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The AB podcast is impressed with a program that teaches chess and mentoring to kids. Chess helps develop strategic thinking and improves other areas of life. The program has about six participants, including a local helper. The program also incorporates music, and one student who was initially disinterested became engaged after seeing the progress of others. The program has had a positive impact on the students, and they eagerly attend sessions on Tuesdays and Thursdays. The AB podcast commends the program for its success and encourages them to keep up the good work. 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improving and they're getting better and um they're changing and because chess chess just makes you strategic you know you don't even realize how smart it's making you and it's because you're building like new neural pathways strategy you know makes you build new neural pathways in your brain and so it's like it transfers over to other things that you do in life it makes you better at other things you just don't realize it so watching them um playing the chess and knowing that they're developing it developing uh by playing the game and they want to do it I was super impressed with your program because I didn't know how that how well really I didn't either right because sometimes you get though it's a hit or miss I didn't did this program in Ohio I did it over at East Allen County before COVID yeah and uh it do it just hit different you got them times where you got kids that sports to be there because parents just making them stay out of school but these kids have been coming because they really want to learn chess yeah and then they know like that first hour sometimes I'll flip it around sometimes it'll be chess and then sometimes it'll be the mentoring part and then I'm able to pull them put them sit them in games and then kind of pull one at a time yeah have a conversation with them see where they're at see where they're what's going on in their life and where I can help right and how I can guide them and also tell them how the way they play in chess is the way they're moving in their life whoa yeah that hit different Mr. Davis it's supposed to it's true yeah that hit different so basically you was able to just make an evaluation like of how they even move the pieces if they're impulsive if they're patient yes if they know how if they're strategizing who's sitting there what are you doing all right are you engaged are you um just are you gonna move yeah relax a little bit so the chess is a huge because the chess really gives you some type of um some type of information so you can mentor yes yeah that makes a lot of sense so um so with that how many people actually came a bit because I know Scott been coming to yours Scott um oh names yeah uh we got we got a couple locals from around the neighborhood yeah that's good yeah uh a few kids from the class right and we got our our number one stunner I'm saying his name Renard our number one stunner so Renard yeah he's been here for everything every time yep Tuesday Thursday and he's excited each time that's what's up yeah so I mean like so probably about it's probably about six about six of us six man Thursday's be popping yeah and then I also have a helper Mr. Williams yeah local from around the neighborhood really strong male positive guy and sometimes when I'm missing cues he's picking them up and I'm like oh that's a good partnership oh hold on I just did a scene did it check the camera it's Michael what happened it just stopped yeah there's some settings that I gotta figure out tricking cameras anyway so um yeah like I was really I've been really impressed with your program and I know I know you just ain't saying you're impressed because that's like we trying to not only be posers but I mean like don't don't get it twisted like I'm I'm I've always been impressed with the way you handle your audio animation and just the way they get pulled in don't act like they just getting on that we had a kid that's my blow-up kid I ain't got said man this is my blow-up kid and uh remember he told you I don't want nothing to do with music I don't want to I don't want to write raps or do none of that that's not the music I listen to like we was just forcing rap like take some rap and you make rap yeah and you in and you know what at first I was you know I told you I was like man you got to find a way to get that that that one kid engaged and then I see how you just kind of ease off of him and then as he seen what you were doing with the other kids and how he came to you yeah so I thought that was pretty good I didn't I didn't think that was gonna work with that particular kid yeah and I seen the way you wrote the man and then like me and him talking to his parents because I had to have a conference or a meeting if you will yeah and uh how excited he was about Joseph really oh my god you gotta come and listen I did music and uh it's for video games and I'm like he right she's like how does he keep going from these different I'm like we trying to help we're trying to fix and then what did she ask who the mother he she asked how's he going from these highs and lows with us like especially with the incident yeah and then not just the incident but that's not putting him out right he been at plenty of schools and they just kick him out yeah gone and then you know the way we handled it was different and we just told him because we care and then I did I take the approach of sometimes being aggressive or you know coming a little harder with him because I have to maintain structure back there but then the way I seen you ease off and then he came to you I thought that was a good bait and I wanted to you know commend you yeah on doing that because that was that was great thank you yeah you know I don't know how much I am for the whole music and all that like you know I see what you're doing and you're doing a good job as well man to just keep on keeping them going the way they is and because they can't wait till Tuesdays either they they on Tuesday night they telling their parents we got to be here on Tuesday and Thursday from five to seven that's amazing bro so yeah that's keep on working bro what you're doing is doing good as well yeah I mean that's amazing thanks for I didn't even know that that he I know you didn't tell me you're gonna pull my head up Mr. Davis I tell you I'm doing this right yes you are how about that without you even saying this and this is happening it's working yeah well if it's one thing that I know is that people don't want to be sold they want to buy so it's like when somebody is not when somebody's like showing a lack of interest and they're not really into it it's like I know I got to pull them into it not push them into it right and so it's like I'm just like okay I'm gonna go over here and I'm really that's why like the other kids making stuff is so powerful because I like he was able to see you know the other kids music the beat he made and then listen to the other song that the other kid made and admired that right I just felt like I think he felt like he just couldn't do that you know he's like I but