Goodbyes

The speaker welcomes the listener to embrace their grief and work towards healing. They suggest trying a new action, like going for a walk or taking a bubble bath, to help with the healing process. The listener is asked to reflect on their emotions and come up with a song title that represents their current state of grief. They are encouraged to listen to a specific song by Carrie Underwood and pay attention to their feelings while listening. The speaker also shares a trick for crying in public, suggesting that wearing sunglasses can provide a sense of privacy. They emphasize the importance of accepting and allowing oneself to feel emotions without apologizing. The listener is invited to connect with the lyrics of the song and apply them to their own situation. Welcome. You are invited to come near grief and move toward healing. Set an intention to say hello to one new action today. Maybe it's walking outside for five minutes if you haven't left the house, or take a long bubble bath with lit candles, or shampoo your hair and give yourself a long scalp massage. Notice if you can think of one action today that you have not done in a while. If nothing is coming up right now, be patient and think about this as your day goes on. What would feel manageable? Emotions. How are you feeling right now? What would your song title be if you wrote a song about where you are today with your grief? Say it out loud without judgment, and accept that this is where you are, and that is okay. Speaking of songs, your action today is to listen to the song Starts With Goodbye by Carrie Underwood after you finish this article or podcast, and pay attention to how it makes you feel. Maybe you can combine a walk outside with earbuds while you listen to this song. A trick that I learned is if you put on sunglasses, you can walk and cry in public, and actually can feel quite healing. However, crying openly is okay too. After my father died five years ago, I got very comfortable with just letting the tears fall without apologizing for them. I realized that many can be uncomfortable with another person crying, so I learned to say, I'm okay, the tears just fall, I don't need anything right now, they will pass, and thanks for being patient with me. And somehow that was something that I felt like I did have control over in the moment. Reflect on the words in Carrie Underwood's song about a breakup, and allow yourself to let it apply to your circumstances. Thank you so much for listening.