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This is Mr. and Mrs. W. R. Swingin' Adventures. I am Mr. W. And I am Mrs. W. So if you are not over the age of 18, please do not listen, as this contains adult content. On tonight's episode, we're gonna be talking about the Southampton Social, how we felt about it, would we go back down, and a little bit of the V.A. Adventures. Yeah, so if we get time, we'd add V.A. on too, which I believe we will add time. We should do. Without making it too long. So let's start with Southampton. Yep. So the whole weekend itself was an experience and an eye-opener. It was, because the only socials we've been to, yes, they've been in Southampton, but we knew the hosts quite well. And even with this one, yes, we knew Mr. and Mrs. H. from the Bedhoppers podcast. Yep. Because obviously we've been to several of their events. But it was also nice going to an event where we knew a lot of people from previous events. It was also nice to catch up with a couple that we haven't seen for a while. Yep, definitely. And it was that case of, it was nice just to go. Yes, so we actually went down early. Yep. And we thought we'd go see a couple of friends we haven't seen for a while. Yeah. It was nice to see them. Yeah, even though they did take forever to get home. Just round the corner. If you're listening, you know who you are. Well, it was nice anyway. Yes, we had to wait for them. But it was nice to sort of see their faces. It's been a while. Yeah, next time, 10 minutes and I'm gone. So, you know, sat there, had a bit of a chat with them and decided to then head. To the other friends to drop Sarah off. Yes, so parking, where the hotel was, parking was almost non-existent. Yeah. So we decided that what we were gonna do is park at theirs and then get an Uber to the hotel. Yeah. So we drove the car there and she actually gave us a lift. Yeah, to the hotel. Which was very nice, thank you. We did say thank you at the time, but thank you again. And we just sort of chilled for a bit, didn't we? We popped to the shop. Yeah, we got some drinks. And went downstairs, had a catch-up. With Jeeves. Is that what we called him last time? Yeah. Okay, so we had a catch-up and it was nice to see him. Yeah, it was lovely to have a chat with him. Like, he did give us a call as we were leaving home, didn't he? Yeah, because he was doing, obviously, his daytime job. Yeah, so. And was basically like, yeah, you're clear coming down from Heathrow down to Southampton. Yeah, traffic-wise. Yeah, so we were like, oh, thank you. Bear in mind, he was like an hour, hour and a half in front of us, that anything could have happened. Yeah, but. But didn't he then keep on messaging while we were on the way down, saying, you're still clear? Yeah, I think he messaged a few times. But it was nice that we had like, a sort of debrief on things that we needed to chat about. Yeah, and what had been going on with like, himself in the lifestyle as he is a single man. Yeah, so when we got to the hotel and we were checking in, he was actually sitting at the table with a few people. And we were like, oh, you know, we'd catch up with all of them as well. And it'd be nice to have a chat. But by the time we had actually popped to the shop after checking in, got back, he was basically last man standing. Yeah, everyone else went off to get ready, I think. Yeah, I think time was ticking. Yeah. So anyway, I was to chat with him, went up, got ready. And it didn't actually take us too long to get ready. No, it didn't. Although, I still didn't know what I was wearing. It's just gonna be a rolling thing. It's not, it's not, it's not. And you'll figure that out. It will. Or you won't. Okay. But I think, what did I have, four outfit changes? Did you? Yeah. Why did you have four? Because I didn't know what the weather would be like. Okay. But I settled for one anyway. And I was like, yep, that'll do. We're rolling with this, it's fine. So we then sent our friends, so A and K. Yeah, not very nice. Yeah, they ended up meeting us there. They were gonna come to the hotel, weren't they? But I just think time, realistically, didn't allow anybody. No. So we met them outside, I think, weren't they getting there like five minutes after us? I think so, there was five, 10 minutes between. It wasn't much time. We were literally stood outside, having a vape and a bag, and we were just like, right. We'd message them saying, like, we're here. And it was like, we'll be there in like 10 minutes. I was like, okay. Were there 10 minutes? Was 10 minutes? Yeah, not 29 seconds. And the only people who'll get that reference is the people in the note with that joke. So, they went in, I was nervous. Yeah, because we obviously haven't done social in that way. Yeah, I think it's more the case of, again, it's the unknown. Like, I didn't know the situation we were going into. Like, I wasn't 100% what type of people would be there. You know, it just, it's always like that for me, isn't it? We're heading to somewhere we're not sure of. So, I knew I'd be comfortable. And, you know, the hosts, I think, are great people. And I think it was just the whole new place. Yeah, and we did have a chat the Friday before going, because we nearly didn't go. Yeah, so we had a family crisis, so to speak. Yeah. And it was, you know, do we go, do we not go? And Mr. W actually said, no. Fuck