psych interview

The speaker is interviewing someone named Noor about their experience in early adulthood and later in life. Noor talks about being a single mother of four children and working as a diplomat. They discuss financial independence and how Noor didn't need to worry about it because their father covered their expenses. Noor started working at 23 as a receptionist. They also talk about hobbies, marriage, friendships, health changes, and their dream job. Noor mentions becoming more social due to their job and the responsibility of raising kids. They also mention going through menopause, which wasn't as difficult as expected. Hello Mama. Hi Noor. Okay, so today I'm going to interview you about your experience in your early adulthood and even later on in adulthood. So, tell me about yourself. How old are you and how are you doing today? As you said, I'm the one. I'm a mom of four children. I am 51 and proudly. I'm working as a diplomat. I've been working now for 23 years. A single mom for four kids. Amazing kid, Janie. What else would you like to know? With five, we are ten siblings. You have ten siblings? Yes, we do have ten. And step siblings, how many siblings? With eight. Oh, eight. Okay. So, the first question I'm going to ask you is, did you find it difficult to be financially independent during your early childhood? Like, did you find it hard for you to be independent financially by yourself in the early stages? Actually, I didn't need to do that because I had a father who was covering all my expenses. Because you were, you had like an eight-year gap between your sister. Without job, you mean? No, not jobless. You had an age gap, like an eight-year age gap with your sister. Ah, yeah, yeah. So, it was easier for him to like... No, because in our tradition, the father should take care of their kids. Oh, yeah. Okay. That's their business, Janie. I don't have to worry or to think about it. And when did you start, like, being financially independent? During what age would you say? I was 23 years. I started my first job. What did you work as? I worked as a receptionist in an insurance company. Oh, really? I thought you were a flight attendant in your first job. No, that was the second one. Oh, okay. Did you have any hobbies that you had to put on hold as you got older? Yeah, at that time, my hobby was reading. I used to read novels. So, just like Leila. Mm-hmm. Did you ever think about writing a novel, or... I used to. I had some novels written. But not real ones. Yeah. Short stories. Short stories. Were they, like, about... It was about, at that time... Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. It was either about the tradition and how it's going, and maybe that time we were, again, missed what's going on. Oh, yeah. Or about the love story. Oh, love stories. That's neat. Okay. This might be a bit personal. You can feel free to answer this or not. What is your experience with marriage? Marriage? Yes. Marriage in general. Marriage is good, something really good, because you would have a company, someone you're sharing your happiness, your sadness, your ups and downs. Yeah. But I think the most important in marriage is to choose the correct person and not to rush, not to marry just because you want a partner. Yeah. Did you, like, would you say your experience with marriage was good or bad? Very bad. Very bad. Do you mind sharing? Nothing interesting to share, actually, because nothing good, I would say. Yeah. Okay. Only just, only having my kids, that's the fruit that I got from that horrible marriage. Yeah. Okay. What was I going to say? Yeah. Did you have, like, anyone, like, pressuring you to, like, get married earlier or something like that? Yeah, because that's a bit traditional in our world, in East. Yeah, in the Middle East. Um, like, how did you, like, feel when, like, you felt like your marriage ended or, like, did you feel like you failed something? I didn't get the question. Like, when your marriage ended, how did you feel? Because I was, um, I wanted to end it. Yeah, you took the decision. So, yeah, it was, um, how do you call it? Intisar. Relieving. Yeah. Victory. Yeah. Because I wanted to. Okay. Um, has any of your friendships or relationships changed? Did you have any people, like, since your childhood who you were still friends with or, like, how did your relationship with your parents change when you were, like, younger and then as you got older and stuff like that? I come to understand more people. I come to appreciate them. And some of them, unfortunately, I lose them before I know their value. Yeah. Like, loss in family and, like, before you can realize. Yeah. Okay. And, like, for example, did you have any friends that, um, you had, like, a specific relationship with and then when you got older, it changed in a way? No. Like. No. Like, it was mostly with family. Yeah, for sure. Okay. Yeah, but still I do have