Lift weights eat waffles Episode 1

So, here's a fun topic. I think we talked a little bit about this yesterday, but I had a couple people reach out to me about doing in-person training. And I talked with one of the girls today about it. She and another friend, who is actually a former one-on-one coaching client of mine. But they both live really locally. And she was talking about, like, you know, they have very similar goals. And wanting to make the nutrition side of it, it's not super important to them right now. They both are very well-versed in, like, that side of things. But they really just want, like, the strength training. And I got so excited. I was like, this is going to be really fun. Like, just, they're only living, like, once a week. And then I'll, you know, have a program for them for the remainder of the week or whatever. But, like, actually training in-person again. And in my, like, new studio space. Because I have, like, a rack and, you know, a barbell and all that. And so, I got, like, really excited about it. I figured you would super appreciate that. Because I know we, you know, how much you enjoy, like, in-person training. And they just really want to focus on, like, lifting and getting stronger. And one of them has, like, she recently lost, like, 10, 15 pounds. And she's, like, my size. And she's, like, down to, like, 115 pounds. I'm, like, girl. She goes, yeah. And I have a white girl flat-ass booty now. And I'm not okay with it. Right, right. We need a booty. Yeah. No. That's exciting. And you're going to get to train them, like, you're not going to be dictated by somebody else's training expectations. Or, like, you're, like, hey, we're coming to get strong. This is how we're going to do it. And you get to control that. That's super exciting. Like, how I used to do when I did just one-on-one training. I was working on my website, updating, because I'm, like, getting progress pictures now. So, I wanted to get that up there. And I reached out to one of my clients. And I'm, like, hey, can I use your progress pictures? She's, like, which ones do you want to use? And I sent her what I wanted to use. And I'm, like, did you even realize that your back looks like this from what it was? And she was, like, holy crap. She's, like, look at my back muscles. Like, they're awesome. So, I'm, like, I want everybody to see those suckers. That's amazing. I love that. I love that, like, when they don't realize it. I think I told you, my Wednesday morning workout thing that I'll do, I, like, sneakily took a picture of one of my gals that was on when she was, like, turned away from me, like, doing something upper body, I think rows or something, to get a picture of, like, the backs of her arms. And I was, like, holy, what? And so, I guess, and here's a quick little video while in the middle of the workout. She's, like, what did you just send me? I said, take a look at the backs of your arms and your back real quick. She's, like, oh, my gosh. You know, like, you just don't think to, like, look at that part of yourself. And I said, you know, I, like, stopped what I was doing because I was so impressed I had to take a video. And she was, like, oh, thanks so much. But it's cool to be able to show them that the progress that they made, that's not just, like, midsection or on the scale, but, like, like, the muscular, like, shifts and changes. And there's just something about that connects the brain and you go, like, yeah, like, makes them feel strong. Yeah. Yeah. And it's so awesome to acknowledge it because I don't think it gets acknowledged enough. And that's the biggest thing. Like, sure, people all acknowledge you if you're losing weight, but people don't say stuff like, how do you, especially in today's society, how do you say, like, wow, you're getting bigger? You know, people will say it to me and they're afraid to say it because they think I'm going to get upset. And I'm, like, well, thank you. But, you know, most women, like, if you say, like, oh, my gosh, your butt's gotten huge or, you know, they're, like, oh, yeah, we should. We want to be proud of that, for sure. Yeah. Did you see, do you follow Alex Allen on Instagram? Okay. I love her stuff. She's so funny. But and also, like, just so real, like, so real. It's on, like, yeah. Anyways, she did a post the other day that was funny. It was, like, I think it was a point of view POV thing, whatever, where it was, like, you know, me watching guys, like, gawk at other girls in the gym, like, when they walk by or whatever. And she goes, and then also me, when I see a girl walk through the gym that got, like, a banging booty, like, oh, girl, you know. And I was, like, that is so true. I'll come back to dance. And I was, like, dang. And he's, like, like, it's awkward for him, but I'm over him. I know, right? I want to, like, be, like, your booty looks