it, let's go, because it would do us both some good. Yeah. At the end of the day, what happened, happened. And hey-ho, like, you can't do nothing about it. Let's go, crack on. Yeah, no, I get that. I think I was worried as well, because we had a couple of things that week leading up. Yeah. So, we had our furry friend decided that she wanted to basically chuck her toys out of her pram. And... She got extremely ill. Yeah, so she spent basically the week in the vets. Yeah, and it was just stressful. But... We're still dealing with it. We are still dealing with it. That was at this point of recording. So, Mr. W was like, no, you need a break. You know, you've been stressed. He's been stressed. We're going. Yeah. I'm glad we went. So, as we arrived and got in the door, I liked the fact of the wristbands. Yeah, that was a really good... I did like that for the simple fact is, it also gave the door staff... Yeah. So, if someone tried walking in, obviously, they had a guest list. Yeah. And if you weren't on, they didn't get in. Similar. But also, the smoking area was out the front. Yeah. So, it also gave him, he could just have a quick check. But I think by the end of the night, he knew which ones were smoking. Oh, yeah, no, definitely. But with the wristband thing, so, obviously, once you told him your name, he'd give you a wristband. And, you know, if you were going in and out, no matter what, it would be the case of, you know, he could tell by your wristband, rather than having to keep asking your name. Yeah. So, I did like that. So, we went downstairs. Yeah. Because the actual venue was... Downstairs. Down a flight of stairs. And it was quite nice. Yeah. It was a really nice thing. Yeah. So, once you got downstairs, you had like a reception and like a little coat cupboard. Yeah. Coat room. Yeah. If they were calling it a coat, whatever you want to call it. Well, it was a cupboard. Coat cupboard. Is that what you just called it? Yeah, a coat cupboard. Are you from... Oh, okay. But if anybody can agree with me... A coat room. No, because it wasn't technically a room. It was literally two doors, you open it, and there's a couple of rails there for coats. You couldn't walk in it. So, it was a cupboard. All right. And just in front of that was where the toilets were. Mm-hmm. And then to the right of the bottom of the stairs, you had like glass doors. Yeah, where you went into the bar and... Yeah, so it was a... The area was. Fair big dance floor. Yeah. Quite a lot of seating, I think. Didn't Mr. H come out to... Yeah, so Mr. H was by the reception bit, like saying hello to everyone and, you know, hanging coats there if you wish. Yeah. He did say that they didn't put on a person. He said it wasn't in the budget. So, it was a bit like, all right, yeah, fair enough. Like, bit of a joke, like... Yeah, so... The budget wouldn't allow for it. Like, and I get it. I do get it. I would have stood at reception taking off coats for him. Well, you can offer that to him next time. So, anyway, as you walk in the glass doors... Mrs. H was there. Yeah, was there greeting everyone. And, do you know, I don't think they get enough credit because I think they are acknowledging who everyone is. Yeah, definitely. Like, Mr. H on a few occasions... We've spoke to Mr. H. Yeah, we've spoke to. We've spoken to Mrs. H once or twice? Yeah, I just think... Twice, I think. Yeah. But Mrs. H is a busy lady. Oh, yes, definitely. It's like, they both are. But it's nice because it's like a friendly face. And, you know, she sort of greeted us, gave us a hug, said hello, it was nice to see us again. And to some, that may be like, oh, she's probably used to seeing, you know, regulars. But to me, it come across like she actually acknowledged who we were. Yeah. So, anyway, after just saying hellos, we went through and secret stag and secret fixin'. No, we missed one person before we got to secret stag and secret fixin'. Kate. Yeah. So, Kate was a, yes, that was a big shock. I thought we actually saw her after. No. But, like, I think for anyone who's listened to our recent or previous episodes, Kate has always stood out to us. Yeah. And, you know, I admire everything she does. I think it's great. Yeah. And, yeah, we've sort of had a quick hello, you know, how I didn't realise you were going to be here. She was like, no, I thought, I think it was two days before it. If that, I think. She turned around, I think she did turn around and say, yeah, two days before, I was literally like, I then obviously booked the flights and flew in. I was like, oh, well, do you get a straight flight to Southampton? She went, no. Was it into Bristol? I was like, bloody hell. Yeah, I think so. So, I was like, I thought, no. She had a bit of a trowel. But, no, it was nice to see her. Yeah, it was lovely to see you, Kate. It's always a pleasure to see all three of them, I think. Yeah. So. It's also nice to see the next people that we're going to say is Secret Sagan, Secret Vixen. Yep. Because they do up everyone we've been to. They're there. Yep. And that shows me that they're obviously there to support and are quite loyal, if that makes sense. Yeah, so we have spoke about them before. We have said, obviously, when we've gone to Penthouse Playrooms, they're the ones that do the tour. Yeah. And, yeah, I just think they're a great couple. Yeah. We haven't actually, you know, spoke to