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A pastor leads a prayer for mental strength amidst national hardship, urging believers to be "tough." He emphasizes checking on neighbors and diversifying social circles by changing seating arrangements during small group discussions. After physically rearranging attendees to encourage new perspectives while allowing couples to stay together, he initiates table conversations asking participants to share their positive experiences ("high notes") from the previous week. Thank you, Father. We give you praise and glory. Thou art worthy. Thou art worthy to be praised. We thank you. Can you pray for strength tonight? And say, Lord, strengthen me. In the midst of the hardship upon this country, Lord, strengthen me. Lord, keep my sanity. Keep my sanity. I feel like somebody should pray that prayer. Lord, keep my mind together. I will not go mad. I will be strong. My mind will be together. Help me, Lord. Keep my sanity, O God. In the midst of so much trouble, keep my sanity, O God. Keep my sanity, O God. In Jesus' mighty name we pray. All right. Come and just check out somebody, how the people beside you are doing. There's a lot of pressure. Check out how they are doing. There's a lot of pressure. Ask the person, how are you doing? Lot of pressure everywhere. Lot of pressure. There's a lot of pressure in the country. Ask the person by your side, how are you surviving really? How? How are you surviving? Just pray that God will strengthen you. God will strengthen you. God will strengthen you this season. It is tough, but we are tougher. Tell somebody it is tough, but we are tougher. How many of you are tougher? Tell yourself, I'm tough. You know, you know, you know there's one particular kind of meat that is tough when you want to embark on it. It's called isan. Everybody say isan. Believer, may you be an isan in this economy, because if you are not an isan in this economy, you will die before your time. Look at someone and say, may you be tough. You have to be tough, oh. Things are happening every day. That people are not committing suicide means Nigeria is one of the greatest countries. We are so strong. Soon and very soon. You people don't want to sing again here. Why are people not singing now? Soon and very soon. Some people, it's not because we refuse to sing that song with you. There's a woman of God, please, please, please. We are just partialized. We don't want to sing. Oh God. All right. The problem now is that I will now put more pressure on you again now. That's the problem. But I have to do my own job. Okay. All right. Do you have an idea of everybody sitting on your table? Are you sure you know them? Are they new? If they are new, introduce yourself to everybody, please introduce. If they are not new, no problem. But people that are new, can you just let, just know the people on your table, please. Know the people on your table, please. It's very important. I'd like you to know the people on your table because of so many exercises that will be taking place. So know the people on your table. Can I, can I help some of you? Can I help some of you? Let me help some of you. Can I help some of you? Listen. Anytime. Are you listening to me? Let me help some of you. Anytime. Is it this light or is me that my face is doing somehow? Anytime you keep sitting with people that you know, every time you keep sitting with them, you limit your exposure. Because you get not to hear something new. Now, every time they say sit with somebody to discuss issue, is this person again. Sit with somebody to discuss, is this person. There's something just say, bro, bro, bro, let me, let me get another perspective to life. So let me encourage some of you that have been sitting in the same seat. Every time we have group conversation, every time we have table conversation, is the same people you are sitting with. So please change. If you don't change, I will change you. I promise you. So I don't want to, I don't want to delay. Change now. Find, find other places for conversation. Hear other voices. Okay, no problem. You know your pastor now. Don't even waste time myself. Come. Ah, you are here today. Nice one. Oya come, come, come. Come. Philip come. Stand up, stand up. Uche stand up, you stand up. Please stand up. No. One, two, come here. One, two. Stand up, stand up, Blessing. Blessing come here. Blessing, go to where Sister B is. There. Chimi, come here. Leave there. Blessing, go to where Sister B is. Madam, stand up. Stand up, stand up, stand up. Go to where Sister B is. Go there, go there, go there. Oya Chimi, you go, go, go to where. Yeah, go there. Go there. Philip sit here. Oga you stay here. I said Uche come, come here, come here. One, two, follow me. Ada, go there. One, two. Come and sit with them here. No, no, both of you, come here. Diamond, come here. Come here, come here. You think, you think my eyes is not, is it because I didn't come near that place? Okay, let me leave it, let me leave it. I want husband and wife to sit together. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Husband and wife is okay to sit together. Husband and wife is okay to sit together. Where is David? David, sit with your wife. Sit with your wife. Husband and wife can sit together. It's part of the conversation. If there's husband and wife that have separated, please. Nothing will separate you. Please just join back, please. Okay. All right, so let's start. First, first, let's quickly in the classes. I hope some of you brought your last week conversation. Okay. So let's start, let's start first on each table. Let's start a conversation. What were your high notes last week? High notes. High notes of last week. Let's go, let's go, let's go. Somebody should always trigger conversation so that we don't, it doesn't drag. What were your high notes? Please fill, fill the group. Don't be opening any table if the group. Let's fill up. Fill the group. Fill the groups. So if you're joining us online, so we're reviewing first and foremost what happened last week. There are specific things that we said last week. There was something about communication. We just have about five minutes for this session, so please, let's stop. Three more minutes. Social media people, please just come out, come out, come out. I don't need anybody there. I don't need anybody in social media. I want everybody out. Let's sit, let's sit. You can take some shots, then you sit. All right, so if you're watching us. All right. Okay. One more minute. One more minute. What are the high notes? Are we talking in that class or we're talking different? I don't, it looks scattered. Can you bring somebody here? Here, here, here. Let's move people here. Let's fill this place. Let's move people here. NIA, come, come, come. Come here. Let's fill spaces. No, let him, let him sit, sit here. Sit here. Okay. All right, we have finished that session. Let's go to the next session. Now, please, I don't know whether they are putting the form on the screen for the people online. This form. So how will they participate? For the people online. Let's put, let's find a way to put it for them so that they can see it. All right, so you see, you are looking at a particular form right in front of you. Now, that form you're looking at is an analysis that I want us to quickly do. And like I always say, anything you're doing is for yourself. Anything you're doing is for yourself. So everything you're doing right now, nobody is taking it from you. You're taking it home, but it's for reflection purposes. There are many things you will not think about until they tell you to think about it. I remember years ago, while I was working in Systems Specs, they told us that they wanted to buy a Toyota Corolla. Now, at that time, the cars that most of us were driving were Daewoo Racers. And those were the cars that I think Daewoo Racer or