2025_0213_2015

The speaker discusses the importance of being fully present in whatever task or role one is engaged in. They explain how giving quality time and attention to different areas of life, such as work and family, is more valuable than trying to achieve a perfect balance. They also mention the negative effects of procrastination and emphasize the importance of prioritizing tasks and being intentional in order to maintain mental clarity and be present with loved ones. The speaker shares personal experiences and references scripture to support their perspective. Yeah, that's one thing I have noticed is you can do all these different things as long as whichever one you're in at the moment, it has all of these. You get what I'm saying? There are times where our job requires us to put in some hours. You know what I mean? Like when we were trying to finish up the motel, I mean it was crazy. But the moment I did get to be with my kids, whether it was that Saturday finally or late that evening or whatever it is, when you're fully locked in with them and you're not still working on the job, you're not still, it's like that time is almost multiplied, so to speak. You get what I'm saying? Like it's intensified. You know what I'm saying? And they are so clicking with, they're so understanding of, like I have all of Dad right now. Dad's not on his phone, he's not answering emails, he's not taking like all this kind of stuff. Yeah, he worked crazy out, but right now I have him completely. And I think that's what's been so healthy. Like for me even looking back, of course I was young, but being in full-time ministry, I feel like there was a lot of times I was less involved and there when I only had this one thing and now we have all these things. But I guess like I said, maturity, you grow, you learn in some things. But learning that, I love what you said of being wherever my feet are, that has been just, you see it with your wife and she knows she has your complete attention and she's not having to say, are you listening? Yeah. Did you hear what I said? Are you still on your phone? No, it's my wife. She told me to say that. You gotta think, as your kid, oh man, the other day on this commercial job we're doing, remember we were going back and forth saying are we going to do the metal, are we going to do the wood, we were just all this kind of stuff and I was just stuttering up and there were some things I was like, I just want to figure this out. You know what I mean? You have that thing locked in, you're like, I want an answer for this so bad. And we got home that evening, I was sitting on the couch and I was looking it up, I was researching, trying to read this thing and I caught the end of Ben, my five-year-old, saying dad for the last time and walking away. So, in other words, it clicked while I was doing this, he had been trying to get my attention. Yeah. And I caught the light and I was just like, I wanted to flow the phone. You know what I mean? Like, it's that understanding. So, with Ben at that point, I'm just like, you know, whatever, we'll put the phone down, we go play Legos, we go do whatever. They just so pick up on. Yeah. In other words, I think they're less concerned about the length of time a lot of times and more of the quality of the time. Yeah. So, if whatever I'm in at the moment is getting quality of the time, like you were saying, the excellence, I'm locked in here, it gives you the ability to have these different hats. Yeah. Because each one is getting quality time and that the amount of time is always changing. Yeah. That's where I think we get wrong saying, oh, you got to have balance. You got to plan your week out and you have 10 hours with every, you know, that's crazy. There's no way, especially in our line of work. Yeah. Because we're constructing, who knows? You know what I'm saying? But amounts of time become less important when you're still getting the quality of time. Yeah. Yeah. And I'll tell you, you know, mine is a little different right now because like I said, like I said one day, Micah is my son, which is going to turn four in July. He's really needing dad time. Yeah. Like he wakes up, like so I'm not at the house when they get up and Taylor texts me, Micah's already asking about you. Yeah. So like the demand on dad right now is super high. Like right now we're going through the thing, he's waking up in the middle of the night, he comes in our bedroom and he goes to dad's side. He wakes up dad. Like so last night, this has been like four nights in a row, dad's super tired. So we had, me and Taylor had a conversation when we went to bed. I was like, okay, so if he, if he does this in the middle of the night, I was like, you got to take the reins. I got to get some sleep. I'm so tired. Well, when he come in last night, he went to dad's bed, woke dad up and I'm like a zombie. Like I'm trying to come out of it and I'm like, babe, babe. And so Taylor gets up out of bed and comes around and he just loses it because dad's not going to go rock me and put me back to sleep. So obviously I get up, get my clothes on, I go put him to sleep. But because he wakes me up, I'm up another hour. It takes me forever to go back to sleep because I've gotten fully awake. But anyway, I say that because, um, I've learned for me right now, uh, procrastination is the enemy of success right now for me. What I mean by that is my son doesn't wake up till six 30 in the