I can't do that that's not what I do but I was like but what can you do you know like I was like you got to do something that you do bro right you ain't got to do what they're doing right do what you do and then when he found his own lane and started making his own sounds and then it was appreciated by others like that his peers they heard it they liked it and now and see and I can understand so we're talking a little bit from our day-to-day into our after school program yeah so I guess the only thing that I was saying to you when I was like hey no man you gotta you gotta keep him engaged you gotta you got to pull him in it wasn't that I was thinking like you wasn't going to help him as effectively as you helped the others it was more so that this is a part of our emotional and social healing process and we've added that into our day reporting curriculum yeah so he has to be engaged right you get what I'm saying so and then I see how the other ones are like you spark that interest and now everybody just want to get to you for the after school can you call my mom Mr. Davis and tell her can you call my grandma no I'm not because you're supposed to have known this we just didn't start this thing you know this journey didn't happen today we've been told you guys about it so I just want more people to engage bring your kids on out yeah Mr. Allen can you just kind of I know I cut you off but can you kind of just explain more about the program the audio program and where you going with it yeah so we did create a nine week curriculum um and the whole idea is for we so we call the the curriculum we call the program heart chords heart chords right and the whole idea is like a violin chords or is it I mean it's not specific you know I just thought the reason that we're talking about the chords is because what I was talking about with the music is we strike an accord right with the sound within the person you know like when they hear it it's like it's something in it that inspires you right you know what I'm saying so and then like so the the vibe of the sound because through the music and the beats I can teach them about like notes octaves and different and how the different notes make you have different feelings so they can learn more about what they're listening to and how it's impacting their circumstance or their reality or their mind or their psyche or spirit you know I'm really it's really an orientation to give you because now I listen to specific things because I don't want certain things in my mind like give you if like certain types of music if you listen to it like I don't really listen to a lot of rap oh anymore like I listen to my own music that that I make that when I rap right but I don't listen to other you understand the message that you put out yes I'm hypnotizing myself with my own message I'm like so I'm trying to teach them kind of how to I like old school and love making music yeah I like that I like the skate connection skate music remember oh yeah computer love okay hey don't go down this rabbit hole with me but the whole program the whole thing is to really um teach these to really create a whole new um a whole new genre like a music of like music that's like I call it manifestation music but it's really powerful music about your future so I got one kid he's rapping by his football he's rapping about like he was here to win and never fail that's it all on the field you know that he's rapping about him doing great scoring touchdown so it's like that's now repeating in your mind that's who you you're becoming that it's like a mantra and then Scott he I was like Scott tell me oh and then the other kid yeah we can't say their names so then the other kid he told me I want to run track and I was like okay let's write a song about you running track so he wrote his song about him running track being successful at it doing great and he started repeating it and repeating it because he had to I told him like you before we go in the studio you got to rehearse you got to learn the verse you know you got to know it you got to be able to just spit it out with the feeling and and meaning and to do that you have to know it so then I got him rehearsing and it's like a mantra they're saying their lyrics over and over and over so now that's just burned into the back of their mind but it's positive you know so then when they wake up like here to win and never fail they wake up with that on their mind you see what I'm saying exactly exactly so it's like I'm like you need to you need to um a music like it's like a soundtrack to your life if you ever had experiences during different times in your life there's different music that you was listening to yes that relates to that time period you know what I mean so what I'm trying to show these kids how to do is create their own soundtrack to their life like this is when I was going through this I made this when I was going through this I made this and what I'm also getting them to then because what I want them to realize over time is wow I made this song and it came true because my music comes true my videos when I make videos they come true when I make animations they come true manifestation they manifest you see what I'm saying I'm no doubt I'm with you so instead of like sit here and meditate I'm manifest I'm like nah let's make some music about your future let's show you know what I'm saying let's strike some chords let's get some good vibes see that's that's like that's a new weapon for the new age you know like bow and arrows yeah I can be seated here in indiana and blowing shit up I got a little too excited and looking like a man but yeah but yeah that's cool manifestation yeah like I mean how do you really fix stuff you gotta like we don't really we don't realize how things actually work man but manifestation is so real in your life always you know and even if you don't believe in it it's happening to you and so it's like I don't want to fix the surface of the problem I want to fix the root and the reality is is that your experience is coming from the inside out so you would you and then whatever you put into you is what's coming out so oh my god no I'm sorry because you know I just it's crazy for us not to know each other as for a long time have two separate programs that no matter what they run in hand in hand they intertwine because father first is who are you can't know who you are if you don't know what you are that sounds dumb as hell I know in the moment but you know this is crazy then it go over to you and then you like manifestation then I can bring it back and you know yeah you have to know who you are to manifest things in your life bro and you like nah we not just gonna do it like that it's cool what mr david said but we're gonna have it so we rocking to it everybody else is gonna help you because corporate prayer can bring manifestation to life just as fast wow speak on it baby go ahead speak on it yeah I'm so with when you got 12 people rocking to your vision and bringing it through hitting them notes out bang bang oh man I'm just bro I just see it so like dang like man this one of them times where I ain't got no the word ain't just coming I'm just getting all this