers and I just think it's so interesting. I love, like when I start watching something or watch a film, series, anything like that, if I'm interested, I'm searching the fuck out of that person. Like, date of birth, time of birth, blood type, inside like, where did this idea come from? How did you grow up? I want to know. I want to know the full shebang. Love it. So I love podcasts that get into that. I'm listening to the Glee podcast because Glee is my favourite series. Shoot me, don't care. That's not guilty either. It's a fact. Glee literally revolutionised our culture and society and put people, who just did bits, for the world. I am that person where every time I hear a song I'm like, same as you. Season one through three, part of season four, five and six, cancelled. Not interested. Finish on the quarterback episode and then be done with it, which is what they should have done. But yeah, I'm listening to And That's What You Really Missed, which is Artie and Tima from Glee, or Kevin and Jenna. They are reviewing every episode. I love podcasts like that. I listen to the office ladies where they go through every episode because obviously they were on set. So they talk about how the episode was made, directors, decisions that were made, and then they pick out their favourite bit. I just love shit like that. Basically just proves, I'm a nerd, you care. I don't want to know it all. All the BTS. So yeah, love anything like that. Obviously the girls' bathroom. Love the girls' bathroom. Sophia and Cynthia, idols. Honestly, love them. Not into Steve Artler. Like Joe Rogan. You can get on board with Joe Rogan. Steve Artler, no. I think it's because I don't believe in him as a person. I think if you're on board with the person, you could listen to him burp down the microphone and you'd be like, yep, tick, sold. That's what most people do when Beyoncé releases a new album, but sorry. Sorry, Hannah. I know. You'll feel that one deeply. I digress. She's talented. She's talented. She's unreal. I don't think she's over it anymore. I'm just saying. I'm just saying. Anyway, so yeah, so a lot of people told me to go for it, ultimately. I enjoy the context of it. Now, don't get me wrong. It's harder than I thought. Doing the podcast is harder than I thought. It's very time-consuming. And sometimes to sit here and just talk, like obviously you guys probably think I find it very easy, especially anyone who knows me. They're like, can I nail a good talk for hours? Yes, I can. We know this. But to actually sit, plug a mic in, put the camera on and sit and talk and make it interesting and like contextual things like that, that is quite difficult to be fair, especially every single week to be consistent. And, you know, I'm constantly worrying if I'm going to run out of topics and I'm going to run out of this and I'm going to run out of that. And hopefully, I don't. Hopefully in two years I'm not sitting there going, guys, of course they know me on Instagram. This is it. Hopefully. It just goes and goes and goes and goes. But you never know. You never know what life's going to take you. I might get in two years time and be like, I can't do this anymore. But while we're on it and it's good, we're thriving. So hopefully, in a very messy way, that answers why I started a podcast. What next? What next? Why nailed it the name? Oh, I've answered that already. Sorry about that. But yeah, Olivia gave me the idea and I just felt like it worked. Obviously, I don't think it's the concept of me nailing it because I know I'm winging every single day, day in, day out. But I just thought it was a good name. I thought it was a great name if I'm honest with you. But yeah, that's where the name came from. I hope the curly hair's usually going. Today, not great. Yeah, as you can see, I mean, some of the curls, my curls on top pop. My curls underneath do not pop. They're the ones, like you can see, I've still got some straight, very minutely wavy bits coming through. Every day is different. The second day after hair wash day, I tend to find that it's the best day. So I wash my hair on Friday. On Saturday, oh, I looked great. And then every day after that, it's just kind of a bit of a bug of muddle. So yeah, I'm enjoying it. I like it. It's quite hard because I'm quite scared to straighten or do my hair where I used to do it, where it was curled at the ends. Because I'm scared that after all this hard work, I'll damage it, basically. But I would like to wear my hair like that. It's been a while. It's been like four months of this. And I love it. I love not putting heat on it. And it's a lot healthier and it's grown a lot. I am losing a lot of hair, though. You know, when you're in the shower washing it, I pulled the water and I was like, holy smokes. Like they say, not putting heat on your hair is good, but I'm losing some hair. So yeah, it's going OK. I'm enjoying it. And I think for the most part, I'm going to be sticking with it in the mean. But yeah, I do think when am I getting my hair done? In a couple of weeks, I'm getting it done. So when she dries it, she'll dry it like in my old style, which would be nice. I'll be a nice little chin. Come on, Miss Ella can feel like he's got a different girlfriend