Q2-19900217-Larry_Rosenberg-UNK-hot_buddha_cold_buddha-1581 Leandra Tejedor

Talk: 19900217-Larry_Rosenberg-UNK-hot_buddha_cold_buddha-1581 Leandra Tejedor (1).json Start_time: 00:35:11 Display_question: I would like to share about my experience with grief. Keyword_search: grief, acceptance, hatred, mind, love, condition Question_content: Questioner: I would like to say something that’s seems a bit perhaps relevant. This time a year ago I had grief about…. Larry: You had to grieve about? Yes, I see. Questioner: It was really intense fairly briefly, the intense part. And I let it sort of come out and it didn't actually last too long. And what was interesting was, although it was very intense, there were moments when. I could see it was, just what it was. And it wasn't a problem. Even in the thick of it, I was really crying, and I could just see that there was nothing there, because there was acceptance of it, which didn't perpetuate it. So, the mind was buying into something, but I wasn't adding to it. So, there were these moments of clarity in there, and it wasn't a problem. Even while it's going on. It wasn't a problem. I think that's because I was accepted to the level, I was able to be on, I was accepting it fully. Break_line: So, it wasn't able to… I think I understand what… the two aspects there, because there was the grief, like crying, which was intense. And then there was the other thing, of it being perfectly alright as well, you know, there was no problem there. And also to myself, I find it helpful to see this from the point of view of remembering that grief is actually part of the dose of mind, part of the mind of hatred. Although it's not what people normally think of. So, mind with grief is, actually mind with hate, strictly speaking. And so, we tend to have a wrong view because I think we sort of glamorize grief. And although it is a right to feel grief because we've got the karma for it, we don't have to feel that it's something we ought to feel. We've got to feel when we're more evolved, or when we're freer from our own hatred. Break_line: So, I think if we understand that grief is actually part of hatred, even though it's all right for succeeding, if it comes, we don't have to feed it, and it doesn't mean that when it's not there, it's going to be callousness. Because in the moments when this grief was all right, it really was all right. The situation that the grief was about, was perfectly right, really. I could sort of see that at the same time momentarily, then the mind dies into the intensity of its own life. Larry: That's a bit what I was trying to say. Grief can just be a natural condition. Someone you love dies and there's grief. When it then becomes part of me and mine, you make something, then what's happening is something else. There's some kind of claiming of what's going on, and the torment is happening to the me, that was just created. And so, you've added something onto a natural condition. Questioner: And if you see that, even if it does momentarily do that, tormenting as hell, if you accept that in the moment it does it, even that moment, it doesn't last, and it's almost like being schizophrenic, momentary, the mind can be quite all right, and then it might dive in again. And you sort of know this apparent problem. There's no problem really. It's not callousness or hard. End_time: 00:38:51