like like I'm excited but you know what that was so dang that's dope bro right it's dope I mean only because I didn't think of it that way I didn't think of it I was too busy just you know being mad because they don't want to pick up the headphones and keep my room is so clean instead of doing different things that I wasn't seeing your vision clear as I'm seeing it right now and how God has taken me with somebody else that's creating something that not only compliments but makes me better you making me better I'm growing with this new manifestation music technology new weapon for this generation bro you got it hey dang I thought I thought I didn't think we were far off because chess strategy patience all that type of stuff and then you know mentoring trying to bring kids into who they are knowing who they are right how do you know who you are man like dang you got me you got me or just yeah I'm God all right I'm gonna let Mr. Allen know what I had to do with uh you know the other guy with the kid nah with the first kid that made the raps though about the football yeah now look that kid like so he he was he really wanted to do this too so I was like oh he's a good one because he wants to make music he wants to rap on his music he sees himself successful at this and so he knows that I know how to do it I let him hear some of my songs and he was like dang that's you know since I was like nah he knows that I can do it so now he's gonna listen to me and so when we go in there when you run these ads put some of your music on there so I can hear it taste because I like it go ahead my bad all right anyway so so when he came in here and he came in the studio I had to teach him how to slow down and how to get in his own and how to focus and how to how to say the words and enunciate the words like how to pronounce the words right and get it out and get the feeling out like and all of that stuff was a test to his goal the focus the calming down the channeling you know the spirit you know what I'm saying like I'm like you gotta you gotta channel your inner spirit bro like you gotta let the words come out you gotta let them fall out bro you can't if you try to say them if you try to say them to the beat it come out whack bro it's like it sounds like a robot you sound like a robot bro you can't sound like a robot you gotta deliver it with feeling and heart and meaning and he just did it over and over and over until he got it he was like getting it boy man he started getting on there bro and letting it ride letting it rip getting in the zone letting it feel but knowing how to access the zone bro the focus point the self-control all that you need for chess everything you just said all that you that's what I'm saying it goes everything all our program kind of guides you from one place and then it's repetition then the sending you back and you don't even realize you're doing the exact same thing yes it's the principles though bro we teaching them guiding principles not it's not like an everyday you did this wrong just correct this now it's no it's these guiding principles that teach you how to teach yourself yeah because once you got principles bro you correct yourself that's big you know what i'm saying that's big it is that's big i'm talking right now what's being said bro what we talking bro that's big and not just that being able to go back and look at this footage because i don't always remember everything yeah this is big all right bro bobby you know what let me tell you i've known because i understand that traditional education is about memorization it's about memorizing things yes how much of that do you remember i don't remember i don't remember most of it bro i tried to fold the airplane yesterday oh i couldn't even remember how to refold this airplane because i wasn't interested in it no more i ain't been interested in that in years so i knew how to do it when it had my interest but when i lost interest now whatever i don't want to fold that airplane you don't use it you lose you lose it because what people don't know about our minds our brains are like computers they store gigabytes of data and what your brain thinks you don't need it deletes it's just like a computer that 30-day delete yeah you got like a little 30 days you need it we need more space some of us operate on their on that 10-day delete but see the thing is principles remain right when you learn principles that you don't delete that those are your guiding guidestones yeah that's your guiding light so it's like when you have principles you can dis-earn circumstances in the moment your principles allow you to gain dis-earnment and more experience the greater level of dis-earnment you'll have so the more experiences you have the more dis-earnment you'll develop so you need experience and principles for great decision making abilities and you know what i'm i'm i meant for great decision making abilities there you go perfect perfect uh i think too a lot of times where we might miss the mark even with having these these profound great teaching experiences that we're talking to kids and i'm not just talking about kids but i'm talking about adults as well using words that they don't understand but playing like they know what they're talking about like uh not you but i'm saying like dis-earnment that'll be used that'll be used the kid will use it manipulation the kid will use that they'll use that word they didn't heard it and they didn't heard it in certain contexts in their lives and other parts of adult lives yeah or might have heard it in church but they really need to understand what the words is because i've sat there on my round talks yeah in the morning yeah and just said a word and asked them what do it mean and they told me what they thought it mean but out of these five kids that i had at the table everybody had a different meaning for the same word and i'm like where did you get this from um so i showed them what it meant and i'm making them write it down now in their journals right that's powerful and they're using it let me go let's go alan they're using it but it's very important that us as parents we or us as individuals human beings yeah start learning what we are saying so that manifestation happens in a timely manner that's correct you talking about etymology and i mean it's called etymology etymology is just the definition it's the true definition of words of words because a lot of times if you don't you'll you'll say something and it'll mess up your whole manifestation yep and the thing is we don't odd word that we use we don't know the real definitions like we use words incorrectly all the time yes like for instance did you know that when you say when you say do you understand me you're asking someone to stand under you like if the police pull you over when they ask you do you understand and you say yes i understand you're giving them power you're giving them you're giving away your power and this is in the dictionary of legalese that's what's great that's why they come to the side and they say do you know why i'm pulling you over i don't answer questions no no i don't answer questions get on with this ticket my car don't smell like nothing bro get on with