my friends that, um, I work with them. Mm-hmm. And we are a group. And still we are kids. Yeah, gotcha. Mm-hmm. Yeah, that's nice. Okay. Um, did you experience any change in your health as you got older? Yeah, definitely. Everything getting less, less region, getting some pain in other places. Like, okay, it may take up to some time. Yeah. But, uh, overall, I'm fine. I'm just not. And, like, how did you, like, when, like, did you realize, like, how did you feel, like, when you, if you had any change in your health, how did, how does that make you feel? In my health? Yeah. That make me to try to keep myself more healthier and to avoid anything may cause damage or get the situation worse. Yeah. Okay. What was your dream job as a kid, and how can you compare it to your current job now? As, because when, especially in our age that time, we are not used to see so many things working and this. Yeah. So, we used to have a female teacher. So, the most thing I really used to like is to be a teacher. Really? That's what I thought. Yeah. I can't imagine as a teacher. I want to be, yeah. But, definitely, I'm much happier now. No, I cannot be a teacher. I'm not a good teacher, definitely. Like, um, do you think that your job has, like, your current job changed you in a way? Like, did it help you gain experiences? Yes, definitely. Dealing with different people, different nationalities, because I keep traveling from country to another. Yeah. It teach me that life is not really easy and you have to work very hard. Yeah. It teach me how to be patient. True. It teach me how to be a diplomat. It teach me not to show all my feelings to everyone. Yeah. Okay, has your family dynamic changed over the years? Like, did anything, like, with your siblings, for example, change? Yes, I believe so, yes, I think so. Because I can notice them when they're, how they're dealing with me. Oh, this is our younger sister. She's grown a lot. Yeah. Do you think that they're proud of who you are now? Yes, very much. Yeah. Even, like, you've been telling me. Yeah, that's really good. And, like, um, was it, like, a positive change? Definitely, yes. Okay. Um, would you say that you became more extroverted or introverted, as you got older? Did you socialize with people more or less as you got older? No, of course, more socialized. And what do you think pushed you to be more social? The type of my job, because I have to be friends with everyone. I have to know more people. I have to find out. And also, um, I'm happy to be, like, every time I'm moving from country to another. So I discover more things about that nation and people. And their history also, as well. Not only what, how they're living now. And also I experience a lot of good things that I'd like to share it with my, and transfer it to Roman. Yeah. Um, now, what was your experience with raising kids? With? Raising kids. Raising kids? Yeah. It's a big amana. Uh, hmm. It's like a big responsibility. Yeah. It is a responsibility, no doubt. Also, it's something that God gave you, and you have to do it in a correct way, yes. In different aspects, and that's really not easy, especially if you're a single mother. And with four kids, and three of them are triplet, and the youngest is this, so they're almost same age. Yeah. Um, like, did you have, like, any pressure from, like, family to have more kids, or to get kids before you get older, or? No. Because I married late, also. Yeah. And the gap between the triplet and the youngest is only two years, so they were surprised that I got pregnant again, also. Because they thought you couldn't. No, because they thought I need to wait, because it would be overpressure for me. But I did that way because I didn't want to have any gap between my children, because I didn't like that gap between me and my eldest sister. Yeah. Any bad experience I have went through, I didn't want my children to try it. Yeah. Um, okay, so this is going a bit back, like, to when did you, did you experience any change in your health? I'm going to add a question to that. Um, like, um, when, like, like, I don't know if, like, this is too personal, because, like, I'm not sure, but, like, how was, like, your experience, like, going through menopause and stuff like that? Um, I knew that one day I would go through the menopause. Yeah. Um, but I thought it would be really horrible. Mm-hmm. But until now, maybe the sentence doesn't show that much. So, um, or you can say that, um, Ah, you prepared yourself. Yes, and I was waiting for the worst, so thank God the worst didn't come yet. So would you say it's a difficult experience, or not as difficult as people make it seem? Not as difficult as I thought. Oh. I thought it would be, yeah, I mean, more, yeah, I mean, not that bad, yeah. Yeah. Um, um, I think that's it. Okay. Thank y'all, mama. Thank you, ha-ha. Did you tell them that I'm calling you ha-ha? No. Bye, Mr. Bailey. Menopause.