Consejos Para Pendejas Ep.1

Luna and Peaches plan to share their past toxic relationship experiences on their channel. They discuss triggers, healing, and the importance of talking about abuse. Their stories are true and not exaggerated. They open up about the cycle of abuse and how it affected them mentally and emotionally. They emphasize the difficulty of leaving toxic relationships due to love and hope for change. They aim to raise awareness about abuse and its impact. Trigger warnings are mentioned to alert listeners to sensitive content. They acknowledge the need for healing and understanding in order to break the cycle of abuse. Hi, my name is Luna. My name is Teaches. This is Consejos para Pendientes. We have to work on that. This is our take one, our first trial on June 30th, 2025. This is where we're getting started. This is lots. We're going to post this when we're famous, when we're rich and famous. And we're going to be like, this is the first time we ever tried to record. Yes. So on this channel, we plan to talk about our past relationship experiences and how we were up in the house by staying in those toxic relationships. And how our life is now. We were embarrassed back then. And actually even right now while we were trying to record this, we got triggered. I got triggered at least by some recording that I had. And now Peaches over here is going to do that. Now Peaches is going to run some little memory lane for us. We're going to do a little errand. Yeah. So we came to eat at an unknown restaurant. And I realized that someone works very close by this restaurant. So I just figured why not take a trip down memory lane. This trigger warning that used to get my ass. And it's not sex. It's something else in that parking lot. So now I feel like maybe I need to come full circle and heal, right? And I think the best way for both of us to heal and other people is by talking about it and having people listen to it. And maybe they can relate, unfortunately, with our stories. And, you know, hopefully this can help us heal and other people heal. And maybe you can just help people know that they're not alone. Yeah. You know, honestly, I agree. We could make it like that's the one thing that bonded us is like our history with our exes and how similar. Because mine happened first, right? Mine was in 2020. Mine started in 2020 and ended in 2023. Mine started in 2020 also and ended in 2023 as well. At the end, right? At the end of 2023. But, I mean, obviously we and Peaches were friends prior to that. Because we definitely got closer with each other due to the trauma. Yeah. And I just feel like you're the only friend I have that really understands the gravity of the situation. Even though a lot of my other friends saw me go through it. But I think it's one thing to go through. And it's another thing to watch it and hear it and hear it secondhand. Firsthand is definitely way more traumatizing. So I think that like there's a lot of ugliness to those relationships that a lot of people aren't really open to talking about. And maybe there's a lot of triggers. But I think it's also important to understand that these experiences aren't unique. And to understand the mistakes that we each made that led us up to it, even though we were victims, right? I don't want to say that it was our fault. Because it wasn't. It wasn't our fault. But I feel like personally, like if I was more mature, I would have realized that I needed to leave much sooner than I actually did. Yes. Yes, I agree with that. Because we could have definitely done things differently. You know, like she said, like we could have, if we were more mature and like if we would have opened our eyes in a sooner time, we could have definitely avoided a lot of pain. And again, like she said, like we are victims at the end of the day. And if it is, even now, like even though years have passed already, like we're still healing. We're still going through these things. And at the moment, like I personally am going through like a healthy relationship. But even then, like I'm, I still have triggers, like, you know, like little things that I'm scared of. Even though obviously I'm not with the same person, it's just, things just get weird. Right. And that's reasonable because I, on the other hand, am going through a breakup. And I think it's the result of past trauma that I never fully healed from. So, I definitely think that like my experience made me learn that I should have probably healed myself first and then gotten into a relationship. A lot of my relationship issues were because certain things would trigger me. I would get scared of certain things or I was scared that I was going to get cheated on. But I was, which is a good person overall, I would say. I mean, I feel like some would say differently. But the person, I know who the person was. The person I knew was overall good. They had their flaws, but I think ultimately it was like my mental health that deteriorated the most. So, I feel like I'm excited to share my experiences because other people can learn from it. And honestly, like some of them are funny. Like, I'm going to admit it, like I was crazy. My ex was crazy, but I