you we're not friends they're not doing us any favors i don't know they're not doing us any favors bro they're not doing us any favors they don't pull you over and say hey well you were doing 90 i'm gonna give you 74 you're still getting a ticket yeah the 90 increases it to reckless driving and then they got to do more paperwork that's why they don't go to the 90 that you was doing now do you you're a good person and i'm gonna do something right yeah doing something right and not writing the damn ticket don't give me no ticket leave me alone all right another rabbit hole i'm a rabbit hole guy but go ahead and we're talking about etymology we just talk about the meaning of words and just knowing what what words means and sometimes we like even when we use compound words both those words in the compound word have their own meanings but we just discard that like we're not saying anything and like words are waves okay waves and sounds have effects so you can't really change the meaning of a wave you cannot you can't change the effect of a sound that's why words have meaning and both of them hit so if you misunderstand what our words what words mean and you use it wrongly it still means that yep you still manifest in the thing that you don't want even because you don't know what it means you see what i'm saying so it's so powerful to just understand what you're saying in the words you're using because then you can you can start understanding why certain things were happening in your life before that you didn't get you're like why is this happening why is this happening why you're you're calling it you're bringing it yes yes go brother keep spells that's exactly that's what we do with our mouth we cast spells yes sir you know that yes especially with the english language the english language designed to cast spells that's why ours in english language is so backwards to people from other countries because we even write different we write right to left everybody else write left to right do they i'm gonna say everybody yeah i'm like wow but not not not everybody but there's a lot of like older like older older dialects older uh older uh civilizations they write the they write i think in um i think in uh what is this what's the muslim countries i think they write arabic arabic yeah they write right to left really yeah but we write left to right and they read right to left i believe i don't want to be wrong instead of wrong all right well we should scratch this work nah this is true though bro i know it's true to an extent but you still no i still leave it in there even if i'm wrong about the ones the person because i know that our language was changed to right right to left intentionally on purpose like our the way we read and write was intentionally right to left and our language is intentionally created you don't read right to left if i'm looking at this right now and i'm so i got it backwards yeah that's not right no left to right we read right to left right left to right yes sir yeah we gotta scratch that you better scratch that shit hard i'm telling you for an hour yeah because i'm like no bro i don't know how you read not i'm pretty sure that this is left and i read this yeah are you reading from the back thing was that we read and write left to right and our language was intentionally created to read and write left to right but initially there's some of the first languages created they read and wrote right to left but hey i'll look it up before yeah oh i'm gonna look it up we publish the podcast please if i can't find it i'll tell you or let it play so they can see i don't care you don't know good that's why i don't mind being wrong that's why i rock with you oh i i don't like to be wrong you don't know i like it wrong be listen bro when you when someone can show you something that you didn't know you just agree bro like you grew like not being not wanting to be wrong it's like indulging me like because no no you're going the wrong way whatever bro like i say wrong like you saying we read right to left i don't want to be a part of that one you get what i'm saying that's the kind of wrong i want to know and like i can't just let you do that that's why i'm like no bro you don't know so you ain't so so nobody ever corrected you and showed you something that you was an error then and you felt like they was wrong because it's perception oh so i think that's where we might disagree i don't mind being proven wrong if you say something to me bobby i mean bro you said things to me but i'll sit there and think about it i ain't just gonna pop up out the mouth and say that you don't know what you're talking about especially if you strike a chord if you have said you have not you don't remember well maybe i don't but it came out of your mouth okay well i didn't remember so what you're wrong all right cool hey if i say and now look bobby if i tell you i don't remember do i say well i don't remember so i didn't say it no i say well shoot maybe i did say it but i don't remember i don't sit there and tell and fight you about it i'm just saying you fight me about whether it's okay or not and it's not okay whether you remember it or not man we're going all in whatever man we we do this this this what we do we find the rabbit hole we jump in and then we throw the we throw the rope back out and then we start to talk about after school programs with mr allen and mr davis it's easy we can do it we can we can bring it full circle i think that we do jump off in and we jump off into some good thing and maybe we should change the podcast name to mr allen and mr davis goes down the rabbit hole hey yo so we got a new 3d animation show coming out ain't that dope ain't that dope hey guess what i you know what i decided to do widen up my character no oh mr davis there goes why we on the podcast i'm just saying i i apparently i'm a little bigger than others and the animation doesn't allow for no what i was bigger people as big as me so we're using a real simple program so that the kids can make characters too and fat kids too and um anyway so we so i want to use a program because the program that we're using is more art based so they can draw in the characters and everything but i was like it's like an anime style so all the characters is real like thin little model yeah and i was like mr davis i don't know if i can make this character match your stature oh yeah no i'm right that ain't what you said you're wrong you're wrong i don't think they make the characters that why that's what he said verbatim that's exactly it and i think he took it a little more personal than i meant it i didn't mean it as a person you know what he hurt my feelings and i said i was sorry yeah you is sorry hey we're saying that to me you is sorry hey listen you know what's funny we just talked about being sorry all y'all always apologizing i'm sorry i just said it too automatically sorry yeah i'm so sorry okay mr davis i apologize man i did i did not accept your apology because i'm not mad all right cool but let's go back to that i'm sorry thing i like that that topic that was that was good bro that was in the rabbit hole strikes again right because listen when you it's a whole different