them probably as much as we'd like to. Maybe that's something we can do next time. Yeah, so they were actually standing by a little table and they were handing out gift bags. Yeah. And they were cute little gift bags. They had, like, a straw. I think, they actually said to me, because I don't think you were there at the time, and they said, right, you've got a choice. You can have one with a straight straw or one with a bent straw. Yeah. And I was like, oh, fuck it. I said, I'd have one and he can have the other, so we can chop and change or whatever. So, yeah, we got one of them. And inside, I think there was a small pack of, like, Tic Tacs? Yeah, a little small pack, weren't there? There was a Sweet Alls 2 in there. And there was this thing. We didn't have a clue what it was and we didn't even ask anyone. And we actually found that out when we actually went to VA, what it was. So, I actually opened it and I went to sort of lick it to see if it was, like, some type of mint. And it wasn't. And I was like, oh, I'm not sure what that is. So, we'll just stick that back in the bag. Well, it actually turned out it was an expanding face glove. Oh, yeah. Yeah, I remember that one. So, yeah, it was a good, a good little pack. Yeah. Didn't someone eat one? No, I went to lick it, didn't I? No, I think someone did eat one. Or went to eat it, maybe. I don't think they would have been able to swallow that once that got wet. It expands. That's what I mean. Oh, God knows. But, there was also... It depends if you swallow it quite quick. Also a badge. Yeah. There was a badge in there. We like our badges. There's always a badge. We need to work out what badge we're missing. Yeah. Because then we can actually clarify and hopefully get one of them missing. Yeah. So, after obviously grabbing that, I think we got a drink, sat there with... Naughty and Nice chatting for a bit. Yeah. And that's when we saw... T and J. T and J. And T actually come... No, I saw J in the bathrooms. Yeah. And I said to her, oh, we'd have to have a catch up in a bit. And then she was like, yeah, yeah, definitely. And then that's when T spotted us in the bar. So he's come over, you know, we're chatting to him. It was nice to talk to him. Yep. It was clarification. And cleared up some things. Yeah. So I had a few questions for him and he was happy to answer. Oh yeah. It was quite nice as well, because obviously he got to meet and talk with Naughty and Nice. Yep. Because obviously J is, no, T is quite a friendly gentleman. Yep. And he's always up for a giggle and he's always a laugh. And I think that's why we like him as a couple so much, because you can just have an outright laugh and that's more our thing. And clearing up what we cleared up was good. Yeah. Well, it was nice just to sort of be like, okay, so this is how it is. This is what it was. So, you know, we can sort of move on, so to speak. Like, I don't think it, it didn't stop us from doing anything anyway. No. But I think it was more the fact of there was just a few things sort of floating in our head that we always wanted. Just cleared up. Yeah. So yeah, anyway, we chatted him for a bit and it was just nice to see another friendly face we haven't seen for a while. Then I think we just sort of spoke to a couple of people here and there throughout the night. I still was anxious throughout the night. Like as much as I was relaxed to a certain degree. Yeah. You know, it was still a new place and a new area. And you know, I just, I couldn't fully relax. There was an atmosphere, I think, going on in my head anyway. No, there was an atmosphere in there. Well, I was trying to be a bit more polite, but so I was stressing anyway over the dog. You know, worried about that. And then the fact of people we wouldn't necessarily socialise with. No. And... See, this is where I'm going to stop you on that one, is, and I don't care if they listen or not, I think it's more the case of they may have been told stuff. Yeah, maybe. To put us in a bad light. Because we're outsiders. Yeah. This is what we've said for a while. Yeah. We're not bothered at the end of the day, but we would prefer people to come and have a chat with us. And if they've got anything that they're, and I'm going to put it out there, if any of you guys have, if we're at a club or anything, as we've said on our socials, our face pictures is out, or you've been told stuff about us, come and have a chat with us. Because one, we're clear at arm. And two, we're pretty transparent on it. The thing is, we've got nothing to lie about, nothing to hide. No. And I feel like... The more you lie, it's the harder to keep the lie going. Yeah, no, it's not just that though. It's the fact of, you know, we are open and honest people. Oh yeah. And I don't believe everyone in the lifestyle is open and honest. No. And this is where, you know, people try and cover things up. And I just feel like us being outsiders, so to speak, because we're not local. Yeah. To the group that were there. Yeah. I feel like, you know, we could have been used as like a pawn in a game. Oh yeah, they were trying to use us. So that was the atmosphere. And I just think because there was a certain person or people there, I just felt like I couldn't relax. I couldn't be myself. And this is why I've always said to you, and I'll say it to the listeners as well, if you have had anything to say