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The podcast hosts discuss various topics, including the recent submarine incident involving the Titanic. They also talk about step-parenting and the role of a stepdad in a family. They touch on the importance of therapy and discuss Killer Mike's new album as a form of therapy music. One of the hosts shares their personal experience with therapy and the impact it had on their life. what's up family welcome to forever my homie the podcast where we celebrate the spirit of friendship and bring you the latest in entertainment news and fun I'm your host Rich Lloyd I'm your host TY and in today's episode we're inviting you to join us the crew and become one of the homies. Just like that, they just become the homies, just like no application process. Well in this process they can. They kicking it, they vibing with us man, y'all like that I like that. Today we're gonna kick this off on some differences. I ain't seen the homie in a minute, how you been? How shit been going with you? I've been alright. Anything new happen, anything you caught on the social media world or the TV world? Yes, yes, yes. So the people in those submarines, they went to go see the Titanic. They ain't make it, damn. So this is my thing, what was the point? Like I don't, like what was they down there for? What was the goal? What was the? So there's two ways of looking at it. There's a couple ways to look at it. Okay, now you can look at it on the conspiracy level and say them billionaires was into some shit and somebody wanted them niggas to get the fuck out of here. And they threw them on the submarine? Them niggas, they got drowned. It wasn't them niggas on that submarine was it? Nah, it wasn't no black people on that. If it was some black people on that, every conspiracy theorist, all the black people who feel like the government got something against us, they ought to shut this shit down bruh. They'd be picking it outside the White House. I tell you one more time Simon, niggas wasn't on the boat and it wasn't in Miami. Like niggas don't really get on boats if we ain't leaving from Miami or coming back to Miami. Like where the fuck was this submarine even at? Well they had to be in the Atlantic if I'm not mistaken. I know the Titanic went down in the Atlantic. So they had to be in the Atlantic. But anyway, RIP to them and our condolences to the families. For sure. Did you see that shit about Cardi B? About what she was in? So Cardi B, so I guess one of the sons of the show, I mean not of the show but of the submarine shit. He goes to a Blink-182 concert and Cardi B like nigga you fake cause you ain't mourning your people right and shit. And I'm just like damn, like how the fuck a nigga, like what you supposed to do? Well how you know he rocks with his stepdaddy like that? I tell you one thing, I never liked none of my stepdaddies. I couldn't stand them niggas. Hey QM pictures some goofy ass stepdaddies right here. She has some cool stepdaddies man. You liked them niggas. They liked me, they was cool. They didn't like you. I didn't like them niggas. That's cause they was fucking your mama. That's such a weird ass sight. You know what, let me ask you a question. What's up? You ever had to be a stepdaddy? Back in the day. Back in the day? Back in the day, I tried. What was your biggest challenge with being like a stepdad? Well this nigga was about 6'3". Oh yeah. This nigga was about 6'3", he didn't want to listen to shit. His mama said go to bed, this nigga look at me and nigga you go to bed. See that's where you gotta show them who his daddy really is. Like nigga, you gotta meet your maker. Nah, nah, nah. You gotta meet your maker. Nah, you tell your mama, get this nigga bed time, raise this nigga, where this nigga daddy at? But that nigga clearly run the house. You know what I'm saying, what if that nigga beat you up? That nigga ain't run the house. Man, listen. That nigga ain't pay no bills. But, you wasn't walking around that bitch with your chest out though. Shit, I had that A38 on me. You had that equalizer? Man, what? You had that equalizer? Man, it was like a motherfucker. If I can recall, I think it was actually pretty cool being a stepdad if I think about it. Really? Yeah man, it was less pressure for real. All I had to do was just really take the kid out and you know what I'm saying, get a few things, like y'all said a few games or whatever around the holidays. I feel like as a stepdad, that is a good spot. I made it hard as fuck for myself. I couldn't stand them niggas. I don't know why. Like, they was good niggas though. You know what I'm saying? A good stepdad helps the kid's mom understand the kid where he's going through and where he's at. Especially if it's a boy. Because sometimes mothers, they be under so much pressure and what they feel like is a good mom and with the direction they feel like their child should be going in, that they really overlook what the kid is saying and what they want to do and what they want to be. So, you feel like a good stepparent is an extension of the child? Well, a good stepdad is like a therapist. He's a therapist to the family. Interesting. Because he's coming in through some trauma. So did. So that's, I'm glad you, okay. He's coming in through some trauma. The kid losing the father and they mom dynamic and now they got to take on this new thing. Like I said, you know. Okay, so dig this though. One of my homegirls just