something like that. So the moment we heard the news from management that they wanted to buy Toyota Corolla, everybody started looking and checking Toyota Corolla. Then they told us that it was the new Toyota Corolla or something like that. Then for one reason or the other, I started seeing Toyota Corolla everywhere. Now, Toyota Corolla had been existing, but there was no focus because it has not been brought to my thought. So what focus does is that it makes you see it clearer. So anytime you check something that is in your thought, it is clearer to you. It is more distinct. It has more power anytime you reflect. That's why Scripture said in Joshua 1:8, He said, "This book of the law," did you see that? "shall not depart from your mouth, but thou shall meditate." So what He's saying is this: if you keep looking at it, you will become it. And that's the reason why they always tell us, be careful what you meditate, because you will almost become what you meditate, whether good or bad. If you continually meditate, you will become. So the principle of reflection, even though the world has taken it from us, but it is the principle of Scripture. Now, the world will tell you, if you focus on one thing, you will achieve it. You've heard that many times. They got that motivation from Scripture. The Bible said, if your eyes be single, your whole body will be full of light. That is what they are saying in motivation. If you put singleness to your focus, you will almost become that. There's nothing really anybody can achieve if you set your mind in that one thing. So that's what reflection does. That's what reflection does. So anything we see that we are doing is that we are practicing reflection, which is scriptural. To be able to talk to yourself, to separate yourself for a while, and be able to reason on some things. And one very good thing is this: you can lie to everybody, but one person you can really not lie to is yourself. That's apart from God now. The one person you can't lie to, you can't lie to yourself, because you know that, okay, I won't tell anybody, but I know this is me. I know my problem. Have you heard people say that before? Even when you want to tell them this is your problem, they say, no, sir, that's not my problem. I know my problem. Okay. So, so this exercise, you can even copy. Your book to answer this exercise. You can shield it. You can request to go to the back to answer it. You can cover it. Whichever style you like to do. But the question is I want you to be real. Now in the book of Proverbs, one of the most powerful books in Scripture that helps you to deliver on wisdom, knowledge, and understanding. One time I made it a rule to read Proverbs every two months back to back. Because when you do that, some wisdom will rub on you. You won't even know why you are acting well, acting right, acting with discernment. It's the book of Proverbs. It's a very strong book. Because that book abuses you. That book will insult you. If you are not careful, that book will almost abuse your generation. Because when you see a book telling you, go to the ant. You see a book telling you, go to the ant. You see a book telling you, a little here and a little there, poverty will catch up with you. You see a book telling you that only a lazy man will say there's a lion in the street, I will not go and walk. You see a book begin to tell you, young man, where are you going to? You are a stupid man. You don't have understanding. The person telling the young man is also a man standing by the window case. He also doesn't have a job. You see a book just insulting you. A book will tell you that if you are slow with your words, you'll be slow with your wrath. You see a book telling you that, that be slow so that there is no anger in your heart. A book will tell you, he said, he that is often rebuked and hardeneth his neck, he shall be suddenly destroyed without remedy. It's such a powerful book. He talks to women. He will tell a woman, he said, beauty is vain. He said, favor is vain, but a woman that feareth the Lord. So he was telling women, he said, there will come a time all this your beauty will go. It's a book. It's Proverbs. He abuses. He abuses men. He said, a man with a froward mouth, the one I love most is this. He said, when you stand before somebody that have no knowledge, he said, disconnect. It's a book. It's a book that when you see a foolish man from afar, he said, don't continue speech with him. It's a book. That book can abuse you. Are you here? It's Proverbs I've been saying since oh. So people hardly go to Proverbs because the Proverbs will tell you, he said, wisdom is the principal thing. He said, know thy getting, get understanding. He's telling you something. He said, lean not on your own understanding. He said, in all your ways acknowledge him and he will direct your path. It's a book. It's a book that will remind you at different times when he's talking about a good man and a bad man. There's somewhere he spoke about, he said, there's a dressing of an harlot. It's a book. It's a book that will abuse you that the way you are dressing, there's a fragrance of an harlot. There's a fragrance of a prostitute. It's a book. It's a book that talks about how people, he said, that's the one that touched me the most. It's the book that touched me this one. The book says that when you play pranks and you do pranks and people are laughing, the book says you are a destroyer. It's this book. It will abuse you. I used to crack joke in those days where I will just use style and tell you this one is that, just relax now, we're just playing. Until I read that book, Proverbs 26:18 and 19. He said you are a foolish jester. It's a book. So this book is a powerful book. Now, I took time to go through the book again and I came out with ten different types of mouth. Everybody say mouth. Ten different types of tongues. Everybody say tongues. Now, those tongues, now, if you guard your mouth, Scripture says, you guard your life. Meaning that out of your mouth, a lot of things happen. If only a man can know how to guard his mouth, you'll be delivered from so many destructions. Even what brought some of us to where we are now is our mouth. If I did not say it, I won't be here. Do you know it was the book that said this in Proverbs? He said when you make a vow, when you make a commitment to somebody, he said don't go back and start saying I don't know what happened. No, he said you should die there to make sure that commitment comes to pass. It's this book. So you'll be careful how you make commitment to people. It's this book. So all those things I say I will die for you, especially those ones that say during wedding vow, I will bring you here. I will not be asking you. He said, do you take this woman? He said, yes. To be your lovely wedded wife? He said, yes. In sickness? Yes. In poverty? Yes. They want to change it. He said, in prosperity, no problem. In season and out of season? Yes. Then we will now seal you up with those words. That's why when I'm doing marriage vows, I will ask you, say it. Say it well. I want you to listen to it. Then you will make that vow with your mouth. Then after a while you now say I want to break up. What are you breaking? You are not going anywhere. What are you breaking? Praise God. So we are doing a mouth analysis for about three minutes. You know why I said three minutes? I could have said one minute. Because you don't need minutes. You know what your mouth is. You know your mouth immediately. The moment you are looking at it, you say, ah! That's why I know my mouth. And I try to get a scripture that will make you understand that mouth. Because some might be saying English, you will know the mouth. Are you ready? And if you don't have any mouth here, no problem. You are wonderful. You are blessed. But if you do it once in a while, once in a while, you know your