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The fourth agreement is to always do your best. Your best will vary from day to day, but the goal is to show up as best as you can in your relationships and decision-making. It's not about being perfect, but about making the effort. By doing your best, you can avoid guilt and regret. It's important to not compare yourself to past versions of yourself or others. It's also important to not compete with yourself or others, but instead focus on being happy and making the world a better place. The book "The Four Agreements" can be compared to the movie "The Matrix" in terms of breaking free from a system of control and using your own mind to do so. Consumerism is something that should be avoided, as it leads to unnecessary materialism. It takes effort and intentionality to recognize what we truly need versus what we want. And don't worry, we can edit. We can edit whatever. Okay. All right. So, we are moving on to – no. Three, two, one. Moving on to the fourth agreement. Always do your best. So, the new Guadalupe was saying – I think he was saying, your best is going to vary from time to time. You know, some days you're going to have 100% of yourself to give, and some days you're only going to have 60% of yourself to give. But every day, you should really make it a goal to show up as best as you can in your relationships, in your decision-making. But I also really like that he gave us grace. He wasn't saying, like, you have to be perfect every day. He was saying, do the best of what you have every day. What do you think? Yes. Yes. Totally agree. Totally agree. Like, your best cannot be the best – like, can be the same best every day as you just said. You're feeling healthy, energetic. You've just worked out. You know, you're full of energy. You have a certain best, let's say. But if one day you didn't sleep well at night, you had, you know, you had problems at work, or you were sick, how can your best be the same? So, you don't have to compare yourself with the best you gave yesterday, but the best that you can give that you can't deliver that day. So, again, that's what you said, right? But if we continue to do our best, we will avoid guilt, you know, because we know we gave our best. Even if our best is not 100%, that's the best we can give. And it's okay, right? We stop, like, demanding so much from ourselves or feeling, you know, like, guilt or regret. And another thing he says that I like a lot is, like, it's not about effort. I mean, it is about effort. It's not about perfection, right? It's about effort. Do your best. Don't make it perfect. Like, don't expect you will always be impeccable with your work. Don't expect you will never make another assumption, you know? Just keep going. Just go with the flow, right? But don't judge yourself. Don't overload with this guilt that, oh, I did that. I was not supposed to. Because, no, that's the best you could do that day. Tomorrow will be better, yeah. Yeah, I also feel like it's a nice way of, it's like a bow. Like, you're tying the other three agreements in a bow. You're wrapping it in the do your best bow. True. So, here are the three things that you're going to take with you and just do your best with it. You know, something that we have been saying a lot, and I want to make clear for our listeners, is that Bia is from Brazil, but she lives in Panama. And I am from South Texas, and I live in Central Texas. And a lot of times, we're going to be talking about different cultures and where we live geographically. So, we live in very different places. And as Bia has mentioned, she married a German. And so, she has all sorts of cultures that she's around and that her family is a part of. And something that I really learned while I lived in Panama, where I met Bia, was I learned about different cultures. And it was so apparent to me that there are different cultures. I know that sounds so silly, because of course there are. But when you live in the United States, and especially Texas, Texans are pretty, like, we think we're pretty special. And we think everybody is like us. And I think it's easy to get kind of blindsided and think, oh, our way is the only way. And so, when I moved to Panama, my eyes were just opened to all these other ways of living and being. So, something that we say, at least pop culture wise, here in Texas, is people say things like, your only competition is who you were yesterday. And I don't even like that. I don't want to compete with myself. I don't want to raise the bar higher and higher and higher and higher. Because what if I was, like, super excellent yesterday? I don't want to have guilt today about not working 10 hours or running six miles or any, you know, I want to do the best I can. Like, when we go to recess, like, I want to do my best, but I don't, I don't even want to beat myself. You know, I don't even want to be in competition with myself. I love that. What does it feel like for you in terms of, I don't want to compete with me, and I don't want to compete with anybody else. I'm not, I don't, unless it's a board game like Monopoly or something, then I want to win. I'll even play hardcore with my kids, like, at a board game. I'm like, you're going down. Okay. I'm more like, okay, you can pass. Okay, I'll let you buy that one. Oh, no. I'm like, get out of my way. Yeah. But I can't really think of any other area where I feel really competitive. How about you? Yeah. I'm not a competitive person. Not at all. Like, but I don't know if this is something good. I'm not saying this is something good. I'm just saying that's how I am, right? Sure, sure. My husband is really competitive. I'm not competitive. Our kids aren't, like, they're