way you can look at saying that i'm sorry and like when you think about what you're saying you're saying when you say to someone hey it's like oh man why'd you do that to me oh man you know i'm sorry what you're saying is that i'm a sorry person i'm a sorry person i'm a sorry person that's why i do stuff like that but i'm sorry hey listen it's more of an excuse than anything yes it's like when you say you're sorry you're really excusing yourself because you're a sorry person which is why you do sorry things that's crazy right feeling regret or penance feeling distress especially through sympathy with someone else's misfortune i think one of those key words is good sympathy i'm sorry no that's a good yeah you're sorry person but for others misfortune i'm sorry that my actions caused you misfortune hey so let's talk about the word sympathy because that wasn't i was thinking about this the other day because you got sympathy and you got empathy right i'm sorry what did you say you sorry person no i'm sorry i didn't you sorry you didn't hear me because you sorry you didn't hear me because you're sorry for your misfortune for thinking about those two words but check it out i've got sympathy and empathy i think people think they mean the same thing you can't you can't believe bro but but but but give me give me this one okay i could see why because of the way they've been used in different contexts and for one person saying it and they trusted that person who was saying it and they did it wrong and it just became tradition of miscommunication look up sympathize let's look at what sympathize mean and empathize so let's look up at the definition we're going root word all right because it wouldn't be sympathize it would be sympathy okay sympathy empathy you gotta remember that sympathy feelings of pity and sorrow for someone else's misfortune all right empathy you all right working really good on this now there go and click the ability to understand and share the feelings of another um that's a big difference huge that's why i couldn't believe like i ain't saying you were lying but i can't believe that somebody could get them confused but i can understand yeah i mean what the thing is like how many people know the true definition of words they don't know the definitions of words they just know the context of them they hear people use them and they're like oh okay that's where i use that word that's true so they don't really know the difference but i don't usually sympathize i empathize i understand your perspective right usually i'm like hmm i understand so when would you use would you use sympathy with someone losing someone or empathy or empathy with someone losing someone i you know what the thing is um so some people if you don't sympathize with them they take it as offensive okay you see what i'm saying yeah they're misfortune because yeah right right right they have a misfortune and they're feeling a certain type of way and they're like why aren't you impacted by my misfortune you see me going through this how come you're not feeling bad for me yeah how come you're not pitying me yeah you see what i'm saying so um i have a hard time with that because i don't really pity people because this is life we all go through stuff you know what i'm saying like the thing is is that you a student of a lesson or you're the victim of a circumstance you tried me one or the other but you can't be both you got to be because if you a victim you ain't learning no lesson so i'm not sitting around sympathizing with you i empathize with you i empathize about your circumstance but i also understand that there's actions that you probably need to take next there's or there's a lesson or something that you probably supposed to draw from this or there's some type of strength that you're supposed to draw from it there's something that you take from the experience but sitting around victimizing yourself doesn't give you that ability to take the lesson you're right so i can't like me sympathizing with you isn't helping you like if i really cared about you i wouldn't sit around sympathizing with you and letting you wallow and wallowing with you and your pity and oh yeah you're right it's so bad you're a victim like no i think you can be both until you draw completely away from victimization you just sometimes you become a victim without you even realizing it because that's a part of depression and sometimes you can fall in that hole and then try to move out a certain way without learning a lesson and you end up back into it that's why i say you can be both because depression is like a pothole on the street you go down right before you get home anyway and you know that pothole is there and you try to miss it but every time you miss it and go fast it you come back down the street because you got to get to your house and that pothole then got bigger right and then before you realize it's a crater and then you didn't fell into the crater with the whole car you're really down there trying to figure out you know what i'm saying like that's the way i see it in my mind and it's just it's just it's just hard not to be a victim when you didn't keep digging that hole yourself so hey you you know the word simp right simp simp yeah and you know what simping is right yeah where'd that word come from you think it's sympathy really yeah why do you think that's what do you think that means bro simping but that's what i'm saying it means so many different things in so many different parts of the country why what is it where does it come from if it don't come from that if you calling somebody a simp where did that even come from bro i thought so like we know what it is it's like is you a a bitch for being having sympathy yeah kind of well i must i want to say that you know but that's you've got to because yeah that's what a simp is like oh pitiful yeah ah damn yeah god yeah because i'm like you're a simp you're a simp you're simping that's oh yeah you know she uh you have a sympathy huh yeah yeah i empathize with you but uh i'm not in that yeah you you made those choices not me you're not gonna conform to that no oh no i empathize with you i understand you know what i tell people a lot when they say stuff i understand your perspective i understand your position i say that a lot bro because it's telling them that i see where you're coming from i'm just not here feeling sorry for you right but dang you know that happened to you man that is rough i understand your perspective you know um there's things you can take from it though you know what i mean yeah definitely gotta do that yeah that's where i'm at with it bro gotta empower somebody to see what could be or what it was and where they might have missed it because like i told you it's hard when you're the one driving down that street and you know that pothole there you try to dodge it and it's getting bigger but you always got to go home but think about um okay so do emotions make you smarter or stupider i said stupider well there you have it i got emotional yeah there you have it do the emotions do they empower you with knowledge and wisdom better that was way better do they like when you get all emotional do you make the best