Stepping Back In

The speaker, known as the Girlfriend Guru, emphasizes the importance of not allowing procrastination to hinder one's dreams. She encourages taking action even when scared, broke, or unhappy, as executing plans is necessary for turning dreams into reality. The speaker shares her personal experiences of moving back to Memphis and how, despite initial reluctance, she has found blessings and support from friends, family, and coworkers. She also discusses the challenges faced by her community and the need for change. The speaker advises against letting circumstances or environment kill one's dreams and emphasizes the importance of taking initiative and having faith in oneself and God. She gives a shoutout to entrepreneurs and encourages those considering starting their own businesses. What's up everybody, it's your favorite girlfriend, the Girlfriend Guru and I am back with another episode. Listen, it took me a long time to be here, but guess what? I am here now. And let me tell you something, procrastination is definitely the killer of dreams. Do not allow procrastination to kill your dreams. Sometimes you have to do it scared, you have to do it broke, you have to do it unhappy, you have to do it when you're falling apart, but just make sure that you do it because otherwise that dream that you're putting on paper is just going to be a dream that's on paper. You want to make sure that you're able to execute and you want to make sure that you're able to see that dream come to fruition. Listen, I am talking to myself right now, but you know, sometimes life gets the best of us, but guess what? Life is going to keep on laughing and things are going to keep on happening, but we got to make sure that we are strong enough to dominate those distractions. This is always my message, dominating your distractions, feeding what you want to grow and starving what you want to die because we can get so caught up in complaining about what we don't have or what we see in the physical, but we got to always remember that God is going to make sure that we have everything that we need. If you give him something to breathe on, he's definitely going to breathe on it. So don't let procrastination steal your joy or kill your dreams. Remember, you are in control of your dreams. You are the only person that can move forward so that can be your own emotion. So with that being said, continue to like, share, and subscribe to the Girlfriend Guru. I have a lot of things coming up, so many different people that I'm going to be interviewing. I'm just so glad that I am able to get back into this space because life has definitely been hard. Transitioning, moving back to Memphis, trying to get settled in with that, you know, new jobs and promotions. And let me tell you, moving back to Memphis, I thought it was going to be the worst mistake ever. And I'm going to be honest with you guys. Can I be honest with you? Because you know on my show, I like to be raw honest and uncut. So when I first made the decision to move back to Memphis, I was driving in my truck and I said, Lord, the thought of me moving back to Memphis makes me want to throw up. I literally had to pull over on the side of the road to throw up because I did not want to come back to Memphis. But since I've been here, God has opened up so many doors. I've been blessed beyond measure. I mean, being on my job for three months and receiving a promotion, being able to move into my own space, having my friends and my family just love on me and missing y'all. I thought I was an orphan out here because as many of you may know, my dad is deceased and my mom, she's sick. So I was out here like, you know what? I'm just an orphan. I have no mom, no dad. I'm just out here alone. But since I've been here, God has made it very clear that I am not alone. He sent so many people in my path, friends, family, coworkers that have become friends, allowed me to be able to get back to some friendships that were kind of estranged while I was living in Nashville. And it's just so good to see all of the people in the city, like the people that I grew up with, my childhood friends, to see everybody just thriving in a city where there seems to be such a dark cloud. And I know people like, are you moving back to Memphis? You know, it's not so bad. Crime happens everywhere and you just have to make the best of it. I'm not going to wake up angry every day just because I live in Memphis. No, I'm going to get up with a smile on my face and ready to conquer the day and take over the world. That's what I'm trying to do. So God has definitely been good to me. I am so thankful for the people he's placed in my life. I'm thankful for God showing me that if you move your feet, if you just go, I got you because that's all it has been. Because the last three years of my life, they were, oh my God, those were probably some of the worst years, the latter years of my 30s. And I'm so glad that my 30s is over. And I don't ever want to go back to that space again. But before I moved from Nashville, I told God, I was like, I don't want to cry anymore. I don't want to shed another tear. I felt like I had cried all that I could cry. And when I tell you guys that I have not shed another tear about anything, God is just so good. Even situations that I knew that I could not handle, they're already being handled without me even having to blink my eyes really hard. He's putting me at the right place at the right time. And I am a person, not only am I a Leo, listen, shout out to all my Leos that are listening on the airwaves. It's always Leo season. I don't know why they hate us so much, but anywho. Being a Leo, I am a prideful person. And being raised by a strong black woman that was basically surviving to make sure that we had everything that we needed and everything that we wanted. She never missed a beat. I am the same way. I don't ask people for anything. And it's so hard for me to accept things from people. But when I tell you, God humbled me in such a way that I had no choice but to accept things from people. So when I say I was broken down to my last, I was broken down to my last. And when I say I had nobody to depend on but God, I had no one to depend on but God. So even if, you know, there's a dark cloud over you right now, if a situation that you're in, it seems like you will never be able to see your way out of it. Even if you've been in that situation for 40 days and 40 nights, listen, trust me, God is definitely going to come through right when you need him to. Late in the midnight hour, orchestra, that's not just a cliche. And I truly believe in it because that's what God did for me. Having to transition from being in Nashville for seven years and coming back to Memphis. And listen, I am still getting adjusted to the city because, oh, the people are driving crazier than ever. There are so many new places that I haven't been to. Oh, and I have a list. So if anybody wants to take me to any of those places, I'm always available. And the city has just changed so much. This is not