was also crazy. So, I think it'll be fun to talk about it now that I've healed from most of it. No, yes, definitely. That's one thing that I definitely agree with her. It's like, and I'll put all of them on my ex, obviously, right? But being with him made me be a very, very dark person in a sense where I was crazy. And I think that just being with him definitely had a really bad impact on me mentally and physically. But now, like even being out of that relationship is like still eating me up in the inside, like not being able to share with everyone. And like she said, like not everyone understands you. Like, yeah, someone can hear your story, but not really relate to it. And it kind of like, yeah, it's cool that you have someone to listen to you. But I feel like when someone actually truly understands you, like unfortunately to say this, but if they've gone through it, like they know exactly what you're talking about, the pain, the suffering, the scares, like everything, everything. And it's just like definitely different to experience that. To pivot. Wait, can you see it? Do you know which one it is? Yeah. Yeah. They're closed, but isn't that crazy? Over here, there was one time where I got kicked out and I had to come to work with him because I had nothing else to do. And I sat like right there in one of those parking spots. And he was at work the whole time. But he took my phone with him because we were fighting. And he looked through my phone while he was at work. And he came on his break because he, I don't know what he found. But he found something and he came and he pulled into a parking lot like all the way over here. And... Oh, sorry. Sorry to cut you off. No, you're fine. But just for the listeners, this does have a lot of like abuse. Abuse. Trigger warning. I think we should put a trigger warning in the beginning of everything. Maybe, yeah. So we can talk about the abuse. Yeah, because if a kid comes across this, they probably don't want them to listen to this. I think it's like, you know what, like our experiences are the ugly truth. But I also don't want to forcibly submit someone to listening to this. Yeah. So to each their own. If it's too heavy, don't listen. Like turn this off. But I think it's also important to understand the abuse that certain women go through. Because it's not just like he yelled at me. It gets way worse. It gets graphic. There might be audios depending on what we decide. Right. I want to say also like just to let you know that these stories are all true. So none of these are fake stories that we've come up with. And none of it is exaggerated either. I feel like a lot of people might want to say that, but it's not. And like I said, we might add some audio depending on a lot of variables. But as of right now, like, as of right now, it's going to be the stories about me and Peaches. Until we have, we do have friends that have also gone through these things. And we will be asking them if they want to participate on this. Right. But as of right now, all the stories that me and Peaches say are definitely true. And they're our own personal experience from our own perspective. And I do want to say something because I think at the end of the day, like, we can try and remain as anonymous as possible. But the other parties might recognize these stories. And if you know, you know. Yeah, if you know, you know. If you don't, then welcome. Right. But I think the important thing is to understand, like, I'll acknowledge it. As someone who was abused, it's trigger warning. It's hard to admit this, but I think at some point I have to admit it to myself. Sometimes when you are abused, you do become an abuser as well. And you continue that cycle. And that's like why my relationship ended. I don't want to say that I necessarily was like physically abusive in that sense. But I think a lot of it was mental. Emotional and mental abuse is a real thing. And you learn a lot of bad habits from your partner when they're like that. And it's kind of hard not to bring it into another relationship. Well, at least for me it was. And I can't say that I was a perfect santa in my previous relationship, you know. I had my fair share of toxic things. But I don't think I was the main aggressor. And I think that I learned that certain behavior was okay in the relationship. So I mirrored it. And it's okay to be honest about that. Because at the end of the day, I know the things I did. And I know the extent to what I did then. But I also know that I learned it from someone. And that someone initiated the abuse. And it was very physical and very emotional. And a lot of it is really nasty. Yeah. So what I can say is, like, for me personally, I also went through, like I said, mental and physical abuse. And I know a lot of you might say, like, why didn't you just leave? The thing is that when you're in a toxic relationship and you're still in love, you're actually really blinded. And I know it may sound stupid, but it's the truth. Like, you see no wrong. You see no fine. And, like, you always have this hope. There's always this hope inside of you. That no change. That no change. Like, this won't happen again. Like, it'll be okay, you