mouth always go once in a while, please tick it oh. If your mouth always go once in a while, are we ready? All right, let's go. Three minutes. You can't think it, you can't think it, you know it. Just three minutes. You can cover it oh, don't let people see it oh, you know people. Let me tell you what's going on now. Some of you, instead of you to be thinking of your own, you are thinking about another person in your team. He said, I know the person that has this mouth. I know the person. Leave the person alone. Leave the person. Put your own mouth. Because I know people, they'll be thinking of other people. No, put your own mouth. Three minutes. No, you can't be discussing with people. How can you be discussing with people with your own mouth? Ah! I'm seeing people having conversation. Sorry, do you know my mouth? No! It's your mouth. You don't discuss. Ah! Why are you discussing your mouth? Sir, continue your own mouth. You don't think about it. If you are thinking about it, there is problem. That means you don't know yourself. The moment I saw it, I already know, Oga, Oga, Oga, is this not your mouth? We are discussing real issues. Leave business alone. Focus, focus. Focus. If you don't have anyone, no problem. No, no, no, that place, that box is for ticking. Tick, tick. If you have all the mouths, no problem. There's nothing wrong. The Lord is helping all of us. The Lord is helping all of us. Nedu, go and join. Go and join. Let's fill, fill. Don't let one person be sitting, please. Okay. One more minute. I like this group. Doesn't waste time. All mouths have been filled. No, no, no, there's no explanation. No, no, you don't explain anything. You just tick. Don't worry if it is 10%, 15%, that's not the problem. Just tick. Don't worry about percentage. Don't say, Pastor, I'm only 10% here. That's why I said tick it. Don't put. Don't say it's just a little. No, tick the place. If there is trace, if there is trace of it, tick it. Some of you. So if we look at it. You know sometimes somebody would talk and still say, is this person a Christian? How many of you have seen that before? Because of the way the person is talking. Yeah. Now, that you are born again doesn't mean that your mouth has been renewed. It's in church that you hear certain Christians speak and you say. What? In church. The way they talk. So if you look at it, you have perverse tongue. You have seductive and... do you know, do you know that some Christians, people have told me that you will see a brother talking to a sister, maybe they are just chatting, friends or something, and the guy will just switch to seductive and immoral tongue. The things that will be coming out of his mouth, you'll be wondering, "Ah ah, Oga, what are you saying?" Imagine somebody calling you and saying, "While you were singing that song during worship, I noticed something about your lips, and it was a cough." And it's a cough. That's a seductive and immoral tongue. In all the worship, what the man of God was seeing was the... was the... was the lips. Sister, did you hear something that brothers say sometimes? Fear will catch you. Do you know, do you know it's a stupid talk to look at a sister you are talking to and say, "Ah, do you know you have a kissable lips?" And it's a sister and a brother. He said you have a kissable lips. Oga, is not everything that goes through your mind that your mouth says. Do you know that sometimes certain things have gone through many of us in our hearts that we don't... if all of us asked what goes through our mind, people will be dead oh. Do you know you are talking to somebody and your mind is saying "slap her right now", but your mind is just... you are looking at the person like this. He said, "I said if I tell you many things that went through my mind now, slap you, beat you, but I'm just looking at you like this." And some... even some people are evil, they will see you smiling with you like this, just smiling. What they are thinking is to kill you where you are. All right. Lying tongue. Man! Pastor, pastor, pastor, it's just white lies. White. Please, can somebody help me understand what white lies mean really? Is it that the lie is white? You know when someone says, "Pastor, it's just a white lie. It's harmless." Then this other one, jestful tongue. A lot of believers have this one. Now, I'm not against joking, but I discovered that a lot of people don't know... they don't have restraint when they are joking. You see, in the kingdom... listen now. Listen now. Listen, listen, listen. In the kingdom, it's not that we don't joke. Even the Lord laughs. But you see, even in our joke, we don't lose our personality in Christ. You don't joke yourself into hell. You know, some people can crack joke to an extent that they forget that they are believers. And not just cracking eh, some of you laugh at certain jokes. I won't go to that one today. Both the joker... are all enjoying it. Because some of you will say, "Pastor, we just went to relax. We went to a comedy show. And Pastor, as we were relaxing in the comedy show, the guy was just talking all kinds of crap. But Pastor, it was just fun. And devils were laughing with you there." If only... do you know that like for example when we're here right now, and we say, "Lord, open our eyes, let's see the people that are here, the spiritual beings that are here," angels are all over this place. Angels. Same way if we go to some of those comedy shows and say, "Lord, open our eyes, let's see everybody that is here," you will see one... you will see one donkey-looking demon. That's the one just sitting beside you like this. And you're just laughing. So it's not... it's not, you know... ah ah, sincerely, oh man. You know, sometimes when they tell us Christians, they will say, "Ah, Emmanuel, you guys are too spiritual." I will now ask them, "Please, what is the opposite of being spiritual?" Eh? Eh? Eh? Carnal. So the opposite for a believer when you're not spiritual is that you are carnal. Now, if you are carnally minded, what is it unto? Death. So... so should I not be spiritual? Talk to me, church. So when I'm joking, should I not be spiritual? Or let me ask you a question. Is there any time I should be outside of Christ to do something? That Pastor, right now, let's just go outside of Christ, let's do it, then we'll come inside Christ. I don't understand. Because people always go like, "You're too spiritual." That means when I'm doing business, I should be spiritual. When I'm... this one is going to hit you, but take it. Take it. It's going to hit you, but take it. And this is for females. This is for females. When I'm dancing, I should be spiritual. It's hard to explain. You know, you know, you know the funny thing? When you go to some, in quotes, Christian weddings, then after those of us that are spiritual have finished the service of spiritual people, then the carnal people will wait behind. Then you will now see members of the choir. No, not our choir. Members of the choir. You will now see them when they are singing song that is saying "shake something." Then that because you heard "shake something," why your mind goes to of what to shake is what troubles me. Why can't it shake hand? Or shake your head. Why must your mind tell you that where to shake? Let's leave that one for another day. The mind... the mind of... the mind of believers. So when you now see that, they say, "Ah, they say Pastor, we are just... we are just relaxing. We are just enjoying ourselves." I keep asking myself, are you telling me as a Christian, I can't enjoy myself except when I'm carnal? Is it we don't have fun? Is it I don't have fun? Is it I don't enjoy myself? So all of you just think we are just robots. That oh, they don't have fun. Look at them. It's just preach, fast, pray, preach, fast, pray. That's what they do. They don't even have... Ah? You need to see me when I travel. You