about us, come see us, come talk to us. We'll clear it up. We don't lie. We don't bullshit. We're pretty straight up. So just clear that one out there. So not only the stress of that, the stress of the dog, there was also the fact of, you know, where it was all building up, I think that just sort of stressed me to a certain degree. Yeah. And as much as we had A and K there, who, to be honest, I feel quite relaxed around. Yeah. Oh yeah. I think, so they're sort of a support. So like, you're my sort of safety blanket. Yeah. And they're, you know. They're the support act. They're the backup, aren't they? Yeah. Well, it's the case of if you're- Are they the dwarfs? They're the dwarfs around with the little- Oh gosh. Back to that, are we? Yeah. So I think it's because you're my safety blanket. And if you're not there, and I'm with one of them, I still feel safe, secure and everything else. And I think they had an issue and they had to dart off. Yeah. I think because, obviously, we sort of missed them in passing as they had to leave. I was like, oh, okay. Like, a bit in shock on, okay, why did they leave? Is everything okay? And then I sort of went into a slight- Panic mode. Yeah. We are jumping way ahead here. Why? Because what else did we, or who else did we speak to that night? We were on the stairs with them for about half an hour. Yeah, and I'm getting to that. I was just saying, overall. But before they did actually disappear, there were a few others we did speak to, as we said. And one of them was when we were actually on the way up to go and sit outside, catch some air, get our thoughts. And we bumped into- Magic Gage. Yeah. So, for about 20 minutes, half an hour maybe. We were stood on the staircase going up. Right in the middle of the stairs. And just chatting to him. I haven't personally spoken to him previously. No, I have. And I think you had the same impression of, as I did. Because we were talking, and he looked at me, he looked at you, and then looked back at me and went, you're the guys with the podcast. And we went, yeah. Yeah, because he also remembered speaking to you when at Wonderland. Yeah. And again, it was nice that he actually remembered. I think in this lifestyle, you've got to remember people and places as general people in lifestyle. But to know how, you know, not only Mr. and Mrs. H, but also Kate and Daryl, then you've got Magic Gage and Vista Wife. You know, for them to also have acknowledgement of people, and to do everything they're all doing. I still remember people. Yeah, I'll take my hat off to them. Yeah, because I can't. I remember Mr. H, Kate and Daryl, and Olivia and Gage. See, I need to know someone's name a couple of times before I remember. Yeah. Faces, I can pinpoint your name to your face, but that's within like a couple of times of actually meeting you. But yeah, so it was nice because he actually acknowledged both of us in that conversation. Yeah, and he was talking to both of us. Yeah. Because, obviously, we both follow him online. Yep. Me probably a little bit more than you, because you're useless with your phone. Yeah, just a bit. And obviously, that was just after he had had the snip. Yep. And we've spoke about it. Yep. And I was asking him some questions. I was like, mate, all good down there? He was like, done my first nut this morning. Yeah, exactly. So there's no reason for you not to go get the snip. All right. You get your tubes done at the same time. It takes me six weeks to recover. Yeah. Which means you will take six weeks off work, because there's no way I'm gonna be able to do the stuff that I do in general. Fucking hell, we should have had it done when we had the last kid. Two birds, one stone. But you know full well I'm never gonna have any more kids. All right, I'm joking. I'm just fucking joking. I know, but we've had this conversation. Fucking hell. Six weeks off work with you. That's surgery for me. That's just a quick snip for you. No, it's actual surgery, babe. Yeah, but it doesn't take that long to recover. From man to... What did he say? What did he actually say? Seven days. No, 10 days. All right, 10 days. He said 10 days. 10 days. Lays up, doesn't do anything. In six weeks. Yeah. Six weeks for a woman. Yeah. Mate, the shit we go through, you blokes have it easy. And? So anyway, we... Sorry, I'll get a contractor out if we do. All right. So, after chatting to him, we actually spoke about Swing Hub with him as well. Yeah. Because he was asking us, because we'd been on the beta test and we'd been on it for a while, and he was asking us, like, are you guys premium members, or like that type of stuff? Yeah, because he wanted to know what we thought compared-wise. And he just wanted the feedback. Yeah, and it was nice because he actually said, like, genuinely, do you like Swing Hub? What would you change? What would you like? Yeah. You know, what faults have you found so far? What's the best thing you've found with it? And it was nice because he's not just, I say he, they, are not just making an app for themselves. No. They're making an app. Yeah, he's building it for the community. Yes. And I like, when I, because I did pitch an idea to him. Yep. And it's been impum, that word, impumented. Implemented. That's the one. Is that the right one? Is that the right word? Yeah. Okay. Something, well, comment below or send us a DM saying it's this. So, it's