know? Or you see, like, you only remember the good moments for some reason. But then also, like, it comes to a point where they're like, I'm sorry. Like, I'm so sorry, babe, or whatever it is, you know? And you're like, like I said, you're full of love. So you're like, yeah, like, you know, it's nice. You have another chance or something. Exactly. So unless you've actually been through it, you won't understand. And actually, like, now where I'm, like, being where I am emotionally, you can see that. And it's like, sometimes from the outsider, when you're not involved, like, in that situation, you kind of find it dumb. Like, you're like, why didn't you just leave? Like, bro, like, there's other people out there. No. Yeah. Unfortunately, you're, like, attached to that one person. Yeah. Like, I will say, I think this podcast is mainly going to be, like, a kind of, like, we listen and we don't judge. So I think we ask that you guys don't judge us. But if you do, that's totally fine. But I think the one thing in our friendship that I have appreciated throughout all these years is that we both listen and we haven't judged. Because I know I've said questionable things. I've said questionable things. I've had questionable moments. But I've always felt your support there. And that's really important when you have situations like this where you were abused. Because I'm not going to say, like, just because you were abused means it is just abuse. And I don't know if you would agree with that. Yeah, I would agree with you. Definitely. But at the end of the day, like, having the friendship there and the support and us respecting each other and not turning our backs on each other, although we did fall out a couple times. Also, it definitely had to do more with the relationships that we were with. Yeah. It was more like our partners didn't allow us to be friends. And so it wasn't that we fell out because me and Petey were having, like, issues. It was more that, like, my boyfriend at that time didn't allow me to talk to anyone unless he actually heard the issue. And then for her, like, she was going through her own stuff, you know. So, well, that's the reason we fell out. But now, like, obviously our friendship was meant to be, and that's why we reconnected. And it's like, now we can talk about these things freely. Now we're free. Exactly. And I think it's also important to acknowledge that, like, guys, or I guess people, because men aren't the only people who are capable of abuse. Everyone is. People who are abusive towards their partners do their best to isolate their partners because that's the thing about this role is we have each other to tell each other, like, this is not right. Like, this is abuse. This is toxic. Don't do this. Like, don't go back. If you have people at your side supporting you as opposed to someone supporting the toxic side, you're going to want to listen to them and you're going to be more susceptible to, like, the good advice of leaving as opposed to your partner wanting you to only listen to them. And that, from my experience, was, like, what my ex wanted. He wanted me to be isolated. He wanted me to only listen to him. And that way no one could influence if I chose to take it back after he abused on me with 10 other women, which definitely happened for me. But isolation was, like, leading to his whole way that he would abuse me. And I lost a lot of friends along the way. I don't think a lot of my friendships that I had were the same. But I feel like our friendships did pretty much stay the same. Like, you don't treat me any differently than you did. I don't think I do. No. No, no, no. And again, that does come back to the thing that, like, you know, it makes us understand each other. Just, like, again, like, sometimes we both went through the same thing. We just didn't really think about it. So, that also kind of helps our friendship be this strong the way it is. Also, like, in the future stories that you guys will be hearing, like, that I've told her in the past, like, she has never judged me for my mistakes. And I, like she said, I've never judged her. On the contrary, I'll give her advice. And obviously, like, you know, they're each their own. So, if you want to listen to her advice, like, don't listen. If not, then that's fine, you know. But it's always out there. Like, you can always count on, like, you can always count on me to be 100% honest with her. I will never lie to her. And I'll tell her straight up how things are. And, like, that's the kind of friendship that we have. Like, she'll be like, honestly, you know, I think you should do this and this and this or whatever it was, you know. Even so now, like, even on a day-to-day basis, like, we'll reach out to each other, make sure we're okay. You know, just kind of be there for each other regardless of what it is. And I think that's, like, a nice friendship to have because I think when you're a girl, there's a lot of competitiveness. And there's a lot of cattiness and pettiness and just, like, there's a lot of people out there who are disingenuous. And a lot of people who really only like to hear you out so they can turn around and go tell someone about it