real good. Or, like, your back muscles are awesome. Yeah. It is a weird thing. It is. But we're changing it. We have to change it. It has to change somehow. That's the biggest thing. That's what I genuinely, and I don't, maybe, I mean, this is bad, but I do the same thing. I genuinely probably send more videos of girls that I think just look banging to my girlfriend than I do any other videos. I'm, like, we're going to look like her someday. We're going to spot like her someday. I thought you were going to say you send them to Houston. And he's, like, okay, babe, you really got to stop sending me these. Like, it's kind of getting my Instagram really weird when I open it. Right, yeah. I do sometimes. One time, I sent them to my coach, my powerlifting coach, and I was, like, I know that we're really focused on, like, how much I can lift, but if I could look like this, that would be really great. And he's, like, you already do. And I'm, like, you're sweet, but that's not true. She's hot. He's, like, and this is where I stop the conversation. Like, come on. You're, like, 60 years old. We can talk about this, right? What you're telling me is that you're doing exactly that frustrating thing that our clients do to us. Like, can I look like this person in three months? Yeah, sure. If you were a different skin color or height, body build. Yeah, absolutely. No problem. Spend three hours a day in the gym. We can totally get there. Oh, yeah. I'm totally. And that's, I want to circle, I want to hit on that because we talked about comparison on our accountability call. And that was, I cannot stop thinking about that, honestly, because we do, we compare ourselves so much to other people. And when I was, like, oh, I wish I had your stomach. And you're, like, yeah, I wish I could squat. Well, you could squat. It's so true. We don't, we're so busy comparing ourselves to how other people look and how we want to be that we're not appreciating the fact that when we are putting in work, we are making progress. And, you know, my so my stomach is, like, my biggest area of self-conscious because I have a I had a traumatic surgery at 15 that they cut me up and down. And so, like, all my organs kind of hang down there. I don't have super great control of that area. And I've just always been super self-conscious. Then you put crowns on top of it or it doesn't matter what happens. I just always bloat. And it's like, man, if I quit worrying so much about comparing my stomach that I have no control over because I was sliced and diced. Yeah. And put more focus into other aspects that I have been improving on, like, I probably would be a lot more confident in my skin. And that goes for everybody, you know, everybody. Yeah. That's a really I mean, that's a really valid point. And I think. You know, it's a hard thing to recognize or be aware of what you don't have control over and then also what you do. And, you know, I would I would say that a lot of out there would say, oh, you have control over that, like you can tighten that up, blah, blah, blah. But I mean, a surgery at 15 years old, like a traumatic one at that, the scar tissue, the level of like shifting of your organ system during that time, like there's so much that goes into that. And then, like you said, layer that with crowns on top of that, you know. Yeah. You're so well-versed in that world of learning what works and what doesn't. But it's still like almost in like a state of constant inflammation. And you control it with as much control as you as you possibly can. And that's the best that you can do with it. And so if you you play that into someone else with their own like women who have had C-sections or, you know, abdominal surgeries, hysterectomy, things like that, like where the entire inside of your body has been changed. I was working with a gal who had a full hysterectomy. And I talked about how post, once her doctor cleared her, how her balance was going to be challenged, was going to feel different because entire organ system, like pieces of it were no longer in her. And she was like, oh, you know, OK. And post-surgery, she like messaged me in the middle of her like safe sleep recovery. She's like, my balance, literally, I forgot you had said anything about it, but it is it has shifted. It feels so different. It feels like I'm having to relearn my center of gravity. And it was it's like she could have stayed so locked in on like her scars and like how funky her belly looks now. She's like, so instead, I've been working on like standing on one foot, drawing in at my pelvic, my pelvic floor, like engaging my lower abdominal wall, you know, just focusing on those little things. She's like, I can't change the scars that are there. Like, that's just it is what it is. She said, but with the tools and things that we worked on, she's like, now I feel like I have