How Sexual Practice Cause Domestic Violence

The main ideas from this information are: - The speaker is praying for a blessed and everlasting marital relationship, free from abuse and demonic forces. - They discuss the increasing incidence of abusive marriages and domestic violence, even among Christians. - Lack of knowledge and awareness is a major cause of abusive relationships. - The speaker talks about the deterioration of romantic expectations in marriage and the need to be sensitive to signs of trouble. - They emphasize the importance of being observant and proactive in addressing health and relationship issues. - The speaker laments the loss of precious qualities in marriage and the negative impact it can have on individuals and families. Tradition from the choir. Lord, as you have heard and sung, our love will be an everlasting one. Blessing without strings attached to it, blessing that will never depreciate, will be the future of our marital relationship in the name of Jesus. The onslaughts of our adversary against our family shall not prosper. A new dawn will come to our marital relationship in the name of Jesus. And whatsoever we have lost in the past due to ignorance or for whatsoever reasons or activities of demonic forces, you will enjoy full recovery in the mighty name of Jesus. By the risen of the world of today, let no one suffer shipwreck in their marital relationship in the mighty name of Jesus. Lord, we thank you, we bless you, we worship you. Send your word that you will heal our homes, that you will deliver us from any path of destruction in the mighty name of Jesus. Lord, we thank you because you have heard us. We bless you, worship you. We give you the glory. Abusive marital relationship will be far from us. A better amen. In the mighty name of Jesus, thank you our Father. We bless you, worship you. We give you the glory. At the end of the day let us ask God to glorify your name. In Jesus mighty name we have prayer. And a better amen. A resounding amen. A Christian amen. We are blessed in Jesus name. We continue our abusive marital relationship. And we are taking our time to discuss this issue. Number one, because it is a virus that once it gets in, it becomes difficult to deal with. And then number two, the incidence of abusive marriage and especially the icing level of it reflected in domestic violence is on daily basis increasing. And unfortunately those of us who are the children of the living God, we are not immune from this prevailing domestic violence. And the Bible says, my people perish for lack of knowledge. If we are well informed, then generally the possibility of deformation will be reduced to minimum level. And that will make us to enjoy a very good marital relationship. So we have been discussing under the abusive marital relationship, causes of domestic violence. May I tell us, which we all know, that every marriage begins with high expectation for a loving, harmonious and enjoyable relationship. No marital relationship begins with the possibility or expectation that it is going to be abused. I am sure of that. At all. But unfortunately, the expectation of the couples, this great expectation is often cut short or short lived. The romantic expectation of the couple, which has to do with romantic and loving relationship, will be cut short. In some cases, within a very short time, we see that this loving relationship will first of all be neutralized. The love, the ingredients of love, the wine, which we began with, the first thing we discover is that it will be neutralized. And when your vehicle is on neutral, for what moment? Because you have removed the car. So the love part of a dry relationship is, you begin to, then before we know it, this relationship will give way to a relationship that can be likened to the one between the rat and the cat. And you know the one between the rat and the cat in the house. If you have ever lived in a village like me, where we have the cat, the mouse in the house, and then the rat are trying to take possession to eat the fruit in the house, the food in the house. So what the cat needs to do is to say, mom, what do you think will happen to the rat? Eh? It will run away. But sometimes the cat can go and hide somewhere else. And then we think that, oh, this house is safe. It will run sometimes. You think, oh, the house is good now, let me just go. Now what? It's not true. It's not true. So it's just like a relationship between the landlord and the rat. And again, you have psychological abuse. Let's look at the scripture, chapter 1 and chapter 4, verses 1 and 2. The question is, how are these things degenerated to this level? Why the degeneration that we are talking about here? The fine gold shines. Fine golds are appreciated. Nobody keeps a treasure in an open place and keep it like that. If you have seen our parents, how they keep their gold, you will understand what I'm talking about. The spoon is not kept openly. May I tell you, this is one of the things, you wash the plate of the father when he has finished eating, and you go and keep it in a special place. No one, no matter how high the place, the person eats. So it is the place that anybody, no matter who he is, uses, that I also use. So, and I think 40 years is good enough to have adjusted. Am I communicating? So, that is to give you a picture of what we are trying to do. That