Ep 115--1 Progress over perfection

Julie and Jodi discuss the importance of progress, growth, and expansion in various areas of life. They mention Ed Milette, who emphasizes the need for an environment that fosters growth and the benefits of having a coach. They also touch on the idea of progress over perfection and how criticism from others can stem from jealousy and a fear of one's progress. They share a story about a tennis player who succeeds despite missing half of the points. This serves as a reminder that perfection is not necessary for success. Welcome to Making Money Matter with Julie and Jodi. How are you, my dearest friend? I'm doing great. I'm so glad about talking about making money matter. Oh, I'm so glad too. You know, I love the idea of having a discussion of items that matter to you and to people and to all of you that's listening in. We want to make money matter for you. We want it to be important that you listen to these podcasts and we hope and pray that you actually get a whole lot out of it. Today, we wanted to talk about a podcast that we have been, we search podcasts to get discussion topics and we often find some really good ones. And today, we're going to be speaking about a podcast that we found that Ed Milette does. Jodi, you've introduced me to Ed Milette a little while ago. Isn't he wonderful? Yeah, he really is great on life, on finance, on business. He is, he's an entrepreneur and very successful. He says that success leaves clues. I love that when he says that because it's true and he's all about growing from all areas of his life. That's awesome. Oh, absolutely. Absolutely. You know, he's also associated with John Maxwell, if you're familiar with these big names. John Maxwell is very much a big guy in the business world, as many others are. And he's friends with Tony Robbins. Tony Robbins. He's actually friends with him. Wow. And who else was I thinking of? I mentioned someone else out there. Okay. Well, that's good. We know that they're big names. Yeah. Brandon Bouchard. Oh, yeah. Brandon Bouchard. You know, these are all really big names. So we're not just talking some ordinary small Joes here, like Julie LeDuc and Jodi Keith. We're talking about these big fellas that are very, very well known. So here today, we wanted to talk to you about progress, growth and expansion. So it's very important that you understand that one without the other doesn't work. Yes. So, you know, Ed Milet is where we got our inspiration. This is his podcast, and we're just sharing it with you in our own words. He says, in order for you to get an edge, if you want to be more productive, you want to be in an environment that causes growth, you're more likely to grow and grow faster. So, you know, a lot of people say, well, why is it that I need a financial coach? Well, because you want to be in an environment that causes growth, and you're more likely to grow and to grow faster than if you were doing it without a coach. It's the same if you are a gymnast, you need a coach. You need someone to bring you to that place and someone to push you and someone to do those things. That's why you need to be accountable to someone. And that's why it stimulates growth. So we want to get an edge. We want to get an edge on life. We want to get an edge on finances. We want to get an edge on our marriage. We want to get an edge in everything in our lives, our businesses, our work, whatever, right? It's not just one thing. So there are three topics specific that we're going to talk about today. And the first one is about progress over perfection. Well, those are big, big words. Now, that's a crazy sentence, actually, isn't it? Yeah, it really is. So progress, that's pretty self explanatory. We want to move the needle. We want to move the pendulum. So we want to move forward over perfection. So we're going to talk a bit about this and hopefully you will get a very clear picture of what that means. So first, I want to say, as a business person, or as business people, and you can speak to your experiences, Jodi, but Ed Milet speaks to his own, and I thought, oh, yeah, that's so true. It's me through and through. So the first thing he says is we, as business people, will receive flat for our successes, our business, our life, our money, whatever. We get flat, right? So why is that? So tell me, first off, Jodi, did you ever live that? You get flat for the business that you're running? Absolutely. You know, people support you, and it's not only if you run a business. This is in all areas, you know? Could be your parenting. It could be, you know, something that you stand for. People are annoyed because you're taking a stand for whatever that might be. You know, I mean, I had a friend that was upset that I went to work part-time when my kids were growing, and that was weird. You know, like, I needed to make a change, and that's what I did, you know? I also had some people, when I homeschooled, they thought I was crazy, you know? So I think that people can get a flat for all kinds of things. Absolutely. But people are also jealous, and so they give you flat, because they're jealous of your life, right? Well, here's what Ed Mylett says. He says, being criticized by people who are not doing the great things that you're doing. So they are criticizing us, but they're not doing those things. So they're kind of like speaking out of turn, and they are threatened by your progress, not your perfection. Let's just kind of unpack that just for a very short moment. They will criticize us for our lack of perfection, right? So being perfect, obviously no one is perfect, but they can't handle the fact that we're moving forward and we're progressing all the time, so therefore they're attacking that perfection. Why? Because they then impose impossible standards upon you, and then they criticize you for not achieving their standards. Sure. So, you know, the reality of this situation is you want to stop and rethink how these things are affecting you. Absolutely. They will often say, wow, you're doing really good in your business, but you're really sucking up to your mom. Right. Or, well, look at your, you know, you haven't been eating and exercising, so you're failing over there, or you're not perfect in this capacity, so they point out other areas. Absolutely. And those are not the people that have your back. No. But unfortunately, it's sometimes the closest people to you. So, here's what Ed says. He says, pardon my progress. Now, I'm not sure I would say that to anyone, because it seems a bit harsh, but I wanted to just share that, because he says, pardon your progress. This behavior from other people helps us stay focused on the right things. What are the right things? So, I have a little history, a story here that Ed shares, and I want to share it with you. So, I have a story about a tennis player. It says, you're not getting, you will not be getting everything right, regardless. Regardless, we are not going to get everything right. You won't get all the sales calls. You won't get all the deals. You won't get, say, the right things all the time. You're not going to, you know, you're not going to get rich in 35 seconds, he says. The reality is you're going to have tons of setbacks, and you will not be succeeding all the time. However, the reality is, the fact is, you're not perfect. Neither am I, and neither are you. But here's the story. He says, think about a professional tennis player. This particular tennis player he was making reference to, he says he hits, he gets 52% of the points, but he wins 84% of the games. That's crazy. So, when you think of 52% of the points, right, he's only, he's missing, he's missing points. Every other point, every other hit. He's failing. He's failing. It's huge when I'm listening to this. It's huge. I agree with you. It's very enlightening and empowering in a way that, hey, if he can miss every other hit, yet he's winning the game, there's something we're not doing. Let's talk a bit more about that in a minute.