Red Flag, Green Flag

He called me pretty like oh my goodness. He said he wants to hang out with me. I can come to his house girl He wants to see you. Tell him to remove himself from the house and go meet you somewhere Hi love welcome to our second episode of Branded and Tailored We appreciate the positive feedback that we've received from our very first episode So just before we start this episode just wanted to say thanks And we appreciate all the comments feedback from all of you guys. So again, thank you Yeah, we really recommend and welcome any feedback that you have And we've actually gotten some interest in people saying they have some rebuttals that they want to make or things that they have to say So DM us on Instagram at branded and tailored if you're interested and becoming a guest on our show So Taylor, what have you been up to this past week? It has been well I mean this week has just been like a whirlwind between work and and all that but this past weekend I got the chance to travel to Tulsa, Oklahoma I've never been to Oklahoma before so that was an experience and I was there for the NCAA wrestling national championships and great turnout successful weekend overall we had two three-time national champions eight not all Americans and one big natty daddy National title that Penn State won as a team. So yeah, like I said very successful exhausted but you know ready to start the week and hopefully finish this semester strong here on out and Yeah, that was my weekend. How about you Brandi? How was your weekend? I Just needed like a chill weekend. So I did that. I Feel that I got my toes done. Whoo. I did see that. Yeah, nice pink Yeah, I got hot pink because I wanted to see if I could be girly and like a bright color That's not white and I've decided once again, I Don't I don't like it. You don't like the pink I just have to it's a cute pink, but I just like always have to retry things I don't like to make sure I don't like that money and then I still don't Celery, yeah, I don't get why you don't like celery. It's terrible. It's water. It doesn't taste like water It tastes like water. It tastes like nothing. It's a bitter Inky water do you like do you like cucumbers? Yeah cucumbers and celery eight tastes the same they taste like nothing Not at all. It has to be a genetic thing like cilantro where the celery just is they totally did if you guys Have strong feelings about celery, please DM us because I have strong feelings that it it's fine You can add celery to anything. It doesn't really Do away or add flavor, it's it's just they're just there to fill you up It's only acceptable and things weren't hidden like gumbo. I just don't get it. It's like what you're like 85% water 15% nasty Anyway, so Yeah, great successful weekend. Oh, don't you have a competition up and coming to or yeah, so this is coming weekend I am going to an all-women's powerlifting competition. So Super excited for that. There's gonna be a bunch of powerful women. They're like strong as shit So I'm super excited to see what they do. It's just amazing. I Might have how no I did cry on Friday at the gym yes, I did my friend was having a hard time picking the weight up and she was just in her head and she went into the office and sat there for a little bit came up and Pulled the weight and you know fell down and not fell but like, you know, she dropped her knees like oh my god I just did that and she was crying and then I started crying. I'm like women are powerful, man It's so powerful. Yeah, I mean so I was crying there are pictures of it But yeah, yeah, I forgot to tell you about that. I cried. Yep. Yep. Oh my goodness I I just feel like there are times especially now that I'm older like I get so caught up in Just the emotions of whatever situation I'm in or when I'm watching a movie I really feel for the characters and I get so invested and then I just start bawling But then when it comes to physical pain, hey, you have to chop my arm off in order for me to cry I don't know but when it comes to somebody else cry like oh my god Really yeah, it's so bad when I was younger I used to laugh at my mom for crying at movies and now I'm worse than she is God dang, I'm a mom I never wanted to be this way. Here I am. I'm crying for no reason. I need to laugh And now I'm like laughing at myself You know, man, cuz it's together be Together blame it on the estrogen. Yeah. Yeah, for sure There's a lot going on throughout the month every month for a long time. Yes. Yes for sure Anyway We got a lot of feedback, especially from our male viewers on You know things that they would like for us to talk about and one of the underlying kind of mean Topics was what we look for in guys and like what makes different guys stand out And though it was aimed more positive. I think it's also a good idea to Throw in some of the things we absolutely do not look for things that are really kind of, you know Turn off maybe another way to say that for sure for sure. Yes. So today we're going to talk about different things and bumble our way through of Red and green flags that we find whenever we're meeting new people Yeah, so I mean I guess we'll start with some red flags and I mean and these