something I can focus on that I do have control over. And I don't know. To me, that's an empowering thing, you know, for someone to be able to like what you do have control over and what you don't. I think a lot of people give up control or think they don't have control over certain things and they focus too much on things they really don't have control over, you know? Yep. Yep. And like people like that, it just makes it easier for them to make excuses. And then you like roll into that victim mindset. And that's a whole other beast that kind of drags you down. But, you know, gosh, it's awesome that she had such a good coach, you, who educated her and taught her not just said like, this is what we're doing, but taught her that stuff, because I guarantee you that was never discussed post-op, was never discussed pre-op. Her doctor never mentioned that. I mean, my recovery for the scar was, here's a pillow, you're going to need this for six months to get up. Like that was what it was. So for her to have you, that was educating her and she knew what she needed to work on. I mean, you can't put a price on that. And then I learned, yeah. And I actually learned that firsthand, not from hysterectomy, but when I had my implants removed, I had had to first, when I had them put in, I had to learn different upper body positions in different exercises. I couldn't sleep on my stomach anymore, which is actually a blessing in disguise because it's the worst. But I had to relearn how to do movements. And then having them taken out, I had to shift things again. It's different scarring, different surgery that was done. And I had to relearn my body's center of gravity and my positioning on a BOSI ball, on a stability ball, in a plank position, like all these little nuanced things that, granted, I have years and years and years of body awareness and control and exercise background, whatever. And the general population doesn't. But it's such a small thing that, like you said, people just don't think about. It's definitely not discussed in the surgery platform. But it makes a big difference. When your body goes through a traumatic anything, you have to be able to give it the support that it needs to take on the demands of life that now look a little different, because your body is a little different, you know? And it's just, I don't think it's discussed enough. How long did you have to be cognizant of those movements before it became routine? Like, how long were you like, oh, wait, I can't do that anymore? Yeah, no, I built myself like a 12-week post-op program, exercise program, to ease my body back into, you know, certain, well, lots of movement in general. I was very sick before surgery, so I was not working out. I wasn't allowed to. Like, I wasn't allowed to fast walk at all. Like, I had to like slowly walk, because I was having hyperthyroid issues. And like, my resting heart rate was like 120. And that was all from the airplane? That's my strong belief, yes. I mean, they were removed and everything went away, so you tell me. But there's scientific data to state that implants cause XYZ, but there's also, there's no scientific data that says cigarettes cause, will cause lung cancer, or if someone has lung cancer that has never smoked before, where's the causation, you know? So it's one of those like... Hypotheticals, yeah. But yeah, I would say it was probably at least a couple of months of reminding myself, um, like, how to do that movement in my new environment, you know? And it's such a funny thing, like, on the BOSU ball, I remember this so vividly, like, I couldn't get my bearings, like it took, I'm like, okay, I've always laid on this weird little gray spot that was on my BOSU ball. Like, I knew exactly where to put like my mid-back, you know? And I had to complete, I had to change that, because that had like almost, almost three and a half pounds, basically, of like, extra, that was no longer there. And when you balance yourself on a BOSU ball, you have to like, you know, your upper body versus lower body, like, how long are your legs? How long is your upper torso? Didn't know where that right position, I had to change what, I had to change that. And so it was interesting realizing that, because I'm like falling all over the ball, I'm like, this is stupid, I know how to use a BOSU ball. Um, I just remember laughing at myself many, many times during that process, yeah. Oh, that's, yeah, no, that's, I mean, that's wild. And you, you know, three, let's just say three months with the education that you had of your body. That could be six months for somebody else who doesn't know, and it's just day-to-day movements. Yeah. I did my first ever vocal lesson today. And it's something I've kind of like, always wanted to do. I know it's super random, but I ran into a girl, a gal that I have known for many years. She actually did