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The discussion on the radio show is about parenting adult children. The hosts talk about how parents should respond when their adult children challenge their parenting skills. They mention that fathers often want to assert their authority and show that they are the alpha male. They use examples from the movie "The Lion King" to illustrate their points. They also discuss the dynamics of male lions in a pride and how it relates to human relationships. Overall, they suggest that there should be clear hierarchy and boundaries in parent-child relationships. All right, and we're back right here on the Unemployment Line, Doc and Larry P talking about King Harris, parenting. And when we left off, what we were discussing was when your kids approach you sideways, how do you respond to that as a parent, especially when you're talking about adult children? Now, we know what you do when it's an eight, nine-year-old. Don't let them call social services on you, but you know what to do with that information. And when it's like a 15, 16-year-old, you know what to do with that information. Let me get them keys. You don't like how I parent? Let me get them keys, let me get that phone, too. Like, look, you can shut that down. But when you're dealing with your 18, 19, 20-year-old child or like some people, some of y'all still holding on to stuff like in your 30s and 40s with your parents, and you are approached very aggressively or assertively by your child about your parenting skills, like what is the best approach as the parent? Let me tell you something. I don't know if this is for women, but every male, every man in the household, every father, I don't say father because I mean he in the household being a parent doing what he need to do, but every father dreams of the day that they get to reinforce their alpha male role. You know what I'm saying? It's like being a wolf in a wolf pack. Like, you know, eventually, like the beta, he gonna get a little bit like, you know, he gonna smell himself a little bit and he be like, you know what? I could lead this pack. And then, you know, that's where you gotta show everybody and, hey, big dog, this is why I'm the alpha male. So I think every father, they dream of the day that they're, that's why they say the old man shrimp. The old man shrimp come out of nowhere and the old man shrimp just really be like, it'd be really just anger and frustration. Like, this little joker really trapped me. It's the adrenaline. It's the adrenaline and you start doing everything. Like you choke him out. You start lifting. You probably got a bad back, but you probably, you probably win it. That back gonna feel good today. You probably win it. You know what? All of a sudden, I'm winning. You win a whole suplexes, boy. Don't even worry about it. You win it. You win it, baby. This whole boy, this whole suey over that door, straight WWE moves on this little boy. And he's like, oh, you try a daddy like this? Granted, granted, your son could be, your son, for some people's family, your son can really be a killer. Like, just imagine like Aaron Hernandez's daddy. And then Aaron Hernandez buck up at his daddy. Like Aaron Hernandez's daddy probably would have been able to put him down. But your son, like, he's still like legit. He's a killer. Mm-hmm. But you one-upped him just cause, you know, I think at some point as well for the kid, they realize like, dang, this is my daddy. And like, they'd be like, dang, my daddy like beat me. And then they'd be like, I really can't. I don't know what happens, but I think every, every like, when that happens, there's only like, when it's an adult, adult kid, it's the only one thing you gotta do. You gotta go out there. You gotta go out there every time. Well, that's for the father and son. And I think that was, that was where TI was in his past. It was just like, you know what? I see that this is the situation where I'm gonna have to show that I am Mufasa, and you are Simba. And like, there can't be, there can only be one king on Pride Rock. It can't be two kings. If there's two kings, then one of us is not the king. That's democracy. If I'm the king, I'm in charge. I feel like we need to do an animated film for our next terrible classic. I don't know if it needs to be the Lion King, but I'm just sitting here thinking about the Lion King. You gotta think, what's a black, what's a black, what's a black animated film? What would I like? Bay Bay Skids. Mmm, Bay Bay Skids would be good. I wasn't necessarily saying black, but you did find something black. I was just saying something like the black community, like all the black communities, like. What is the black community's favorite animated film? Is it, I feel like the Lion King comes up often. Aladdin. Aladdin. Aladdin for the hot boys. Um, cause you, Aladdin is, Aladdin is the dream story. That's city boy mentality. Like, you know what, you know what, if I just catch her, if I catch her one time, if she come out with me, I'm telling you right now. Aladdin is that dude with no job, good D, and no car. Fact. That's all he got. Fact. That's all he got for you. What do you do for a living? Scam. Aladdin was a scammer. Aladdin was out here doing pyramid skis, scamming, and you know, he saw a bad one, and he was just like, you know what? You know what, let me make it, I'm about to show up, I'm about to look nice. I know, went and talked to my homeboy, the genie. You know, you know what I'm saying? We Aladdin, Aladdin out there driving her car with the AK tags and everything. Hey, I'm about to come pick y'all up, cut. Hey bro, you driving your girl's car? Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's cool though. It's cool. Aladdin is the animated baby boy. I mean, y'all don't even know it. Yeah, yeah, Aladdin for the city boys. But I don't know, like, it's gotta be something Disney. Everybody in the black community seen Disney. But what I was gonna say about the movie, The Lion King is, Simba could not be in charge as long as Mufasa was around. And like, that's one of the things that you gotta understand about that father-son dynamic. It's only gonna be one man at a house. There's one person who's gonna be in charge around here. And so the moment you decide, listen, I'm ready to start critiquing my father and how he does things. And your daddy's still in the house? Oh yeah, one of y'all got to go. And that's just, that's usually the way that it goes. Well, geographically, if Simba was never ran off by Scar, and Mufasa lived. Well, Simba left. He wasn't ran off by Scar. Cause you know, first it was the whole murder part where. I mean, he was getting chased. He was getting chased. But he. He was getting chased. By the hyenas? Yes, he was getting chased. Okay. Like they were going to kill him. They were like, we killed Mufasa, now we're going to kill you. So he ran. Then he had to run. And then he ran until he passed out. And that's when Tamauna Puma found him. But if Scar never ran him off, if Scar never did all that and Mufasa lived, then geographically, when the males in the pride get to a certain age, they get pushed away. And they have to go find their own pride. Whether that is, it may be a female lion walking around, basically like, you know, a single, a single mama walking around by herself with her kids. And then here come the male lion. He comes to say, hey, this is my family now. Or they come in and they find a pride with male lions and they kill the other male. And then, you know, I know we've got to get off topic, but the thing gets so kind of crazy. We're never on topic. The thing gets so kind of crazy. We have to resist the urge to ever consider that we're ever on topic. The thing is so crazy though, is like, it's like, it's like the male lion can come into another, the female and her kids, and he can decide if he want the kids or not. And then the female lion, she got to kick her kids out. Like she done raised these kids, she done birthed these kids and everything like that. And like, if he come in and she got like three daughters and he like, yeah, I don't like them. You either got to get rid of them or you got to kill them. Like the female lion, she like decide like, y'all got to go or she kill her kids. You hand all right? Yeah, it's good. But nah, she, listen, I'll be watching, I'll be watching National Geographic sometimes. I'll be like, you don't say. Y'all be sitting down and watching National Geographic sometimes. National Geographic be lit because they be breaking it down. You be understanding like people, people will talk about like the animalistic nature of human beings. One of the things that human beings do have going for them is like, we have like some level of morals and values about us. Cause that is not what is happening in the wild. Everything Larry just described is completely accurate. Like little stepdaddy lion pull up and he'd be like, hey, you know, little lioness, what's good? What's good, mama? What you talking about? Well, you know, I'm all fine with us following you, but you know, I got my three kids and he'd be like, no, you don't. You can get rid of them. I don't know what you talking about. And then the messed up part about it is, he tell her to get rid of her kids and then he give her like three more kids. That's what I'm getting to cause that's what's next. Hey, yeah, now that you not got rid of your kids, I need you to further my bloodline. So at what point do you plan to get pregnant with my kids? And she's like, well, I had three kids. Them wasn't my kids. They can go figure it out. Yeah. The nature is wild. The nature is a wild place. But I just say that to say, like you said too, they couldn't live in the same house, but technically you're right. Well, I think that's the point King's at now too. It's like he has reached that age where it's like, either I need to move out or I need to push my daddy off a cliff. You're really at that point like you, because you are at, I always operated on a theory that two grown women shouldn't live in the same house. I live on that theory as well. But the reason why that theory is so applicable is because you don't even have to be related for that theory to pan out. Like women can't really even be roommates successfully. Like they gonna fall out eventually. But with men, men can live together as long as the hierarchy is clearly established. We either all on the same level or we understand who's in charge in the house. So you and your homeboy, y'all could be roommates because neither one of y'all feels the need to be in charge. It's like, you know, our bedrooms are the same size. We good. But if your