for a week because I know you like something straighter, like with straight hair or curled at the end. So yeah. Yeah, every day is different. I would really like some lessons on styling my curly hair now. I've gotten quite used to this hairstyle. I know you can follow TikToks and Reels and stuff, but I'm just a little bit sick and shit with stuff like that. It's not my vibe. So I would love some lessons in styling it. If anyone out there has any, please drop us a line. Is starting a podcast hard? I always wanted to do it, but I don't know how or what to use. It's just you on your own. It's got to be me. I need to know if it was just you or more than one of you. Now, when I first started, it was actually quite easy because I, you know, I just bought a mic on Amazon. I used my iPhone camera. I'm still using my iPhone camera. It's serving the purpose. And I just kind of sat down and cracked on. I would definitely say, from experience, from my earlier episodes, write notes beforehand. Have some cue cards or pointers. Know what you're going to say to try and keep you on track. The other thing I would say is early on, I definitely believe if you're getting your equipment right, you can all tell the difference in my audio from then and now. I'm wobbling my mic around like it's a fucking wheel. I can tell the difference in my audio, and obviously the quality is phenomenal. It's so much better. But I would say if you're just starting out, a basic mic would be fine. It's served its purpose for me 1,000%. And you can find that on Amazon. I think the hardest bit was going on YouTube and watching reviews. And it was either like, oh, basic, use an iPhone and a fucking two-pound mic. Or high-tech, get this, get that, get the Sub-Zero, get the Shure mic, get this, get that, get a Canon A5 300, 400 horsepower. Do you know what I mean? It was two massive extremes. And I definitely sit somewhere in the middle. Don't get me wrong. I have invested in some equipment, and I've spent 400 pounds on it, maybe. And it has been worth it. You still have to edit it. The editing is probably the longest part. And I think as well, obviously, if I really need to go to the toilet, and I went upstairs to the loo, and I come back down, I have to crop that out. And you're aligning your audio to your video and stuff like that. So it does definitely depend how many of you there are and say how much you're willing to invest in your equipment and things like that. In an ideal world, I'd be super rich. I'd hire a studio, and someone would do all this for me. But it's not the case. I'm sat in my living room with my phone and a ring light and a mic plugged into my laptop. Do you know what I mean? I have to do it all myself. It's very labor-intensive. But I think it's great. I really enjoy it. I'd love to know what your podcast is going to be on, just on your profile, I can kind of guess. But again, give me more. And yeah, just go for it. It's like everything nowadays. It's a very saturated market. Who listens to me over the girl's bathroom? Probably not a lot of people that aren't my friends. But if you enjoy doing it, then do it. The minute you stop enjoying it, it becomes like a forced chore. And pack it in. But I think it's really fun. And you never know what could come of it. That's why I always think that. It's like the pun, uka, so it goes tipped up, that kind of thing. So yeah, harder than I thought. And it requires a bit of prep. But it's good. I enjoy it. I like it. Oh, the other thing I would say on that, on your podcasting, is if you've got a name, go on GoDaddy and buy the rights to it. Definitely do that. And it'll allow you to set up an email address and things like that. It's pretty self-explanatory. Or DM me if you want anymore, if you want it. But go on there and buy your name and what you want it to be. Do you still grieve your dad? Oh, I'm going to say, this might be a really stupid question, but I just wanted to know where you were at in your grief journey. Right, fair enough. Yeah, every single day. Literally not a day goes by. Not even when I don't think of him, but he's genuinely with me 24-7. That's my body and soul. It has been four and a half years. Literally bang on. Nearly to the day, actually. Fuck. Wow, okay. So yeah, I mean, yeah, I still grieve my dad all the time. And I saw a really good post, actually, the other day. I'll put it in this week's dump. I'll put it with the four dumps as well. I do apologise. I need to get stronger on that. But it was about how your grief doesn't get small. A lot of people say, oh, you just learn to live with it. That's bullshit. You don't learn to live with it, but I found when I hit a low point in my grief, I found that the initial death is obviously sad. And it depends on the context and the circumstances as well. It depends whether you are like me. My dad was poorly. It was a very fast, aggressive illness, but my dad was poorly. So it was like there was a little bit of a build-up, you know, some people just dropped dead. Do you know what I mean? Like everyone's situation technically is different. I was like, I convinced myself that it wasn't going to happen when he was poorly. Mainly because of the news I had from the doctors, but