are Beginning just light red flags and we'll filter and add in Green ones or things that we suggest to change if there are changes to be made. I don't know But my my first red flag okay, so when you're on bumble when you're on these dating apps if you're not a Comedian like just the dad jokes or like the dad like one-liners or just like the cringy one-liners Just leave them be. I rather have a guy maybe like reach out and ask I don't know specifically about like a prompt that I put out there or like one of my pictures and like Question about like, oh, it looks like you travel like what area was that or you know, whatever but yeah I have one guy that I saved he said Dang you're looking like a healthy snack That's kind of cringy and of course, yeah, I didn't respond to that because I don't know what to say to that Things that are really funny if it's somebody that you already know Probably not the best way to open up Honestly, that sounds so lame but one of the big things is just Have a normal conversation So many people are out here trying to do the most and real cringy things real pervy things So if you have someone that's just trying to have a normal conversation, it's pretty refreshing For sure or just how about this pay attention to details? Okay, we know I mean everybody like especially You're talking to multiple people, okay, you're throwing things out there and seeing what catches, right? so I had a guy that Totally like got my name wrong and it's fine, but So I reached out to him because I'm bumble the women have to so matched with him and I just said hey Happy Friday, you know just simple as that like obviously early Friday morning is when I messaged him He responds back. Hey, Jordan. Happy Friday. Lol. I Definitely do sports which is your favorite and then he quickly responds back. He goes. Oh my god I'm so sorry about that. I meant Taylor I just woke up and I was sending that message and obviously my brain was not functioning properly yet Excerpt is is your brain a Dell computer? I mean if I did that and I said, hey Jordan and like our name if it was like, hey Tyra or I don't know Teresa I doesn't TV like okay, but Jordan like okay clearly I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know Doesn't TV like okay, but Jordan like okay clearly you're talking to some girl They Jordan like that's a copy and paste. Yeah, just just take the L by guys. Yeah, you know, of course Yeah, I know. Yeah That's a big L and I mean you know for one. Yeah after I saw that like, yeah, I mean Sorry, I like guys that pay attention to detail. So yeah. Yeah next don't respond back This isn't even like a bumble but like, you know You get every once in a while like even on social media not the updating apps weird messages when I got yesterday actually was Hey miss and then my last name the Lord's my shepherd, you know what I want So random so wild What yeah, I don't even know who this man is. It's not even somebody that I know It's not like funny I haven't talked to you in a while that's goofy. Mm-hmm stranger Don't bring Jesus into this Jesus does not need to be part of this conversation. Oh, no open up with Jesus. Yeah, that's kind of Creepy, we don't love we don't love that but back to the details part So this is my little like snapchat thing. So guys guys and gals, um Snap chatting again when you're sending these pictures to people or videos or whatever make sure you're pay attention to the surrounding background because So there's this guy that when I used to live in Florida went on dates with and now like because he lives in Florida He'll just send me like snapchats every once in a while and like it's fine, you know, whatever like we're friends, but it's not Serious, you know what? I mean? So he'll snap me and the one snap that he sends me it's like him at a bar and it's like drink is right there like that's the main focus of the picture and So I received a snap. I look at it and you know how bars have the back of the bar. It's a gigantic mirror Yeah, so like I saw the picture. I'm like, wait a second I look at the mirror and I see a girl next to him and it was just them two like So, I don't know whatever your intentions are if you're trying to make somebody jealous I guess you can do that But if your attention is to not just say like yay Happy Thursday get wild like pay attention to the surrounding background. And again, like I said, this wasn't a serious Relationship or serious thing. So I mean I just responded back like ah looks fun I like it, you know, I'm not gonna call him out on it because again, it's not that serious like cool. Enjoy your date But how bad would you be? You're on a date with somebody snapping another girl like clearly right there like ooh Well, there's that you know, some women really pay attention to details and we might be those women. Yes But it's just it's not that hard like that was really I mean, it wasn't like I was looking either I just happened to see it. You can see what we see when you take a picture for sure For sure my guy Yeah, I mean, it's not not hard But I gotta snap my bro. I got snap. Yeah, so there's that Something else is another red flag for me is when guys are over complimentary Everybody