decisions you don't uh but i believe some emotions make you more intuitive to see things that you might not be able to see empathy you mean feelings yes you mean because feelings are emotions i think that i think feelings and emotions are different it's a part of the same feelings is an emotion i mean emotions let's look it up now come on man no i want to know the difference let's look up feelings i wish we had the ai i mean what's the difference if you got me phone and a friend and yeah let's look up the difference between feelings and emotions just look that up just say what's the difference between feelings and emotions oh my goodness you don't want to like talking to your phone i don't like talking to my phone i just look at the definition what's the difference between feelings and emotions according to the online counseling program a fundamental difference between feelings and emotions is that feelings are experienced consciously while emotions manifest either consciously or or subconsciously oh okay yep so see that's when you do that that that doesn't okay let's talk about well what is okay let's talk about what she said and what it means so she said that feelings are experienced consciously and emotions are are experienced yep see you can go on i'm listening in the subconscious or unconscious so basically when you become emotional you become more up uh unconscious so i i've just pulled up something else and just uh you know how they give you those uh this is copyrighted by the pleasant mind and they got like a small chart and it has feelings on one side versus emotions and the feelings in this column it says based on reasoning stay for longer not intensive comes from the heart can be hidden that's feelings and then it says emotions it is not impulsive it's intensive brain's byproduct seen through expressions so the feelings are more so something that you uh you're controlling i guess and emotions are more of the out of control yeah so when you become emotional you lose control yeah because you become unconscious right bro we just drunk come on we just hitting on something that's that's big yeah there's a difference between feelings and emotions and then it say the way to manage emotions and feelings meditation talking shift focus exercise the body investing in self-care oh let's go yeah focus is huge yeah like to be able to like control like because what i'll be seeing like just like when i've seen like uh you know the one kid like he doesn't want to lose that control but he just he just does like he just go oh man you said that oh 15 minutes ago but what up man so what i was seeing with um when we were sitting there talking you was having a great talk you know um you know oh okay remember that and like it was he had to write his 50 times had had to write the 50 and i was not swaying off i wanted it to look like it was written the first time i wasn't swaying yeah and so he wrote it out and he missed the letter and he had to do it all over and he when he found out he had to rewrite those 50 times i'm like dang you trying to hold that back but you can't he couldn't hold that back he could not control the hammer get it out bro yeah those was emotions yeah like he got emotional yeah like he was like he flipped out a couple times and he would sit back down and just like man but then like the way and you impressed me so much bro you did mr davis bro when you sat there and stay calm and steady the whole time and spoke to him with the tone he was like it's okay you know it's fine bro you made it okay you gave him acceptance like bro man you know how these you know how these kids is man they so used to everybody just looking at him and watching go through that and just want to you know pitch him right it's easy it's easier for me to throw you out of the class than to deal with it right and i but i think that made all the difference bro then you know like because it's like man you go you went through that with him when most people ain't willing to yeah you know i'm saying like he lost control and you literally just went through that with him but did not sway from your decision and you did it very calmly assertively like you were assertive and sure you were a rock you was like it was like he was like a ship floating around in the ocean with a rope tied to you and it was like way and you was the rock you was the steadiness you want to know what if it wasn't for albert's prior to this in this setting these kids made me the way i am when i deal with them that's what's up they don't even know like yeah that's you learning you changing they did because i was impressed bro you already know you know what you run around the room but that was your r and d you know what i'm saying see what what what's this what happened if i do this what happened if i do that and the fact that you've grown like i've just seen that you've grown since we first started doing it why what love yeah that's what that's what grew me and understanding that they might not never get it the way i'm gonna give it somewhere else in a traditional school setting right and everybody goes through so much and then they they bring it so much awareness to mental illnesses and all this and i'm not saying kids don't experience trauma kids don't have bipolar schizophrenic they i'm not saying that that's not a real thing right i'm definitely saying that if you keep telling somebody they one thing and you get other people telling somebody that they the same one thing that the other we talked about this earlier we are manifesting something in this kid's life and then what we manifesting is getting inside of him because you can't manifest for somebody else but you can drop a seed and they can take that and grow that thing better than you could and it's going to be even worse because they believe it so now they do hear the voices now they can't control themselves so i just think it's so much harder for us to look at them and say no go ahead get it out it's important you're important this is important for your well-being right now you're not going to get to somewhere else you're in this place right now not because you're bad because the training you need to unlock somebody else is definitely going to come from the strong man me you carlos even miss nada has a play in this you get what i'm saying we all have this ain't our plan i'm pretty sure you wanted to do something else by the time you got you came i can't i ain't allowed to do nothing no god didn't already put his stamp on this thing and said we're gonna keep doing man earlier today my dude called me come move back to florida yeah for what come come on man we're gonna make money we're gonna make a lot of money man like i you know what i know it ain't no fulfillment for me in making a lot of money i made a lot of money before i didn't even like what i was doing i didn't like my life i was like i'm not fulfilled in making a lot of money i'm fulfilled by impacting people's lives especially people that need me but really there's more kids than anyone else because they're innocent they're just children they don't even know what's going on they don't know any better and us as adults we got a responsibility to care for them to take all