kind of trying to find themselves between these two, let's say, right? But, like, my personal thing is that, gosh, look at the size of this world. It's huge. There's space for everyone. Why should I compete with anyone else? Just yourself, do your thing, be happy, you know? That's my perspective. My husband says that this is insane, that you have to prove yourself, that you have to conquer space in the world. You have, you know? Oh, conquer. Conquer, yeah. He's all about that. And he's right, because that's his belief. That's the women's environment for him probably, right? So, that's fine. You have to understand that he came from a culture that has gone through severe, the biggest wars we had faced in humanity, you know? So, his must was there. So, of course, it is rooted, you know, in him. So, I understand when he says that he has to fight for things and speed, but I'm not like that, you know? I'm not like that. And I think there's no right or wrong, as most things in life. Some things you can say that, yes, there is right and wrong. There's moral, there's values. But, like, in this case, I don't think there's right and wrong. It's just like, you are the way you are, and I am just another competitive person. I just want to be happy, you know? And I want to make the world a happier place. That is something that I carry with me, you know? I want to be happy, I want to make the people around me happy, I want to make this a better place. That's right. It sounds, like, so childish, I know. But, honestly, if anyone had this in mind, we would live in a much better place. I have no doubts about it. I do think so. I think you have to say, I think you have to say no to a lot in order to simplify it down to that. You have to say no to competition. You have to say no to material things, like, to wanting the fanciest this, or wanting the fanciest that. You have to say no to being busy. Because if you're saying yes to all those things, you don't really have time to get down to the thing that you really want, is the happiness. I feel like you stay busy up here. I agree. I agree, yes. Right. And then, can I just, like, getting back to the book, to the book, yeah? I was, like, reading this book, and, you know, like, since I have this literature major degree, I'm always comparing things, you know? My mind, like, goes. And I was reading this book, and I could draw a parallel between the book that we're talking about here, the program, and the movie, The Matrix. I know it sounds a little crazy, I know, because, like, the book... Tell me about it. Tell me about it. I want to hear. The Matrix, like, it's a movie, right? It represents a system of control that operates completely in the mind, right? That's what The Matrix represents, right? Just like the agreements made by our previous generations that were passed on to us, right? This is, like, a system controlling the mindset. I know the movie has to do with machines and technology, and that's nothing to do with the book, but fundamentally, they're the same. We are trapped in a world that was made for us, not by us, right? Not by us. And the only way to get out of this world, as Don Luis calls it, the dream world, right? The only way to get out of this is, like, by using your own mind to do so. It's like breaking the rules, right? So, you know, I could really, like, draw this parallel between The Matrix, which is a recent movie, and The Four Agreements, which is an old book, right? Not so recent, of course, but more recent than the book, I guess. I didn't do my research, to be honest. I didn't do my homework, but I guess The Matrix is more recent than the book, right? Maybe, but also The Matrix was set in the future. Right, so it kind of feels like a futuristic movie, even though... But we're living this nowadays, right? We're trapped in this, right? Like, when you see this, when you mention, like, we have to say no to consumerism, right? The book, for me, that's very clear. You see all the things that... I told you this, like, when we were together, remember? You said, oh, I like going to the mall, and I said, no, I don't like to go. I like to go to the mall just to look at the window shop and say, wow, look at that. How many things I don't need. Because I don't really need those things, you know? And that's what I'm talking about here, you know? It takes, like, I don't know, it takes a moment for you to wake up and realize that. Yes, it takes more than a moment. It takes effort. It takes force. Because you think that, and I think, oh, I do need a beige sweater with no sleeves with a turtleneck. Listen, right now I'm wearing a new sweater. It's beige sweater with no sleeves and a turtleneck. It makes no sense. It's beautiful. You look gorgeous. You look gorgeous. But that's not the point. The point is I didn't need it. You didn't need it, yeah. No, I didn't. I'm sorry. No, no, go ahead. No, no, no. I saw it and I was like, I like that. That would be cute. But I didn't stop and become intentional, you know? Do I need it? Should I spend $40 on this? Or can I save the $40, you know? I know, I know. This is something that I always talk to my kids about. Like, for instance, our kids, they go to school, of course, and everything. But when they come home, they have to draw with, like, we like to help them study. So they have to write down some words in the correct lines, you know, so that they have the right size of letters and everything. And they have to do a program, math program, called extra math, that is like, they go, like, having points and, you know, keep a record on what they're doing. They have to be a teacher. There's a teacher online and they have to be faster than the teacher and everything. But anyway, so my son