likes a good compliment every once in a while, but if you're gonna give them have them be real compliments Don't start off with just saying things like oh, wow. You're so amazing. Blah blah blah my guy Like dude, you don't know me. You don't know anything about me. You don't know enough about me to decide that So if there are things specific things that you like about somebody you can compliment those specific things But if somebody's just making all these general like overarching Compliments like I just I really really don't like that And this is especially true When somebody's not like trying to really get to know you and they're not asking questions about you All they're doing is complimenting you. I wonder what guys like that are looking for Number one, but the other thing too is if this is just kind of how they communicate that kind of tells me that someone's pretty Shallow and I don't love that How do you feel about that Taylor? No, I agree. I feel like if you really want to compliment somebody First pay attention to what their interests are what they're into what they're about their passions, whatever and then compliment on that Yeah, um, like whenever I'm talking to a guy like wow, you're really you're passionate about it. I appreciate your motivation I appreciate your effort. Like wow, you're so hardworking like all those other Characteristics like make that person that individual not why you're so pretty You're so handsome like cool. Anybody can be pretty anybody can be handsome and good-looking if they put effort into it But you know what what makes them that that individual like you're really you're wow. You're you're a great listener Exactly. You know, I appreciate the support or wow, you're like I said, you're hard-working You're you have all these accolades like that's awesome Appreciate that. Be specific about it. Mm-hmm instead of just saying like Taylor, you're so awesome Cool, what's awesome about me? There we go, I already knew I'm awesome, but but tell me what tell me why Yeah Try to be specific and Then that hits different because it shows that you're paying attention but also that you're you're being thoughtful about what you're saying instead of just Saying nice things. It'll really mean anything. They know a Lot of women get very Enamored and guilt excited about guys it's giving them compliments and you know, then I'll ask friends when this happens what the compliments are and I'm just like Yo, he's saying that to everybody Nothing. He thinks right now is specific to you Run. Oh my god. He called me pretty like oh my goodness. He wants to hang out with me I can come to his house girl But he wants to see you tell him to remove himself from the house and go meet you somewhere Mm-hmm, and you know like as I'm getting older My confidence level is just like completely risen to a whole new level like maybe younger 20s Taylor Um, I don't know like if a guy actually I'll tell this quick story cuz oh, whatever Hey, not not really quick, but this is me being like just funny But this high school crush of mine will like my stories all the time and he's still Gorgeous looking too bad. He lives far away. But whatever he already knows us. That's fine But if he were to like like my stories back when I was like early 20s, I would be like Sam girling Oh my god, like my stories like what does this mean? I turn alive a like my gods are like if you get a message me You're gonna hang out like oh my god now like so like my stories and I think I don't know recently He liked the third story of mine. So I reached out like so I'll be dating Which is funny if you already know Like alright, so when you gonna be my boyfriend And you because well, when are you gonna move here? It clearly doesn't live in PA anymore Anyway, I'm like, yeah, I'm not happening anytime soon. Yes. We'll have to reconvene, you know another time probably tomorrow See you soon, babe. See you soon. They're in my fight now wink face The emojis chill with the emojis, yeah, but I mean with people that you know, you know, it's like again not that serious So yeah, I can communicate emojis if you know somebody but Don't we get me Don't wink. Don't don't think that's hung out Just be calm be calm cool collective and that's the red flag So another red flag that That we have on our list is when you're talking to somebody and they only have negative things to say about their exes or about people that they dated or maybe they're just a Negative person in general. You don't like that. No, I don't like that at all I think if you only have negative things to say about everybody that you've dated That probably says something about you and just how you are in general as a person I get that we can have bitter situations with some people, but if it's a bitter situation with everybody That's not a good sign. And I think that's a problem Like my ex I said, we're on good terms. We're together a long time Like do I have some negative things to say about him like sure it's negative for me, but maybe not for everybody But overall he's a good dude Overall he's a good dude Why was I with him for so long if I only thought shitty things about him like it's Doesn't make sense when people do this. What