already been put out there. I thought it was quite a good idea. Yep. And obviously, it must have been a good idea. Gage, if you're listening. Thank you. His membership will be great. Thank you very much. For free, that would be great. So, yeah, it was just really nice. And I think A joined us on the stairs at one point. Yeah, he came up. And joined in that conversation. And this is why I always say to everyone, like other people in the lifestyle that we talk to, and they haven't met Gage yet. Yep. We haven't had a word, been able to talk to Olivia. Yep. That I think is our next shot. Yep. Well, considering it was her TikToks that you sort of were pinpointing to me when we got into the lifestyle. Yeah. It would sort of be nice to just acknowledge, you know, and say, you know, thank you. You've sort of guided us into the beginning of things. Yeah. We obviously, we've had that conversation with Gage. Yep. And we've had quite a lot of conversations with him and about how we felt about it. But this is the thing, and this is where I don't like people broadcast about, oh, it's glitchy, it's this, it's that. It's a new fucking app. The thing is, we did pinpoint to him. We did think it was a bit glitchy to start with, but we understood why. Yeah. And he actually said to us, he said, look, we had to get it out. Yeah. But we'd been putting it off and putting it off and putting it off because it wasn't right. He said literally that was the best thing that we could have released at that point. Yeah. But everything's got to build. The thing is, if something come out there, not necessarily just Swing Hub, but if another app come out there and straight away, there's no faults, there's no nothing. They've got nothing to grow on. Yeah. They've got nothing to improve. They've got nothing to keep their members wanting to be there. Yeah. So that's why I think how they're doing and what they're planning on doing will be brilliant. And their security system is something else. Like he was trying, he was explaining dumbed down version to us, I think, because it was still going over my head. But it's brilliant that even, and he did say to us, he says, even though you do the AI verification, everyone still gets manually checked. Yeah. He said, and he went, you would not believe the amount that we've had where people have gone like male to the computer screen of a female to try and verify it. Oh yeah, no, I get that. I'm like, are you stupid? One other thing I did like speaking to him is, in a previous episode I had discussed, I'm not sure what I can and can't put on Swing Hub and stuff. And I did actually mention that to him. Yep. He clarified, you know, that yes, you can put things on there if you want to put nude stuff on there, so to speak. And he said, just put it behind your friends only. Yeah. He said, so it's not fapping or fapping or something like that. Yeah. So, you know, that was quite nice to know that, you know, even if I tried uploading something, there's a possibility. It would go off for... Verification. Verification and approval. So basically, you know, if I did want to put something on there, it would go through the approval stage. And if it wasn't approved to go onto the profile directly, publicly, you can get notified that, you know, it can be put in the friends only sort of situation. Yeah, because at that point, they don't see any... How he did say to us is, he doesn't want the app completely being pickle pics. Yeah. Or clam pics or booby pics or whatever. Like, boobs, not too bad, but you don't want it constantly on your face. More subtle. Yeah, a bit classy. Not like, here's my dick in your face sort of pictures and, you know, so I get it. I like it. I like the idea. I still can't get my head around that. People just putting it out there, but I'm just like... Yeah, but that's because you're not really sort of a picture person, are you, anyway? Yeah, I know, but why would you give it out for free? No, it's... Yes, obviously, you're going to give it out for free. You're not going to sell your... But at the same time, what stops someone from going on there going, oh, no, or, oh, yeah, a bit strange like that. It's not just that. I think, you know, each to their own, everyone. I know people aren't going to agree with me, but if you see a dick pic, I think it's disgusting. Yeah. And I think, well, why would I want to see that first? Show me your personality. Yeah, and that's what they want. You know, your personality is something that attracts us to someone. Can you tell that to our profile, please? What? Our Swing Hub profile. You just said you like seeing people's personality. Yeah. Have you looked at our profile? Have a look and then come back on the next episode. Why? It's not really that colourful, babe. I know it's not. It's because I keep telling myself, I'm going to be good at socials. I got really bloody good. Yeah, between Christmas and New Year. But then I've had a lot to deal with, a hell of a lot to deal with. Yeah, so technically, who listened to the last couple of episodes, Mrs. W did get her shopping trip. Yes, I did. She still done fuck all with them, apart from when we went to the club. Yeah, so we'll actually get to that, I think, possibly next episode and what I'd done with one set of the underwear from my shopping trip. Yeah. So let's get back to the social. Yeah, so we were on the stairs