it was just like a coping mechanism. And then it happened, and he's destroyed. And then people fuss around you for ages. I've got a whole episode on this as well. And in a few weeks time, I'm going to be having Hannah Jones on, who's also in the Dead Dad Club. Ladies, you know. Orphans, you know. Sorry. I can say it. You can't. We're going to be talking all about, you know, the club you never wanted to be part of and things like that. And yeah, while we're getting into that, I've already got an episode called Grief, Death and Taxes. Go check that out. That was one of my much earlier episodes, to be fair. And it was a hard one to cover. But it felt very, Emily used this word at the time, and now I feel like I can actually say it, very cathartic. Cathartic? Is that it? Cathartic? Very like to get it out there and say it and go through it. I've never really, from A to Z, gone through that whole experience. So that episode actually did help me quite a bit, more than I realised at the time. Anyway. Yeah, when it first happens, like, everyone will come round, everyone will message you, you know, there'll be posts online. Like, it's kind of the natural stages of it. And it's more the aftermath for me. My grief really hit, like, about six months after. But four or five, six months after, like, in the early New Year, and I just hit the fucking ground. Like, I was dead lost. I was in the absolute bin. And I think as well, because so many things happened just after it, like, on the 23rd, we had Christmas, we had Lovestar, da-da-da. Like, there were so many other things to give you time and attention to, that you woke up in the morning and just functioned and you didn't really question it. And then the New Year hit, and I was like, wow, like, this is rough. And I got to a point where, like, I literally, I wasn't eating, I was hysterical all the time. Like, I was barely functioning. My mum saw a lot of that to be so, which then, in turn, impacted her grief and her journey. Obviously, like, she's the mum, fate of the ship, and I would have died of it. You know what I mean? Like, it happens, but, like, they then don't have their breakdown, because you're breaking down type of thing. So, they're all the things you reflect back on later on. And, like, my mum, since I left home, has started grieving again, in a different way, because her distraction for so long was still having me and my brother at home. And then that all left, and it's like, oh, shit, now it's just me and my thoughts. So, yeah, whereas I felt like at that time, because I was smiling, I was like, I'm the only person that feels this bad. Why does no one else feel like this? Blah, blah, blah, blah. Yeah, it's when, like, I hit rock bottom, down in the dumps, mum's floor, and I got to a point where I was like, this is going one of two ways. I'm literally going to trap myself into a fucking nut house, because I'm so, I was feeling deranged with my emotions, it was so strange. Or, I'm going to grab life by the bollocks, and while it's still upset, grieving, et cetera, et cetera, I'm not going to kill myself, basically. Which is what I wanted to do. And I took that approach. And it sounds very dramatic to sit here casually and say, I wanted to kill myself. Like, no. Until you go through it, you'll understand that feeling. But you go very, very casual in your approach to life, in the sense of, like, I could probably step in front of a bus and take the hit, because it would be easier than dealing with the complexities of grief and my emotions right now. I mean, it's not going to hurt like a bitch, and then everyone else would have to deal with it and have a bit of selfishness. So anyway, the joy of being nice. But then you also start looking at the things of, like, you know, the things you've got to live for, the things you enjoy, the thing that people do die. You know, whether you wanted them to or not, and whether you expect them to or not, and blah, blah, blah. That is the natural cycle of life, albeit in that moment it didn't feel natural, and it didn't feel like it was happening at the right time, obviously. And I still stand by that to this day. But yeah, and I've learned to build my life around it. And the long way I'm getting to it is, your grief doesn't get smaller. Your life continues to grow around it. Like, I'm four and a half years on from that point, and my life's in a completely different place. And, you know, I've worked really hard on my personal character, and how I process and channel my emotions. It's still an aggressive little shit, but ultimately, I'm nowhere near as emotional or, I'd say, explosive as what I used to be. I used to be really emotional, I did. But, you know, I was very angry, forever and ever and ever. It felt like a lifetime. And I really appreciate people that stuck by me. It put a lot of my, mainly my relationship, but it put a lot of my friendships through a testing time. They would probably say it didn't, but I think it did. And my relationships with my mum, my brothers. Just your opinion, you become so, like, narrow-minded to yourself. You kind of have to be put by that protective bubble up. And I think as well, like, you go one or two videos, you all come together, or you all