do you think? Right? I mean if you're you know dating somebody and then you had a falling out Yeah, there's a reason why there's a falling out for sure But you know, especially if you're with somebody in a relationship for a long time There's a reason why you're with that person. It wasn't initially all that bad There are times when you had a lot of great times and I mean with people that I've dated Long periods short periods like yeah, there's definitely a lot of great moments I had a lot of funny moments and a lot of great memories that I can reflect on said Yeah, like we had a great time like this was fun and then you know and by saying like yeah, the reason why we didn't work out was Because of this or that or whatever, but it doesn't make the whole experience bad And I'm definitely like the positive optimistic kind of person like I like to see the goodness out of all people At least initially so for me whenever I'm meeting somebody and they're really draining me bringing out the negative like oh Not even about dating just at work. These people are just so negative and oh my job sucks and Like oh god, like I just everything for everything. It's the worst It's just you know, it's so draining. I get like yeah work can be stressful Personal life can be stressful But you know We try to like power through it and then like especially too if you're out there dating like you don't want to unleash all that On to somebody that you just met like that. I've had dates like that before too. Oh my god I had a first date like that before You know, I asked one guy or sorry the guy asked me because you know Taylor like you're so cool Like why are you single? I hate when I you're so cool overly broad compliment. I hate that It's why are you single? I'm like, well shoot my guy like we're in kovat So one we're not allowed to see people like kind of taking a risk here I don't know why I'm taking a risk to see you. But here we are and Then you know, I just told him like well, I hate to sound cliche, but I haven't met that person where I'm connected with yet You know, why are you and he goes off and says like well, I'm a bad communicator I don't text right away I have family issues and then it went a down a rabbit hole for like a half hour It was just like oh man Like he like I didn't even want to ask this but he like felt like he needed a free therapy session apparently So there's that so yeah, please don't do that one-on-one therapy with Taylor I mean is surprisingly it happens a lot a lot more than I was I would like it to at least with New people that I'm not trying to have a therapy session with I'm just trying to meet people Yeah, it's a great that somebody recognizes things that they would like to work on It's not great if that's the only thing that you broadcast the potential partners What am I getting into you with you? It's all that you have to say about yourself or other people's negatives like Who wants that? Nobody wants that but like another thing too, I feel Okay, being good-looking and having great looks It's kind of like a job interview like having a great resume it gets you that Initial step like you have to have attraction like we can't ignore that you got to be attracted to that guy or girl or whatever But then to keep things going there has to be some kind of energy positive energy if you can that's what's going to prolong this relationship to happen, so Whenever we're talking, you know initially getting into the dating pool If you're newly single Like we talked about in our previous episode work on yourself work on your confidence level What makes you you and then that is going to create such a an energy that other people are going to be attracted to they're gonna Yeah, they're gonna want like wow like Brandy is just like this strong woman. She is Motivating she's inspiring like I want that energy I I need to talk to her and that's what's going to attract you to other people around you when I'm around you I feel good Exactly like that's what you need So on to our next red flag, this is a huge one for me It's people not having any friends Because believe it or not this does happen It kind of makes me not kind of it makes me very nervous when somebody doesn't have people like long-term people in their lives Because I don't really know what that says about you doesn't say great things If you don't have people that want to stick around I want to be around you And then Taylor has one that kind of flows with this Yeah, I mean, I don't really have a story for this but just like a comment of when you're meeting somebody and You are their only interest. So maybe they like I mean find you fascinating and that's really cool. But When they're texting you all day and it kind of just makes you wonder like man, do you have any other hobbies? Do you have any other interests like for me? Like yeah, it's cool Like I'm glad we can talk all day like that's fine But rather there needs to be some space there needs to be some distance because I mean at least for me distance makes the heart grow fonder and You know, what am I missing or what am I? You know able to appreciate Something about somebody if we're just talking all day long I want somebody