fine gold, anything of precious, our parents, they don't put it in the open shelf. They don't put it in the open plate. But it is not so these days. But so, that is what we are talking about. This is lamentation about the golden, the precious price of the Israelite. That they are very precious in the eyes of God. They are special people, peculiar people, a royal high school, special, honorable people before God. It is different from all type of things. Some of us have fallen in one day's assignment. You find yourself, it is not one day's assignment. It has to be a process, which you are not sensitive to, which you do not address, you are not patient to see. Can I say this to us? One of the characteristics of a spiritual man is the spirit of assignment. What did I call it? You must be sensitive. A Christian must be sensitive. You don't see a pattern taking place and you are complacent about it. No, you don't do that. Because many of us, to our children, and that is the reason, you know, like that. Eventually, your phone number will be so busy. I won't mention the name because I am not here. Money being used, things that have not brought him to the church here to stand in the United States. Because I know he organizes international conferences, and this brother has been here several times. He organizes courses. His courses can award you PHD. So eventually, I was called back. And I said, I called you to find out what I saw on Facebook. He said, yes, he died two days ago. Yesterday, he called it yesterday. Maybe he died on Friday. I said, why? A brother is very, very active. And I was told that he has been managing, he has a kind of health challenges. And he was not maintaining it. He keeps on doing the things he was doing as if it is normal. Do you understand that? I was almost weeping. What kind of Christians are we breeding nowadays? Even if you are old enough, you can still be a coach to the younger ones. Why do you need to go and die, even though you are old? You cannot stand, you cannot do, but you can be a coach. Can you see a number of people now, churches, multi-churches, worldwide, that is deprived of the service of their brother at a very tender age, perhaps due to one thing or another. I am not blaming, but what I am trying to say, my wife is not here to bear me witness. I always say to her, there is no sickness that is so deep. I always say it. The illness has been there. I also have died, 25 years ago. I also have died of diabetes, 30 years ago. Diabetes. I never heard of diabetes before. Until my doctor told me that I have diabetes. And remember, I am a graduate, I have master, I have PhD. Yes, I don't know what is called diabetes. Jimmy, Jimmy brother. And I never know there are some type of food I should not be taking at some advancing age. And I never know that I was taking food that is poisonous to me. So, many of us, we are not sensitive. We are not living our life with consciousness, observation. What is it when I fast? I have not been observing this symptom before. Now, I observe it. What is it, I have been sleeping for 8 hours before, but I am finding it difficult to sleep for 2 hours, 3 hours. Is it any hard? Oh, in the morning, when you go to toilet, you go and you never go to toilet again. But suddenly, you not discover, you go to toilet from time to time. You didn't ask. Or your husband, or your wife. You are not observing yourself. And you keep on passion. We keep on passion. We keep on passion and we pray. Nautistical prayer. And the devil will be laughing at us. Because we are prospering and we are assisting his work in our life. Don't mind me, I am very fast when I come to issue of marriage. But for this test, I am explaining to you all. It is good for us to understand it and bring it out. He said, how is the goat become what? Deen. How is the most fine goat changed? The stones of the sanctuary are fall out of the top of every seat, every street. The goats are supposed to be on the altar here. You now find it that it is being troubled about, even by dogs. They are supposed to be an abomination. People have been celebrating you before in the family are just looking down on you. Why? Because certain things of you have been released to them. And you don't know, or maybe what you have been doing before that is making them to clap for you, you have stopped doing that. And all of a sudden, you are just going in your life. You are gone. So this is the lamentation. So there is a need for us to ask our question. In our marital relationship, why is our romantic relationship becoming a kind of war that is so dry? You know how you talk to yourself before? You know how you eat before? You know how you laugh before? You know how you watch movies together before? You know how you play before? You know how you tease yourself before? Some of these things where age can be taken, telling you, talking a bit about, but then, most of those things that are happening in your home is not due to age. Rather, it is due to one reason or the other. So, you don't see people marry themselves together and dancing. Like I saw a brother, you know, I was privileged to witness their wedding on Thursday. You can see them dance in Rababa. Daddy, I know that sister, she can dance. I thought it was Brother Peter that can dance. Yes, you can clap for her. Because I have been asking myself, I hope Brother Peter will not