daddy- My daddy telling me that it's a problem that I keep coming in the house at three o'clock in the morning. Yeah, you gots to go. Even though I got a key. It's like, daddy, like I'm coming in here or like, you know, I'm over here trying to, you know, I'm over here trying to get some. And you know what I'm saying? My daddy telling me I'm making too much noise in the room and stuff. Or like, you know what I'm saying? I can go ahead and say this now. My kids are five and two. Ain't gonna be no getting none in my house. If anybody gonna be getting any, it's gonna be daddy. Like it ain't gonna be like, like I'm going, so I don't know when they gonna hear this, when they gonna like download the app or whatever. But go ahead, go ahead and archive this for when y'all are old of age. It ain't happening in daddy's house. And if daddy, the day that it happens is the day that you gotta move. I graduated college. I don't care if you a teenager. You gots to go. I graduated college. And my mom told me after I graduated college, I was living in an apartment off campus my senior year. And my mama said, you know what? Instead of you like going to another apartment, putting down another deposit, spending all this money on another place, why don't you just move back in and you save some money? Very sound logic. Perfect logic. Mm-hmm. There's only one thing. Couldn't get none. You can't get it cracking in your mama. I couldn't get it cracking. And I was like, I was weighing all, listen, the list of pros was long. I could save money, check. Oh shoot, she cooks sometimes, check. Don't gotta buy no furniture, check. Or work out for my job, check. Can I get some? No. That was the one con. Don't scrap that option. That was the only con. That's the only time I made a pros and cons list and the pros outweighed the con. And I was like, yep, we're going with the con, big dog. Now you can't even like explain that when you out here like trying to make moves, like you out here, you out of the lounge or whatever, you know, you done pulled up, purchased a drink, be like, hey, hey, you know what I'm saying? My name is Larry, you know what I'm saying? You know, let me get your information. Maybe we can link up sometime. It's like, oh yeah, yeah. Well actually, you know, I don't think we can link up tonight. Oh yeah, you trying to link up tonight? Wait, how far you live from here? I can drive you over there. Why we gotta go back to my place? Well, see. See, you already messed up. You already messed up. Because at that age, after graduating out of college, going back and living with your mom is sometimes is a very sound plan, you know? A lot of women do it. A lot of men don't do it. So if I'm a man and going back and live with my mom, and I'm out here trying to get me some, she already live with her mama. Oh yeah, it's not happening. So where are we going to go? It's not happening. So either you have to spend more money. Like, well, I guess I can go down and get this hotel. There's a Holiday Inn Express. Or try to get it in in the car. And I'm pretty sure she's going to get tired of that car. That car, Mickey. Yeah, no, no, no. That's uncomfortable. Yeah, unless you have to stretch. Like, see, that's the thing. You reach an age where it's just like, all right, we about to get it in in this Honda Accord. All right, all right, reach up. All right, let's touch your toes. Count to 10. 1, 2, 3. All right, all right, let's do arm circles. Let's do some arm circles. You know, I'll be thinking sometimes, I'll be like, man, it's been a long time since I had a car. I'll be like, it's been a long time since I had car sex. And I'll be like, and every time I think about doing it, I'll be like, we got our own place. Why would we do this? Like, you know, we should do it right in there. I'll be like, it'd take us 10 minutes to get to the house. Most friends will be like, hey, hey, listen, we can run over into that restroom right now. And you know, nobody even know that it happened. And then me, then my logic kicks in. And I say things like, or what we could do is we could pay the bill. We could get in our car. We could drive home, right? You hear what I'm saying? Yeah, and then we could do it in the bed, like normal people. Young and spontaneous was like, it was like, it was really. And it started to happen when I was in college, too. Because you know, when you're in high school, you've got to get it in wherever you can. Well, see, that's different. Yeah, yeah. Because everyone's like, listen, it's a 20-minute window of time. It don't matter where we at. I remember in college, I used to be like, oh, we right over here, right over here in the cut. We can go over in the cut, you know what I'm saying, get a couple of quick plumps in. But then in my mind, I was like, or we could just go back to our dorm room. Because nobody's there. And there's really like only one obstacle in that. And that's just open communication. Because then the only issue in college is you don't want she, as the man, you don't care. But she don't want everybody to know. So you don't want to like, so now you're out here, you're putting on a big sweatshirt, trying to hide your face, coming upstairs. It's just a quick conversation with your roommate. Hey, bro, I need you to go someplace else. All right. Yeah, be in. Yeah. That's the unemployment law.