the adult all of us not just us being in here and understanding what we understand but all of when that kid goes out of here and he goes with that family or wherever he's journeying after this everybody has to be imparting the same things into this kid so we can make the changes that's necessary for the next generation you get what i'm saying we're not doing it we're we're missing marks because and we can only control what we can control when we can control it and we can only be impactful to these kids that come they have to come in order for us to to impart them to them you know what i'm saying but when we are doing it we got to be purposeful yes we gotta be purposeful and because you are living your purpose because you are being who you are gotta take the increase on all this every time we not eyes and weeds and nah it's God this is God's business bro yeah at least coming from me and i know coming from you i ain't saying it like that our organization it's growing lives it's growing minds but we but the thing is is that we also act selflessly here we serve selflessly here ain't we supposed to yeah we supposed to but guess what people don't so people don't so what i mean what i mean well i'm i think i'm making that point because i think that's why we're successful yeah i think we're successful because we don't put ourselves first we successful because we put God first yes father first yeah all things and he he's the one guiding us like the thing is is that let me go stop the phone for a minute now the reason i even brought that up and talked about it was because how could i if i didn't know that you put God first i couldn't even trust you that's why i trust you that's why are we friends that's why i work with you that's why i'm here if you weren't here i'll probably wouldn't be here we're here every day if it was somebody else some other person that was in the room with me every day and they we wasn't aligned and they didn't understand the real mission and purpose and what we're doing they would be fighting me they'll be fighting me every day yeah and i already been through that i already been through like knowing what has to happen and working with somebody who just don't get it because they're not putting God first because they're not hearing the message they're not hearing the same they don't see the same vision i'm seeing they don't hear the same messages i'm hearing you hearing the messages i'm here and sometimes though truth be told i'm not always on the same page with you and you don't have to be real but no but i'm i'm saying that to say when in time and it does come full circle it don't come from you yeah you get what i'm saying now like hey this is the thing we're doing and i'll be like well maybe i don't want to do too much video stuff and he said i got out of it you get what i'm saying i'm like no like but then he showed me like today like he showed me where all of he's like like probably y'all ain't doing nothing different bro i don't know just hitting it on this way because that's one of the gifts and talents that i gave to alan and i'm like i like that part he was like well stop looking at him with your natural eye and see what i'm doing with him and it really came full circle tonight in this podcast that i didn't want to do that you wanted to not do because you was like oh you're looking so pitiful mr david and uh because i was tired and i was eating candy and he was like oh you gotta eat all that candy and drink that energy drink to get it together maybe we should do it tomorrow yeah and we did we did it we didn't even we had a uh uh not a title but a topic a topic to talk about and we did we went to where we went just on because we hadn't talked about it right and look at how it further explains everything that i needed to hear maybe somebody is gonna listen to this need to hear but i needed to hear right you know what i'm saying to solidify what god is doing in here and god did that i ain't have nothing to do with it you know what though i just got because this is and this is why like when you doing something i don't care what i don't agree with that you do right because i know who you following and we don't have to have the same instructions i don't know what he told you to do i don't even know why he told you to do right it don't matter it don't matter i just know if that's who you look just keep on listening and i tell everybody this i'm like and then when people come to me sometimes they be like man to what do i do tell me what to do i'm like well i can't tell you what to do only one person to tell you what to do is called god the most high god is the only person you need to listen to tell them get a relationship you need a relationship with god that's it that's you come into me for your answers i don't have your answers bro i can guide you to some principles i can show you how to find the answers yeah i can tell you how to go to god because that's the only way and that's the thing we do is teaching these kids the same thing it's like listen yo you gotta trust god you need faith you there's gonna be times i'm not gonna be there every time but god gonna be there every time bro every time when you come here i'm like i'm go to god let me show you how to go to god like here let me show you how to go to god and whenever i'm like when i'm like creating something if i'm writing music i'm doing i'm tapping in with the god i'm i'm spending time with god i'm focusing i'm like channeling what he's giving to me he's giving me information he's giving me lyrics he's giving me the words he's giving me the vision i'm spending my time with my father's doing my creations that's a lot of people don't understand when they be interrupting me and they want to talk i don't want to talk to you i'm talking to god why do i want to talk to you right now without talking to god but that's when you have that kind of relationship with god like you don't nobody else can compare you know and i'd be one people that experience that because they don't know nothing about it and i'm like man i don't need to talk to nobody at any time to be honest with you because i have somebody to talk to i don't need no other instructions i have instructions you see what i'm saying like i already know that but i know what i'm supposed to be doing it even if i don't even understand the next step i know when i get to that step that the next step will be revealed he will show me what to do i have that much faith i'm gonna walk i don't need the physical sight i have a spiritual sight i don't care what it looks like with my eyes i'm still gonna march forward you're supposed to yeah i'm gonna keep going because i got that much faith and i know that ain't nothing behind me i tried it all ain't nothing back there ain't the riches corvettes you know lakefront property whatever it ain't nothing back there for me bro i don't care about none of that stuff bro when i was in florida i barely went to the beach all my boys had boats they would be inviting me i'll be at home creating something i'm like nah man i'm talking to god you know i'm like i'm making something i'm doing something i don't want to do that bro that's dope and if i was with you i'd be wishing i could