be a nuisance to this sister. But when I see her, come on, come on, come on, only two to get four. At least, these two, four over two, there will be no more. Especially, you get one. Four over two is equal to what? Two. Two over two again is equal to what? You see, the two of them are equal to what? Am I talking to God? So, at the end of the day, they both have the potential, that is what I am talking about. But suddenly, they now discover, God forbid, God forbid, that certain things are now being observed. And you are now thinking, my dear, what is wrong? Why am I not behaving this way before? So, please be comparative here, in what I have just explained to you all, in Lamentations chapter four, verse one. It is very heartbreaking that gold becoming deep, the sacred stones that are supposed to be in the sanctuary are now found in the streets being trampled upon, even by dogs. I put it there, even by dogs. People supposed not to know your secret, they become to know your secret. Where is my brother? And people have known you together. And you are not asking questions. Your communication is becoming casual, is becoming official. It is not that you don't pounce on yourself as you do pounce on yourself. You are not watching. So, it is very heartbreaking that the precious stones that are supposed to be in the sanctuary, that are supposed to be seen by the high priest alone, is now being trampled upon on the streets. That is what the Bible says. The children, before they don't know that you fight, but they are the ones that say, that is, you know, you know, you know too. When things get to that level, your gold has become so deep. When behind you, and we ask the question, would you like your home to be like that of your parents, you say, Kamari. But these children, they have good image of you before. I say, I don't want to tell anyone, I say, I don't want to tell anyone, I swear upon my hands, this will never happen to you. A better amen. So, this is a serious concern, and it calls for a serious concern and thinking. And the first approach is, why? You must ask yourself, why? And you know, this is what we have been addressing in the past several, eight weeks. We have discussed, in detail, eight of them. Today, I will go forward, and I want us to go back and be listening to these messages. And some people who are hearing them online, they make that request, or they go back, they listen to it from time to time. The one you hear at the finishing word, don't allow it to stop at that. You cannot assimilate with one hearing, it's not possible. There are messages that after I have listened to them, I will put it on my WhatsApp, and I will be listening and listening and listening until it becomes part of me. Don't think that I listen to messages of others, I read a lot, I read my Bible, and do some other things. That won't make you to be somebody that you are supposed to be. But if you are just coming to church, you will come late, for example, you don't listen. I know when the broadcast was going on, I was seeing some people, you know, at the backyard, I was listening to them. I said, you are not serious. These are some people who are looking for money to hear. It's brought into you, and that time is the time you get time to go and be doing some other things, instead of listening. So why? I have told us, so please, I want to encourage us to go back, let's go back and listen, and God will bless us in Jesus name. So number today, let's discuss number eight, I have discussed number seven. The eighth cause of abusive marital relationship, and that I think itself is domestic violence, is sex deprivation, sex dissatisfaction, and sex of faithfulness. How many things? How many? Three. 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And because you are a human being, the sexual urge will be there at certain age. When you reach the age of poverty, I want to tell you the first thing I want us to take note. Number two, by this truth that I have said now, sex before marriage is abomination before God. Sex before marriage is what? Abomination before God. It is an act of unfaithfulness in marital relationship. And if you are yet to marry and you are enjoying sex, you are a criminal. Because you have used, instead of you coming through the door, you came through what? The window. You are a thief. You are a robber. Because you neglected the arrangement of God for sexual intercourse. You jumped the window. And the Bible says, Jesus Christ says, they shall be called what? A robber. Can you imagine somebody now that is entering this church through the window? Will you not be surprised? You will be surprised. That is what you are doing. It is an abomination. Because marriage is the divine solution to sexual urge in man. Let me say this, that nowadays, is acceptability before men is an expression of a debased mind. In other words, the fight against the statement that marriage is the divine solution to sexual urge, that is being violated today, is a product of what? A debased mind. You will not have a debased mind. You are not saying amen. I know I am attacking some of us. I am attacking some of us. That is why you are so cold. When you do sex, and that is the reason why many of us, in marital relationship, we need to ask for mercy. Because some of those things we are suffering in a marital relationship can be traced back to the