fall apart. We kind of all fell apart, like my dad. And then it reiterated how much of the glue of our family he was. And I was kind of like, I'm either going to make a new recipe and become the glue myself, or I'm literally going to fall off the wagon. And again, I'm glad I went down the road, but I went down because, you know, I did not fall off. Kind of a bit, but you know, the wagon is still being driven. By the end, we're okay. We're fine. And then other things start to happen, like babies are born, and your family gets reconnected by different types of glue and stuff like that. And you have different reasons and purposes to be together and stuff like that. So yeah, I'm still grieving my dad. I grieve my dad every day. Even when I was dying on Saturday. And these are things that I even forget to tell Finn, but like, I was dying on Saturday, and I was just like, fucking hell, like my dad would have just done this, like that. Like, obviously, we are christened Jane of, and that's the best thing ever. But you know, when you're just looking at certain things, like we're looking to buy a house in the next few months, and like, then looking at like renovations and stuff, and all I'm thinking is like, dad would have done this, dad would have done that. And it's so hard to not, to not think about them, because these are the moments that they're missing. These are the moments where in everyday normal life, you lean on them and they were there. So yeah, think about them every day, miss them every day, reflect. My biggest thing, we actually drove past a pub about three or four weeks ago, and I was like, have they ever took you there? And he went, yeah, yeah, we went with your mum and dad. And I was like, why did I forget that? And then it brought the memory back. And honestly, don't get me wrong, your memory's not going to be like 100% all the time, but I do worry sometimes I'm going to forget things, and I really don't want to. And sometimes I'll see a picture of my dad and be like, oh my god, I haven't seen you in years, like, because you did, but like, I haven't seen you in so long, like, I forgot your face looks like that. Sometimes I'll look in the mirror like this when I'm not deaf, and I'm like, that's my dad's smile, that's my dad's attitude, like wow, he's here, but he's not. So yeah, very strange one, but am I? You don't really got a choice, do you? Like, it's one of them, that you're going to miss out every single day for the rest of your life, which like, walk easier than you are, but you learn to just not even mask it, like, this isn't fake, I'm not fake happy, I am happy, but it doesn't eradicate the fact that I miss him, and I love him, and I wish he was here, and life is fucking chipper without him, because even though life is amazing, and life is good, and I've got a great life, it's worse for him not being here, so yeah, that was one win missed, I apologise, but yeah, you win. Oh, we've got two break-up ones, okay. Fresh out of a break-up, help. Have I got any contests for this? Okay, no contests. Clearly, help, okay, well, I'm going to need a bit more contests, but if you want to write in for next week's episode, that'd be great, so I can fight your duodenics, Ada. However, fresh out of a break-up, help, okay, if we're looking at the grief of a relationship, very on-brand, cheers to you, cheers to me for planning my structure. Fresh out of a break-up, get out, get out of the house, go outside, explore, it's so cliche, but all the bog-stamping things literally do help you. See your pals, see your fam, go and do some exercise, start by building what you would probably call distractions, and turn them into hobbies, turn them into frequencies, and, you know, things that you do more than once. Get together with your pals, distract yourselves, go and get the coffee, go on a shopping spree, that's another good thing. I think, after a break, I mean, I love clearing out anyway, do a clear-out, do a wardrobe assessment, do a clear-out, and then go shopping. Get it on vintage, spend your vintage pennies in Zara, or wherever you like to buy clothes, go shopping. Retail therapy for me, I mean, I probably have a little bit of a problem with it, my partner would definitely say, but I would definitely clear out and go shopping, that's a great one. Do things on your own, I think that doing things on your own are so healing. That's one of my forms of self-care, but I do want to say that because I like my own company, but if I have you, I love myself more sometimes than putting my headphones on and going shopping, it's great, mainly because no one beats you, and sometimes I've just not got the social battery bloody good enough to talk. But yeah, clear out, do a shop, and clean. Clean your room, unless you have your own house, unless you have to clean your house. I think cleaning your room is really good, because you spend a lot of time in your room, especially if you live at home with your parents or with whoever. I think cleaning your room, cleaning your room's a great start. Clean your room, have a de-clutter, go through your old drawers, make-up, socks, undies, PJs, de-clutter. That already will, it'll just alleviate your mind. Number one, it'll distract you for