need to see me when I go from one place to another, how I enjoy myself. Especially when I'm going through the plane, going on flight, how I package to enjoy myself. The songs I'm going to listen to, how I'm going to sleep, the way I'm going to trip, how I enjoy myself. But in my enjoyment, sir, I'm in a hotel. There's a pool. I remember one time I was in Vegas, and there was a pool. In that pool... hold on now. I was in one hotel called Bellagio. In that hotel, it was like, man, I don't even know, maybe a 50-story building or something. So you can see the pool. Now, naturally, I want to come out, you know, survey the area, stroll around. But when I looked around... wisdom is profitable to direct. But you see, some of you are Samson. You are Samson. You go to places the Lord has left, thinking you have anointing to carry it, when Scripture is saying... that a wise man forsaweth evil and hideth himself but the foolish one that's what scripture says he said he openeth his mind to it I will never forget it's not that we don't like swimming even sometimes it's not that we didn't bring swimming swimming trunk to the place but when you look at the things around you man of God keep your swimming trunk to your bag oh no going out no what no going out except it's a private pool or the people you know the people you know hey pastor don't go there let me go there something especially people that go for all those company retreats you know a company retreat you always forget that you are still a believer what did he say he's going for what next week pastor go see me let me give you protocol of how to manage yourself because you see don't mention gym don't mention gym gym in Nigeria is not a gym let me tell you one strategy of the devil especially in Lagos State they keep looking for locations to express themselves currently the location is gym so all you young men and married men that keep saying I want to go to gym I want to go to gym talk to yourself we don't know what you are looking for in gym but if truly you want to do gym all right that your heart I don't know how you handle it if you have not taken care of yourself medationally even if you have taken yourself medationally sir you still you still need to survive I get what I'm saying so if you want to do gym it's not a problem but make sure that you are well guided very simple I don't go to public gym the gym is on the road for now because the last time I wanted to go and register and I entered I didn't do the registration again that was where it ended so there's nothing wrong with gym but please but please make sure that you are very sure the best time to go into gym I don't know I'm sure some men can tell us the best time to go maybe early in the morning when people have not come yeah yeah 10 a.m. 6:30 a.m. morning people will not have come then you quickly do your gym all right so please let them encourage you if you want to really do gym and all our sisters here this is not part of the script but let me throw it in our sisters please I know you bought that gym wear from United States of America I know you have been planning to launch it but please may I say something understand your body shape understand what works for you and know how to package yourself better okay for another day let's move on all right the second program or the second thing we're going to practice I don't want anybody sitting at the back I'm sure you know me anybody coming at the back and you are late just enter briefly you are late already just enter now the next game we're going to play is right on your table I'm sure they've given you already it's called non-verbal communication now if you are not sincerely people online I don't know how I can relate with you right now but if you can find your neighbor call them and do what we are doing now because I don't even know what to tell you yeah now okay is it only two ball you have okay put it on there bring now choose someone you're going to work with this person is going to be your partner choose someone fast choose someone choose someone tell the person you are my partner don't be fast we have not given you any instruction don't take anything oh calm down don't rush yourself don't open it yet don't open it yet have you chosen someone okay if you have chosen someone please face the person find a way to face yourself so that you can be able to talk please let's do this very fast okay no no no hold on hold on no problem if it's just if it's don't worry just pick someone then even if you are not the direct person participating you'll be among the audience okay just watch okay now if you have received the okay if you have received the slip on your table so I will want two people to pick it two people to pick all right hold it two people should pick it two people one another person pick pick now two people to pick okay okay now have the two people picked now if you know you have picked okay two people pick please okay now if you know you have picked now take choose one person you're going to be talking with then other people can watch you choose one person you're going to be talking with are you ready are you ready no no no the only person why would you open it I've not even passed the message don't open it now have you opened it don't open it oh you have picked another one so listen listen listen listen to the instruction when I say open that person is the only person that will open then that person that opens watch this with the person that you have chosen to speak with everybody will be watching in your group the person you have spoken to speak with or you chosen to speak with then you will communicate to the person without words and you must communicate what you have read and the person will interpret what you have said you showed them okay now listen listen again oh listen again you know I called it hello hello hello don't open it yet you have are you opening it don't open it yet now remember is without words don't say anything let me give you an example let me give you an example so that you will understand okay Friday come Friday come now I just read something now let me see pay attention this waiting Two persons are fighting. Two people are fighting and they are trying to. Okay. So, we are arguing. Two of us are arguing. Okay. So, so what I'm saying is this, listen. Remember what I said last week? Communication by what? Creation. It means if you take time for what you want to communicate, if you put it real into thoughts, it will take a while before you say rubbish. It will take a while before you hurt someone. Because you've taken time to say, okay, I want to tell this guy that he's stupid. You know that scripture says that he that have knowledge spareth his words. Did you see that? Because if you have knowledge, you spare your words because there's so much you want to say, but you have gone into a mode where you are thinking before you say. He said but a fool uttereth all his mind. Because a fool doesn't think. A fool says it as he sees it. Does that make sense now? All right. Are we ready? Okay, have you picked the person? Okay. So, all other parties will watch. It's only the person that will talk. That's the person they are talking to, is the one that will interpret what the person is saying. But all other person will begin to watch. All right? Even if you know that, ah, this person is not saying it right, leave the person. Let the person just be making the mistake. Don't. Okay. Okay. All right. Who is the person, who are the persons here? Raise your hand, the persons here. Who are you talking to? Huh? Who are you talking to? Huh? Okay, so, so the three of you will watch. Who is the person here? Who are you talking to? Huh? Who are you talking to? So every other person watch. All right? We just have five more minutes, eight minutes for this. Who is the person here? You are the person talking? Who