violations of the law of God that you did. You are compounding your problems because that is iniquity. That is a transgression. It is a transgression. You transgress. That is the meaning of transgression. You move away from the normal course of a thing. And you think that there is no punishment for it. How I wish we keep the law of God and see how our life is going to be. Some of the prayer and baptism that we are doing today will be unnecessary. But many of us, we have imported many things into our marital relationship that sometimes we suffer for it for a long time simply because we have transgressed. Say transgression. Say it very well, loud and clear. Transgression. Simply because of that, and we think, even you parents, you allow your children to do what they are not allowed to do. Can you imagine that? God will forgive us. As I speak, mercy will work for you. I say mercy will work for you. So, sex remains a forbidden fruit until you marry. Just as it is an offense to drive without license, so an offense is for a man for him to go to sex when the license of marriage has not been given to you. Because that is what God has made for us to enjoy sex. You are not an animal. It is only an animal that sex is nothing. Marriage is nothing to them. Even, let me tell you, if you have seen the door before, the two of them, they remain together and sit there. They are some animals like that. Am I communicating? Go and google and find out this. You know we live in an age of findings. You have to answer this even as I am talking to you. Anything I say that is not true, please find out and come and challenge me. I don't want to go to some of those things that I learned of recent. But am I talking? So, if you engage yourself in premarital sex, you are driving without license. And if you are caught, you know that the law enforcement will treat you like a criminal. But in this case, it is God. You cannot hide it from God. You may cover your sins that no one may see, but you cannot hide it from God. Am I communicating? I thought the choir would take it away, take it from me. But they don't know it again. Those are the songs we sing in those times. Is there any witness here? Is there any witness here? Can you sing it once again? So you cannot hide it. I can hide my not having license from the road enforcement agent. I can hide it. But when it comes to God, when you perform sex outside marriage, either you are married or you are yet to marry, but it is out of marriage. Let me tell you, the angelic officer, control officer has already caught you. One day, they will play it before you. Even if they don't play it before you, your conscience will be there for you. Am I communicating? Please take note of that. So it is an iniquity to engage in premarital sex. You are going to have what I call divine penalty for it. Marital abuse can be one of these penalties that you have. Marital abuse can be. You know why? The trust that the man has for you is already broken. You are not living in suspicious. But in your suspicious, your trust will be there. You know that is a torment. I have no reason to doubt my wife, to suspect my wife. Why? For the years, almost 26 years or 25 or 27 years when she married, I know I met her virgin. So why now am I going to be suspecting her? If she cannot do that, and she knows of myself, if I can keep myself for those years when I married, I think it will not be wise for her to be thinking that I am doing that because I am discussing with a female girl. Though the enemy is there, there must be a boundary. But most of the time, when you see suspicions escalating to domestic violence, go and trace that family that is suspect. Go and trace it. You can see that they enjoy, they engage in premarital sex before they marry. And now to not build that trust will be very very difficult. Eventually they can build it, but it will be very very difficult. God say I should speak to the life of somebody. Action that will torment your life throughout your lifetime, you will not involve yourself in it. You better say amen to that. And one of the actions that torments a man throughout his lifetime if God did not intervene is one premarital sex and unfaithfulness in marital relationship. It is very difficult. Sometimes you are stuck and you may not forgive yourself. Why should I do it? The power that he has taken away from you, it may take time for you to recover from it. Something never recover from it. Am I communicating? It never recover from it. It died. But the mercy of God will work for you. Oh you are not saying amen. That is why you need to pray for these children. I am so serious about this. I am passionate because what a joy it will be for you if you understand and you pass through what I am describing to you. You can see it will be a special joy for you. In fact sometimes when you are suffering something you will be asking yourself. Because there are some things you do now that tomorrow it is tomorrow no more your life. Because the world is so polluted that when you bring 10 people age 15 that they are still virgin. That is the pollution, corruption in the world and that is the reason why it is passed over your life. I need to prophesy to your life that if there is any of us either by ignorance or by deceit we are find ourselves in premarital relationship. Mercy of God will work for you. You better say amen to that. In