2024-06-16_12-14-20

The video discusses an article about a person who came out as monogamous in the LGBTQ community. The article explores their personal experience with polyamory and why they ultimately chose monogamy. The author emphasizes that their decision does not imply resentment towards polyamory and supports others who find happiness in it. The article also reveals that the author and their partner have faced mistreatment for being monogamous, highlighting the issue of pressure within the queer community. The video raises concerns about the title and tagline of the article, suggesting they may be misleading and antagonistic towards polyamory. The importance of respecting and accepting different relationship structures in the queer community is emphasized. The video concludes by urging viewers not to harass anyone mentioned in the video and promoting a positive and inclusive environment. So I feel like this video is going to be very niche, but I saw an article that's going through Instagram and I want to talk about it here. It was from Them, the LGBTQ news website, and it was titled, What I Learned After Coming Out As Monogamous. This piqued my interest since I'm polyamorous and I felt like the title of the article was phrased weirdly. Then I looked at the comments and some people agreed with me, but many of them were extremely negative one way or the other and didn't really like that kind of energy. So I did something revolutionary and actually read the article, and the title was a little misleading. The article discusses the author, Quispe Lopez's, personal relationship with polyamory and why it wasn't working for them. They talk about how it didn't work trying to balance multiple partners and eventually decided monogamy was the best option, which I think is great. It's always nice to see people figure out what relationships work best for them. They also say that they have no resentments towards polyamory and to quote them directly, if my friends find that same safety, security, and freedom in polyamory, I support them wholeheartedly. My ideals for queer people in community-oriented spaces is for all of us to exist in... To quote them directly, if my friends find that they have the same... If my friends find that they have the same... They also say that they have no resentment towards polyamory. To quote them directly, if my friends find that same safety, security, and freedom in polyamory, I support them wholeheartedly. My ideals for queer people in community-oriented spaces is for all of us to be free to exist as is without pressures to change who we are or how we connect with each other. So this person wasn't trying to attack polyamory or polyamorous people with this at all. Something that surprised me while reading this article was that... Something that did surprise me while reading this article was that them and their partner have been treated poorly for being monogamous, which I didn't really expect. They say that several queer people have tried pushing their boundaries and treating them like a suggestion, which is awful and shouldn't be happening. I didn't realize that this was such a problem in queer spaces, this doesn't mean that... I didn't realize that this was such a problem in queer spaces, this doesn't mean that every queer space is like this by any means, but the fact that this happens at all is terrible. Now I started this video because... Now I started this video because of the title of the article, so what's up with that? In my opinion, the phrasing of coming out as monogamous sounds off to me because monogamy is the societal norm, even though in the author's experiences it is less of the majority in the spaces they've been in. There's also the tagline or summary of the article that says, at a time when polyamory is everywhere, one writer reckons with the social consequences of closing their relationship, which also feels very iffy to me for some reason. I saw some people in the comments of the Instagram post advertising this article saying it sounds like the title was written by a straight person, or that it wasn't written by the author, which I kind of agree with. Both the title and tagline feel disconnected from the actual article, and they feel slightly more antagonistic towards polyamory, in my opinion. But who knows? Maybe I was reading into it too much. My boyfriend, who is also trans and polyamorous, like the author, read the article too and said, to me, it's the author's description of polyamory and how they got treated become to me, it's the author's description of polyamory and how they got treated become to me, it's the author's description of how they were treated after coming out as monogamous. To me, it's the author's description of how they were treated after becoming monogamous. Highlights how even in the queer community, you have people that try to direct your relationship for how it should. Highlights how even in the queer community, you have people that try to direct your relationship for how it should. Highlights how even in the queer community, you have people that try to direct your relationship. Highlights how even in the queer community, you have people that try to direct your relationship. Highlights how even in the queer community, you have people that try to direct how you relationship should be. Like, it's really weird how they were like, if your relationship is ostracized, why not ostracize yourself more? Monogamy instills so much jealousy and has so many rules, that person sounds like they don't know... Monogamy instills so much jealousy and has so many rules, that person sounds like they just don't know how relationships work, because this can happen in both polyamory and non-intimacy Monogamy instills so much jealousy and has so many rules, that person sounds like they just don't know how relationships work, because this can happen in both polyamory and non-intimacy Monogamy instills so much jealousy and has so many rules, that person sounds like they just don't know how relationships work, because this can happen in both polyamory and non-intimacy No type of relationship is inherently better than the other. The tagline sounds like bait, the way it's not really what they were saying, but rather twisting it to be attention grabbing. Also, it's kind of rude. I've never seen polyamory highlighted in any queer media event, etc. So to proclaim that it is everywhere, rubs me the wrong way. I agree with my boyfriend and also think that the title and tagline of the article were used as bait. The actual article is very nuanced and had an interesting look at things. I fully agree with the author's sentiment that queer spaces should be a place where everybody can exist as is, regardless of identity, relationship structure, or whatever. Queer people should all respect and accept each other. We shouldn't look down on anyone just because they want to have one partner or multiple. As long as everyone in the situation is consenting and comfortable, people should be able to do whatever they want. I didn't really talk badly about anyone in this video, but I'm going to say this anyways. Please don't harass anyone I talked about in this video, that's not going to help the situation at all. I hope you enjoyed this very specific video, and I hope you have a good day slash night. Bye!