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The transcription discusses the mindset of people-pleasing and how it can be reprogrammed using a technique called EFT or tapping. It emphasizes recognizing and changing old thought patterns to prioritize self-care and healthy boundaries. The process involves acknowledging emotions, tapping on specific points on the body, and affirming self-worth and the importance of personal needs. The goal is to shift from seeking external validation to prioritizing self-approval and living authentically. The speaker encourages repeated practice to solidify new, positive beliefs and offers further resources for personal growth. Hi and welcome back. So in our last video we exposed the people pleaser mindset glitch, the part of the coding, the programming, which makes disapproval be equated with danger and recognised that being nice can just be anxiety dressed up as trying to stay safe. And we talked about the three mindset shifts that can rewire and reprogram this glitch of the mind and today we're actually going to actively start to reprogram and reset that mindset and we'll be using a really simple but very powerful mindset transformational tool called EFT, otherwise known as tapping, and this technique is going to uninstall that old programming and add in some new healthy mindset codes that can start to make you break this people pleasing habit so you can feel good about yourself and start getting your needs met. So if you are tired of the resentment, the anxiety of always feeling you have to put other people's needs above your own and you're sick of it and you're ready to change then stick around. And if you're new to this technique all you're going to be doing in this video is simply repeating what I'm saying while very gently tapping on different points on the face and the upper body and what this does it taps into your subconscious and your conscious mind and it starts to recognize where some of those stress points are, that old coding, and starts to switch them and turn on new thoughts. It'll also help you. And the first thing we do before we start the technique is we're going to get our body tuned in with that unhealthy mindset code. So think about how you feel about being a people pleaser and the emotions it brings up so any of the anxiety about changing this, any of the resentment that you have that is still there, resentment to yourself or resentment to others, the exhaust you feel of always saying yes instead of no. And just feel how it sits in your body, feels what emotions come up, so is it anger, frustration, sadness, is it tightness in certain parts of your body? And just really recognize what this whole situation does to your physical body. And I'd like you to rate those emotions and feelings on a scale of 0 to 10, with 10 being really intense and 0 being it's not there at all. And at the end of the video we're going to come back and just see how it's changed, how that switch and that reprogramming is starting to soften and shift those thoughts and emotions for you. And we're ready to begin, so let's tap. So you're going to start with the tapping on the side of the hand and it is a very, very gentle five vibration. You've been kind to yourself today and again all you're doing is repeating what I'm saying and tapping where I'm tapping. Even though I have this people-pleasing mindset, I'm so scared of upsetting others. I get so anxious. I have to keep everyone happy. I can feel this in my body. And I feel so stuck and angry. That I'm trapped in this old programming. I'm open to the possibility that today I can rewire this. Today, I can rewire this. That today, I can rewire this. Today, I can let go of this. Today, I have permission to change. Even though I'm terrified of disapproval. I'm terrified of disapproval. I'm scared of disappointing others. It doesn't feel safe. It makes me so anxious. It makes me so anxious. Safer to abandon my own needs. But this is exhausting me. I feel like I'm losing myself. So today, I choose to release this. Today, I am changing this programming. My needs are important. And I deeply and completely love and respect all of me. Even though a part of me believes I need other people's validation, other people's approval to be worthy and lovable. But this is making me tired and exhausted. Resentment is building up in me. So today, I'm choosing to change this. So today, I'm choosing to change this. I'm rewriting the code. I can validate myself now. Those old beliefs no longer serve me. And I choose to be free of them today. I deeply and completely choose me. Choose my needs to live the life I deserve. I am safe. And just take a nice deep breath in. Hold it at the top for a minute and then softly out. And then we're going to move on to the tapping points on the face and body. And again, you're just repeating and just tapping where I'm tapping. Very, very gently. So, on the inside eyebrow, I have this mindset glitch. Outer eyebrow. I'm scared of the disapproval. Under the eye. It makes me so anxious. Dip in the lip. I have to keep everyone happy. The dip in the chin. I say yes when I want to say no. I say yes when I want to say no. And cross the collarbone. I feel so frustrated by this pattern. Where the bra would be if you're wearing one. I feel I can't change this. I'm just on the top of the head. I feel stuck in this old loop. I'm just repeating on the same points. This fear inside of me. Scared of what they'll think of me. I've got to keep the peace. Feel so scared all the time. So exhausted. Maybe I can change this. Maybe I can rewire these thoughts. Maybe it's safe to do this. Maybe it's safe. Just take a deep breath in while gently tapping across your chest. And softly out. And then straight back to that first tapping point. I feel scared of their judgement. Scared they'll criticise me. I feel like I have to filter myself. Hide the bits they won't like. I feel like I've lost my sense of self. I'm not doing anything for me. I feel so lost in this old wiring. I'm ready to find myself again. And just another tap across the chest and a deep breath in. And softly out. And back to the first tapping point. This endless loop of pleasing others. Dulling down who I am. Abandoning myself. But it doesn't feel safe to change this. I was taught to put others first. I was taught I needed approval. I was taught that disapproval is frightening. I'm not that little girl anymore. Maybe I was taught wrong. Maybe I've been believing something that isn't even true. Maybe I've been believing something that isn't even true. Maybe it's time to release these old thoughts. Maybe I'm safer than I think. Today I choose to know I'm safe. And again a gentle tap across the chest. Deep breath in. And softly out. And to that first tapping point. I acknowledge this old programming. I acknowledge this old programming. It once kept me safe. I believe I can do that job now. I can look after me now. No wonder I've been feeling resentful. A part of me knew my truth. My needs are important. I'm allowed to honour them. I'm allowed to protect them. I've been so harsh on myself. So much self-judgement. It's made me disappear. And today I'm coming home. A deep breath in across your chest. And softly out. I have permission to change today. I'm not responsible for everyone else's needs. I'm not responsible for everyone else's needs. I am responsible for looking after me now. I'm choosing healthy boundaries. I'm allowed to pause. I'm allowed to check in. See what I need. See what I want. Today I'm rewiring this thought. That I have to put others first. That I have to keep them happy. Because it's not making me happy. This is my life. I'm only getting one shot. I deserve to look after myself. It's safe to take care of my needs. Even if it disappoints others. That's not my job anymore. I release this old passion today. I choose a healthy new code today. Today I give myself permission. Today I trust myself. I am safe now. Today I'm choosing me. And a deep breath in. And softly out. And give your shoulders a bit of a wriggle. And your hands a bit of a wriggle around. And then just one last deep breath in. Hold it at the top. And softly out. And I'd like you to go back to that number you waited for. All those emotions. And just see where they are now. And you might find that they've shifted into different ones. Or that different thoughts have come up. So you can keep on repeating this process. Over and over. And if you find you're getting very sick of it. Then you can go back to that number. And over and over. And if you find you're getting very stuck on the negative emotions at the beginning. In the first round. Then just keep on repeating that. Until it starts to soften. And starts to shift. And starts to change. Because the more you do this. The more you're going to set that new coding in place. And firmly ground it into your life. And do check out my channel for my other videos. A lot of them are to do with people pleasing. And boundaries. And having permission. And being tasty. Because you do deserve to live a life. Where you are the main character. And your needs are at the top of your list. And do like and subscribe. So you can keep up to date with the new videos which come out. And you can also check out my channel. To see the other support. The one-on-one and the group workshops that I run. And I'm wishing you a day filled with pleasing yourself.