for... About 20 minutes, half hour, had that conversation with him. And yeah, we then obviously went back in the room. Once we realised A and K were gone, we were just sort of sitting there together, just sort of having a bit of debrief on how we were both feeling, what we thought, you know, the night... Was going. Yeah. And that's when we spoke to Mrs. A. Yes, and I personally would say that, you know, because that was the first really conversation that we've had with her. Yeah. And I would personally say that it was, it was a nice conversation. It was quite nice because it was at that stage where I think she just wanted to sit and chill for five. And what I like is, again, you know, I don't expect people to acknowledge who we are. We've always said if people don't listen to the podcast, they don't listen. You know, this is our sort of verbal diary. Yeah. You know, if anyone does listen, we are grateful. But, you know, we're not in it for the listens. No. And it was nice for her to actually say, oh, so how's the podcast going? Yeah. So to me, again, that was pinpointing that she acknowledged who we were and, you know, we could have that conversation. Yeah. So I did. I enjoyed the conversation we had had. And I think it saw, it made me see her in a different light. Yeah. And, you know, it was just really nice to sort of. Have that chill time. Yeah. I think also during the night, we did speak to Kate a couple of times. Yep, we arranged something. So with Kate, even though it wasn't her social, you know, she wasn't closed in it. She was there as like support. Yeah. And I think sometimes she can't switch that off. No. Because a few times she's like, do you know how's your evening going? You okay? You know, and it was like. It's just being that type of person, and that is who Kate is. Yes, which I think, you know, again, that it just makes her who she is. Yeah. You just want to get her into bed, don't you? You cannot say that. She didn't say no. Well, shut up. Sorry. You completely threw me off now. Yeah, so it was nice. And I think not much really happened at the social. I think, you know, everything that was going on, all the stress just got on top of me in the end. The lighting, I think it was probably where we sat. Yeah, we sat there. There was a weird sort of lighting. There was a TV behind us with some lights. Yeah, and there was a mirror at the other side so it was all sort of reflecting around us. And in the end, my head just started pounding. I couldn't concentrate. I couldn't think. So we decided to sort of wrap that night up. Yeah, so we went and said bye to Mr. H and Mrs. H. Yeah. Kate and J and T. Yeah, so when- And Jeeves. Can't forget Jeeves. When we spoke to everyone to say goodbye, we did have another quick few minutes with Kate and we've discussed, you know, getting some advice, we'd say. Regarding podcasting and stuff. So we do plan to hopefully, if time still allows, at the- Black and white. The black and white, we've got- What is literally 22 days of data recording. It's gonna go real fast. That's the end of this month. I know. So yeah, so if time allows, we're gonna hopefully try and spend a little bit of time with her getting a few pointers and things. Yeah. So, yeah, we said our goodbyes. We obviously said to J and T that, you know, we'd definitely have to see them again. Let's all take it out and come over, go up to where they are. I think, I wanna say how the States is. It's a clever choice for them. I don't have a clue. But obviously we're finding out closer to the time. Yeah. And then obviously spoke to Jeeves, say goodbyes. Yeah. And yeah, we ended up getting an Uber back. To the hotel. And I think we needed to, to be honest. Yeah. Within what, 10 minutes we were back? I think we were both sound asleep. It wasn't 10 minutes. Was it not? No. We had some fun. All right, well, within a short amount of time, realistically. Wasn't that short? I'd say about 45 minutes to an hour. Then we went down. We went down and had a vape. No, I didn't. I didn't. All right. I had a vag before we went in. Yeah. And then I said, I'm fucked, we're going in. Went upstairs. I think you may have gone back down. Yeah, I think I did. But I didn't bother. Yeah. So, obviously, overall, self-harm than social, bed hoppers edition. Would I go again? I guess. Yes, I would. I did enjoy myself. Yep. And it was nice to see people again. Seeing the people from that group, when we see them, you know, at events, sometimes because of the amount of people. Out there. The different locations that everyone's in during the club. You don't always get to see people you want to see. Yeah. So yes, I would definitely go again. It was also nice seeing everyone, like, behave. Yes, behave. Behave is a bit of a strong word, so. But in a venue. It's a social. Exactly. So a social. And that was how it was treated. Yeah, a social is a social. A club night is a club night. And it was nice that, you know, people could respect that it was a social. Yeah. And if people decided to go play after or before, so be it, you know. Yeah, that's their choice. Yeah, but it was nice that, you know, people could just enjoy themselves. The venue stayed classy. Yeah, yeah. Which was quite nice. So yeah, I'd definitely go back again. Yep. Would I change anything? I would change my position of seating. I would not sit back there again. Not in that chair? No. I