or judge you. And I've learned that's the hard way. And it hurts. But I think it's something that every, not even just girl, like, every person goes through. And it's important to acknowledge the people that are there for you because at the end of the day, like, your friends have feelings and your friends get affected by your trauma. And from my experience, I can tell that, like, my friends gave up on me. A lot of them did care for me, but it was only, like, you can only do so much. And the friends who understand that will always come back because they know that you are not just your trauma. You're more than your trauma. You're more than the abuse you went through. And, like, I have a couple friends who I feel like I've given advice to recently. And I just tell them, you know what, unfortunately, like, from my experience, I can give you this, all this feedback and all this advice, but you're the one who's going to leave. I can't take away your phone and hold you hostage, which I predict could have turned some girls with it. I can't do that and just expect them to do what I want. Like, you can only, you're worth only doing so much. And, unfortunately, I think there's a lot of abusive experiences that have come my way with my friends. I've told them the same thing. Like, I recently told one of my friends a couple weeks ago, I'm not disappointed in you for going back because I know that that's not you, that's not your abuse. I don't ever want to tell you that I'm disappointed in you, but I definitely think that you could have better judgment. Because a lot of the time, one of our friends, which I just called them names, one of our friends would tell me she was disappointed, and I felt it. But I just kind of wanted support. I wanted her to, I wanted my value to stay the same, even though I didn't value myself. Because it's one thing for us to not see our value, and then our friends to not see our value. No matter if I don't, I just hope that my friends would still see how important and valuable I am. Because that would have probably helped me be the woman that I am today. Yeah, I agree. I agree. I agree. And because, like, the same thing that she said, when I was in my relationship, I did this with a lot of friends. I would say that I do have a few people now, including teachers, but two people that mainly stick by me, like, throughout the whole thing. Like, they would listen to me. They would be my ears. Yeah, again, they would give me advice. At that time, obviously, I wouldn't listen to them. Like, I would be like, you know what? It's fine. Like, it'll go. Like, it'll just go, you know? The situation will get better. And I guess I was on that side where I was just, like, protecting the guy. And I was just like, no, he can never do any harm, you know? Regardless of the harm he actually did, I would always be defending him because I'm like, okay, no, he's a good guy. He loves me, you know? I would just kind of cover, like, basically kind of cover anything that he would have done bad. I made it seem like it was okay. I accepted it into being, like, I normalized it. And it was something definitely that made a lot of people feel, like, very questionable about my personality, my persona. And, like, it kind of drifted them away from me. But for the people that actually stood by me and were, like, actually listening to me and never gave up on me, like, you know, thank you to you guys. Because, like, it definitely takes someone with a really, really, really good heart to stay by someone that's going through something as tough as that. And then, like, now currently, like, one of my friends that just stayed by me through that time actually is going through this stuff. And now it's kind of my persona where I need her to be the person. But unfortunately, she's in that spot where I was at. And I don't judge her. I really don't judge her. But being the outsider now, having gone through it, and it's just, like, it's irritating to me, you know? It's irritating to me, like, the fact that she doesn't see basically all those things that she would tell me. She's not applying them to herself. Which kind of sucks because, like, boom. And that time you were mentally, like, sane and you were telling me the right stuff. You know, I didn't listen because I was going through this. But now it's like you're going through it and none of the things that you ever told me you're applying them to yourself. And that kind of sucks because you don't deserve it. You're a really good person at the end of the day, and it's like you deserve better. Like, I deserve better. Like, everybody deserves better, you know? And that's crazy because I know, like, my abusive relationship ended in April of 2023. And I know yours was, like, way younger. Yeah. So that's how I felt, I think, like, for those months. But I don't think we brought this up, but I think we brought it up, like, recently. But when I got kicked out of my house, I stayed with you while you were in that relationship. And I kind of saw the dynamic up close, and it was noticeable on my end. But I knew that I could only tell you so much, and I knew that my words could only have, like, a certain amount of impact