the mighty name of Jesus. So for those of us who are near to marry please take note of that. Take note of that. Look at April 13 verse 4. Are you there? That is why all what I have said is the reason why the Bible says in April 13 verse 4 it says let marriage be earned in honour among all. Among how many people? Among how many? And let marriage bed be on the fire for God will judge it sexually immoral and adulterous. I am not the one who says it and that is why I pray for mercy for you. The adulterous. So it will not be possible for Mary to be the mother of Jesus without being virgin. No it will not be. So most times we elude ourselves of such favour from God when you defy your virginity. And let me say this before I close on this issue of ours for today. Naturally there are two challenges to the marriage. I have talked about those who are near to marry. Number one, want to keep the marriage bed on the fire. Now that you have married, one of your assignment is to keep the marriage bed on the fire. You are going to have pressures. Economic pressure will be there. In one of the programmes of the woman, I just want to say that. My wife was just speaking by the word of knowledge here in the church that a woman who is involved in adultery. Please see me after the service because it is not safe to raise up her hand. And the woman came, show up. In that programme my wife described what led that woman to adultery and that is my own case. That is where I am going because of financial hardship. What did I call it? Financial what? Hardship. The husband cannot provide and the children are suffering. And the woman thought that this pastor is a G.O. Let me go and approach him whether he can help us out. Am I communicating? She started speaking innocently. The woman went and saw the G.O. with money and said please come tomorrow I will attend to you. I am saying this so that you be careful. He said come tomorrow I will do what? Is it abnormal for us to do that? He is a senior pastor. He is a G.O. and a senior friend. Just to help them, to bait them out of the financial challenges. The man gave appointment to her when nobody will be in the house. And because the woman was innocently, she answered. And before you know what happened, they are engaged in sexual acts. Money was given to her. And that is something about unfaithfulness of sexual relationship. Once you start it, to stop will be a problem. And that is how they continue. Is it to stop the G.O. from preaching? Neither did it also stop this other woman who is also a pastor's wife from performing her role in the church. Can you imagine that? Until he came to a program and then the word of knowledge came. Until that time he was still engaging in it. Just to bail out the family. Where you can transfer that? Is using a transgression to what? To meet another what? But that is the wrong way. God said I should speak to the life of somebody. Every trap sets for you. The power of God will dethrone them. In the mighty name of Jesus. So please, one of the responsibility, one of the challenge is burn a word on the fire. The burn must be kept pure. A substantial amount of fear must be guided against. It leads to domestic violence. You must do whatever. That is why as a pastor you must have boundaries with female. Don't say I mean. You know there is no superwoman being. When the children are not here and it is purely couples. I will tell you the mechanism of what takes place when on issue of sexual relationship. Don't tell me that I have fire on ground. Paul said does he not have opportunity to be taking woman alone? But because she is not married he did not dabble into it. And he talks about Peter going around with the wife. You hear about Apollo and what? And what? And Aquila. It is said with us in Jesus name. That is one responsibility you must do. Again when you are married it becomes responsibility to be duly discharged. The sexual act must be duly discharged to each other. I think that is where we are now going. You must duly discharge it to each other. If senior acts dangerous consequences. And for those of us who are married I think I will push it to our brother Pastor Adeline and then Pastor Oyedokun. The promise that Pastor Oyedokun said. Because I know I may not be available. They can make it available to us. Youth issue and this issue of sexual. That is something he delivered when we were in Germany. On the two topics. I deliver message of finance. He delivers on marriage and then the youth issue in Germany. So he has sent it to my mail and I have pushed it to our pastors. So that they can make it available for us. Those of us who have interest. Because that is one of those things that I discovered. Christians we don't have interest. We don't have priority on things that will better our lives physically or intellectually. We are only thinking that sexual acts are dangerous. Whereas we are the enemy. And you are coughing headache to yourself. God will forgive you. Amen. So the second responsibility is that you must discharge this responsibility. Sexual responsibility to each other. Because of its dangerous consequences. Let me tell you as I am going to end it. Naturally when you don't discharge your responsibility sexual responsibility it brings tension. It brings tension where there is deprivation and unfulfillment in the practice among the couples. You know why? Number