Pastor Rick's Coaching EP 2 - Family Priorities

Pastor Rick provides various ways to contact him, including phone, email, and social media. He discusses the importance of becoming one in blended families and marriages, emphasizing the need for a strong relationship with Christ first, followed by the spouse and then the children. He shares his personal experiences and highlights the importance of hard work and communication in maintaining a healthy and successful marriage. He encourages couples to start their relationships on a strong foundation and to prioritize their marriage over the needs of their children. He discusses the high divorce rate among Christians and urges individuals to surrender their hearts and allow God's love to heal them. You can contact Pastor Rick in many ways. His phone number is 580-917-7360. His email address is pastorrick3 at yahoo.com. You can find him on LinkedIn at Ricky Giddens, on Facebook at Ricky Giddens, and his preferred method of contact is via text message. The phone number again is 580-917-7360. Good afternoon and welcome back to Pastor Rick's podcasting. And also, as I said before, that this is about Pastor Rick's coaching. And I miss you guys and I hope you all enjoyed it in this session here. We're going to open up with a quick prayer, but this session here, we're going to talk about that we must become one. This is for blended families, and this is for also people that are married and have no children. Let us pray. Father God, we just thank you, Father God, and we know that you hear us, Father God. And Father God, there are some hurting couples out there today. And then, Father, there might be some single people that is looking into maybe becoming a blended family or a single person that's looking to get married for the first time and they don't have any children. And they may have some aims and some wants and some desires and stuff like that. And so, Father, I just ask you to take that all out the picture and let them show you your love. Because at the end of the day and at the beginning of the day and at the middle of the day, it's all about love and faith. And it's about your salvation if you're saved. And if you're not saved, then it's about wanting to know, who is this Jesus? So we just say thank you and we love you. In Jesus' name, amen. So I'm going to start with a scripture today before we dive right into this. Becoming one. What does that mean? So in Matthew chapter 19, 5 through 6, it says, For this reason a man will leave his father and his mother and be united to his wife. That's the key, to his wife. And the two, the two will become one flesh. Verse 6 says, So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate. Let no one separate. So when you take two people, and once again, I think I mentioned this last week, that God presents a wife, a candidate, and a husband candidate, he won't force you to have them. If you pray, if you ask him, be specific in things, he will present them and then it's up to you through the Holy Spirit to say, this is who God has for me. And then we make those mistakes a lot. And I've made a lot of mistakes in dating. And so with that being said, when I surrendered and realized that through the Holy Spirit that I needed to come to Jesus and ask him and be specific with my request. It doesn't matter if it sounds ridiculous. I'd rather ask big than ask small and just get the small portion. But ask big and get pretty much everything, if not everything, all of it or most of it that I want. And I'm going to be honest, when I asked Christ this time, I asked big. And he came through and added more. So I just wanted to share that with you. But in this particular passage, we're only going to spend a few minutes with it. And I'm not here to preach at you. I'm here to help you through scripture and then through my experience. And this is the biggest thing. And I pray that I don't upset anybody. But I have to be honest with myself. And I have to be held accountable to God and to our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. So I'm going to be real honest with you. The reason why marriages and the reason why blended families have a hard time making it is because we are out of order. The order is our relationship with Christ individually. And then it's our spouse. And then after that, it's our children. And what we try to do when we have children that comes into the picture, we overcompensate. Let's just be honest. I've done it. I have not done it in this marriage. I will not do it. And it's been great. Matter of fact, I have been feeling well. And my oldest son just got through sending me a video prayer. Man, I tell you, that just touched my heart. Because we started the right DNA. I started it as the head by confessing all my sins, asking God to forgive me, spending time in prayer. I want you to understand, this was not a fly-by-night hookup. This took time for the Lord to put me and my wife together because I had to get right. She had to get right. I didn't know that at that time. But when we talk about our stories, they coexist of how the timelines. It was like amazing. And what