a good few hours, but it'll alleviate your mind. Then do a restock, reinvent yourself. You don't have to come back like, you know, I don't know, the Queen of Sheba, but you know, I always think in break-ups, especially the woman on the receiving end of it, women tend to rise like the phoenix from the ashes, men tend to spiral. You know, they go hard, go home for the first few months, and then they collapse on them. Women, all the emotion out early on, and then it's like, oh, you can tell she's fresh out of a break-up, look at them, look at her legs and their dress, mm-mm-mm. It's what we do, it's just kind of is. Um, it definitely is just one of other things. Who the heck was that? Who's phoning me? Hello, it's Emily. Yeah. I haven't heard from Ms. G390, I didn't say you are. That's all right. Anyway. Break-up. Ah, right, okay. Um, yeah. Go reinvent yourself, go shopping, do your thing, see friends, reconnect in your old relationship. I don't mean, you know, go and tap up an ex. I mean, go and seek out your friends, seek out your loved ones, people you can trust and lean on, and yeah, prioritise yourself. The likelihood is, even if you're in a relationship that's 50-50 and you're not, like, maniacally obsessed with one another, you know what I mean, you still have your own lives, you've invested a lot of yourself in that other person, you know, um, nine times out of ten. So, you know, rediscover yourself, put that time that you put in someone else into you and into other hobbies, and allow yourself the break as well, allow yourself the emotional space and capacity to recover. Um, and we're not just talking about this with a friend not so long ago, it's quite hard when you're going through a break-up if no one else around you is or has recently, because it can definitely feel isolating and lonely, it feels like you're the only person, it feels like everyone around you is sickeningly in love when they're not, they're probably just in normal relationships, like, obviously they love each other, but do you know what I mean? Um, but everyone has been through a break-up at some point and everyone has felt like that at some point, so you're not on your own, even if you're the only one going through it right now. Um, and yeah, lean on people for advice, you don't have to urinate, do any laundry to, you know, have a shoulder to cry on type thing, so I would definitely suggest that. But more than that, I hope, you know, it's definitely personal to you how you feel best about recovering, and don't believe if you get under someone you'll get over someone and things like that, I don't believe that works, I think if you try and deal with relationship break-ups like that, especially if you're heavily invested emotionally, um, I think you will, it will only represent itself later on down the line, and I think it's better to deal with it, even if you've spent six months dealing with it, so that then you've actually got a fresh edge for the rest of your time, do you know what I mean? That'd be my advice. Oh, okay, friendship break-ups, are they necessary? Do they hurt? Um, obviously they hurt. Um, are friendship break-ups necessary? I mean, I suppose it depends, doesn't it? Um, you can outgrow people, you can 100% outgrow people and change, and I think that's one of the hardest things growing up and maintaining the same friends, is that you do change, and you all, you know, it's the age-old thing, it's like relationships that start in school, you grow together or you grow apart, and that can happen in friendships as well as relationships, and I do believe that friendship break-ups are far less happy worse than your relationship ones, because they say, you know, your partner's come and gone but your friends are still alive, and that is kind of true, and your friends have probably seen you in such different stages of your life, good and bad, so yeah, friendship break-ups absolutely suck when they happen, but, uh, there's nothing to say that they aren't necessary, I suppose it depends on the situation, um, and it depends on how you handle it as well, it depends, you know, you see friends fall out because she shagged her boyfriend, and he did this, and you know, those are volatile ones, but I think the harder conversations are the ones where, like, you love a friend, but they've pissed you off, do you know, I think sometimes it's hard as well when them situations where, like, you've, you got a bit, but they've, like, they've pissed you off or you don't agree with them or, do you know what I mean, like, where it's like, I actually care about the friendship, but I don't like that, you know what I mean, it's like, how do you have a conversation that doesn't result in a break-up, but you articulate feelings, uh, so they're the hard ones, I think. But yeah, for some people, I mean, again, I probably need more context into if that's a general question or you're going through a friendship break-up or you're thinking about it, it's all about how you handle it and how you articulate it, are you interested in salvaging a friendship at the end of this or are you cutting ties, are you cutting a cloth, you know, how are you going about it, what do you want the end result to be? You should be