one. You have failed God. You have failed the purpose of marriage. You have failed it. How can somebody be taking pride. I mean your love will not go and you are burning me. Only for six months my husband did not touch me. He will burn me. He will burn you. Only that is why. Because you are committing sin. You are committing sin. I said the two of you should see me after the message. After the service. And the two of them came. And you know that the man said what he said is not going to accept me having a relationship with her. I have found it myself. I have been enjoying myself with my concubine. Who is he? Who caused the sin? Who caused the sin? The wife. But unfortunately the man will be judged too. We judge. If you are having sexual problems in your marriage why can't you see cancelling. There are people who can cancel you. Especially if you come from the background in which some of us we came from. We need to be born again. Not just about it. We need to be born again. It is not what you need to celebrate if you are married and you say you are alone. Let me tell you this story. I don't know whether I have told you this story before. Can I say it? Somebody was dreaming of sexual, what do you call it, of sex in the night. What do they call that one? Normally, specially, what do they call it? What do they call it? Huh? They say okoru. I asked him to say okoru. He said okoru. I said okoru, that is ok. And you know sometimes, those of you who have passed, if you don't read psychology you will fail. What did I say? If you don't read what? When I heard it, I said hey, are you not a Christian? Are you not born again? Have you not converted? They have done deliverance several times. Ok, God will bless you. So what do you want to do now? I want to go to Ryoke. We will be there for 3-7 days. After that, I know God will deal with okoru. Shout words of hallelujah. They were there. After 7 days, I called. I said come from your mountain. Praise the Lord. I said praise the Lord. I know I am wounding some people and your pastor is not talking spiritual. You are quiet. You are quiet. Should I stop? Are you sure? I said come down. How many of you see your husband for 6 months, 7 months? Why? Because we are carrying out revival. I said well, as a spiritual father, let me give you a therapy for the next 2 weeks. Make sure you receive every word, every day, except perhaps that they listen for it. Until this time, I will see you. Excuse me, that is the end of okoru. That is the end of what? Okoru. It is just a function of physiology. Am I communicating? Is there anybody who does biology among us? Where is the pastor today? Am I talking? That is how God has made you. If you don't eat, when are you supposed to eat? When I was looking for my wife, I told you I fasted and prayed for how many days? It is as if I should not come back. Lord, should I go and bring my fast? Lord, say continue. It is done with you. In the mighty name of Jesus. You know why I am talking like this? Because out of many quarreling that we are suffering, this is one big major thing. And that is why when you come to me for counseling, one of the questions that I will ask you is, where did you fast last? Because it is a therapy that has worked. Those of you who think that it is an act of spirituality, I puncture it today. What did I say? I puncture it that it is not. It is not. Especially those of you who are very young. Those of you who are married, it is a responsibility. Raise up your right hand. You will not fail. I say you will not fail. In the mighty name of Jesus. So, let's take note of that. Then, finally, it can lead to abusive marital relationship and to worsening the situation, it will lead to domestic violence. When we hide under the pretense of religion to deny the reality. Don't deny the reality. What did I say? Oh, it is tough to me. Don't deny what? The reality. It is done with you in Jesus name. I think it is a convenient place to stop. Abby, you have asked point number what? Point what? Point eight. I thought I will agree, but it is always good for me to make sure I treat this issue very, very well. It is well with us in Jesus name. So, so far, I have talked about how many causes of domestic violence. Number one, wrong or faulty marital foundation. Number two, I have talked about poor image of who we are in Christ. Number three, we have talked about lack of adequate understanding of human nature and the unique differences in our personalities or couples. And then, number four, I have talked about wrong or misplacement priority for what? Marriage. Are you following your notes? Then number five, I have talked about unequal or even corporate physical and sexual and spiritual development. And then number six, I have talked about wrong attitude and approach to what? To money. And then number seven, physical and spiritual world immaturity. What one have I talked about today? Can you correct it? What is it? Sex, what? Deprivation, dissatisfaction, and what? Unfaithfulness. Those of us who are yet to marry, don't transgress. Are you okay? So that you will not live under the judgment of God. We must make sure that our bed is what? Undefiled. Whether you are married, if you are not married and you are indulging in premarital sex, your bed has been defiled. And if you are married and you enjoy extra sexual relationship, your bed has been what? Has