2025_0329_1306 90-10 Rule

At first glance, most conflicts appear to be about surface-level issues—forgotten tasks, unreturned texts or a lack of effort in the relationship. These triggers make up only 10% of the argument and seem to have simple solutions: listen more, plan more and be responsive. Yet, despite attempts to fix these behaviors, the tension often remains. The Superficial Trigger Vs. The Emotional Undercurrent.