that also has like a goal in mind and Interest in mind and is doing something on the side to like hey, let me get back to you. I need to do Whatever. I mean, that's at least my thing. Yeah other stuff going on Right, right. Like I just it kind of hey, what are you doing? Taylor? Let's hang out Taylor. What are you doing Friday? What about Saturday? What are why are you so busy? Why can't we hang out like no? Please find your own stuff, dude So this one would have some stories but here's a little red flag green flag cautionary tale This was another one that seems like it should be pretty obvious But beware of people who try to get you drunk on the first date Under that's not good So this is years and years and years ago when I first moved here But I met up with the guy and we went to the bar and I was like, you know, I'll have a couple drinks I'm not gonna get myself drunk. I'll have two and then chill and go home Which I think is perfectly reasonable, but it was not reasonable to this guy. I Had my two and he said hey, you know like you want to get some more beer and I said if you want to you can But I'm done drinking because I have to drive home He bought an entire other pitcher of beer Then poured me another glass and I wouldn't drink it. So that you know, I I Said I was gonna have to I'm done. I told you I was done drinking He says well, why didn't why did I buy this other pitcher you stated your boundaries? Yeah I don't know why he bought the other picture because I told you I wasn't gonna drink anymore And then from there he proceeded to tell me that I might as well keep drinking because I cannot drive home anyways and If I insist on driving that I'm going to have to come to his apartment first To sober up, but don't worry. We don't have to like get in the bed or anything I can just hang out on the couch and like nap it off or something Um Creepy so this clearly did not go over well and he just kept going and going and going and at some point I looked at him and I thought you know, like I'm an adult if I want to go home. I'm going to go home He didn't like that kept going on with it and I eventually Stood up put my coat on looked him down the eyes that fuck you and I left Good for you because there's a lot of women that would just you know, be submissive and like, okay, like that's fine And no, that's not fine. That's not okay. No guy should make you guy or girl Nobody should make you feel uncomfortable in any kind of scenario Especially when you stated your boundaries clearly from the beginning like no, I'm only having two drinks I am here just to meet you and I'm not here to get drunk. That's not okay Mm-hmm and Yeah, I even got a text afterwards like everybody at the bar asked why you were such a bitch No, they didn't and if they heard what you were saying, they would have not been happy with you and said go girl I'm glad you got out. So I guess the Moral of the story here is if somebody's making you uncomfortable like that Do not be afraid to leave the situation like do not stay where you're uncomfortable because clearly that guy did not have good intentions Yeah, and I'm trying to use no manipulative tactics to at the end like oh that everybody was saying why like Yeah, I'm making you feel bad. All right. No, sorry. Sorry, sir. You know my thoughts when I so politely left But then here's where this kind of, you know turns into a green flag completely different story Completely different story, but another one is the first time I was hanging out with the guy. This is also years ago We went to a bar we were having some drinks and I already had two but like I thought I was fine So I told him I'm gonna order a third one and he looked at me and he said Yeah, are you are you sure that you should do that? And I said, yeah, I've only had two I'll be fine And I was not fine And then at some point I Realized what I was not fine. I looked at the board and figured out they were nine percenters or something like that and I Drunk talk is that that's why I'm so drunk. It's because they're nine percenters and he said That's when I asked you The green flags are the people that are don't even know you and they're already kind of trying to look out for you Not the people who are trying to look out for themselves. That's the red flag 100% yeah, we're still friends sometimes It depends on the day, right? Well, let's like turn the page and look at some green flags and I mean well with these green flags, too I guess there's some red flags that we can Say this, but whenever you're meeting people hanging out For I feel like this is more so for guys that but I mean, maybe there's some Aggressive girls out there for sure. Yeah, I only date guys. I wouldn't know Okay, well anyway You don't be touchy-feely right from the get-go. You like for the guys or girls Wait to have that initiation Initiation because I've had guys before like will like go on a date and they're already like trying to like touch up on my thigh and like just like I don't know like try to be way too close and We just met like Bro, I do not know you like that. It turns are you? Please please stop like I don't know where this is especially at the beginning I don't know you like