vocal lessons with my ex-husband's daughter. I had signed her up for some lessons with her anyways. And I've always wanted to do it, but the last seven years I've been teaching like outdoor group classes, and I would lose my voice all the time. Like, it just wasn't, I didn't have a healthy voice during so many years. But she was teaching like belly breathing and just awareness. And she's like, man, you, like, you have such good body awareness. Like, I didn't really even have to teach you the belly breath. Like, you instantly, like, were able to do it. Because she taught me a couple other little, like, technique things that I didn't, like, I'm going to have to actually work on them to, like, master them or whatever. But it just goes to show, like, when, like, body awareness is not, it's not an overnight thing, right? Like, I would say I've probably had some sort of practice in it since probably early high school, if not even a little before then. And that alone, like, how many years is that? I'm 40 now. And you say from, you know, 15 to 40. And I'm still, she still had to remind me a couple times of, like, breath, you know? Because I'm like, man, we do that all the time in our workouts. Like, when we're coaching clients, right? Like, forget to breathe. Like, in on this part, exhale on this part. But we have such hyper awareness of our bodies and breath and all that. But our clients are just general population. That is not a normal thing for them to think about. But it is probably the number one thing we have the most control over. And it serves our body the best from the parasympathetic nervous system to the actual, like, explosiveness in a movement, you know, like, all across the board. And it's a challenging thing to teach someone to be that aware of their breath at all times, you know? But it's super powerful. Yeah. Well, and like, you even have, you know, clients who are dealing with high stress or high anxiety, and you explain to them the benefits of breathwork. And I don't know if maybe I just don't relay it enough, but it's not, it's just not something that's normalized, quote, unquote, right? So they kind of let me like, I don't, yeah, it's fine. Like, I don't need to do that. Yeah. It's like, you know, and for us, it's, yeah, it's just kind of so ingrained into us and our lifestyle. And but then when people start doing it, they're like, Oh, wait a minute. There's something up with this. It's, it's, but it's just like with anything. I mean, we have to do things a lot for us to see the benefit of it. I mean, I saw something the other day, it was talking about, you know, prioritizing our health and fitness is not something that is normalized or accepted. When you do that, you are judged for being selfish. But when you do make that commitment to prioritize your health and fitness, a lot of things just start falling into place. And you don't realize why it just is. And it just all comes down to you prioritizing your health. And then just things get easier, your anxiety goes down, your depression gets better. You see the benefits of breath work, because you see how it affects your workouts. Yeah, you realize that, yeah, eating certain foods might be enjoyable, but how does it make you feel later? And what's the risk reward of it? Exactly. And until people start realizing that prioritizing those things, just to just to help them live a healthier lifestyle, like they're never going to see the connection. And it's, it's definitely a mindset mind shift change, for sure. Yeah. And I think a lot of times people it's the whole paralysis, yeah, paralysis by analysis of like, the idea, the daunting idea that has to be like, you know, an hour or two in the gym every day. And now all of my meals have to be chicken and broccoli and rice. And you know, like, yeah, no, like that is, I mean, if you 10 years ago, you know, when I was bodybuilding, I would have been like, yeah, that's how you get to this place. But like, those are very different goals than like, what, you know, the average person is looking to do. And I always try to think, like, communicate it from the place of like, starting small, and building on that, you know, that one small thing. And it doesn't have to be, it's not about how many things you're doing. And it's, it's not about how long you're doing the thing each day, it's about the consistency component. So, when I start teaching press work or whatever, like, I'll have them like, lay on the floor with no phone, like, set your timer for five minutes, that's it, literally just five minutes. If you tell me you don't have five minutes in your day, you're lying. And come back, you're ready to not lie to me, okay. But like, set your phone, five minutes, set it away from you, lay on the floor with your feet up the wall, and just literally, just notice you're breathing, put your hands on your belly