Communication Motivator

Motivation is important, but we need to understand what motivates someone before trying to motivate them. Motivation can be intrinsic (from within) or extrinsic (external rewards). It's important to respect someone's motivation and not try to change it. In a story about a graphic designer, it shows that understanding someone's passion and how they work is crucial. When coaching, it's important to tie the communication skills being taught to the person's motivators. Now, when it comes to someone's motivation, and again, we always go back to our core concept, don't try to motivate until you first understand what motivates. And let me introduce motivation from a different perspective than other lessons that we've provided. Motivation isn't just somebody's goals or what they want. It's also if they are intrinsic or extrinsic. Extrinsic is they currently see what they're doing as an apparatus to get to something more. Typically, it's someone who is seen as wanting a job or promotion or what have you. Someone who's intrinsic sees their motivation within the job. Let me share with you a very quick story. I have a very good friend who is a graphic designer. Now, here's the funny thing, unbelievable graphic designer, really has a passion for design and creativity, yet she likes to work alone. She does not like to collaborate with other people. And the company that she was working for, an agency, got wind of her, you know, being at the company that, you know, long time and they really, you know, valued her and came to her and offered her a promotion into management. Now, incredible intentions, right? And my friend calls me and says, what do I do? I got to quit. I said, why do you have to quit? And she was so nervous. And I said, wait a minute, what they did was awesome. They showed value, albeit value at the risk of really misunderstanding what your motivation is. So, through some conversation, she ended up staying at the agency. Someone else got the job. And she said, I just want to make it clear. I like to work alone. I'm an introvert. I get really turned on by creativity that doesn't happen with collaborating with other people. So, when you understand where somebody wants to go or how they want to work or what they do that really is passionate to them, why ask them to change that? So, when you're coaching with communication, remember, if someone's motivation is to be a great leader someday or to go into management or potentially they want to work with data more and you're coaching to something like active listening and truly being respectful in the communication process by not interrupting, whatever those communication attributes are, that's where you tie it into the conversation. So, Linda, let me ask you, when you really increase your ability and really go to that optimal level of active listening and not interrupting, how do you think that will serve you when it comes to fill in the blank? And what that does is it ties what they need to improve. It ties the area that you're coaching to, in this case, to some attributes of communication to their motivator.