that. Yeah, like nah and even Emmy for me in general being out in public I don't like to be all up on somebody's like business or somebody to be up in my business either like nah I'm definitely more of a PDA or than Taylor but Still not still not like an aggressive PDA but it is very uncomfortable when you first meet somebody and they're already trying to touch all over you and it's just like I Don't even know you don't do that Hints to yourself like we'll get there if we get there, but like don't push it and I think another one that kind of Ties into this is If you do say no when somebody tries to initiate something is how they respond to you saying no There's people that are like, okay, cool. That's fine Like we'll wait until you know, you're ready Like I'm good with whatever you want to do Like we'll just take our time if and when you want to like, let me know and then there are people who get mad about it And then they're not people that you want to stick around with Or people like they'll hear you say no and like, okay. Okay. Got it. And then they'll Do it again. They continue. It's like no like no means no no means no So don't touch up on my thigh. I push your hand away and say, you know, no like okay get the hint No, don't touch me like that but you know You do have guys that are understanding and give you space and like, okay Like I get it like you you want to be you and have your space and that's completely fine another green flag So I've only had this happen once to me and I thought it was really really thoughtful I wish it worked out with this guy because he was super sweet. We just I didn't feel like the connection was there But he was super thoughtful and I thought for our very first date We went out to dinner but before we went out he asked me hey Before I make plans to go out to dinner. I just need to know do you have any food allergies? So that way if I plan something for a date, you know you you're able to enjoy the meal and I just thought that was super sweet and super thoughtful because No guy has ever asked me that before and I mean, you know, I have loved food and thank goodness I don't have a food allergy Like that would be you know deal-breaker and I wouldn't be the joyful experience like I know my sister She is such a picky eater and really hates seafood and I love seafood So any like guy that takes her out and hopefully they don't take her to a seafood restaurant nice fancy Hoity-toity and she's like great. I can't eat anything I hate everything Yeah, so that I feel like that is I mean a good suggestion for guys or girls to throw out there Maybe for a first date like hey before I plan anything. Do you have any food allergies or Anything that you really dislike that I shouldn't plan or order for us. Mm-hmm Yeah, I think that's that's even something that I hadn't thought about which is is very thoughtful Another thing too when we're Yeah, I'm kind of talking already about people kind of having your best interest in mind and not just theirs Is people that make sure that you're safe. So whether or not a date goes well or not, I think it's It's a good sign when somebody asks. Hey, like did you make it home safe? Like are you all right? It's just something it does not take a lot of effort. But I Like that I like the follow-up text. Yeah, did you make it home like it's just as simple as that. Yep. I did. Thank you Had a great night Or I didn't and we should never do that again, but I'm glad you're home. Yeah There's a big green flag for you. I mean to quality time So whenever you're planning a date with somebody what I enjoy and I think Brandi can share this too is We enjoy experiences with our dates. So more than just the Netflix and chill We want to be out there Go out to dinner or go out and do an activity hiking bowling Just something something where you are Then you can have conversations with that person and build memories and have experiences So you can really have a connection with somebody or at least build that connection and have a relationship Like you can only do so much when you're sitting there and you're watching a movie together You can't have a dialogue while watching a TV show or movie, you know It's just not not real. So things are great further along but not in the beginning I think some like just make everything that you do Just make everything that you do be something that's not just you staring and talking to each other Like even at home kind of things like Oh chill night We've definitely already hung out a few times already, but you know Like we can hang out at the house. You could do something like make dinner together Like you can plan activities even at home and Those are really nice Because then you're you're you're doing something together you're building something together if the meal is great then dang look This is yummy or it turns out Terribly like but you know You can have a laugh and I'm like it's just it's a funny experience And that too it doesn't need to be something that you both have done before or one of these done before like you can both go like Haywire and say like hey, I've never done this before but would you want to do this activity with me? Like I always thought glass blowing