able in any friendship to address your feelings without it resulting in a big old argument and that comes from both sides, that comes from your delivery and how they receive information. You could have the nicest delivery in the world, if someone doesn't receive it or can't process that information in their brain, it might not go the way that you intend it to, that isn't necessarily your problem, you know, everyone's got to take responsibility, especially at this age for their, you know, capabilities and their reactions and how you process things and I think that's a big thing, you know, a lot of people say that they've got emotional intelligence and capacity, but they can't handle criticism or, not even criticism, but like a difference in opinion and that I think, well, I know about that, you know, I appreciate even with my friends, not everyone's going to like every single thing I say and that's absolutely fine, but tell me, address it, like, I will own it, I will be like, yes, no, fine, absolutely, a-okay, not boot off at a man like, well, I disagree with you, do you know what I mean? Like, it depends. So, yeah, I think it depends on why you're potentially breaking up with a friend and how you ultimately go about it. If you know you've gone over it in the best way, then you can go to sleep with both your eyes shut and no guilt, but I think the more invested you are in a friend and, you know, again, the context, context is key, just like communication, communication, context is key, yeah, it's all based off that really, so, but yeah, I mean, you can go through friendships for a long period of time and then a lot of it comes in 25, what they tell you, talk about the frontal lobe developing, that shit is true, that happens, the frontal lobe develops and am I in my green era? I know we've talked about this before, but can we just? I follow a girl on Instagram, is she called Amira or Amzin? I can't remember her name, she's fucking beautiful and she literally wears everything green and I'm obsessed with her, I would really, really like to be her, to be honest. Anyway, yeah, I think if you articulate it in the right way, it doesn't have to be a friendship breakup, unless you want it to be, but yeah, I think it depends on the people you're dealing with. One thing I learned recently, I say learned, one thing I've had to reinforce recently was knowing that different friends need to communicate in different ways. I think when you get used to being around the same people for a long period of time or just being, like, relaxing yourself, you just kind of are who you are and you don't even think about it, which to be fair, I think it should be that way in a friendship, like, you don't have to think about how you come across 24-7 with your proper friends, but at the same time, especially as you get older and you make more friends and people change and adapt, like, people do require, you know, different approaches. That's something I learned recently, which, um, it's kind of, it's a diversity. Yeah, for sure. What else have we got in here? One more Gillian question to ask! Nice, that's very nice. So, well, as we all know, it has been no secret that I think the British weather sucks dick for free, um, so I'm tapping out of that. Um, next weekend I'm going to Dublin for the day. Is that a kind of a summer plan? Basically, I'm going to stay on my holidays, that's what I'm essentially doing. Um, summer plan, summer plan, summer plan, but it depends on when it begins. But we're going to Dublin in a couple of weeks for a day trip. Um, I'm actually going to book my first official solo trip. Now, I know I've been in Australia and New Zealand and that was all on my own. By the way, if you think I'm sitting here, I've got a hot water bottle behind me. Like I said, the sun might be out, but it is brass monkeys, so I'm still using my hot water bottle. I love it. Um, yeah, I'm going to be booking a solo trip because I really want some time off work and I'm not booking time off to sit in this country in this weather. Now, if I'm in a ten-bed house or a swimming pool or whatever and I was sunbed girly, I might consider it, but I'm not one of those things. I want to go sit somewhere where it is 20 degrees plus with a pool and read. That's what I want to do and I'm not booking time off to sit in this country. I'm just not doing it. I feel like it's a waste unless I've got things planned or the weather's decent. If the weather's decent, I'll sit here all day, but it's not, so fuck it. So, when I get paid in a couple of weeks, I'm going to book a solo trip. Uh, turkey, canary, whatever. Sucker. But I'm going away. I'm going on the jollies for five days in the sun, live, laugh, love. That'll be like the kickstart to my summer for me, I think. Uh, I've got a couple of dance competitions as part of the summer plans. Um, I'm then going to Parma with Lucy. We're going for a little girls' trip, five days. I'm into booking Wednesday to Sunday trips. Sorry, guys, I've got the itchiest nose in the world and it's driving me bonkers. I must be using something on my face that makes it itch, but it's not going to make it itch it once. It's like, hmm. Anyway, um, you know that that clip's making it into the