would try and also de-stress a bit more. Yeah, and this is what we're saying about, like, when we said about people coming and talking to us. If there's an issue. Yeah, I think it's, the thing is, day-to-day life this year hasn't particularly been great. No. And, you know, at that point I was struggling to switch off from vanilla lifestyle to the swinging lifestyle. Yep. So, yeah. It takes a while, but this is why we would hold out an olive branch to anyone. Yep. If they want to come and have a chat, we've got no problem with anyone. We have a chat, you might actually find that you actually might like us as a people, if anyone has said anything that I'm thinking there is. I personally don't think we come across as horrible people, and I personally don't think... You might come a bit of a rest in bits face, but that's just normal. I personally don't think that we've got an issue with people. No. I personally don't think other people could have an issue with us. I feel like we're too open. Yeah, I'm not being funny, but we, like, we never go out saying, oh, we've got a podcast. People, like, we've been to clubs, and we've said to people, like, oh, do you listen to podcasts? And we never say, oh, you need to listen to Mr. and Mrs. W. R. Sweeney and the Regents. No, in all honesty, when we say, oh, do you listen to podcasts? Who do we pinpoint? Bed Helpers and The Wanderers. They are... Every time. And they're like, oh, I do. It's because, so, they say to us, you know, what clubs have you been to? And we say, oh, you know, we've been to Penthouse. We do private events there with... The Bed Helpers and The Wanderers. So I think that's why... We probably end up saying, you know, we've also bought one out. Still sort of new to the situation. Yeah. You know, but listening to those are a good start and, you know, can help. Yeah, might find your tribe. Yeah. So we always tell people what we do, because unfair, especially if you don't tell someone, and then you go on your podcast talking about them and spouting their name out. Yeah. That's why we... We don't use names. We use... We've named a maximum of four people friend-wise. Yeah, and that's only because they... Are aware, yes. And they call themselves that. Yeah. And then obviously the people that do the podcast or that host the events, which again, they are aware. But even then, like Mr. and Mrs. H, we know their real names and probably 90% of other people do. But that's like we're never... Like Kate and Daryl have always been Kate and Daryl. Yep. I.e. Marvelous, Stag and Vixen. They come out and use their own names. Yep. And we did get confirmation of them and they were like, yeah, fine. We never actually dropped their names in before. Yes, we have. So I've expressed my feelings, your feelings. You'd obviously go back again. Yeah, I would like to mingle more. Yep. But I think that's just us, but... We will get... To the point where we... To a mingle situation. Yeah. Next episode. Yeah. And... You'll find out. Don't believe everyone when people say shit to you. Go and do stuff. Don't let anything stop you otherwise. Yeah. All right. So that, I would say self-hunt and social clarified. Yep, wrapped up. Yep. So we then decided, two weeks after the self-hunt and social, we wanted to go to V.A. for Halloween. We didn't want to go for Halloween. No. No, we were... For Valentine's. Mate, I am well and truly off. But if you listen to the last episode, that was literally a week after recording. We were there. Didn't go out the Friday evening before we actually went because obviously day-to-day life got in the way. The furry baby decided to go downhill again. So yeah, probably did. The last episode we mentioned we were going to V.A. The day of going to V.A. was the day that got released. Yep. So V.A., we decided to go down for the Saturday on the Hallow... The Valentine's. I don't know why I keep saying Halloween. For the Valentine's. And we went down early because we were planning on again meeting A and K down there. Yep. They had bought a friend. Yeah. And there was also another couple who we had previously met. W and P, that's who we're going to call them. Yep, okay. Respect for them. Yep, no, that's fine. We don't use people's names unless they're out using them. Yeah, I weren't quite sure how we were going to say who they were. So yeah, we hadn't really had much of a conversation with them prior. No. We had a slight conversation throughout the night a couple of times with her more than him. Yeah. But yeah, so we arrived early to the hotel to go and see A and K and their friend. We are really, really sorry. A and K, if you're listening, we're really sorry. What did we do? Oh, interrupt. Sorry if we got blocking. Yeah, we got there a tad bit early. We didn't. They made it up later in the night anyway. Yeah. So yeah, we met them early. We went and had a drink in the bar. They then got ready and luckily enough, we went down in the van. Yeah. Only because the car beside the- They were playing in the bar. And do it start that weekend, literally that Saturday. So yeah, we all managed to fit in the van. Yep. Mr. W drove us to VA from the hotel. Yeah, we saved them a taxi fare. Yeah, well, we were not as early as what we normally are there. You know, we're only half an hour after doors opening, but it was still quite busy, I thought, considering how it's normally pretty