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Dr. Ari shared her journey to excellence in medicine, emphasizing that it is a journey, not a state. She discussed the importance of excelling in life first, followed by excelling in a chosen career path. She talked about the challenges she faced in determining her specialty in medicine and how mentorship and self-awareness helped her make the right choice. She also mentioned the transformation she experienced in terms of public speaking and building her confidence. The network she joined, EIM, helped her become more authentic and own her leadership voice. Dr. Jermaine emphasized the importance of self-awareness and being authentic, especially for female doctors. Overall, the discussion highlighted the value of personal and professional growth in the journey to excellence in medicine. And there's a lot to unpack, as you said, just a few highlights, I would say, of your before and after. Okay. Like, you give it to EIM like this, and now this is it, if you could highlight some, that would be great. Okay. So, welcome back. So, as I said, we are with Dr. Ari, and she's been sharing her journey to excellence in medicine. And we talked about excellence in medicine being a journey and not a state. And so, you don't just become excellence in medicine, you journey through it, through the activities and the processes that you expose yourself to. And for us in this network, we build our journey to excellence in medicine through excelling in life first, self-awareness, self-identity, self-ownership, and then excelling in career, whichever niche that you have determined that you want to focus on in your career. It could be clinical medicine, it could be non-clinical medicine, it's a decision that you have to make. So, once you make that decision and be committed to it, you're also on that journey as well to excelling in that career path. So, a combination of the journey of excelling in life, in your role in life, and your career builds up to excelling in medicine. And we had the award-winning Dr. Arie here share her journey to becoming an excellent leader, which is our acronym for our network. So, back to you, Dr. Arie, tell us some things of your before-after transformation stories, the network, and after you joined the network. And then on your journey now, you are now a boss in the network. So, let's hear you. Sure. All right. Thank you, Dr. Jermaine. So, I divided it into two parts, the personal and professional. So, I'll pick the professional bit because that's what everyone knows about me anyway. So, yeah. So, I was this doctor who finished with all of these distinctions, and everyone was pulling me from different angles. You have to become a neurosurgeon. This one said, oh, you should become a neurosurgeon. That was my big uncle, by the way. I just wanted me to become something that they are doing, something that I think I should be doing with my brain. And I think of the award-winning doctor. Of the award-winning Arie. Even the Arie herself was still trying to figure out who she was, what she was good at, and what would allow her to excel in medicine and in life. So, for me, it was long. Everyone was saying all sorts. I didn't even know what I wanted to do, to be honest. I promised people that I would become whatever I said I wanted to become, just to get them off my back. But then I knew that for me to find happiness in my life as a person, I needed to understand what I loved and identify what my skills were, what would make me happy, my personality traits, and then choose a specialty in medicine. Medicine also doesn't help you because there's so many specialties to choose from. So, medicine doesn't help you either. And so, for someone like me, it was a tug-of-war. I remember when I met Dr. Jimmy, I was like, I want to become a cardiologist. There were so many things I wanted to become, so many things I wanted to do. But just being on the journey of mentorship with Dr. Jimmy and the network and just observing the journeys of other ladies, there's just so much power in that. I've been able to achieve a lot of self-awareness. So much light has been shed on my journey, on my path. And then going through a 10-year roadmap and the modules on choosing a specialty, I've just been able to come to that point where I'm doing an internal medicine training now and I'm enjoying it. It appeals so much to my personality as the brainiac that I am. I love it. For me, internal medicine is the key. So, just being on the path of choosing a specialty, I would say I am much more confident in my specialty. I don't care whatever I do, anybody wants me to do, as long as I'm doing what makes me happy, what appeals to my strength, I'm fine. And I feel like that's the journey of my before and after. In terms of the personal aspect, when it comes to, I think I'll choose one. I have so many things, I think I'll pick one. So before, I would say I've done a bit of public speaking. People would come and talk in our conferences. I was serving in my fellowship at the time, so I was doing a bit of speaking on the podium. But at the time, I didn't even know what I was saying, but I was talking. I was talking about what I'd achieved. I'd say, read your book, the various studios, don't go to class. By the time I joined the IAM, and thankfully it was during the heat of COVID, we had the time, like the world was quiet. So people at the time were actually looking at us and saying, who are we? So at the time when I joined the IAM, I started seeing people, people like Peju Abeoye, who would join this podcast. So people like Peju, I started hearing people talk. I started hearing people articulate themselves. So many people, these people are doctors like myself. So I have to put the portfolio of 28-year record and things like that aside, and I'm like, okay, I have to do that introspection and be like, how can I get better in this area where I have this course pattern, this is something I want to articulate, how do I get it out there? And so it was more in terms of talking to me, we have a meeting or we finish a session, give us reviews, this is what I learned, put it on the chat. So the confidence of this is what I learned from this review, putting it on the chat sort of built my confidence to speak publicly, like put me on that path of being able to own up to myself and say this is what I think and I stand by it, this is what I learned, that's it. So from there I'm able to now go on Instagram, two years later and be like, this is me, this is what I stand for, this is what I've learned over time. So it's just that journey of building my confidence, learning to come out authentically, uniquely me. I love that. I think we had shared that before. You know, I feel so nostalgic right now. We've been running this network for about five years and we've said so much. And one of the things I remember in our discussions about self-awareness and ownership is being authentic. I don't know how to emphasize that. This is also a discussion on that, if you really want to learn about that, particularly if you are in a foreign environment now and you feel like you're losing yourself. In EIM, we emphasize owning you. So I'm really saying that, you know, it brings a lot of memories. Because many of our fellow doctors, even from our medical training, we shrink to fit in. We shrink to be accepted. And it's unique, even when you're abroad, it's a different kind of shrinking. It's just a lot of thoughts passing through my head right now. But in the medical training itself, even in your own country, just being female, you really feel like you need to stoop to conquer. And so when you graduate, you feel like, I've always had to stoop to conquer so that other female health professionals are working with the nurses, the lab team, the physical therapists, the pharmacists can do that, Dr. Ignacio, you know. And so I will not use my leadership voice so that they can work with me. I will just play with them so they can like me. When it now comes to making executive decisions, they don't take you seriously. You've always played with them. But if I come out that way, they won't like me. They don't even like me anyway because I've fed the fellow doctors counterparts. So all of that. And so we've learned that when I know who I am and I take ownership of my executive, it gives me a sense of confidence. See, I'm not coming at you and I mean no harm because it's the patient. So many of us don't have that. I didn't have that at the point in time because I didn't want to undermine my leadership strength so that I could be accepted as a female doctor. So that's a lot of discussions on the way. But Dr. Ann's sharing that is big and I'm glad that you meant that. So let me just correct this for the other young girls that are hearing this podcast today. When we say do a review, it's part of helping us to process our thoughts and help us articulate our thoughts. As I said, during the round, we put you on the spot anyway. So it's something we get to do. You're on the spot. What do you think? What's your opinion? And so it kind of helps us through that process. When I say, hey, we want to hear your review, we want to hear your feedback. And don't tell me it was okay, it was fine. No, it wasn't okay and fine. I want to hear you. Tell me concisely what exactly we got from this two-hour session. And as I said, it helps you get your thoughts together for your love journey, which you're having amazingly right now. And we have to round this up again. This has been an amazing session. There's just so much to learn.