No Filter Coffee: The Parenting Playbook (Teenage Perspective) - By Ria and Lucky

The main ideas from this information are that there are three main parenting styles: authoritarian, permissive, and authoritative. Authoritarian parents are strict and apply harsh punishment without explanation, leading to difficulties for children in adulthood. Permissive parenting, although seen as better, also has negative effects. Authoritative parenting, which sets clear boundaries and enforces them with reason, is seen as the best style. Personal experiences show that a balance between strictness and leniency is important. It is important to restrict a child somewhat, but not so much that they feel pressured. A medium approach allows children to have freedom while still being kept in check. It is important to maintain a healthy parent-child relationship by finding a balance in parenting styles. Way down among Brazilians, coffee beans grow by the billions, so they've got to find those extra cups to fill. They've got an awful lot of coffee in their cup. Hi, my name's Ria. Hi, my name's Lucky. And together we're No Filter Coffee. Today we're here to talk about parenting. An art that has gone back to the beginning of time. Everyone does it differently, but there are three main styles that have become distinct, all based on studies done by multiple psychologists. The three main styles of parenting, as defined by the Barron's AP Psychology textbook, are authoritarian, permissive, and authoritative parenting. The authoritarian parents set strict standards for their children's behavior and apply harsh punishment for any violation of these rules. Most often than not, these types of parents don't explain why the child is getting punished. Rather, they just enforce the punishment without explaining the reason. The result of this parenting style is that many times the children themselves have a hard time discerning right from wrong in adulthood. On the opposite end of the spectrum is permissive parenting, in which parents don't set clear guidelines for their kids. Many people think that permissive parenting is a lot better than authoritarian, when in reality, both have similar long-lasting negative effects on children. Authoritative parenting, on the other hand, is a happy medium. It's when parents set clear boundaries and enforce them with reason. If the child were to cross the set boundaries, they would get punished, but the parents would explain the nature of the punishment. Most psychologists view the authoritative style as the best style, and many studies have been done to prove the positive effects of having a balance between both strictness and leniency. Alright, let's get personal. Both me and Ria are the oldest daughters in our families and are role models to our younger sisters. For me personally, this caused my parents to put an immense pressure on me to represent our family to the world outside our house. They want me to have an influence on raising my sister well. Like just this Saturday, I got a 40-minute lecture on behavior and respect, no matter how well I behave. They told me how my sister would follow the path that I set for her, although I know that's not true. Now that we've talked a little bit about ourselves, we wanted to go out and ask people what they thought about how their parents taught them right from wrong, and if they would ever do that with their kids if they decided to have any. Who am I here with? Samaya Guajuelo. Would you describe either of your parents as strict or lenient? Um, so, I'd describe... It's like split in half. So my dad is really strict and my mom's gotten really set up to make sure I'm super lenient. Do you think this parenting style has affected you positively or negatively? Um, I think in both ways it's been good and bad. Just my mom being lenient, she's extremely lenient. She doesn't really like care about my grades in aspects. It's like, it feels like I don't really have like someone thinking about that. So it's like, kind of, yeah. And then my dad, he's super strict. Like, he calls me every single time, like, he sees a new grade. And it's like super, like, so much pressure on me. Like, I need to make sure I get, like, I'm always on top of everything. Which is a good thing, but it's like, at the same time, it's really stressful. If you ever chose to have kids, would you parent them in the same way? Um, no, I wouldn't. I would still, I'd still be strict, but I would not be as strict as, like, my parents were. Not super lenient as my parents are either. I'd just be a good, like, medium of both of those two. Thank you. Thank you. I mean, you're welcome. Now, Samira is a girl that sees it all with parents on either side of the spectrum. Due to the fact that she experiences both extremes, she knows what it's like to deal with both permissive and authoritarian parents. According to her, we see that it's important for someone to restrict a child somewhat, but not so much that they feel pressured. AKA, a good in-between is needed. Who am I here with? Mia Giglio. Alright, Mia. Would you describe either of your parents as strict or lenient? I would say they're neater. They kind of, like, fall in the middle. Do you think this parenting style has affected you positively or negatively? I think it affected me positively because, like, they give me a lot of freedom and they let me, like, do what I want to, but they also, like, have some rules on certain things that I know, like, maybe I wouldn't be able to stop myself from doing if they didn't, like, put some restrictions on. If you ever chose to have kids, would you parent them in the same way that your parents did with you? I think I would because, like, it allows the kid to really just, like, do what they want to do, but also, like, in, like, go about it in a good way and still be, like, a hard worker and not just be, like, super relaxed all the time. Thank you. You're welcome. With Mia, we see that the medium mentioned before has affected her positively. She gets the freedom every child seeks while still being kept in check. This medium not only allows her to happily be herself, but also lets her look up to her own parents as role models. The three main styles of parenting are authoritarian, permissive, and authoritative parents. They are quite prominent in the lives of Gen Z adolescents. Based on our study, we believe that the teenage perspective for parenting is to have a medium and maintain a healthy parent-child relationship. As much as pressuring a kid to do exactly what you want sounds like ensuring their success, it's not. It takes away the freedom a child needs to find themselves and create a life that they desire. At the same time, giving them all the freedom in the world with no care or guidance leaves them without knowing what's right or wrong and leaves them wanting to be loved. If there is balance in the parenting style, then there will be balance in the parent-child relationship as well. Like, share, comment, subscribe, and turn on your post notifications for another edition of No Filter Coffee.