we both was praying for. And so I had to get right. And I had to spend a lot of time. And I had to spend a lot of lonely time. And I didn't even want to really be honest with myself. Look myself in the mirror and realize you are nowhere where God needs you to be. But you have to get there. And I was okay to be broken. And I had to get broken again and again. So I want to get ready to kind of sum this all up and end this by this. It says in Scripture, it says this, for this reason a man will leave his father and his mother and be united to his wife. And the two will become one flesh. So there are no longer two but one. And therefore will God have joined together, let no man separate. When I used to do marriages and stuff, I say that, I don't know, a million times. But I don't think I really understood it. Now I really get it to understand what it is. I know sometimes the man wants to act like that he's the head and everything he says go. And sometimes the woman said, I'm not going to submit because I've done all this stuff on my own. And I got all these scars and pain and everything. And, yeah, I love them. But I'm coming on my terms. That will not work. We have to get on the same page. For the sake of, first of all, the kingdom work. Because that's what it boils down to if you're a Christian. We're not here just to please ourself. But God wants to reward us. You don't think he don't care? He cares and he loves us. So he wants to give us the best. And he wants our marriage to be the best. There was one thing when I went back and listened to the podcast that I forgot to mention. Love is very important. But like the great Dr. Monroe, who has passed away, and also as Christian says, it is the hard work that makes the marriage. I tell my wife every day, I'm working so hard on our marriage. She tells me that every day. And that doesn't mean that we are messy or slipping up or anything like that. I just know that I got to be better tomorrow. If Lord allowed me to live tomorrow, I got to be better tomorrow than I was today in my marriage. Now, you can apply that hard work to all kind of entities in your life. But now we're talking about families and blended families. And I sure hope you hear my heartbeat because I got a passion for this. And I got a passion for the children. So I'm going to sum it up with this. So when a man understands his role and a woman understands her role and they come together, I put it this way. I lean on my wife a lot. I don't act like I have all the answers. We go over the financial budget and everything together. And I listen to her heartbeat. And I know that she has our best interest at heart. And if she says, no, babe, we need to do it this way, I listen to her. And same thing vice versa. She listens to me, too. And we do this and we plan this together. And we both came together. So I like to use the word DNA. I think I probably mentioned it earlier. You have to start your DNA right. If you don't, and it goes astray, because it will, you start on a bad foundation. All of a sudden, the kid is ruling the house. The kids are taking over and there's no peace. There's no joy. You at each other. You work all the time. You're tired. You're mad. You come together and you're miserable. That's because you allow the kids to dictate. I don't care if they're a blended family. I don't care if they have another father or mother. This is your house under God. You have to get it in order. I said you might not like what I have to say, but it's the truth. And you have to break that DNA and start all over. Well, as I said, I spent weeks and months before God was able to present my wife to me. And I had to work on myself and I had to realize what went wrong last time. And I had to be honest with myself and I had to realize that I wasn't humble as I thought I was. I wasn't into scriptures as I thought I was. I was just reading, checking the block. I can be honest with that. You know, getting through school and all that kind of stuff. And then just getting ready to do a sermon and all that kind of stuff. And not really spending time, not praising God and worshiping God. And understanding, we'll talk about that one day, how we praise and worship Him. And I realized, and then God would fill it through scripture. Every time you read a passage, I don't care if it's Jesus' whip. You're going to find something new in there if you are in the spirit with God. And you want Him to reveal it. I always say, Lord, reveal what you have not shown me before in this particular passage. And that's why this particular passage is important to me. And so with that being said, I want to say this. And I'm pleading because I'm getting tired of the devil attacking families. Whether they are a family where they just come together and it's just a man and a woman. Or they have children in there and they're a blended family. And we can overcome this thing. We have dominion over everything. That's what the Bible says. And we can overcome this too. Do you realize that the divorce rate among Christians is 56%? And it just continues to go up. And it should not be if we learn to surrender. I ask