is asking for a specific game. And then we told him, like, okay, you can have the game once you achieve this punctuation in extra math or you do 10 pages and all. And then he's not doing it because he doesn't like it. Like, my daughter loves to study. My son hates to study. So I go and I say, Luca, you're not doing your exercise. You're not getting your game. And he said, I don't want a game. I don't need a game. And he said, I don't need a game. I said, I know, but you told me you really want that game. And he said, exactly. I really want that, but I don't need it. So I'm not doing it. So I'm not doing it. Gosh, I was so proud. I felt like he's killing me, like, gosh, I have to do your work, you know. But at the same time, I was so proud of him. So proud of him because he could understand that. Yes, exactly. He said, exactly, mom. I really want that, but I don't need it. That's great. That's wonderful. He'd rather not have the game he really wants than sitting down and doing people's work, you know. But okay, it's an option, right? Yeah, it's a lesson that he learned really early. Yeah, I love that. He told me this yesterday, and I'm still thinking about that. How could he know that? Oh boy, because he's been paying attention to his mom. I don't know. He's just eight, you know. Most kids at this age say, yes, I want the game, but I don't want to lose it. And no, he didn't argue. He's just not there. I really want it, but I don't need it. So it's okay. I love that. I love that. Me too. Me too. Anyway. Yeah. We should wrap up. No, no, we should wrap up again. But I'm just going to pause so I can cut it here. What do you want to do for the end? So we have talked about a ritual, right? Yeah. And we never really decided on one. We thought about that stanza that I said, like, but I don't know if we should go for that. And also, I think, I feel that we should, like, when you were talking about our different countries and everything, I felt like, but I didn't want to interrupt you. I felt like saying that the next episode, we're going to talk exactly about this, and then we could bring the discussion of the two principles, maybe. I don't know if that's a thing that could, if we could have one hour to talk about this or not. Hold on. Let's not say next episode yet. Let's what? Let's not say the next episode yet. Okay. That way each episode stands by itself, no matter when somebody is listening to it. Ah, yeah, yeah, yeah, right, right, right, right, right. I love that. Hold on. I'm asking chat GBT. What? What are three ways to sign off on a podcast that includes two friends? And one thing that I wanted to say to do this, to close this, I would like to invite our listeners to do their own agreements. I think this would be a good closing. Okay. Invite them to do their own agreements, and I even thought about, like, if you don't know how to start, maybe think of your New Year's resolutions, you know, like, everybody makes New Year's resolutions. So, this could be an agreement you did yourself, not just a resolution, but you could take it more seriously and bring it to an agreement level, you know. I'll exercise for it. I'll start that project that has been sitting in my drawer forever, you know. Yes, I agree. Okay, hold on. What are some things that include why not? You know what? Let's do, like, this week, why not make your own agreements? Okay, great. Yeah, so we'll do the why not with the, like, homework. And I will say something at the end. I'll read something. Okay. Cool? Yeah. Okay. I'm sorry about your time. No, you're good. Three, two, one. So, just to wrap up – no, this is not good, right? Start again. Say wrapping up. Start with wrapping up. Wrapping around? Okay. Yeah. Three, two, one, go. Wrapping up, I would like to invite you, dear listeners, to begin to adopt new agreements, right? Like, we're talking so much. So, like, we're talking about agreements and agreements. So, why not make your own agreements? Maybe your New Year's resolutions. You know those resolutions we make, like, every start of the year? Like, I'll quit smoking. I'll start exercising. Or maybe we'll have a project. Or maybe we'll have a dream. More importantly than a project, maybe we'll have a dream that has been sitting forever. It's a good reason to make that dream an agreement, you know? Like, take it to the next step and make it an agreement with yourself. So, we would like to close this with this invitation for you guys to make your own agreements. Why not? Why not make your own agreements? Why not take a good look at the agreements that you have agreed to and decide, do you like them? Or are you ready to change them? So that you can live a life in full connection with the truth that exists within you, right? A truth that goes beyond belief, beyond the barriers that have been imposed on your conscience. Yeah, I feel like once we analyze, once we really, we become intentional, we just get more joyful. We get more joyful. We have more connection. We live lives that feel better. And we can do that, like, little by little every day. Yes. Okay, friends, that is a wrap on our first episode. That's not, that's Why Not. All done. Three, two, one. That's Why Not with Bia and Katya. And, nope, I don't like to say that. All right. Three, I'm going to read this. Thanks for joining us on this journey today. Remember to take a moment for yourself. Nope, I don't like that one either. Three, two, one. That's a wrap for today. If you found a little wisdom or a little wellness in our conversation, we'd love for you to share it. Take care and we'll catch you in the next episode. Bye for now. Bye-bye. Hey, Bia, should we do it again? Of course. Let's do it again. Let's do it again. Bye. Bye. Bye.