and literally just breathe. That's it. That's all I'm going to do. Okay, well, like, how long am I going to breath? No, I don't give a shit. Like, just breathe, you know. And I, the number of women who are like, I do this, like, so often now, I even have, like, one of my guys, one of my ladies, like, I have mommy, mommy wall time, they call it wall time, mommy goes for wall time instead of, like, time out. And, like, nobody's allowed to bother her in her mommy wall time. And I'm like, good for you. And she's like, sometimes it's ten minutes, sometimes it's two minutes, but it's, like, my time. And it is amazing. Like, I feel so much better after it. I'm like, yes. She's like, oh, this is going to be dumb. Like, what am I going to do for ten minutes, five minutes, whatever. And now it's, like, her favorite thing. I was going to say, it sounds like all parents need to have mommy wall time, right? Just like you go to time out, children, I'm, I mean, mommy's putting herself in time out. Exactly, yeah. Mommy, you're really bad. You're in time out a lot. Yeah, yeah. Why have you been in time out five times today? Because you, child, are stressing me out. Yeah. Oh, man. Oh, that's funny. No, it is. It really is. Like you said, the little things and the little things consistently, that's how we create results. Yeah, yeah. Well, guys, that's all we have time for today. And I know, like, I felt like that was fairly, fairly easy. Yeah, I think it's just, I mean, I don't even know if, like, who knows if anyone's going to listen to it. Who is it that Jillian, the chick that was on my podcast, whatever, not too long ago, she was like, I mean, we just, back in the day, we just put out, we just put out blogs, we just put out, you know, like, content, like, with zero expectation of, like, anybody actually liking it. Like, you never went back and said, like, how many people have viewed my, you know, blog or whatever, or commented on it? Like, you just put it out there because it was, like, good information that you had and whatever. Yeah. I feel like that's what this is going to be for us. Yeah. Well, and I think, so, one of the gals I follow, the movement maestro, I really like her. She was, she was like, the only people that should start a podcast are people that have something to say. And it's like, yeah, I mean, you and I talk about stuff all the time that could definitely encourage other people and I don't know why not, why not put it out there for other people to listen to. Yeah. And it will help me because I'm not super great at, selfishly, it'll help me because I'm, I don't feel like sometimes I'm super great at expressing myself or enunciating what I want. And so, the more that I do this, that, the more that's going to help me just as a person. Yeah. Yeah. And I mean, maybe I'll put that on the podcast. Like, yeah, I know I suck at talking, so let off me. I suck at talking, which is why we're doing a podcast. So, vulnerability side. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I love that. But I think too, like, you and I built, like, such a, like, consistent conversation that, like, it's easy. Like, us chatting on Zoom is, like, such an easy thing. We're just so used to it. And we, a lot of times, yeah, we'll work on stuff. We'll talk about, like, what we're working on. But then a lot of times, like, yesterday, like, these topics come up and we'll hash through them. And I think it's, like, especially when we're hashing through them in real time like that, like, I think is really cool. And I think eventually, like, we could even take questions and, but not, not look at the questions until, like, in real time. So, we're not, you know, planning them and just hope that, just hope that between our two brains, we can figure out an answer. But maybe we should look at them in advance to begin. No, I do feel like, I feel like you and I too are the type of people that, you know, maybe there's a question that we have differing opinions on. That doesn't mean that it's going to turn into anything. Like, we can have a conversation and respect each other enough to be able to listen to each other's sides, and then maybe come up with a middle ground or agree to disagree. Like, I mean, not that that's happened yet. But like, I mean, yeah, but in a fully, like, practical way. Yeah. Yeah. Like, I honestly think if we got hit with something, and we answered it differently, I would be like, why do you feel that way? And you would tell me and I'd be like, okay, and you probably do the same with me. Then you have two differing views that maybe speak to one person or another. Yeah. And it's also putting out there like, hey, it's okay if you don't agree with everything another person says, states, believes, whatever. Like, you can still be normal human beings. Like, you know? Yeah, you can still treat everybody decently. Yeah.