convo w Karina

In the first episode of Conversations with Karina, the mystery guest host is revealed to be Clara. They discuss the topic of kindness versus being guarded. Clara believes it is easier to be guarded, but strives to be kind. Karina believes it is easier for her to be kind and emphasizes the importance of genuine connections. They reference articles that discuss how being guarded can affect relationships and how kindness contributes to a happy life. They also discuss societal perspectives on being guarded versus being kind. The podcast ends abruptly when Clara receives a phone call and leaves. Karina concludes the episode on her own. What's up everyone? Welcome to the first episode of Conversations with Karina. Today, we have a mystery guest host. How do you feel about being our first mystery guest host? It's really exciting, you know? I've always wanted to be on this podcast ever since I found out about it. Any guesses, guys? Any guesses at all on who our mystery guest can be? Hmm, none? Alright, I'll let y'all know the secret. It's actually the one, the only, Clara! Yay! Say some words for the audience, Clara. Well, my name is Clara, and I'm an entrepreneur. I just flew in from Miami. Wow, Clara, that's really interesting. Well, do you even know what you're here for? Do you know what the podcast, what Conversations with Karina is about? Not really, this is your first episode, so... Well, I didn't ask for all of that attitude. So, today's topic is actually gonna be kindness or barriers. What do you mean by that? Well, is it easier to be kind, or is it easier to be guarded? Oh, so like, what is this podcast about again? What's your opinion? How, in your life as an entrepreneur, do you find it to be easier to be kind or to be guarded? So, which is easier, basically? Yeah, which one in your life do you seek? Okay, well, I think it's easier to be guarded, but I find myself being more kind. Well, Clara, me personally, I find myself just to be such a kind light, and I really just like to be kind more, you know, more kinder than I like to be guarded. Really? You just find it easier, or do you just like being more kind? I find it easier in life to be kinder. Oh, that's actually really interesting, because one of my reasons why I said that I find it more easier to be guarded is because, like, let me just paint a picture for you, you know? Paint that picture. Okay, like, do you ever go to, like, Target? Well, like, actually, like, any store, let's just say it's late at night, okay, and this, like, random man just comes up to you, and he looks, like, a little suspicious, you know, like, why are you coming up to me? It's dark, like, there's no one around me. Yes. And your first thoughts, like, your initial instinct, like, just by nature, you know, is it going to be, oh, like, let me be nice to this man? Is it going to be, like, your guard's going to be up, and you're going to be like, okay, like, who are you? Like, what do you want? Like, why are you approaching me in the middle of the night? Like, what if he's going to rob me? And I feel like that's where maybe it's human nature, but I feel like just as a person, we should strive to go for those genuine connections, and maybe ask that man, is he okay? Well-being is better than, you know, just pushing people away. I feel like that's not good. Are you serious? Have you talked to a therapist about this? Well, it's a random man. Did you just say I should approach him? I never said approach him. If he looks, don't judge a book by its cover. That's what you're trying to say? Almost, almost. I am trying to explicitly tell you that maybe the man is unwell and needs your help. Okay, but I'd rather be safe than sorry. And that's where your opinion comes in. That's a valid point, but I feel like being guarded just comes more easier than being kind because of how instinctually it is. I feel like if you have that instinctual feeling or just if it's in your nature to be more guarded, you have to work on yourself personally. You just have to talk that out or work harder on just being more of an open person because in a relationship, in any type of relationship, you have to let that person in, at least just a little bit into just letting them in and letting them know you as a person. And I feel like it just brings such a genuine connection with that person and it just helps the overall relationship connect and build upon itself if you do take down those barriers. That's a really good, like, I can see what you're trying to say. And this actually, like, there was an article that I read on learningmind.com, which was written by Analee Mind, and she goes in depth about, like, guarded people in relationships, and it basically just says how guarded people struggle to show affection to their partner, don't really talk about their feelings, and this usually, like, ends with, like, their partner thinking that they don't care. Dang, maybe I should read that article. What's it called? Oh, it's called The Guarded Personality and Fits and Empowers. I'll check it out. I was actually reading an article also. Oh, wow. You read it? Yeah, actually, I do read. I read this article by greatergood.berkeley.edu, and it was titled How Kindness Fits into a Happy Life, and I feel like just to be happy, you have to, like, let people in and not be guarded, and, like, even though you've had trust issues with people in the past, you can still move from that to bring a greater good, and word for word in this article, it says that kindness is an important virtue for sustaining relationships, which helps to build a trusting and cooperative society. Wait a minute, I think I read that article. Was it written by Joe Sudeik? Yeah, actually, it was. How do you know? Uh, I'm just a bookworm. Wow, Claire, you actually read? I thought there was just that one article. Wow, that's kind of crazy coming from you, Claire. I thought you were a kind person, honestly. I am a kind person. So, what are your thoughts on, like, guarded people, like, in a societal point of view, you know? I feel like it's better to be kind in society, to create such a harmonious society. Like, if everyone's nice to each other, no one has to worry about mean people, unlike some people. Oh, I don't think being guarded is seen negatively in society. I feel like the opposite, which is being too kind, is seen as negative, because I've never been told that, like, oh, like, too guarded, like, no, stop, like, why don't you trust people, or something like that. But I have been told, like, oh, like, don't be so nice, or something like that. And they're like, oh, they're so vulnerable, and, like, naive, or something like that. I feel like a kind person is also, like, seen negatively, because have you ever met someone, okay, and they're like, oh, they're too kind, like, they're kind of sus, because they're too kind, like, what do you mean by sus? Like, suspicious. Oh, okay. But, like, you've never been in that position, where you're like, oh, I don't know, like, they're too nice to me, like, it's giving me a bad vibe. No, I feel like that's where your guardedness comes in, because you're just scared to let people in, especially if they're too kind. Okay, therapist. Okay, well, what were you trying to say? Um, yeah, so, basically, I think being a kind person. Wait, hold up. Wait, it's Dr. Miami. I told you to put your phone notifications off. No, but I, this is really important, like. I told you when you signed the podcast agreement to turn your notifications off. Well, I have to go, I'm sorry. I don't care what Dr. Miami is calling you for. I have to leave, like. No, no way. Okay, bye. No way. Chat, if y'all couldn't see that, if y'all aren't watching on YouTube Live, then y'all need to see her walk out on me. I swear, I'm never doing a podcast with that woman again, I swear. It was a good podcast, not too much. Don't you have a call to get? I don't know. Alright, guys, well, I guess that wraps up the entire podcast. Um, I don't have a co-host right now, so I'll be doing the outro myself. Alright, guys, bye. See y'all next week.