empty when we get there, which I like it to be empty. Yeah. But it was okay. You know, I sort of found my bearings a bit, but I felt off that night. Yeah, they were saying wrong. And I couldn't shift it. No. You know, I tried to, I think I had a drink or two, weren't feeling it. You know, took a stroll around, weren't feeling it. We went in the hot tub. Yeah. We were in there for a while. Went in there twice. Yeah. Describe that other couple. Yeah, so after the first time getting in the hot tub, we just went and had a bit of our time. And even, we did have a bit of a play. Yeah. But I don't think we enjoyed that as much as we had done before. No. Because whatever was weird at the time, it sort of, I don't know, it affected both of us. And I don't get fully what was wrong that night. No. So. Well, we have already discussed that privately. Yeah, but overall, we couldn't work out what was going on. And then, yeah, so after the first hot tub, we had a bit of a play, walked around a little bit more, and we spoke to another couple there. It wasn't his first time in the club, but it was hers. And yeah, it was nice just having that conversation and. Talking to someone. Yeah. I also found that we were getting to that point of the evening where we're like, do we just go home? Yeah, it was my head again. Yeah, but I don't think that it was. Loud. Round. It was loud and busy. Yeah. And I don't know whether that was one of the issues that we had, because. I think it was the lady who owns it. She was literally like pointing upwards to the DJs. They actually had a DJ there. Yeah, so she kept telling him to turn it up, because I think he turned it down, and obviously, you know, where they were having a DJ. Yeah, she was like, no, crank it up, let's go. Yeah, so my head was just pounding. I couldn't focus. I think we had actually, before we decided to go home, I thought, right, we'll get it back in the hot tub. It's a bit of a quiet area. And again, it just wasn't shifting. And I think we both knew at that point. We'd had enough. So we got out, got sorted. We actually said goodbye to A and K. And the lady who they had with her. Yeah, and we also said goodbye to W. And P. Did we see P to say goodbye? Oh, yeah, we did. By the bar as we were leaving. But yeah, it was just, I don't know, it was just a really... Weird vibe. Yeah, I just, I didn't feel myself. Like, everyone who's listened before would agree with me when I say Fia is my go-to club. Fia is, you know, where I'm comfortable. Oh, yeah. And I can be myself, but I couldn't. No, it was completely off that night. And I just think that I couldn't be myself. I couldn't focus. I couldn't relax. I didn't feel comfortable. And it just, it was probably my worst night at Fia. Yeah, yeah, definitely agree with that. We did sort of have a discussion on the way home. And, you know, I think I don't put myself out there enough. And we have discussed that on here before. And we have discussed that personally. And I was determined I was gonna, you know, enjoy myself at Fia that weekend. But I couldn't. I just physically and mentally couldn't. And we sort of had a discussion in the car. And I was like, I did feel bad. Because I feel like it's me sometimes that stops us from stepping forward sometimes. But- And then I also said to you, like, it feels like we go in circles. Yeah. But we're working on it. But it was nice that we both agreed that night something was wrong. Yeah, and we worked it out in the end. We did end up stopping on the way home. Yeah, someone wanted her- I wanted, like, a release more than anything. I think my head was pounding. I was stressed. And I just thought if we could, you know, I just thought if we could, you know, pull over and lay by and have some off time, then it might help. And it sort of did, to be honest. I chilled a bit. And- Got on. We continued to head home. Yeah. But I just think that whole night- It just, the sun was off. Yeah. And as we said, we worked it out in the end. Yeah, so yeah, that pretty much, it sums up our Fia. Yeah. Like, one of the most shortest stories we've had at Fia. Again, our worst night at Fia. Yeah. Not necessarily because of the club, but, you know, we got there. And, yeah, it was just one of those things. Yep. So, what we're gonna do is we are going to end it there. Yep. And next episode. We're not going to tell you where. We're not going to tell you when. But we visited a new club. Yep. And- Bucket was a good night. It needs more credit than it gets. It actually gets. So we will discuss that- In the next episode. Yes. So, socials. X. Instagram. Swing Hub. TikTok. We've got another one to add this week. Yep. And that is the Pineapple app. Yep, we are now on there. And that will come with the next episode. Yes. So, again, any messages, any questions, if you want to add anything, you know, drop us a message. We are, well, Mr. W at the minute is always at the other end of the phone. But Mrs. W is going to be on there this month, because if she isn't, she's going to end up- Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. I'm going to tie her in the dungeon at Black and White and let every bloke go in there and spank her. That might not be a punishment, you know. But, anyway, so, we are there. That will be a punishment, because it won't be nice. Just drop us a message. So, thank you for listening. And good night. Good night.