would be cool. Yeah, and there's like glass blowing I don't know like facilities kind of near here and I always wanted to do that with somebody but it's kind of expensive so I'm like I kind of I want to find somebody that like at least is cool with that wants to do like a two hour long class Or whatever it is to like have that experience with and do it because I think it's just be me But yeah, that's a good date idea to cooking great date idea a little cooking class like that'd be cool One of our guy friends actually take like a pottery and ceramics class But you know now he's like look at all these bowls I made Sweet I like that And our last green flag we want to mention is does this person have goals or interests and Do they make an effort to get to know you? Yeah, like is this person when they're talking Of course, somebody should share about their own goals and interests, but are they asking you about yours? Because what motivates somebody or what makes what makes them excited? You shouldn't have all the same things that you always want to do together there does need to be some separation and things that you would enjoy doing individually, but there needs to be some overlap there and some compatibility With how somebody wants to navigate their life and how you may or may not fit into that so It's it's it's really important if somebody's actually trying to get to know you And this again kind of ties back to the overly complimentary You have to actually ask somebody about themselves to be able to give them real compliment. Mm-hmm. I always say that You know when you're meeting somebody or you're finding your partner, you're finding that person that they should be The compliment to you. They should not be your like half that makes you full You know what I mean like I was like half a person and now I'm a full person because I met you you you Complete me like no, that's BS. Like you should already be confident. You should already have goals in mind You should already have everything set and this person that you're bringing into your life is just adding that little extra They're like the seasonings that just add flavor and make your life better But you already have that foundation you already have that establishment they're just like that extra little piece that like you enjoy that that Adds a little bit of extra happiness into your life Yeah, the little bit of the shared interest that makes life a little bit spicier Do you want me to do a really dorkish thing right now? Let's do it It's like a Venn diagram like you're your own circle. I'm my own circle. Our circle can overlap Or they cannot Yeah, they're not completing if you don't have that center little overlap then yeah, there's going to be some yeah They're great. There can be too much overlap and there can be too little overlap Somebody's got to be a little bit like you and have some kind of same interests But you don't need to be the same person or become the same person to stay with somebody So something that you can figure out pretty early on is whether your circles overlap at all yeah, but don't be afraid to be totally different from somebody because I feel like not not exactly like opposites attract, but I do Appreciate when somebody has a deep passion or motivation in something and it's completely out of my wheelhouse But I'm like wow, like I'm invested. I want to hear it Like I went on a date with a guy. That's a chemistry professor and I Love guys, but I love nerdy guys like guys that are just really so intellectually there and I'm sitting there and he's talking about subset of People and this and that and actually I'm sitting there like whoo. Talk to me more I want to hear you. You're being the nerdy thing. I want to hear it. Yeah, then he's like you really want to hear my research studies? Like yes, I'm down for that. Tell me what you're passionate about. I want to I want to hear it all And so yeah, like I said just be truly authentic because you just you never know and I feel like people Appreciate the things that you're passionate about because if you're truly passionate about it, then it's like yeah cool like go for it Be that that person go be a go-getter. Yeah, it's sometimes just Exciting and you can appreciate something just because it brings somebody else so much joy And it doesn't even have to be your thing, right? Right exactly But it's just like I love that you love this so much. Thank you for listening to our episode of branded and tailored slide into our DMs with your red and green flags with let us know if you agree or disagree and Me personally. I really want to know how y'all feel about celery Again, celery is mainly Water it is a water. It is just fine the way it is from my house. It's not it's water water If you're from Philly it's water if you're not it's water, but that's mainly of that component h2o Okay, she's water watering over here about Philly accents and all I gotta say is celery is nasty all around Oh, no, it's fine. It is fine. It's just it's just there it's just to fill up space in your stomach and It's great for diets if you need a diet summer bod Loading more celery for you But until then tune in next Wednesday for our next episode You You