Talk it out - Episode 1 (Part 1)

This is a conversation between Chelsea and her husband Ronnie about starting a podcast focused on the importance of open communication and listening to others. They emphasize the need for respectful discussions and the ability to disagree while still maintaining love and respect. Chelsea also discusses her word for the year, which is "balance," and how she wants to apply it to different aspects of her life. Ronnie agrees that balance is important for both of them and they discuss their struggles with finding balance in their roles as parents and partners. Okay, so this is our first time ever recording and my name is Chelsea and my husband Ronnie is also here and we think we are going to name the podcast like Keep Talking or Talk It Out. We are not really sure, basically we kind of got this idea because we kind of think maybe that's what is wrong with like the world today is people aren't willing to just sit and talk it out, like, but the other issue is not just talking, it's people hearing and listening to actually hear what's being said rather than taking offense to it. And so, we just want to shout over each other, yeah, yeah, well they're only wanting their opinion to matter and not taking consideration somebody else's point of view. It doesn't mean you have to go and go against your morals as a human and your religion and all of those things, it's just hearing another person out and trying to understand so that you can be like, okay, I get where this person is coming from. And it's perfectly fine to disagree with each other. Yeah, at the end of the day, even Ronnie and I agree to disagree on some things and I think that's fine. That's my favorite part about our relationship is he lets me have my opinions and I feel safe about my opinions and then he also is allowed to have his opinions and he can feel safe with his opinions. And it doesn't mean that we don't banter back and forth, you know, about things that maybe we don't agree with, but at the end of the day, if we just cannot agree, we still respect each other and we love each other. And people, I think, would have a lot more in common than they realize if they would just sit down and talk it out. Yeah, your political view is not what makes you up as a person. Your religious view. Or any view. There's more to you than just those... Just a small piece of the pie. But there was something I did want to talk about. Obviously, this is our first podcast and we probably won't even post it, but we're just going to see what it looks like to have talking points and go through that. I would say, basically, like, okay, Ronnie's sister every year is like, oh, guys, what is your word? Like, did you hear a word from God or something to start your new year off? And I think it's fun to do that and I actually, recently in the last couple weeks, have gotten a word and it's come to me in several different ways, like just randomly talking to people and the word just stood out to me every single time and the word for me would be balance. And so, basically, let me pull up the dictionary definition of balance because I did look it up. So, basically, a condition in which different elements are equal or in the correct proportions. Keep or put something in a steady position so that it does not fall. So, for me, I just was kind of like, I need balance in my life. But you can apply that to so many different areas and I feel like it could be religious ways, food, like, all the struggles, like being a mom, being a wife, all the things and like that word just really stuck out to me. And it's basically also, it has, I know that balance has a lot to do with temperance also, which also, that word means like having self-restraint. And so, which means we allow our deepest principles to hold our passions in check. And I just kind of went down a rabbit hole of like what those things would like mean to me and I think, I don't know, what do you think, Ronnie? I think everybody needs to, I think in general, people need to work on having balance for sure. I know that that's your quote unquote word for the year, which I think is a good word for you because I agree, you also need to have balance in your life because you usually get a little bit extreme, one extreme or the other and it like, you'll either hermit in the house for three days and not talk to anybody and not get any help with anything or you just start trying to do anything and everything you can for other people. I don't know if it's like a coping mechanism or not, but I just think balance is definitely a good word for you. Balance in general is a great word for me also, that's definitely not like a word that I was given, but everybody needs to have balance, especially me, I'm with you on that one. I also will go one extreme or the other in just about everything. That's true. Maybe the word was meant for both of us. Maybe it was a whole family word. Yeah. I don't know. Yeah. But yeah, what do you think you need balance-wise? You have to think you were given the word for a reason, you know what I mean? I think like... Is it to fix something or you just need to also improve something you're already doing? I don't think a word for the year is always like, you need to do this better. I don't know that I think it's for the whole year, I think however long this season is going to be. Yeah. I think it's to remind me that, hey, let's start the year balanced, like clean slate. Don't spread yourself so thin. I feel like sometimes I'm really bad about like, okay, I'll talk about just being a wife too, like I'm all day with these kids and I'm just like wore out. And then by the time I see you, you've been gone for a few days, you got the scraps left. And I'm like, here's your kids, bye. But I've been better about it because... I think that's a little bit of you. I don't feel that way when I get back in town. I don't feel like I get the scraps and stuff. I do feel like I show up and I kind of cause a whirlwind because I've been gone for four days. I show up and I'm like, let's go to Main Event, let's go out to eat, let's go buy some toys. And I'm like, they don't deserve any of that. I think some of mine is a little bit of coping also because I think I don't like being gone for four days. It's probably less hard on them than it is me. I probably definitely project a lot of it. And you're going to be able to hear our kids in the background because yes, they are awake. It's a holiday, so maybe not. Exactly. But yeah, I just think I could be better about prioritizing things in my life. Not always saying yes to things, learning to say no, and saving some time for myself. Not good about that. And doing things I actually enjoy doing. That's not one of the things that I like. It's hard for me to want to just send you to do stuff by yourself because it usually involves money. But it's one of those, I also see where you don't do much of anything for yourself. I know, but my problem is I could go do whatever by myself, but it's like, I don't actually love to be by myself. I would rather go do something with you. Well, yeah, yeah, we could set that up more often. Anybody out there know some babysitters? Here's one.