been defiled. It means that you go against the Bible. No matter your sacrifices, your notary, your activities before God, it is failure, it is vain. It is vain. And then, I have encouraged us, it is a responsibility that the two of you, you owe yourself. Don't fail in that respect. Women, don't fail. Men, don't fail. When you are having some challenges, go forward for counseling. You will be counseled and it is going to be well with you in the mighty name of Jesus, if it is well with you. Can you be on your feet? Say, I speak to your life that the power of God will sustain you. In the mighty name of Jesus. In the issue of sex, you will not disappoint God. Let me say a bigger Amen. In the mighty name of Jesus. None of you have had me today and those who will come in contact with this message will suffer the consequences of transgression from sex. In the name of Jesus. Let me pray for you. What God has made for you, for your enjoyment, for your advancement, will not stand against you. In the mighty name of Jesus. Some of you don't understand that prayer. Now that the children of Aaron, am I right, theologians, and Abel, they were appointed to be a priest, but along the line, they offered strange words, fire, and they died. God is not wrong to make them to be a priest, but they transgressed and they died. Some other time, I am going to talk to you all about the emergence of priesthood in the Christendom. Look at Moses. It is not bad for God to call him, but he transgressed. This is what God said he should do, and he did the wrong thing. And the wrath of God was with him. It is the same thing in marital relationships, especially on sex. When you deprive your husband, or you deprive your wife, and you find pleasure outside, you have defiled the bed. So, I pray for you again. What God has made to advance your course, earn or not, Satan will not manipulate it against you. And when Satan is manipulating it, you will not assist Satan. In the mighty name of Jesus. And once again, I use the priesthood of God upon my life. It says, whosoever sins, that you are forgiven, remain forgiven. And the time of ignorance, you do not know. I speak to your life by the power of the living God. Mercy will work for you. In the mighty name of Jesus. Whosoever be the consequence of defilement of bed, that you are suffering to today, by the power of the living God. God who told that woman, sin no more, your sin is forgiven. Take your bed and go. I stretch forth my hand, the Lord will forgive you. In the mighty name of Jesus. Lay your hands upon your chest. I speak by the power of the living God. The grace of God, not to go back to your sin. Receive it now in the name of Jesus. And as many as are struggling with sexual practices, immorality, unfaithfulness in marriage, the grace, the anointing, the power, the wisdom to stop will rest upon you today in the name of Jesus. And for those of you who have kept yourself till now, no body will defile you. Because that is your interest. But I am saying it by the power of the living God. No one will defile you. The favor you are supposed to enjoy will multiply to you in the name of Jesus. And there are those that are suffering because of sexual dissatisfaction, sexual unfulfillment, deprivation, unfaithfulness. Deliverance will come your way. Repentance has become your way. The Lord will embrace you. It is well with you. The hand of God will rest upon you. You will enjoy your marital relationship in the name of Jesus. And for the youngest couple in our midst, I speak to your life. The benefit of this will not deprive you. In the name of Jesus, you will be fruitful. You will enjoy yourself. The anointing of God will rest upon you. As we celebrate with you, heavenly hosts will celebrate with you. In the name of Jesus, you will be a model. More than what we are doing now, a time will come when you will speak better than us in the name of Jesus. You will be able to speak to a greater congregation and everyone will rejoice over your life, over your marriage in the name of Jesus. In the name of Jesus, is there someone that is weeping concerning one area of your marital relationship? Today, the cause of that is terminated. In the name of Jesus, there are covenants that is walking in your home. Today, the blood of Jesus will cleanse them away. In the name of Jesus, it is well with you. Enjoy the presence of God. Enjoy the hand of God. Enjoy the grace of God. Enjoy the wisdom of God. In the name of Jesus, no premature death, no sickness, no poverty in your life. In the name of Jesus, indeed you will be sons of God. Indeed, you will be priests of God. Lord, we thank you. We bless you and worship you. This week, you will be celebrated. In the name of God the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit. You will be glorious. You will be delightful. You will be blessed. In the name of Jesus, you will be favoured and you will be honoured in the eyes of the Lord. And our God, your God, the Creator of heaven and earth, and the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, will be your strength throughout your years on earth, in the morning, in the afternoon, in the evening, and in the night. In the name of Jesus. In the name of God the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit. And seven powerful amen. Amen. Amen. Amen. Amen. Amen. We are blessed in Jesus name. God bless you.