you, is your heart heartened? Do you have scales over your heart? Can you allow God to break them down? Can you break them down so God can come in there and Jesus can come in there and just love you? Because I know you are in pain for your previous relationships. I know you're in pain. I know you're hurting. Because I was. And I truly know that my ex-spouse was also. And the greatest thing that me and my wife and I mean when I say we have two to four hours of Bible study every day. Y'all be like, wow. Because we want to honor God. Because we know that we say this. We are in great positions but we know that we're still dealing with something in our life. And we might have to deal with the rest. It might be a thorn. We did a Bible study on that. Where Paul talks about that thorn. And thorns can come in all kinds of ways and shapes and sizes. And it might always be there. But that's okay. We're dealing with it. That don't mean it's defining us. That don't mean it's destroying us. It's actually bringing us closer together to our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Individually and togetherness. And so it is so important that we understand that we got to become one. So it is the husband, the wife. First of all, it's God's relationship with the husband individually and the wife individually. And then together. And then it's the children. And please don't take this the wrong way. Well, I hear you, Pastor, but I love my children. I love my children too. And that's why. I love them because I know the order that it has to be. And they are responding to this order that me and my wife have set up through Christ. There's nothing I'm making up. It's in the Bible. And because of that, I see it working out better. I see. I'm not blaming anybody. If anything, I blame myself for not searching and asking God. Instead of complaining when things was going wrong. No, I should have just been praising Him and then waiting and listening to Him. And I've been doing a lot of that. And that's why He's given these revelations in the Bible. And He'll give them to you too. So I want to encourage you. So, you know, if you want me to come along with you and coach you, I'll come along. Once again, I can't do the work for you, but I can come along and coach you. Because I'm telling you, it is my experience. It is the Word of God. It's everything that I've been through in 30 plus years of ministry and 50 plus years of living. And I tell you what, there's a lot of things I wish I could do over, but I can't. But there's a lot of things I want to change. A lot of that pain I went through because I know that I'm better and I know that I wake up every day. I want to please my Lord and Savior. I want to honor my wife. And I want to raise my kids and dedicate them back to Jesus. Let us pray. Father God, I just thank you. And Lord, even though you revealed my mission to me, little by little. Sometimes in bigger versions that I can't even handle at the time. Through visions and dreams. I know every day you're working on me. And I ask you to forgive me for my sins, my shortcomings. And Lord, I just ask. And you know I mean this. I ask for those men and women to forgive themselves. That is the hardest thing to do. Because I'm still struggling with that myself. For the mistakes that I've made. For the people that I hurt. And how I didn't trust you through the process. I left you at times and you have never left me. And you blessed me and my family all the time. And I want to say thank you. Life is hard. And you told us that from the beginning. But life also is precious. It's gone quickly. And it can be fun and rewarding and joyful. If we put our trust and our hope in you. So Lord, for the sound of my voice. I pray for the single men and women that are looking to get married. Either the natural way of coming together without any children. Or blended families. Even though we all have made mistakes. Your grace is efficient. We're not abusing grace. It's efficient. And you do forgive us. And you will forgive us. And you have forgiven us. And you don't forget it no more. But we got to forgive ourselves. And we got to get help in our pain. We got to get help. Whether that's through coaching or some other way that they feel comfortable. But we got to get help. So we can focus on your mission. And our number one mission. When we have a family. Is to raise our family in God. Dedicate them back to you. And get them ready for mission work. That's my goal. To get our boys ready for mission work. Every day. And they're doing it. Every day. Even at their young age. Thank you Lord. I mean that very humbly. Thank you for blessing. In the name of the Father, the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen. Amen. And Amen. You can contact Pastor Rick in many ways. His phone number is 580-917-7360. His email address is pastorrick3 at yahoo.com. You can find him on LinkedIn at Rickie Gittins. On Facebook at Rickie Gittins. And his preferred method of contact is via text message. That phone number again is 580-917-7360. The theme song for this podcast is titled Support by A. Cooper on Free Music Archive.