009 - Motivation

The podcast discusses the topic of motivation and how to stay motivated to achieve health goals. The host interviews Mother Nature, who explains that motivation emerges naturally when goals align with core values. The conversation emphasizes the importance of understanding one's values and reframing goals to align with them. It suggests that lack of motivation may indicate a misalignment between goals and values. The podcast concludes by encouraging self-compassion and considering core values when setting goals. Hello, and welcome back to the Burnt Out Podcast. Today we're going to have a chat with Mother Nature again, this time about motivation. I think about this topic a lot. It's a question that my clients ask about all the time, and to be honest, it's something I struggle with too at various areas of my life. So the question is, how does one stay motivated to become healthy? Or meet any of life's goals for that matter? Just take a moment to go online, and you'll come across countless people who will tell you the answer. You'll find people telling you to plan your day before bed, wake up at 4 o'clock in the morning to get your head started on your competition, or find accountability partners. The suggestions are endless, all to keep the motivation flowing. So you follow the advice, and you're still unmotivated. So I think it's time we sat down and had a conversation with someone who never gets distracted from her goal, Mother Nature. Welcome back to the show Mother Nature. Thanks so much for coming to talk to us today about motivation. So I guess I'll get straight to the point. How do people stay motivated to achieve their health goals, or any other goals for that matter? It seems to be a trick that only a few people can master. You haven't? How come? It seems like we've got the ultimate never-ending job. Are you saying we are? Well, some people seem to be able to set their mind on a goal and just achieve it, whilst others, and I include myself in this really, will set a mind on a goal and promptly get amnesia about it in moments like this. So, how do people stay motivated to achieve their health goals, or any other goals for that matter? It seems like we've got the ultimate never-ending job. How do people stay motivated to achieve their health goals, or any other goals for that matter? Well, some people seem to be able to set their mind on a goal and just achieve it, whilst others, and I include myself in this really, will set a mind on a goal and promptly get amnesia about it in moments like this. Well, yeah. Why is that? Um, values. What do you mean? Okay, we can only fulfil our core values, not our expectations of ourselves. Where does motivation come into that? Okay, my head hurts now. I'm going to need you to explain that. Okay, my head hurts now. I'm going to need you to explain that. Okay, my head hurts now. I'm going to need you to explain that. Okay, my head hurts now. I'm going to need you to explain that. Okay, my head hurts now. I'm going to need you to explain that. Okay, my head hurts now. I'm going to need you to explain that. Okay, go on. Okay, my head hurts now. I'm going to need you to explain that. Okay, my head hurts now. I'm going to need you to explain that. Okay, my head hurts now. I'm going to need you to explain that. Okay, my head hurts now. I'm going to need you to explain that. Okay, my head hurts now. I'm going to need you to explain that. Okay, my head hurts now. I'm going to need you to explain that. Wow. I don't think I've ever thought of it like that. Are you saying that motivation emerges naturally when your goals align with your values, but motivation will remain dormant if your goals don't really register with your personal values? That's blowing my mind. So, when a motivation expert tells you what you need to do to get motivated, is that advice only correct if it aligns with your core values? How so? Do you agree with me? Do you agree with me? Do you agree with me? Do you agree with me? Do you agree with me? Do you agree with me? Do you agree with me? Do you agree with me? Do you agree with me? Do you agree with me? Do you agree with me? Do you agree with me? Do you agree with me? Do you agree with me? Do you agree with me? Do you agree with me? Sure. I know loads of people that will always book a red-eye flight just to get a few extra hours by the pool on holiday. I couldn't be less motivated to do that. I find it really stressful, especially with a young child in tow. Ah, and likewise, they don't value the solitude of a sunrise hike at the cost of losing their sleep. So it's not a matter of motivation at all. It's all about values. That's so interesting. OK, how about this. If a person develops a wellbeing goal because of a health scare or something, and they don't really value their new diet, for example, how do they stay motivated? OK, let's see. It's unlikely you can motivate yourself to stay on the diet. But you could reframe why you're on that diet in the first place and have that framing meet a true core value of yours. OK, well, this values-based motivation thing is just mind-blowing. It's amazing. Thank you. Let me do a round-up of what I've learnt so far in our conversation today. OK, motivation is not something you can force. It emerges naturally if you align a goal with a true core value of yours. A good sign that you're not aligned is actually the lack of motivation you feel. You may even rapidly develop amnesia around the goal that you set for yourself. That's a sure-fire sign that you need to rethink it. When you have a health scare and you don't naturally value the lifestyle changes that you need to make, try reframing the activities towards something else that you do value, like returning to an activity that you love more quickly. And finally, remember, when aiming for a goal, we can only fulfil on our core values, not our expectations of ourselves. So it might be worth thinking more about what your core values are than worrying about remaining motivated all the time. Thank you. I've learnt so much in this conversation today, so thank you very much for coming in and talking to me about motivation. I didn't realise that I'd be really having a conversation with you about core values, so maybe we can dig into that a little bit further in another conversation. OK, that's great. So thank you again for coming in. It's been a great conversation and I look forward to speaking to you again soon. So I hope you enjoyed this conversation today. For me, the most important thing to take away is to be more compassionate with yourself around your waning motivations. Think of it like this. Even the most motivated person you know lacks motivation in some areas of their life. You just know them for the things that they value most deeply. So if you're lacking that motivation, maybe you've just not found the right value to attach to the goal. Have a think about whether or not the goal that you've set for yourself really matters to you deep down in your core values. If you're looking to make more sense of your health and wellbeing, then please check out the links below. You'll find a free course over there that you can sign up for today, or if you'd like a personal approach, it would be my pleasure to coach you. Thanks for listening, and remember, great health emerges naturally when you allow Mother Nature to guide you. www.mooji.org