is, who is, who is gesticulating? You are the one. You are the one. Okay. One, no, hey, hey. Now, you see when we start, when we start, when we start, any table, when we start, any table that I hear people talking, I will cancel the table. All right? The only person that should be talking after the person has described is the person that you are talking to. Oga, you are not listening. This table will go first. All right, so we have just five minutes. So you have, now listen, when I say five minutes, it means you have described, then the person has had his chance. Oh no, sorry. You have, no, not five minutes. You have one minute. One minute. One minute. The moment I say go, the person has one minute to give all the gesticulation. Hey, hey, hey. Please, during the gesticulation, I know people will laugh. No problem. But laugh, find a way to laugh without so much noise. All right. No, no, no. Two persons that picked, have picked someone. You know I said there must be somebody you are having a conversation. Who picked here? So who are you talking to? You can't be talking far off now. Let somebody close. Let somebody close. Who, who picked again? So who are you talking with? Ehen. So every other person will be watching, you know, you guys, and seeing how it's being played. Okay? No, it's the same time oh. We're not waiting. It's the same time. It's the same time. Are we ready? Ah! Man, church people. I said relax, eh? To do, to do class, eh? It's not easy with church people. All right. One, hold on. No noise, no noise. No noise. One, I'm going to cancel this table. What are you doing? Have you opened it? Have you opened it? Eh? You shouldn't have opened it now. I've not said start now. This table is going oh. Please get me another, get me my phone again, please. Follow the instruction. Follow the instruction. Don't open yet. Have you opened too? Please give, you have. Yeah, two. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But who, but you must be talking to one person. Who, who are the people that have the, that have it? So you are supposed to be talking, who are you talking to? Aha. Then who are you talking to? No, no, you can't talk far off. You must talk to somebody close. So everybody watches either to see what's going on. Okay? Oga, sit down. You are confusing them there. Have, have you given them now? Don't open it yet. Okay. Let's get ready. One, let's get ready. Is there any question? Okay. Okay, no. One minute. One, two, go. Ah, I said one, two. Okay. One, two, three, go. Forty seconds to go. Why are you holding him now? You are not supposed to be holding them. Don't touch anyone. You guys have gotten yours? So this table has gone. You guys are talking now. What's going on? This, this table, I'm hearing people talking. Eh? You are the one talking. You are the one talking. You are the one talking now. Ah! Twenty more seconds. Ten more seconds. Five more seconds. Five, four, three, two, one, go. We have ended. Now review. Now review, review. Review, review. Review, review. Review. Okay. Okay. All right. Thank you. Okay. All right, all right, all right. We only have, we have 20 more minutes. Today is really about practical sessions. Okay. Okay. Now, now listen, listen. I know, I know a lot. Look at, look at the three things that happened. Listen, listen, listen. The three things that happened that we mentioned last week, the three things that happened was in the three pillars of a very successful relationship. The three pillars that we mentioned: wisdom, knowledge, and understanding. Now you will see that it's either the person that is communicating couldn't communicate well, or the person that is receiving could not receive well. So that means there is knowledge, what am I about to say? Then there is understanding, then there is application. I want to communicate to this person. So I have knowledge of what I want to say. I have understanding, then I know I have to find a way to apply it so that this person will know. Then the person receiving must also be able to understand. And you see, understanding takes patience. Because if you want to communicate and somebody needs to receive, patience is very key. Now, one of our major problems in relationship is patience. But we'll leave that for the last day. Now, today is about practical sessions. So let's close, let's start closing with this. It's interesting that a lot of you, I saw a lot of actions. I saw this, are you, are you in the drama team? You're in the drama team? Wow. See, I just, and you people still did not get a message. You got it? Okay, because it was only this table that said they got it on time. Which other table got it on time? On time. Okay, which table struggled a bit? Which table struggled? All right. Now, please put my slide up. So I want to quickly show you something. Please. I want to show you something my teacher, one of my online teachers, shared. And I want you to pick it. Very important. Now, you know I said last week that we are created from what? Relationship. And we are created for what? Relationship. Those two things are very critical. You can never, or you will never stay on this earth without people. The only place you can stay alone without no one on this earth is burial ground. That is, you are just by yourself and you are dead then. But if you are alive, you cannot survive this earth without people. You cannot. You cannot survive this earth without human beings. God created it to be like that. That was why when he made Adam, he said it is not good, it is God that said it, for a man to be alone. You need helpmeet. And since that time, we have always needed man. And I mentioned it last week that even our Lord Jesus Christ needed to come as man. So you will always need someone. Every promotion, it was my mother that said that thing. He said when God wants to promote you, he will put a man by your side. He said when the devil wants to destroy you, he will put a man by your side. The thing is that you will need men both for construction and destruction. You will need men both for elevation and for coming down. You will need men. So you can't do without it. That's why the most important place of your life is to have right people around you. Very, very important. Very important. Now, so he mentioned four, and I want to quickly look at it. I'm not going to talk much on it. Just pick it. Like I said, today is more practical. Next week we will go on other detailed teachings. Now, he said, when God starts to bless your life, these are the people who show up. Now, anytime you are walking with the Lord, please remember these four set of people. Okay? Now, the first set of people are who? No, can we say it together? The takers. Just look at them. They stay around you for what they can get from you, not because they truly value you. They benefit from your time, access, generosity, wisdom, or resources, but rarely pour back into you. You know the scripture in Proverbs, wealth make many friends, but the poor is separated from his friends. So the first set of people are the takers. Always notice them. The takers. Should I move on? The second people are who? Oh, can I hear it loudly? Haters. They dislike you for no clear reasons. I love one particular tip somebody was saying. He said most times when you are giving people things and they are still angry, what you give them, the problem is not the gift that you are giving them. The problem is not the gift. Is that not what they want? They want your life. So if they can take your life, it's better for them. They want your marriage. They want the way you and your children, the way you talk to your children, the way you are close, they want that. So even though you are giving them, okay, take care of your children. They say, no, that's not what I want. I want the kind of relation you have with your children. And some people go so much deep to kill for it. They