ZUKHANYE

Hi guys, welcome to Wait, Sis, Let's Chat, right? My name is Okanyem Tia and I'm still new in this channel, however, there's a lot of things that I'm trying to get to, you know, certain topics that from time to time is not spoken about or even if it is spoken about, a lot of people tend to shy away from that, right? So for some weirder result, I had actually had this conversation with my friend earlier on today about why do females or males, because we don't want to be biased in this case, why do females or males actually go back to their ex or go back to their exes, right, after like a breakup? So you find it fascinating as to why and that's where we then, everyone was just giving out their own opinion as to what could be the actual cause and what makes people actually go back to their exes, right? So it was so funny how everyone in this instance had their own opinion in terms of what could be the reason. Others then said it's about, for instance, if it's on and off constantly, you and your girlfriend or boyfriend break up or get back together, break up and get back together like all the time and it also gives you a question of asking yourself like why do you even go back in the first place when the first time never worked out or maybe when the second time it never worked out because sometimes you can think of maybe things might change, you know, as time goes by you might think that things might change or his behavior might change or maybe sometimes it could be your own behavior so you want to give it another shot from time to time and sometimes it can also be based on you being comfortable, right, comfortable with that person in a sense of because you guys have dated for too long now you think your time or basically your time or your company or your, yeah, your time is basically revolving around that person most of the time because I felt like that was the incident that maybe from time to time I would actually think of that maybe I didn't see myself move forward with other people as much as I did try, however, that satisfaction of knowing that there's someone that actually genuinely cares for me and that is always there and available for me, that's the go-to, but then every time you keep going back to that person you then actually find out that actually from time to time you're actually better off alone than being in a relationship, I don't know, everyone has their own experience, right, everyone will have their own differences or relationship problems that they actually go through, so it's never like the actual problem as I've just mentioned, but those are the reasons why some people would then go to the same ex-boyfriend or the same male friend that keeps putting them into those kind of positions constantly, right, so sometimes that's the fear of moving on, it's the fear of being uncomfortable, so you can't get out of your comfort zone and actually starting to explore different people, and at the same time you also don't want to just explore every single person, especially if you're a female that has morals or values, you understand, so that's where the trick comes in, I try and listen to this, um, oh fuck.