the same Memphis that I left seven years ago. When I tell you these young people, they're running rapid. But I just pray for my city. I just pray that the same people that were involved in the city and in the community when I was growing up, that some more of those people emerge and they help these young people find their way. Not to mention, it feels so good just driving through my old neighborhood. Driving through Orange Mound. I'll never forget where I came from. And I'll never forget how growing up in that neighborhood shaped me to be the woman that I am today. I enjoyed growing up in Orange Mound. I basically did. Some of my friends are still my friends to this day. And we are trying to change the community. We're trying to change the narrative. But it's going to take more than one person. I hear the people saying guns down in Orange Mound. The guns need to be down everywhere. Because people are not living life. There are so many people that are afraid to even just drive down the street. And they have a right to be because people are getting shot just driving down the street. But, you know, within that, you've just got to stay creative. You've got to make sure that you're living your life and don't allow anything to stop you from living your life. Because even if you move to Houston, if you move to Dallas, if you move to Atlanta, if you move to LA, if you move to Bays, even if you move to Colorado, there's still going to be some smoke in the city. There's still going to be danger. There's still going to be trouble. There's still going to be crime. And I understand that Memphis is not the same Memphis that it was 5, 10, 15 years ago, 20 years ago, 30, 40 years ago. That's because it's a different generation of people that we're dealing with now. So I say all of that to say don't let procrastination kill your dreams. Don't allow whatever you're going through to kill your dreams. And don't let your environment kill your dreams. That should be, those things should be what motivates you. Those things should be the kick in the ass that you need. Because we've got to get up every day and we've got to kick each day in the ass. We've got to own it. We've got to own it. Because if not, we'll just be sitting around with the sugar with the kids. And we'll be miserable. We'll have so much regret. And we'll look up in 5, 10, 15 years we have had and we've done nothing but have these things down on paper, complained about how our city is, and talked about how we wish we could move or what we did not do. You just got to do it sometimes. You just got to do it. And I know all the time it doesn't look like what you want it to look like. But sometimes you got to step out there. I know a lot of people don't believe in stepping out on faith. But you got to believe in something. If you don't believe in anything, you'll just believe in yourself. But stepping out on faith and allowing God to see that you've taken the first step so that he can take the rest for you, you would be amazed by how many doors will open. You would be amazed by how he will allow your business to thrive. As a matter of fact, shout out to all of my business owners in the city of Memphis. I see you all. There are so many people I'm not going to name names because as soon as you forget somebody I'm not trying to talk to y'all. I don't want anybody in my inbox talking about you forgot about me. But shout out to all of my entrepreneurs. Anybody that I know. Anybody that I'm friends with on Facebook. Shout out to you guys. Because being an entrepreneur is not easy. Also, I just want to give encouragement to the ones that are thinking about becoming an entrepreneur. Put your foot on the gas and go. Just put your foot on the gas and go. Because forward is the only motion. If there's anything that you want to do, write the vision. Make it plain. That is so true. That's not just something that people just read out of the Bible. It is so true. Because if you don't write it down, how do you expect for it to manifest? Manifestation is real. So if you want to look on the finer niche, write it down and take the necessary steps. But remember, there is a process. It's not going to happen overnight. It's not something that's just cookie cutter. It's not like putting something in the microwave and it's just going to automatically ding and then here you go. Success takes time. And everybody's version or definition of success is totally different. It's definitely going to be different from yours. But just know that it takes time. I know people look at entrepreneurs' journey and they see the success that they have. But there's a lot of sleepless nights. There's a lot of long nights, long days, a lot of early mornings. There will be times when you won't get any sleep. There will be times when you'll have to sacrifice spending time with your family. You're going to cry. You're going to yell. You're going to scream. You're going to laugh. You're going to be disappointed. You're going to fail. You're going to have ups. You're going to have downs. But you have to do it if you want to be an entrepreneur. And listen, I am speaking to myself too because it happens and it happens often. But if you want to get there, we've got to move our feet and we have to remember, slow progress is better than no progress. So if there's anything that you want to do, write it down. Do you need somebody to go over those ideas with you? Look, I am very creative. I am very supportive and I'm an open-minded person. I mean, not to mention I am a certified life coach and my niche is confidence. So if you need somebody to support some confidence in you, listen, your favorite girlfriend, your girlfriend guru, I am your girl. Because sometimes it's what we need. We need that support. We need somebody supporting us. We need somebody to ask and say, hey, that's not a good idea. Or maybe you should try it this way. Oh, and also, you have to be open to constructive criticism because everybody's not going to like your idea. And you cannot be worried about who's going to support you. Just allow the people to support you to support you because if you do it, they will come. And your audience is going to be your audience. But also remember that every dollar is not your dollar. So if you have two people that want to shop with you, there may be five people that may come to shop with you. But you got to make sure that you are keeping that motivated mindset. You got to make sure that you keep that momentum going. You have to make sure that you are believing in what you're selling and that you believe in your brand. Because if you don't believe in yourself or believe in your brand, how can anybody else believe in it? So that's all the time I have for you guys on today. Remember, procrastination kills dreams. Transition and change is necessary. Remember to keep God first and always. Pray. If you have a dream or a vision, write it down and make a plan. Forward is the only motion. Take those steps. Put your foot on the gas and just go. Until next time, it's your girlfriend Guru, and I'm out.