dislike you for no clear reason. Sometimes your life reminds them of what they have not become. He now used the example concerning Joseph. He said, but when his brothers saw that their father loved him more than all his brothers, they hated him and they could not speak peaceably to him. I hope you know that in Christendom people hate themselves. People just hate themselves. Now, it started with simple, I don't like him. I don't like the way he does. I don't like the way he talks. That's how it started. But they did not deal with it. The thing now grew to hatred. To an extent that whatever that person does, you just don't settle it. They are called haters. The next people, these people are very funny. They are called what? Naysayers. This group of people, they are also called backbiters. They cannot accept your story has changed and always have an opinion about your blessing. Anytime you tell them, I've just been promoted, they are just, they don't believe it. They feel something did not add up. Their words are rooted in envy, bitterness, or unbelief. This was about Nehemiah when they came to confront him. The naysayers, they came to check him out. Come, come and see us. Come and meet with us. Nehemiah said, I'm doing a great work, so I cannot come down. Learn to move away from naysayers. Very dangerous people. They don't believe in what you're doing. They don't trust what you're doing. They are naysayers. Then the final people are the celebrators. Look at the person beside you and say, are you a celebrator? No, no, no. You see, this thing looks very simple, but you see, these people, they are genuinely happy for what God is doing in your life. They support you, for you, and they encourage you. Most times they pray. They pray. Most times they pray as strangers. Most of the people that pray are strangers. Prophet is not without honor except in his own country. So the first set of people is who? You have what? You have the takers. Please always remember that. Now, you can't do without these guys. They will always follow your life. As far we are on this earth, you will always have the takers. It's a relationship you will know how to manage. You will always have the haters. They are always here. You will always have the naysayers. They are here. You will always have the celebrators. Now, you are now to determine the apportionment of your time. Who spend, who do you spend what with? What time do I spend with this person? Do I spend this much time with celebrators? With haters? What do I do with haters? That's a good one. What do I do with haters? When you confirm that this person is just an hater, what do you do with them? Huh? What do you do with naysayers? People that don't believe. Okay. All right. Now, put me back on the slide. My other slide. Then let's start tidying things up. The other slide, please. So it's very, very critical that we understand that. Okay. Oh, okay, okay. All right. Now, I want to show you something. Now, sincerely, there is nothing we can do about this. In every relationship, whether it is God and yourself, whether it is husband and wife, whether it is general family and siblings, whether it is your friends, this principle, if you do not know how to activate it, you will struggle. Even in your marriage, even in your relationship with your children, you will struggle. So I'm just going to mention two things tonight, then we continue next week. Ask your neighbor one more time, are you a taker, hater? Please ask the person, who are you celebrating recently now? Who have you been celebrating the last few, few days? Who have you been celebrating the last few days? Have you been celebrating people? Now remember this, I said this last week and I want to just close better on it. Church, listen. Whether you are married or not, whether you have a child or not, you see this line of the slide called aloneness. It should be our target. You should be able to build an alone concept about your life. If you don't get to a point where all of these key elements are operating in your life, then you are switched here without your knowing. Please remember these things here because a lot of people go in and out. Sometimes you are in a marriage but you're lonely. Sometimes you are in a business partnership, you're lonely. Sometimes you are with your siblings but you're lonely. Sometimes you are with your family members but you're lonely. This is what is going on. You are always comparing yourself. You don't have a true identity. You got, you feel you're not good enough. These are where your struggles are. Now, if you don't have this sorted, where you have an identity, where you can be fulfilled, you are focused, you have maturity, you've been able to mature, you are joyful, you are peaceful. These are critical. You see, if you see the reason why a lot of people have a lot of issues in their relationship is because they are not here. This is where we are. There are a lot of people who are damaged, broken. This is where the problem is. And because we are lonely, even in church, you don't even know what you're battling. It's because of this. They are anxious. They don't know their identity. So anytime somebody says something to you, you will think they are talking about your person. Anytime we are having a disagreement, you will think it is you we are cursing. Anytime you do project, you see, it got to a point when somebody wants to come and present something, and we try to critique what you are presenting, the person will be angry, thinking we are criticizing you as a person. And the person will take it personal. Then the person will start having grudges. It even got to a point I had to be careful in a meeting, I had to be careful who I critique, because I feel this person is not mature enough to handle it. And if you are not mature to handle it, it's because you are dealing with some internal issues. You are dealing with this line. You are not confident by yourself. I've given you a story before where somebody told me and said, um, somebody just told me in a meeting and said, oh, you don't honor me enough in front of all the leaders. Now, if I don't know my identity, that could have broken me. But I know my identity. I know who I am. I needed to deal with the issue, not carry some emblem and some concerns and start feeling sad, start feeling very depressed. Do you know some people have looked at people just walking on the street, just walking on the streets, and somebody throws some form of comment and say, see leg, see leg, and damaged that person's day for life. That person will go home and say, is anything wrong with me? They don't know what's happening. You are calling people, please, did you notice anything in my leg? What is wrong with you? You've gotten to a point that you don't even understand that you needed to build your own identity as a person. So you are ruled by people's validation. And it's a dangerous place to be because even if you marry, you will keep looking for validation. So the day something happens, you'll be living not up to God's validation, but you're looking up to people's validation. And that's why all of us need to be careful. Because you see, some people are animals. They can say anything. They can say what comes to their head and they would have forgotten they said it. At least I know one teacher in those days, secondary school, he abused all of us. He would have abused us, we have forgotten he said it. He just said this one, see, see how short you are. And he had forgotten. Meanwhile, you are the one that carried the message of how short I am. You have gone home. Don't be looking at yourself. So what is this? Our son David, when he was growing, he didn't grow fast in height. So he was, he was the short one in the house at the beginning. So in school, why I love him so much, in school, if you see all of his mates, they are taller than him. So when they