recently got remarried. Shout out to her. She's like, I low key feel some type of way about the marriage, about the relationship with the stepdad now. Because he don't be on his kid's ass. Like, he don't really say shit to her kids. But he damn sure, he don't even check his own kids. You know what I'm saying? And it's like, as a stepdad, is that your, like is your responsibility to come in there and get some order and some, like are you supposed to like check them kids, like them ain't your kids or do you? Well you got to see what the dynamic between the mother and the father really is before you come in. Yeah, before you come in. If you don't live there yet, you don't just come in just motherfucking knocking forts over and shit like you Snoop and Baby Boy. You don't just come in and do all that. And that's my shit. That's your shit? Damn yeah. I got tired of it maybe after the 60th time. You know, nigga, my best part nigga, is when that nigga in the shop with them little dresses and she like, oh, I said it is that. $40. $40. You look like that nigga. What kind of shit? I didn't say you act like that nigga. I said you look like that nigga. That was a woman, bro. We trying to be politically correct on this show. Back then, that was a man. No, that was a woman then, bro. You get tricked easily. I know. No, no, no. Hell no. I ain't say it was a woman. You know what? I ain't even about to go there, bro. Let me ask you a question. What's up? Alright. Did you know that Killer Mike dropped a new album? Have you heard that shit yet? Oh yeah. Fire. That shit is fire. Fire. And I like it because normally they try to make you think that as a rapper, as a profession, you should be aging out at a certain point. But he's basically spitting from a standpoint of a mature gentleman. Somebody who's in life that done experienced something. You know what I call that kind of music? I call it therapy music. Definitely therapy music. I feel like it's niggas that ain't grown up or niggas that's approaching the situation from a healed perspective. Cue that song by J. Cole and Lil Durk. You ain't heard that? I mean, that ain't Killer Mike. No, it ain't Killer Mike, but I'm saying it's in that vein. But in that genre, I want to say Killer Mike. That motherless song, I really felt that. I really feel like that's something that a lot of people are going to have to go through in this lifetime. But I think he definitely touched me and my lady definitely when we was vibing in the car listening to that. Definitely touched home in some different parts because again, we're losing somebody. Again, we're going through a couple different losses on this side. And like I said, that music just kind of resonated in a way to where it made me feel good. Feel good music? I love emotional music. It makes me tap in and feel good. Or it makes me feel like I want to go out here and get some more paper or some shit like that. I call it therapy music. Therapy music? I mean, that's what I think. Because when you listen to that shit, it puts you in a mindset of being aware and at a higher frequency of what the fuck's going on. I like the song where he was talking about rushing the D-Day or rushing the beach. Run nigga, run or something like that. And I'm like, I like that. I like the idea of really pushing the culture forward with music. Let me ask you a question. You ever been to therapy? I've actually sat in on a therapy session. Like an individual joint though? No, not individual. I sat in on a therapy session, but it was with a client. But at the end of the day, I got the scope of things and I realized that everybody needs therapy. Man, listen. No matter who you are, what age you are. And that's the crazy part. Everybody should at least have one session of therapy. More than one. You gotta go at least six months. At least six months. And get you a therapist that can relate to you. I would say, alright, so look. Get you someone who's understanding of your... Where you're coming from. Where you're coming from. But you gotta get someone that can hold you accountable too though. You know what I'm saying? They got the skill set. Cause you don't gotta get, like, alright, so I was in therapy for like two years. Like three years, really. Like three years I was going through some shit. Tell me about it. So, long story short, my life had really sped up, man. You know what I'm saying? And like on some real shit you're hearing at first. Like I was really thinking about suicide and everything. You know what I'm saying? Cause that shit was so like... You was gonna clock out? I mean, I don't want to say I was like really gonna clock out. But I could relate to somebody that did or that was thinking or trying to clock out. You know what I'm saying? Cause my mind was so like, oh, okay, I can see that. Cause I'm at my point too. You know what I'm saying? On behalf of the rest of the homies, I want to say I'm glad you did it. Shout out to the homies. Take that step. Yeah, for sure. For sure. Clap that up. Clap that up. Yeah, for sure. Cause we don't want to see no homies falling short of the goal. That's the whole purpose of this podcast now is to push the homies forward. You know what I'm saying? We're trying to make you... So hopefully, like you say, Ho did that. So hopefully you won't have to go through that. You know what I'm saying? Yes. And if y'all at home are experiencing just any symptoms of wanting to check out, go ahead and send us a DM. Go ahead