reel this week, 100%. Um, so yeah, so we're going for a little girls' trip. Yeah, I'm into the Wednesday to Sunday deals. Kind of Wednesday to Tuesday to fly as well. Don't know if that's actually true, but hang on. I feel like for three days on your leave, you get five days break, sometimes six if you come back on Monday. Do you know what I mean? Like, it's a flex. So yeah, going to Parma with Lucy, then me, Eve, and Casey, and Rory are going to Berlin, um, for that Thursday to Sunday. So we're going for a little trip to Berlin. Then my big holiday this year, me and the boy are going to Italy. We're doing a two-week road trip. We're going around like Rome, Naples, the Amalfi Coast, um, doing like Sorrento, Positano, um, Capri, Istia, blah, blah, blah. We've got it all planned out. Uh, and yeah, and also in summer, we are hopefully going to buy a house. So they are my summer plans, like summer wrapped. Um, yeah, I'm really looking forward to it. Hoping and praying that we get some half-eastern UK weather, but I've scattered some little trips in there. They're not little trips, but you know what I mean? I've scattered some stuff in there so that I can just keep myself going. You know, I've got booze for melanin, get a bit of M&C and D. You know, I'm sick of drinking Barocca. I want some fucking sun and some fruit that's not been, like, grown in a factory. Um, so yeah, I just thrive in summer in every way, shape, and form. The weather, the clothes, the clobber, the everything. Everything about it is me. You know what's really weird? When I was younger, I was such a winter baby. I was like, my name is Raven, the acid bat princess of darkness. Remember that video? I was her. Like, jet black hair, icy pale skin, would not go outside, wouldn't wear anything other than black. Like, no. Hated summer. Hated. Six week holidays, I was staying all the time. Then I got a grip, basically. I got a life and some friends and stashed that, made it outside and realised the error of my ways. But yeah, and now we're just in the midst of global warming, so it's the middle of April and it's barely trackless life. I think me and my granddad's house isn't something like 10 days of sun all year, which is ridiculous. But anyway, they are my summer plans and I'm really looking forward to it. Oh, this is the final one on the Q&A. Advice on starting your own business and taking the leap of faith? Oh, well, I mean, if I can compare it to anything, I would only compare it to starting the podcast and I would say, just fucking do it. Get a planning place, know exactly what it is you want to do, map it out. Don't go into it, you know, when you hear them stories, oh, I just did a design and it got picked up. Like, you know, that is luck. Have a proper planning place. I have a sketch of planning. I absolutely love it. Love everything about planning. So plan it. Plan it out, meticulously. You know, where you are, where you want to get to, are you going to do it? What the end goal is? And then just do it. Like I said, what is the worst that can happen in these things? I think I said it in last week's episode, like, try something and it's shit. You did it anyway. Do you know what I mean? You'd rather go to the grave knowing you tried it and it didn't hit off than having a what if. What ifs are just, I don't have the space for a what if, unless it's literally like, you physically can't attain it. You know, what if this, what if that? Like, no, go and do it and then you can at least be like, oh, it didn't happen, but this is why it didn't happen. So I would absolutely go and rip the plaster off, grab a life out of the bollocks and go and do it. I'd love to know what the business is that you have in mind. So please let me know. You know who you are. But yeah, I would say just go and do it. What are you waiting for? Like, you're only ever going to get older is how I think. You know, like, looks and things like that don't come into it, but you're only ever going to get older. Time is not waiting around for you. Like, every single second, time is slipping away from you. So go and fucking do it. You know what I mean? You literally do not know what is around the corner, whether that's in your personal life, your work life, your social life, physical abilities, you don't have a scooby-doo. So for me, just go and get it done. If that don't kick you up the arse though, I will. And that's it, guys. Thank you so much for listening. Please don't forget to like, share, subscribe, comment, all of the above. Follow me on Instagram at Nailed It Podcast. Email me if you would like me to cover anything or you have any questions at emilyatnailedit.co.uk. Join us next week for The Importance of Soccer. Looking forward to that one as well. I was thinking this would be a short episode, but I just had a look down, it's like an hour or so. I'm a chap there now. But yeah, join us next week for The Importance of Soccer and then we can get straight back into having the guests on board. I'm looking forward to it. Thanks so much for tuning in. I really appreciate it. Every view and listen and like and follow literally means the goddamn world to me. So thank you so much. Stay with me. And I will see you all next week. Bye, guys.