are dancing, now, normally when they are dancing, my son, as short as he was then, will go to the front and start dancing in front. So you'll be seeing him. You know you can't see him well at the back. But my son will come outside and start dancing. Then my wife will be raising the volume, tell me, tell me, come on, come on, come on. And the guy will be encouraged. He was the shortest in the class. But we made sure we were hitting his positive mentality as he was growing. And as God will have it, he started growing. As God will have it, he started growing. But imagine many children that have been locked in, even some of us who... Pastor, don't go there, let me touch it a bit. Some of you are still in secondary school, you've not moved. You are here physically, but you are still in secondary school days. And that's why you keep yourself together. You make sure people don't enter that space. Because if you are vulnerable, you may see a lot. My girl, go to the, go to the keyboard. I sense I need to do something. I want to break something today. Do you know that if not for God and a stubborn faith, some of us will not have risen up the way we are now. Because a lot of people talked down on us as we were growing. Is it neighbors? Oh, talk to me, church. Is it neighbors? Is it teachers? Is it counselors? Is it colleagues? Is it students? Do you know some people could not amount to something in their marriage because of somebody that talked down on them? I remember a girl like that. When she got married, listen to this carefully, this one touched me. The girl, when I heard about her issue, they came to talk to me and I saw her. Pretty girl. They now told me that the husband was a narcissist. What he did was that he would keep the girl in the house, lock the door. He would go to the office, then he would come back and open the door. This girl was always staying in the... Dark. A pretty girl started becoming dark. Then after a while, her friends came to deliver her. So she ran out. When she ran out, she didn't come back to the house again. The guy was looking for her, and she disappeared. Then she went to her mother's place or something. Then after a while, she initiated a divorce. When I saw this girl later, two years after, she was now a travel—she was in travel businesses and all of that. Saw her in Dubai, was seeing her pictures in Dubai, in Turkey, in Cyprus. This girl was looking so powerful, so beautiful, so strong. I said, is this the same girl that I saw covered, that I saw in bondage? Listen, some of us, our parents have locked us in since we were children. Maybe by one abuse or the other, and it has broken all relationships that you want to start. Some of you, a lovely man came your way, yes. But because of that fragrance you've been carrying, you've not been able to break away from it. You've been hurt, and you kept that hurt. You've not been able to come out. Even I always—I always hear this. There are some people here, you've been told that you can never amount to something heavy. And they've told you many times. So even if you want to lift up yourself to break a limit, you say this enough. This enough. You keep telling yourself this enough. Don't go beyond this enough. Even if you can just do this little, it's okay. You are not even thinking that there's so much you can carry. How did you get here? It was because something was locked in. Something was locked in. Am I speaking to somebody here? Something was locked. As of today, I was noting when I was writing my journal, I sensed in my spirit that God wants to heal and God wants to break. There are some people with wrong channels. And the way you are moving right now, it will not come to a good building. So God wants to use today, tonight, to heal and to break. So that like a bird that has been in a snare, the snare shall be broken, so that this bird can fly. There are some birds here, you are supposed to be flying, but something has locked you. And that thing is in 1990. That thing is in 2005. That thing is in 2010. Even though you are in 2026, but you are living 2010. You are living 2014. You are living 2018. How long? Even some of you have refused to forgive yourself. Some of you have stayed there. You say, Pastor, I can't move on. Pastor, I know, I sing, I worship, but anytime... Silence. I was hearing the confession of Chandra Moore yesterday when he was having a session with somebody that was asking him questions. He said the memory of when he was young came back to him. He thought he had been delivered from that memory, but the memory came back to him and imprisoned him. And he said for over a year, he was confused. He said one thing that hit me. He said anytime we go for tour, and I come out to sing, he said I will sing and everybody will be blessed. He said but when I go back, I go back into the prison. So Chandra Moore that all of us were lifting up with, Chandra Moore was in a prison for over one, two years. But we didn't know until when he told himself he said I'm checking into rehab. Now when he was saying he was checking into rehab, some of we didn't understand what was going on. That guy said I had suicide mentality. Chandra, you had suicide mentality? And you were singing like this? He sang one song, he said Lead Me On. At that time when he was singing that song, he was in the prison. So church, I came to tell you, you can break away from your past. You know the funny thing? The worst thing is when you get used to a past and you don't know that it's there. And that past has been—has been growing up with you. The day the past will show up, you will not believe it like what happened to Chandra. The thing just showed up, and he said the guy said he was just crying. He said I could not understand myself. I didn't know whether to go to the left or to the right. He said I was so confused as a human being. Why? Because the past came back. Get out of last year. Get out of ten years ago. Get out of twenty years ago. It's not about your life. Now you have identity, sir. When you made that mistake, God has forgiven you all the while. But some of you have built tabernacle there. You think I can't move. And it has been breaking every good relationship that God has brought your way. A father mentality has come. A mother mentality has come. Mentors came your way. Friends came your way. Gifted men came your way. But you keep chasing them away. Even I know somebody—I heard about somebody—anytime she'll be having a good relationship with someone, but when you get too close, she will run. She will run. Come on, lift up your hand, everybody. You won't be able to get out of this cycle. This may not be for everybody, but there are some people here. The reason why you have not progressed is because you are locked in. I want to break it. You are locked in. Some of you, it did not happen to you directly, but you saw people. Some of you, it did not happen to you directly, but it happened to somebody you know. That thing has stayed in your memory and said, Lord, this can't happen. Some of you thought you have moved on, but really you have not moved on. You need the Lord to help us. Lord, let this thing break. Let this thing break. Can we all come to Him and say, Lord, if there are things I'm not seeing, and You're the only one that sees it, Lord, heal me. Heal my heart. Lord, if there are things that I'm locking in and I'm holding on to that should have left, Lord, get it out of me. Lord, if I've been holding on to some things and I know I should have left, but I'm still holding on to it, please can You—can You forgive and let it go? Can You forgive and let it go? How long do you want to stay there? Can You forgive and let it go? Because the thing is that if you are not going—if you don't let it go, you yourself is not going. The thing is that if you don't let go, you are not going too. You are stuck. You are stuck. You are stuck. You