and reach out to us. We're gonna try to get back and respond to everybody. But at the end of the day, we'll try to reach out to us. We'll try to get you the help you need. At least put you in the right direction. Cause again, everybody that rocks with us is one of the homies, man. One of the homies. When you clocking in for this hour and you chilling with us and vibing with us, you one of the homies. Facts. You one of the homies. Yeah, man. I would agree. So what's next on that agenda, man? So as we think about therapy and thinking about that, I think for me, let me ask you this question. When therapy is presented, right, why do you think as a black community, it's such a negative connotation on therapy? Like, all right, out of the homies. You know what I'm saying? I told you, I go. I went for a period. How many other homies can we really be like, oh, yeah, I did. You know, hey, if you out there, comment down below and let us know about it. But why do you feel like it's so much, you know what I'm saying? Like why do people feel like that? Yeah, like why they ain't talking with the therapy? I think in our community, we instantly try to make you feel like you crazy if you go to therapy or something like that or something's wrong with you. And not that you just need help trying to understand some things about yourself. But really, I think we have a negative view on therapy because we black, man. It's not something that was really welcomed in our households. It's not something that was really big in our communities. And hopefully, we can change that. Yeah, for sure. Hopefully, we can change that. There's not a lot of information out here on where to go to get help. No, it's not. We need more billboards, people. We need free services for therapy. We said black people should be free. We need to add that in our reparations. All black people should have therapy. Preach. We all coming from a deep-rooted trauma. It's passed down generations to generations. And I feel like that's something that, you know, to help this black family because I don't care how much money you got, somebody in your family. Yeah. Somebody in your family look like they need some help. Shit, not even that. We all do, though. Like even a person, like think about those people that be like, We all need some help. But that don't mean we all look like we need some help. It's somebody in your family. We all got that one? Yeah, look like. You got that one family? Yeah, you be looking at uncle. He just fill up his plate looking like he ready to kill some shit. And we need to get him some help. Yeah, I would agree. I know that ain't just mine. I know that ain't just mine. Hey, this your moment, bro. Talk about it. Yeah, all right. Talk about it. Talk about Uncle Joe and Bud. I ain't going to put him out here like that. I ain't going to put him out here like that. But if he call me again at 4 a.m. to talk about some bullshit that ain't got nothing to do with nothing. I'm talking about not no shit where it's understanding like I'm going through something. You say this is third time this week, huh? Man, I'm talking about he asking me about fishes. He asking me about animal planet questions. And I don't mind that at a reasonable hour. You say this nigga just want somebody to talk to? He gonna talk to. Virtual therapy is probably one of the biggest things going right now. Was yours virtual? Yeah, actually it was, though. And like, okay, so look, shout out my therapist. What the fuck? I don't even remember her name right now. But she was cool as fuck, though. Like she was an old white lady. She probably was like in her 50s or 60s. Tell me about that. So when I first, like I ain't even on cap. So like, all right, let me say this. Get out your mind that your therapist gotta look and be a particular way or a particular person. You don't feel like because you're a black man that your therapist should be someone that's black? No, it's like an actor. It's like a motherfucking person. They should be trained in the art of therapy. So they know, like if you're talking about, and that's what I loved about her because it took me a minute. Like, I'm like, bitch, we gonna invite you to the barbecue. You know what I'm saying? Like, the way she talked, she'd be like, yeah, T-Y. Like, you tripping. Oh, she had hot sauce in her bag. You can tip, nigga. She ain't have hot sauce, but she don't mind if you're like, you want some hot sauce? Yeah, give me a little bit. You know what I'm saying? Or she might be like, hey, where the hot sauce at? You know what I'm saying? Like I told her, I'm like, but you know, she like, no, because it's therapy rules, whatever, whatever. But I'm like, this bitch cool as fuck. You know what I'm saying? So one of the biggest misconceptions out there is that your therapist has got to be a black man because you a black man or a black woman because you a black woman. And I would say, nah, just get you somebody that's good. You know what I'm saying? Somebody that understands how to therapeutically deal with your ass. You know what I'm saying? Because I remember, like, I used to go to my therapist, and she'd be like, man, get your shit together. Like, what is it? You know what I'm saying? Theoretically, align my goals and my visions in a way that's like, yeah, this is a trigger. This is holding you up. This is whatever. But you've got to go through that because this is where you're trying to go. You know what I'm saying? Ultimately, it