morning. I have to go to work no matter what. So there's things right now in my life that I can do early, early, early in the morning so that when me and you are done for the day, I don't have to worry about them when I get home. I get up four 15, uh, go to the gym. We come here to the office, we do book work, we, you know, file receipts. We go through the book side of things before me and you, okay, we're headed to the job site actually. And, but the days I procrastinate and I don't do that, I usually have a mental bog. Like I get bogged down mentally when I'm trying to be present with my kids because I was late. Like, let's be super honest. Yeah. My booty was dragging the ground and I was super tired. But, you know, me and you had this conversation. I don't know if we talked about this. We talked about this when we disciple men that being the head of your household means you're the first to die. You're the first one on the front line. You lay your life down first and there is that side of things that if I want to be good with my children, there's some sacrifices I'm going to have to make that nobody's going to see to make sure I'm an intentional dad. And for me right now in this season, it's, I get up crazy early. Like I have to. And like me and you were talking about before we started podcasting this morning, like this morning was a fight. My, my workout was terrible. Like it was like two sets of just stretching, going through the motions, but going through the motions was my execution and not procrastinating because I knew I've got to get these things done today. Because if not, if when I finally walk up on the porch and see Micah, if I'm thinking about a bunch of other things that I could have done, it really contaminates that, that quality time. You were talking about all this volume quality. I'm, I'm really trying to identify any procrastination in my life in this season. And just, uh, I'll, I'll, I love that book by Daniel Colinda. He's like slaying dragons and he's talking about the little dragons in our life. And if we feed it, they grow into these big problems. To me, that's how I'm viewing procrastination right now. If I'm doing it in one area, it's just a baby. So if I keep feeding it procrastination, it's going to grow into a monster problem. So me, like I have a kind of an urgency and a violence about me right now that like, obviously I'm not always successful, not a hundred percent in anything in my life, but I'm really trying to identify that, you know, take care of it quickly. That's really good. Yeah, that's, it is, it's one of them things that you could do one small thing early, you know what I mean? That has the greatest impact, maybe not in the business that day, but when you get home that day. Just like you said, you've taken that off your mental plate, you know what I mean? And you're not trying to, for me, you're not trying to build Star Wars Legos again and thinking about, I should have made that phone call. Yeah. I should have set that up. I should have moved that chart in there. I should have, you know what I mean? All the little things just begin to show up later. And it does, man. It just begins to affect the quality. So I wanted to throw a scripture in here because this one to me is just really, it's one I lean into a lot, just the different areas we are. Proverbs 16 and 30 says, commit your work to the Lord and your plans will succeed. To me, I think that is that thing of being such a good person. You know what I'm saying? Of saying, I'm going to give this to you. I'm going to be excellent in this. I'm going to, you know what I mean? I'm going to give this the quality of my time. I'm going to make sure you're involved in this. You know what I mean? Whatever that may be. And he begins to make some things succeed. I think when we focus too much on, how do I make this succeed? Instead of we focus on, how do I steward it well? How do I be excellent in it? How do I give it quality? You know what I mean? Then we allow him to work on the, how it succeeds. And for me, that's almost been a, what's the word I'm looking for there? You know what I mean? Like I'm able to kind of just sit back and say, you know, the other scripture reminds me of is one waters, one plants, one waters, but only God quality. In other words, if I know I'm giving quality, if I know I'm investing, if I know I'm, you know what I mean? I don't have to have so much mental fatigue trying to figure out how it works out. Well, you know, that makes sense. Yeah, absolutely. Cause that, that happens to me and you all the time, which I'm not saying this is the best business plan ever. Cause we, you know, we're obviously learning a lot, but it seems like every time me and you try to force more business opportunity, instead of taking the opportunity brought to it. Yeah. We usually always struggle and it never works out. Yeah. Like obviously you need to sell stuff. You need like, but there's been times like God has never asked me and you to do some of those things. Like if I just hop on any business podcast, that's not based on laying your life down for Jesus. I can, I can pull values that don't line up with mine because Jesus is the center of our attention. And I hope I'm explaining that right. Because it's, it's just like this thing of like, yeah, there's business plans, there's giving things attention, there's doing more sales, there's advertising, there's all these different things that we can do.