are stuck. You are stuck. Lord, let Your presence flow through this place right now. Lord, let Your presence flow through this place right now. Lord, heal people right now. Lord, reach people right now. Come on, I just felt—I just felt the healing hand of the Lord everywhere here. Some of you think you have forgiven, but you know you've not forgiven. He's searching your heart right now. You know, you know you've not forgiven. You are thinking, no, no, no, no, that thing has gone. No, no, no, no, no. Check again. Check again. Check again. Search my heart, O God. Lord, search our hearts. Search our hearts, all of us. Search our hearts, all of us. It's hidden somewhere. Search our hearts, all of us. Let that thing come out. Let that thing come out. Let that thing come out. It can't continue like this. It can't continue like this. It can't continue like this. For us to have a very fruitful relationship, it can't continue like this. Even the Lord—they hurt the Lord. They hurt the Lord. They hurt the Lord. I remember how they hurt the Lord. He was faithful. He was faithful when Judas betrayed Jesus. He was faithful. I'm telling you guys, if you see how Jesus must have seen somebody that He loved so much, and that's the person that betrayed Him, He was faithful. This is the time to let mommy go. This is the time to let daddy go. You can't continually hold on to it. You have to let go because if you don't let go, you are not going yourself. This is the time to let that your good friend go. This is the time to let your sister go. This is the time—this is the time to let your boss go. Oh, that person has insulted me, Pastor. That person has insulted me, Pastor, you don't understand. That person has insulted me. My own could do this. My own could do this. I feel that they hear God. Shana ko pana so ika. Is somebody here pouring their heart unto the Lord? Le ko pata sike deya. Lord! Le ko pata ku shai le ko pata efi ka. Le ko pata sike deya. Some of you don't even know why you are angry. Some of you, you just wake up in the morning, you are angry. You don't even know where the anger is coming from. Something is happening. Oh God. Oh God. Please permit me, I just want to let this—some people are taking healing right now. Permit me, some people are taking healing right now. Shana ko paki ko sai daka nai. Oh. A le ko sai le. Le ka paki. Hey! E ko sai le ko paka disa. Ika da ba do sa ike le ke pa ko. Yeah! Oh! Lead me on. Eko sa ike le. Yeah! Woo! Oh. Oh. Oh. Thank you. Oh thank you Lord. Lord penetrate hearts right now. Lord penetrate us right now. Lord penetrate our hearts right now. Shale ko da sa i ta la ko na te ya ge. Oh thank you Jesus. It looks as if we were playing games but we're not playing games, we're just touching areas. We're not playing games, we're just touching areas. Things that are paining people, people are... people are paining. Oh, people are paining. Things that are holding on. Let them go, let them go. Thank you Jesus. Thank you Jesus. Can we hold our hand on the table? This may not concern you but there might be somebody that... that needs to be healed right now. Oh thank you Lord. There'll be somebody that needs to be healed right now. Thank you Jesus. I'm telling you there's somebody on your table that... that needs healing right now. We need to start. A new beginning needs to start with some people. And it's happening right now I'm telling you. On your table just pray for anybody that is just there you may not just know. Just say Lord heal us. Lord heal all of us. Heal all of us. Lord heal all of us. Heal us as a church. Where there are offenses. Where there are hurts and pain. There are pain everywhere. Lord heal us. Heal us O God. Heal us O God. Heal us O God. Let people be made whole again. Woo! Lord we pray for wholeness. Wholeness right now. Wholeness! Ha ha ha! Thank you Lord, let people be whole. Wholeness. Oh thank you Jesus. While Collins take this song I want you to just... just calm yourself for one minute. And let the presence of the Lord just flow. Leaving bread and proof that things can change. Saving gift of grace. It really stays. Through all the twists and turns of my mistakes. How I made it over. You were the only way. I'm not perfect. Don't always get it right. I'd rather walk by faith and not by my foolish sight. So lead me on. Lead me on. Lead me on. Lead me on. It's not me I'm leaning on. Lead me on. Oh Jesus keep leading me. I may not have it all quite figured out. But I don't think it matters. I think you like me that way. And Jesus you're the potter and I'm the clay. You're making me more like you. More and more every day. Oh I'm not perfect. Don't always get it right. I'd rather walk by faith and not by my foolish sight. So lead me on. Lead me on. Lead me on. Lead me on. It's not me I'm leaning on. Lead me on. Oh Jesus keep leading me. Hallelujah. Father I want to pray for everybody here. Especially those people who are in a space right now. Who for whatever reason they've just been in a circle. And they need to move on. Lord we agree together by faith. And we ask that Lord let their healing begin. We agree by faith let there be a new chapter. Lord they need to move. Lord they've just been in that place for too long. Lord they need to move. Lord they need to move. We agree together with them. Some of them is in their marriage, some of them is with their children, some of them is with their friends. Some of them is with work. They can't just hold down a work. It keeps following them. It's like a curse. Because they refuse to move from that past. But today we thank you for your healing. Now they are letting go and letting you. Thank you Father. We give you praise and glory. For in Jesus name we pray. Amen. Let's put our hands together for Jesus. All right let's just take our offering so that we can leave. Today was more practical lessons. Next week we start getting to that part of the scripture next week by God's grace. And open some more deep stuff. Please go home with those reflection like I said. Go home with those... please go home with it. It's yours. Let's give our offering. And let's encourage people to come in next week. If you're coming for the first time wave your hand let them know you're here. If anybody is coming like that and you know you're here they always have a gift for you. If this is your first time. Is anybody coming for the first time? Wave your hand. Okay. Somebody is coming for the first time here. If you're coming for the first time wave your hand let them see you so that they can get you a gift. Okay. Now if you know you're coming for this series for the first time wave your hand let them just know let us know you're here. People that are coming for the first time with this series. People that are coming for the first time. Okay great great. So we continue next week. Next week will be a bit... you see that we're just taking it gradually because there are more sensitive things to talk about and I'm being careful. But next week is going to be a lot of talking into specifics and examples. Let me show you something as we go. Please put my slide so that we're going to share grace with it. I'll just show you something. Put my slide up please. Put my slide up. Now if you look at this... By the time we get here... By the time we get here... Yeah by the time we get here it's going to be very sensitive. When we get here. And here especially here. When we start this. When we start this it's going to be very real. And and at the end, and at the end you may need to make some decisions when we get there. So next week is going to be very important that you do your best to be there so that we can make some of those decisions. Okay? And the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, the love of God, and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with us now and forevermore. Amen. Tell someone to say surely.