Q5-19850218-Larry_Rosenberg-UNK-dialogue_problems_with_practice-1523 Leandra Tejedor (1)

Talk: 19850218-Larry_Rosenberg-UNK-dialogue_problems_with_practice-1523 Leandra Tejedor Start_time: 35:03 Display_question: How I work with the intense anger for another that comes up during Metta meditation? Keyword_search: therapy, Metta, West, Rajneesh, Barre Strangler, meditation, hater, Sunday school, moral edict, ethical reconstruction, understanding Question_content: Questioner: This is about the same thing, and I hope I don't make you repeat…when I got to the person, I dislike…it was, it was a couple, and one of the persons I saw, had a lot of… I could see for the first time, thanks to this talk, was yeah, they were already suffering enough. And the other person… of this couple, I looked, and they were happy. Before I could do anything about it, this monster, that is me said, make them unhappy, make them unhappy. And like, I just wanted to put my hands around his throat because he was so happy. And it offered me the… and I just from there, I started to realize, you know it’s just like you know what… why we… you know…so I don't know, I think maybe they think it’s going to become that believable. Larry: See, here…I think in the West we have…I think there's some therapies that have been involved here, that also have a place. And sometimes it's so strong, in a person that you may have to do more cathartic type things, act out strangling the person, you know pounding them with… you know these therapies… I assume familiar with some of that. Some of Rajneesh type approaches can be very helpful. And the test would be, if it's so far away, in other words your ability to, genuinely, follow the Metta instructions is so far away, you may have to use reflections or other forms of therapy that are available. I don't see any reason why not to use them, if they help us. And then at a certain point, you'd be more able to genuinely release that person. Now, one thing that might help, when you were in the strangler mind, the Barre Strangler, when you were the Barre Strangler, how did that feel? Questioner: It made me just want to stop the whole meditation. Larry: It didn't feel so good. Questioner: It didn't feel good at all. It started association with all the other problems… Larry: Okay, exactly. So that you could see that the hater, you know, is not such a great place to be as a hater. Again, so then the movement away from hating, is not from a Sunday school kind of thing like that. You shouldn't hate. That's very bad, Johnny, I don't know what your name is, you know. And then you try not to hate, because you've been given a moral edict. It's not, in other words, the approach here, the integrity, or the ethical reconstruction comes about, through understanding. You see that it's stupid to be a hater. It doesn't work. End_time: 37:31