on you. And that's how I felt, where it was, like, it's kind of eye-opening and it's, like, jaw-dropping to be, like, kind of, like, this is what people were seeing. Like, it's hard not to judge. I will say that. I feel like it's hard not to judge. But when you're a good friend, you put yourself in the mindset of, like, I need to be more supportive. I shouldn't be judgmental. This is my friend. I was her friend before this abuse, and I want to be her friend after the abuse. And that's what I feel, like, helps me never be judgmental towards you. Because it was, like, you would tell me these stories, and it's, like, why am I going to judge you? I put myself through the same thing, and why am I better than you? Because I walked away three months before you did or, like, six months before you did. I still put myself through the same thing. I can't say that I wasn't a pendeja. You can put it any way you like. And a lot of girls, though, they don't do that. They don't think that. Instead, they turn around and tell your business and other people, like, that's your friend. No, and it is true. You know, like, when you're in that, when you're outside of that situation, like I said, me personally, at this very moment, thank God, I am in a healthy relationship. But I do see my friends, and I'm just, like, dude, like, you, you, you deserve so much better. I was a few years ago, and it's, like, so, like, irritating because you can't do anything other than just wait for them to snap out of it. Because at least that's what happened to me. It's, like, my ex ended the relationship, but I was still there begging. Like, literally, as desperate as this sounds or as dumb as this sounds, I was literally there begging him to let me, like, to give me another chance to be with me, you know? And it sounds stupid. But I'm pretty sure other people have done the same thing. You know, you're, like, I did what? I am. Like, one more time, like, let me, like, come on, babe, let me, you can work this out, whatever, you know? But then, after a few weeks, I was, like, what the fuck am I doing? Like, what's wrong with me? Like, I'm, like, I'm with so much more, and then, I'm not even joking, I, so this happened in December, and then in March, I was, like, okay, I think I'm ready to pull myself out of this. And the second that I pulled myself out there, and this is no exaggeration, I had so many guys texting me, hitting me up, adding me on Instagram, and I'm just, like, holy shit, like, I would have never figured out how many people actually wanted me when I had this low-life guy treating me like shit. I look like shit. Like, literally. And I was letting myself be, like, fucking treated like shit, and, like, just being brought down. Why? Like, pick a struggle. Either you're going to be an ugly boyfriend, or you're going to treat me like shit. Like, you can't do both. And, like, as soon as I let myself out there, even though I wasn't healed completely, like, I was still emotional, you know? Like, I had been with this person for almost five years, and so I was still emotional, but once I saw that, I'm like, holy shit, like, I don't know. It literally boosted my ego by so much, and I'm like, what the fuck was I doing there? Like, why was I wasting my time? And I feel like, I feel regretful, because mine lasted for not exactly three years, but almost three years, and that was when I was, what was I? I don't know if I'm 20. I was 19. So it was when I was 19 through 22, and that was where, like, my freedom years, like, I had barely been out of high school for a year, and throughout that, I got a job, I had friends, I had an amazing friend group. Like, I would say, like, 90% of it was amazing, the other 10% we don't acknowledge, but I turned 21 while all this happened. You know, I could have been going out with my friends, I had a curfew, but still, I could have been making it happen, you know what I mean? I could have been doing all these things and living this, like, nice life. I had a good job, I have supportive parents, right? But instead, I was wasting all my time. And energy. And energy. At this time, you know what I would be doing if I was still in that relationship? I would probably be either at home crying over my ex or driving 36 miles to see him, because that bum would never come see me, because he never had enough money. And I would be wasting so much time, energy, money, gas, so many words, so many tears on him for what? For him to turn around and treat me like shit? See, and this is why we came up with this title of Contejos para Temerarios, because if you really think about it, we were Temerarios for staying there, for allowing all this to happen, for, like, allowing a lazy guy, like, a lazy piece of shit, like, let's be real. And you know what? I will say, I feel like maybe, tal vez, I'm still a little bit meja because of my ex. And I think that everyone I tell this story to right now, there's two exes that we're talking about. There's A and B. Right now, all she talks about is A, because, you know, a few years ago. And now B. B, B was, is literally recent. Recent, right. So, B, every time I tell someone about B, I think that our whole relationship, I