be in solitude right now and creating with god you talking to god right now man that's something bro yeah it's that powerful when you actually develop that type of relationship with god you don't really want to do other stuff that's what you want to do because the the revelations you receive the answers the knowledge the the the uh the light the the burdens that get lifted off of you the things you thought when you knew you couldn't handle he's like man i can't you know i'm gonna get through this and he he delivered you he give you a get you he gave you a phone call somebody might call you or something happened you know he he always there bro and like you it's like you living in another experience than other people you living in a whole nother world than they live in they sitting around worrying about things they can't control worrying about things they can't do nothing about and thinking that it's all on them to do something you're right and i'm like no bro that's there so you go to him he's teaching you how to come he's teaching you how when it's too heavy to trust me i can lift it he's showing you and without that experience you like sit on his crotch hold on you just said hold on i gotta stop you go ahead i forget it go ahead but when we was in that meeting the other day you said god don't put more on you than he know you can handle but you just said god put all that on you so you can ask him to handle it that's where people miss it he puts more on you because he needs you to know your relation with ship with him is trust me i carry that weight i got it now you give me now we hit the same thing i had to stop right there i'm sorry but i'm like you did it again you know what i'm saying yeah but that's why that's exactly why and you said it you said it i was thinking how do i explain this to you the other day and when we assigned it because everybody think we'd be going at each other and it never feels like that to me when we never mean and it just tells me like it's like you'd be pulling on me and i'll be like okay here here here here here here yeah so it's like it's like it strengthened me up like you you the arm that helped sharpen me yeah you know what i'm saying so that's why and for for that when i'm looking for that one specific thing and sometimes it might not hit and then that could be a little bit of that uh that that pride or that vanity that's trying to you know i'm trying to puff up even though i say i'm not you know what i'm saying i am you know what i'm saying but like that was perfect that was perfect he put it all on you he's giving you more than he sink or swim how what you're gonna do secret swim you gotta let some of that go where are you gonna send it because the only one that can grab it is who bro and you know what though and that the thing is is that like because i'm i'm older now um but when i was i remember when i was younger even when i was in my 20s and god like he just blessed me you know i had physical abilities and i was talented and stuff and i thought that i was doing a lot of stuff i thought i was doing this i thought i was doing this i thought i could do this man and i had to i he had to break me down and show me man you ain't doing nothing bro i'm doing this you know why because that foundation he broke you down to that powder cement he had to break me down bro and it's like once he did that he was like now that i got you broke i need you to demonstrate this i need you to show them but i need you to because people gonna see what you can do but when you tell them how you did it and it's through me you hear what i'm saying because they can see what i'm doing you see what i'm saying i'm like yeah i'm doing this i'm like yeah bro i'm god showed me the way like you don't i understand now how he showed me though before i didn't know nothing i thought i was doing anything it was never me so what changed and i became i became it is an enlightenment like if the lights turned on like i became aware so how did you become aware through uh child by fire like get it broke down getting everything taken away from me there was one day right but i want we got to make it real specific here okay i'm i'm actually leading you because you know what it is and it's so simple what changed to help you see all everything you're seeing so one day i was um it was it was my my first i was making some i was making money relationship nah i was making money it wasn't it wasn't your change in relationship with god ain't the reason why oh that's where i'm going yeah of course yeah i'm saying like why specifically oh you're going this is what happened but it was like 2008 okay and i was making money i was living down in Pittsburgh i had my own townhouse you know i i could do whatever i want and i was young too i was in my 20s i was probably 20 something years old i forget how old i was i spent six years there but you know i was unfulfilled and i didn't know none of my neighbors and i'm living in this community and i'm like what is this life i'm like what is this i just go to work every day i make some money i come home i go out with my friends at night i don't really want to but there's nothing else to this life what is this and um i was like god why don't you show me like what is this all about can you come show me and he took everything away from me my business failed all my technicians i had like seven technicians that was working for me they the job stopped coming they stopped working there wasn't no jobs my residuals was over my money was coming in i didn't there was no jobs for me you know i said then it was like he um i wasn't so i sold all my tools i was like man i'm gonna just sell all my tools i started then i started learning how to try to learn how to sell i failed at selling and um after everything was gone i started realizing because when everything was gone and then i didn't i didn't have the money and i wasn't doing the things the only person that i could see that was doing them was god i was like dang these things are happening and i can't deal with it but he was dealing with it he would fix it before when you got money you think you're the one that's doing it you think you you think that power that you using you think that that it's all you it's all you you see but when you don't have anything and we stripped you down takes everything away and there ain't nothing there but you and him you know what's going on you powerless you sitting there powerless and he just moved moved moved and then you realize you ain't even need all that stuff you didn't that stuff was filling up your attention it filled up your space it filled up your mind you were your mind wasn't free you couldn't focus you couldn't pray you couldn't do all all the things that you can do now with the space he's giving you and the things he took you thought you was losing stuff no you was getting rid of stuff i thought i was losing things he showed me no you got rid of those things now it's just me and you now i'm gonna show you what's really real and when i went to california oh boom boom you've reached another passion i'm trying to produce you know i just work it out there a and b conversation see your way out that's good man and i'm telling you