was how my shit kind of went and how my shit was. She really just was like, nah, you know, I know life is tough and that sucks and so on and so forth. But you've got to keep moving. You know what I'm saying? And giving me skill sets and resources to do that. You feel what I'm saying? So I think, like, on the therapy side, you know, just kill that idea that they've got to be X and really just be open. Like, because you don't know. Like, you don't know. And I told you, like, I was like, this shit ain't making sense. You know what I'm saying? Like, this shit ain't making sense. So give me one tip that the therapist gave you to help you deal with the situation. Okay, so dig. So dig this. And this is why everybody needs therapy. Okay, look, this is how she explains it. This is me. But this is Liffy time, so listen. So we, as people, are like paper. Mom and dad break up. So, you don't graduate on time. So, girlfriend break your heart. So, ditch your boyfriend but he cheating on you. So then by the time you look up, you know what I'm saying, this is you. With all these folds and these lines in you. You know what I'm saying? Which is like your triggers and shit that you've been going through. So, understanding that, okay, I'm never going to be that flat, clean piece of paper. I'm going to always have these triggers to me. And learning how to navigate, like, okay, you know, the relationship between my mom and dad not working. A trigger, because now I overcompensate because I want the relationship to work super hard. So, now I know that in my, you know, my dealings with women. So, now I'm just like, shit, if it's going to be what it's going to be, I don't got to go overboard. I'm more calm and comfortable because I know my natural reaction. Like, shit that I think is normal. Like, well, maybe I should call her again. Like, nigga, did she call you though? Alright, well, just let it go. You know what I'm saying? Because I know I'm a sucker for love ass nigga. Like, I ain't going to lie. Like, for sure. Hey, bitch ass nigga. Like, bro, Drake is famous because he be in love too. Yeah, but we don't know that nigga off screen. We don't know that nigga off screen. So, you really love me? Yeah, I really love you. Ain't that about it, bitch. Put a thing on black. I ain't seen you, man. And put a thing on. Listen, just because. You ever pulled up on your girl and she was doing wrong? Um, yes. So, wow shit. I can study for this. Well, that was pretty short. In my sense of chaoticness, I did go pull up. With them like. What kind of dog is that? That's a French Bulldog. This nigga's a French Bulldog groomer. And it's so wild because like, I got kids. I'm not a French Bulldog groomer. I don't groom dogs. What the fuck you call it? What do you mean? A pet owner? I thought you was like. You mean a breeder? Breeder, yeah. Okay, I'm not a dog nigga. Big difference between a groomer and a breeder. I'm not a dog nigga. So, I don't know. A groomer washes dog balls. Shout out to dog groomers. Hey, nothing against y'all. Nothing against y'all. Nothing against y'all. Because we got homies that's dog groomers, bro. I don't have any homies that's dog groomers. Bro, we got. Listen. We got homies that's dog groomers. But, it's nothing wrong if you wash dog balls for a living. There's nothing wrong with that. I appreciate my dog ball washer. That's funny as fuck. What? To be a dog ball washer. They make you. The lady that does my dog. Okay, so look. I got a dog. But, I don't like that I got a dog. Like, my kids. How did you get your dog? So, my last dynamic. So, my last dynamic. I got kids. And, I'm like, look. I don't think. You mean the last female you was dating? Yeah, dynamic. Okay, the last female you was with. The dynamic. Everybody at home don't know that. Do you know what a dynamic is or not? Listen. If you the homies. Get your notebook out. Alright. We're going to put you on the floor. Dynamics. Alright. That's how you reference somebody that you used to mess with. That's the last dynamic. Okay. Yeah. So, the last dynamic. I guess she kind of going through whatever. She's like, I want to get a dog. And, I'm like, look. I got a dog. So, we end up getting a dog. So, we end up getting a dog. And, then this bitch end up breaking up with me. So, now. She didn't take the dog? No. No. No. No. No. She didn't take the dog? No. The kids like the dog, though. So, I'm like, fuck it. Alright. We can rock out with the dog. And, okay. So, I will admit. I do like my dog. I just don't want a dog. Like, I don't. The responsibility. I don't. I'm not a dog person. Like, I. The dog can't sit on my couch. And, you got kids. He can't sit on my bed. He can't fucking put his face in my face. Like, I. I don't even like. Even like. You know how the little stomach. I don't even really like rubbing him. Cause, it's like. Nigga, you put the dog. I don't even like. I don't get down like that, bro. Like, I ain't that type of nigga. You know what I mean? I just try to rub him right here. Like, right here. Right here. So, I saw that nigga go get for me. You know what I'm saying? Like, I'm not about to. That nigga laid out. I'm like, ha. Like, nigga, get your bitch ass up. I'm not about to rub all on your stomach, nigga. Man. But, I like my dog. I'm just not a dog person. So, why didn't you make her take the dog when she left? Well, because. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. So. 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