אודם 2.8.2023

בבית 146 FM ועכשיו נעים לעוד בהגשתו ועריכתו של שלמה ברדילה אל תהיה קרן שמש לא נגמר לנו היום למה את מסתתרת עננים בכל מקום אל תבגיד כמו הגשם לא חבל על הדמעות יד חמה מבקשת מחבאת אותך שעות עושים שירים שאת אוהבת תתן לך יום לרגח אני נגנב שאת צוחקת ככה אליי תגידו את מבקשת שלא יהיה לי שום תירוס שאין מילים את מתרגשת ככה אליי תחייכי זה יפה לך זה עושה לי את היום אם פתאום את נרדמת תחייכי גם בחלום מטוסים בשמיים אנשים על הקוות אל תבגיד קרן שמש זה הזמן שלך לחיות עושים שירים שאת אוהבת תתן לך יום לרגח אני נגנב שאת צוחקת ככה אליי תגידו את מבקשת שלא יהיה לי שום תירוס שאין מילים את מתרגשת ככה אליי אהההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההה אהההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההה אהההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההה אהההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההה אהההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההההה I would like to start with a quote from a post that you published Education is a profession in which there is no end When we became parents we did not receive any education What is certain is that we all wanted to be good parents To create a pleasant atmosphere in the family And a close relationship with children and siblings And to prepare them for real life I would like you to expand on the subject I just want to say that at the time they published I don't know if it was at your age Dr. Spook It was the parent's Bible That's what it was But of course they don't do a course Or a year of study in this matter I think the subject of the Shabtiyut is very, very different It used to be a bit like that I will expand on it later But the Shabt took up much more space in the house That is, what my mother knew when she grew up It's what my grandmother knew And what my grandmother knew And from her experience and experience In the positive aspect of the thing And not necessarily Because that's what they knew And that's what they did So there really isn't a written book I don't think there can really be a book Because it's really about parenting It's a matter of people And every family and every child It's really a world You can't compile a book that suits everyone But you can talk about all kinds of situations And dilemmas How do you solve them in every situation? Situations and dilemmas And for every situation and every dilemma At all times a different solution I can tell you that there can be a different solution Depends on what I think And what the teacher In any case wants to advance at that moment And what is the value that leads And what is the situation And if there are other people here Who need to think about them Or that we need to leave everything for a moment And understand that there is a very specific difficulty Of a very specific child And it will really change our response The idea here, really, in parenting Is to understand a little beyond behavior Behavior is what we see outside A child who whines A child who struggles A child who whines A child who doesn't cooperate Underneath this thing Something else is hidden It's normal to assume That there is some kind of difficulty That he is experiencing And I think that's what's very important To do in parenting And that's what I do with my parents To try to understand what's going on underneath You probably know this When you buy a t-shirt or something And you imagine yourself A t-shirt for people And that everything will be bright And that I will be free And that I will be a perfect man And you forget that on the beach there is sand And it's not nice And it's not comfortable And it's annoying I'm getting to the details now Exactly So... Don't bother me with the details I'm not bothering you with the details No I'm just saying that I mean Exactly No, no, I'm referring to the example you gave Exactly, exactly These little things That in the end They bring down And they They make you fantasize Really They ruin the details And that's what happens We bring a family We get married Not all of us And it's okay And we imagine And we forget For a second That we don't sleep at night And it ruins In other places We forget That we don't have control Over our children And they can do things That we don't agree with Or that would be comfortable for us Or at the right time And that's really What brought me To this place To talk And to get Tools and help How To look at other things And what to do To help Okay In short You're saying There is no solution In the book To certain situations Wow That's what I like That there is no solution In the book Yes Okay The next question That I want to ask Actually You answered The question That you asked In part Every parent Can experience A situation of Uncertainty About how to respond To a child Sometimes We don't know How to send A message to the child And there are Uncomfortable moments In the other direction Sometimes It's not comfortable With the response Of the son or daughter To the child's behavior That is There are some Let's say Disagreements Between the parents How to respond To all kinds of situations Right So When we bring A family When we bring Children We're not alone here Okay And I'm not talking About single families But when there is A couple of parents That decide To bring A child together It doesn't matter What the Constellation might be There is My child In the same level As yours Okay And I have My experiences And my childhood memories And the things That are important to me And my values And yours And sometimes It's even very Controversial And even though We love each other And we wanted And we built a home together It's exactly the place That brings us To a lot of dilemmas And that doesn't mean That what I think Is more correct And certainly Not you So It requires In my opinion First of all Some kind of Common thinking Where we want To take this business Okay Okay So always At the beginning of the journey In parenting In any way What is their vision How do they imagine This fantasy This trip Without the sand And everything And try to separate it From all kinds of values And also How it sounds To everyone At my home For example When I grew up The value of family Was very Very Very Very strong All the time They talked about it Even today In the extended family It is expressed In many ways And I remember When I was young And I wanted to walk And I didn't know My father Because on Friday There has to be a holiday here Everyone has to be together For him Family is together For me Family day Is actually To give them the freedom To go on holiday And always have Where to go back So when a couple Brings children Each one Comes from other experiences You have to sit And talk About what is important to us And take into account How to express All of this It has to be in conversation And in the media All the time It changes All the time You always see Between the couple There is always What is called The bad cop And the good cop So one that He died With the child So I gave him this And the other And in this example That I brought So the mother Doesn't have to Hold on And that's fine So you probably Encountered it I encountered it a lot I will tell you That I even see A lot of the opposite Very, very Involved fathers Today I don't remember My father at home Being involved In such a way As I see Now Fathers that I love So there is A bad cop And a good cop And vice versa And really There is not One example Really There are all kinds But it really Is very, very Important Because I really Think that if someone Takes a role In the family Then naturally Someone else Will take the second role And what is important Here In my opinion Is balance And if there are People That you Want them To try To do A role change For a few days That will Try to be him And respond like him And that he will be Because what is the Idea in the end We don't want to Change In such a way To be like him We want to Find the middle That everyone Tries a little On the other side And each of us Can also be A bad cop And can also Be a good cop And maybe Use less And that's where We need to work Let's talk about Something actual Now we are In the middle of Great freedom We are also At the end of the Holidays And we have a month To be with the kids The parents Usually work And then the kids Stay at home And then there is A kind of Tenderness You need to Engage them In all kinds Of things I disagree With your opinion That you need to Engage them So tell me Your opinion Because these two weeks Is not an easy story Right First of all I really hoped That it would be much easier For the parents To get to Great freedom And they would say Yes We have an opportunity To be with the kids And it's clear to me That the reality here Is not simple And the parents work And they are not free So I certainly Didn't come from A place that judges And I will say That there is Some kind of Finding Some kind of Tenderness That we need It's really We need to Engage them We need to Give them Tenderness And if For a moment They are Unhappy So we need To close this thing To silence it And screens Are like A great solution To this So I have A very clear position On screens I don't think That they are A bad thing I think that They are a source of pain I don't think that screens Are a bad thing The truth is I have seen A few parents Who are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation Where they are In a situation The night birds Have no strength Their big eyes Have no solace Their bare feet Have no eyes The night birds Who is watching The sweet dream Of the mountain The white one From far away Is rising From inside The cold one From far away Is rising To our hidden And hidden What are the dreams Of the night birds In the night They are dreams Of the big birds To play with them In a circle In a circle To play with them In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle In a circle