idolized him, and he was like this, this grand man who was a protector, who was a provider. And I couldn't see past that, but I couldn't see past the fact that he never really defended me when it came to his family. Although, I do love his sister. But, he also, he didn't. He was a mom of four. That's what it was. Let's just say. My ex was a mom of four, too, and when she told my story. Yeah, okay, that's for another episode. Literally. But to summarize, he didn't believe in my mental issues, and I felt judged. He would call me weak for having anxiety and depression. And, although, like, in certain moments, I don't feel it, I feel like I'm stronger than him for acknowledging that I had a problem, because I don't think he would ever acknowledge that. He probably just has some sort of mental illness that he doesn't want to ever acknowledge, because he thinks, like, it's all about being a man and masculine and being strong and making money. But then, when it got down to it, and he got his friends, and he built himself like a roof, he started treating me like shit, because it was kind of like, it was that stereotype of, like, my girlfriend is toxic, and she doesn't let me go out, and she doesn't let me do anything, and I have to ask her for everything, and blah, blah, blah. When we established that, in the beginning, that was respect for us to ask for permission. But then, when he got friends, and he wanted to look cool, and he wanted to impress them, it was more about pleasing them and, like, making them laugh and making me the brunt of the joke. And I feel like, todavía soy un poco pendeja, because it's taken me a while to let go of the person I thought he was, and verbally acknowledge the person who he turned out to be. But I do feel like, regardless of where we're at right now, I do definitely think that doing this podcast will help us. Will help us, like, think about it. Once we hear it back, we're going to feel like, holy shit, like, you know, we could do this different, or we could have done this differently. So, doing this podcast will definitely be, like, something super powerful for us. Maybe we might not. Maybe we might not even become famous. Maybe we might not even, like, have a lot of listeners. But you know what? That's okay. That's definitely going to help us become a better version of ourselves, just talking about it. And even if, you know what? Even if it's one person that listens to our podcast. Yeah. Maybe they can relate to it. Maybe they can share it, and, like, other people can be like, oh, yeah, like, that sounds like my relationship right now. Like, that's a red flag. Yeah. I get you. Because throughout this, like, podcast, we will definitely be talking about our exes, our exes, our hookups, our experiences. Life after abuse. Because it, I don't think, when you're in an abusive relationship, and you do leave, you don't think about what it's going to be like after. Because when you're there, you don't think there's an after. You don't think there's an after. You don't think there's another chance. Yeah. For anyone else. And then when you get there, you're just like, holy fuck. Like, what am I supposed to do? How am I supposed to react? I'm flinching. Like, I'm anxious, and all they're doing is saying goodnight. I don't believe them. Like, it's such small triggers that get you. And we will definitely be talking more in detail, like, throughout different episodes. Again, like I said, we might not have subscribers. We might not have listeners. But at the end of the day, this will definitely help us become a better version of ourselves. And, you know, it's cool if we can relate. I mean, obviously not for the sake of substance of why we can relate. But definitely, just knowing that you're not alone will definitely help you. I mean, this has helped me, and it's helped teachers. Know, like, just knowing that you have people that know exactly what you're talking about, that don't think you're crazy for saying that, that don't think you're exaggerating for that, because we've gone through it. So, you know, and if you ever feel like if we do get subscribers, or if you feel the need of, like, wanting to come on here and share your stories, we can definitely do that. Yeah, I think we welcome it. I'm excited. I feel like we, our banter was good. Yeah. I think at this point, do you have anything else to wrap up with? I think that, I mean, I think that we will definitely be posting at least one episode per week. That's our goal. And, you know, we can't wait to see how many people we impact. Yeah. I think, like, I think it's important for people to hear these stories, no matter how graphic they are. But I also want to protect people who have experienced it and might get triggered by it. I think the ultimate goal is to show that there is life after abuse. I personally always tell people, like, I don't think there is a clear piece of advice that I can give you. But regardless, there is life after it, no matter what. Okay. Well, we just want to say thank you for listening. This was a pre-run for our show. Our little podcast. Our little podcast. Yeah, we'll be here. You'll be talking next week? Yes. Have a good night, guys. Bye.