Chunk 10

The speaker acknowledges the listener's bravery in facing uncomfortable truths without shame. They discuss why feeling secure can be scary due to past experiences, identity issues, grief, growth, accountability, and the body's memory. They pose reflective questions and emphasize that becoming secure doesn't mean never struggling but rather struggling with oneself and learning safety. The message is about self-acceptance, growth, and choosing curiosity over self-criticism for a thriving life. If you've stayed with this episode until now, I want to acknowledge something, you're brave. Not because healing is heroic, but because you're willing to look at what's uncomfortable without shaming yourself. That matters. Integrating what you've heard. Today we talked about why becoming secure can feel scary. Not because we don't want peace, but because peace was once unfamiliar. Because survival became identity. Because calm once preceded chaos. Because healing requires grief. Because growth can cost relationships. Because accountability removes old excuses. Because your body remembers. And none of that makes you weak. It makes you human. So here's some questions to sit with. As you move forward, I invite you to reflect on these gently. What part of me is afraid of safety? What identity feels threatening, threatened by healing? Where am I confusing intensity with intimacy? And what would it look like to trust myself a little more? There's no rush to answer. Awareness itself is healing. Becoming secure doesn't mean you'll never struggle. It means you struggle with yourself instead of against yourself. It means you no longer abandon yourself to feel loved. And that's a profound shift. If no one has told you this lately, you're not broken. You're not behind. You're not doing this wrong. You're learning safety. One regulated moment at a time. Thank you for being here. Thank you for choosing curiosity over self-criticism. This is thriving love and life. This is thriving love and life. And I'll meet you in the next episode.